I’m tired of smelling my boyfriend’s farts/ass all day, everyday

I sniff his laundry to check if it’s dirty or not, chances are that any bottoms smell like ripe butt. I’ve gotten to a point where I don’t sniff anymore–if it’s on the floor, it’s dirty.

He eats curry or pizza? Well, I’m screwed for 24 hours. Constant fart odors in our room all day. I leave and come back, walk into fart zone. There’s a literal scent threshold that I cross in the door frame.

He hasn’t showered for more than 1 day? Swass through and through. Sitting down, standing up… even during intercourse if his cheeks are spread, I smell it.

I’m so tired of smelling this smell. I don’t know what to do. Is this normal for men? I’ve been with him for almost 7 years. I don’t know if it’s the fact that I never noticed until now or if he just stopped caring!!! Does this mean I don’t love him anymore? Help!!!!!!!!!

Oh and sometimes he doesn’t brush his teeth for a couple days.

Someone please save me.

Guess I should point out that when I say “bottoms” that doesn’t just mean underwear. I won’t sniff underwear. I mean jeans, sweatpants, other pants that don’t have stains on them so they look wearable again, but somehow they sometimes carry the butt smell. And tbh I didn’t think that was possible but it’s something Ive been noticing more and more lately so it’s weird.

A friend shared with us how shameless people can be just to “fit” with other friends and most of the time it’s just an inferiority complex.

Here is the story:

“In my circle of friends, we have those that come from a rich family and those from a normal or under average income family. However, we did not care as friendship is about being there for your friend and not based on money.

However, one certain individual has reached the pinnacle of his “hao lian” and now keeps putting up a show to flaunt his “wealth” but often craps in his own pants.

After one of my friends bought a Rolex, he decided that he will need one to fit in. He managed to buy a fake Rolex from overseas and claims that he has connections in high-end boutiques which allowed him to get the rare watch.

Its actually from a push cart located in Johor KSL mall

As it turns out, the whole group of friends knew that the watch was not real and yet he goes around showing his watch and said “Do you know what time it is?”. Obviously, he is not a smart person for doing this in the first place and he is also oblivious to all the shaming he gets for flaunting his non-existent wealth.

The real joke was, that he knew that he is not known as a rich individual among us and puts a fake story to cover another by saying that the watch was bought with an instalment plan.

Little did he know that buying luxury goods with an instalment plan is like taking a smack in his own face by saying “i want show i got money but i no money”

Please help me to post this. As I feel that as time goes on my chances of saving my wife is getting more and more dim.

Thank you reading the story below. Please don’t mind my English and forgive my grammatical errors.

It’s my first time wanted to post something. I’m not sure if this is the right channel to do so. But I hope that your social media reach can garner me some “moral” support.

Let’s call me R (41M) . I have been married to a Vietnamese lady and let’s call her PB (33F) . We were married this year in march.

I have suffered some losses due to a unforeseen business failure and have been settling issues since our marriage in march due to court cases. All things said and done. I am currently in the midst of being able to get back what I loss in business through alot of planning for a new endeavour.

My wife and I used to rent a place to live together before and through our marriage for a bout a year. Even though I have my own place under my name. She expressed that she was not comfortable staying with my elderly mum and sisters who are due to be married and leaving my place soon. And she also expressed that the rational is that it’s more convenient for her to go to work. As a loving boyfriend then and now husband. I obliged to her request out of love and meeting her needs.

After all the bad situations happend to me which almost landed me in prison. I had to pay hefty fine of 120K plus if not I will have to serve jail time. I was lucky that the judge allowed me to pay in installments of 20K per month after clearing at least 50% of the fine up front. I am happy that I struggled through that without even any help from her. As I do not want her to be overstressed due to our mother-in-law having cancer and living back in Vietnam.

Recently, in September we left our rental apartment as the lease ended. And because it is a tough time for me I am unable to get another rental immediately but will be able to do so in two months time since things are picking up for me due to the good graces of the universe and pure hardwork. I requested that she come back to our matrimonial home and legal address but got shot down by her saying it is not convenient for her work. She works in a KTV. And insisted that she wants to stay out in a rental room and only come back to our matrimonial home on Sunday and Monday to spend time with me and our family. Its really ridiculous but still I give trust as she promised that she will communicate with me about her whereabouts and let me know all is safe as she holds a LTVP which can easily be cancelled if she were to be caught doing any illegal activities.

She used to just work till 2am and come back home as fast as she could to be with me as all wife and husbands do. She used to let me know her whereabouts even when she is out for a booking with customers. Now she does not even tell me where she goes and what she is doing. She only texts me to say single liners like . “I’m ok” , “am busy” , no time to reply etc. Now she says she needs to work until 6am daily. Which I find puzzling and suspicious.

Ever since she stopped staying together with me.She doesn’t even reply as she used to. I suspect that she is doing alot of illegal things behind my back. But out of trust for her I let it go. The lack of communication is a red flag and drastic change.

And here comes the biggest drama which I hope the netizens will share this story and prevent any other man/woman from getting into this situation.

She has a “good lady friend” called M also a Vietnamese but much younger than my wife Recently on 18/09. My wife who usually texts me as soon as she wakes up. Suddenly tell me she is out with M in the afternoon. Usually when she wakes we will do a video call to check in with each other. Assuming she was still in grabcar I called her to check in awhile before I proceed for my meeting. She did not answer at all. Tried calling again she answered without activating video call and heard her saying she is in lady M home but I heard guys voices in the background. This immediately triggered me. As I know lady M’s husband as well. And that is definitely not M’s husband voice. Immediately, all things started going through my head and I called her till she answers a video call.

She finally answered showed she is in a kitchen with her “good lady friend” M. It’s definitely not M’s home. So I caught the first lie. And obvious my wife did not go home at all the night before. She is wearing an orange t-shirt which she has never had and I have never bought . I asked who is the guy they keep brushing me off and say they are at a mutual friend home. And got really upset as this is a first lie. Secondly, they were all slurring. Both woman especially my wife cannot drink alcohol. She gets drunk with less than 3 small glasses of beer. Being aware of Illicit substances use . It is confirmed that they have been using Illicit substance since early morning of 17 October. I k

Okay so I’m in a bit of a dilemma here.

I am currently 37 weeks pregnant so we are getting ready to receive our girl. The problem is my husband has recently told me he wants to teach her Chinese too. We are both Chinese but we don’t speak Chinese at all

The thing is, my family only speaks English! He was born here and lived in Singapore since he was 4 until he was 19. Now, if he had some sort of cultural or family connection to being Chinese then I might consider it. But his a Singaporean.

I told him what I told you guys above and that it would be hard for her because they are very different languages.

He started arguing that there are many kids that are raised bilingual and are very smart but I also feel like it might cut me from my child.

He is mad at me for not accepting and I can’t help but wonder if I was wrong here.

Here are what netizens think:

• Is not like the kid will not know English too, im sure if she continues the same path of arbitrarily making decisions like this the child will grow and cut themselves off from her even in English. Kids are innocent but they absolutely love when they grow and notice their parents negated them opportunities..I know I did, nothing like growing and discovering that your mom never let you achieve your full potential because they had some irrational fear just like

• You Chinese but don’t teach your child Chiniese language, so you gei ang moh ah

• Lao kui sia this mother.

My wife cheated on me 9 months into us dating. I just found out 16 years & 4 children later. I feel like a dagger has gone into my heart but somehow, I feel numb.

For those that want the details: her then manager kissed her on break and then went back to his place and did the dead all in one day.

She continued to work with him for several years and he even attended our wedding. Have not seen him in 12 years. She says she instantly regretted it and has stressed over it ever since. FYI my oldest is 10.

It is so long ago but I feel so betrayed as I have always had a zero tolerance to cheating, but I won’t throw away an otherwise amazing marriage and happy family for this…

Are there success stories? How do I move forward with the marriage and process my feelings?

Netizens’ comments

1. he was at the wedding! that is cold. did they exchange knowing glances, a chuckle at your expense? i am sure he got a laugh in at the both of you. i couldn’t live with that.
2. There is no expiration date on betrayal. For her, it was 16 years ago, not for you.
3. She invited this guy to your wedding. Knowing she cheated on you with him. That is so messed up.
4. I can understand wanting to work it out for the kids and maybe in this case, if she has told you EVERYTHING at this point, maybe it can work. You need to get EVERYTHING out in the open now though before committing another 16 years to this woman. Make her write the entire story down on paper, all the ugly details. Tell her if you find a single detail was missing or was a lie later on, it’ll mean immediate divorce.
5. My next door neighbor went thru the same thing. Found out she cheated on him with a coworker while they were engaged 17 years later he found a letter she had written to him but didn’t send. Their affair lasted 3 weeks according to the letter
   He confronted her and she confirmed it telling him it was over 17 years ago and should not matter.

What precautions should I take when getting frisky with my boyfriend while hiking.

My boyfriend and I are camping / hiking in some park (being vague) and he confessed that one of his biggest fantasies is getting blown while out hiking in nature.

I know he’s pretty clean and we’ll have plenty of wet wipes, so hygiene is not a concern.

What I am worried about is running into people there or just generally ending up in some list somewhere because someone happened to complain.

What should we do to make sure we have some fun but don’t get into trouble? Some simple tips and things to keep in mind?

Netizens’ comments

1. Don’t get lost.
   Like, don’t wander too far as to completely lose where the trail is. If you pop off the trail to the west, walk x number of feet, then place your pack (or draw an arrow or something that immediately stands out from the surrounding wilderness) facing to the east (i.e. back towards the trail you just left) of where you do the deed, that way when you’re in a post-coital haze and your brain is full of feel-good stupid chemicals, you know which direction the trail/home is.
2. that’s a) not very fun for you and b) not very ethical given the at bare minimum embarrassment and possibly trauma you’ll have caused the other person. So I think you should take reasonable precautions to make sure you are not disturbed such as
   – don’t do anything until you’re far enough into the wilderness that you rarely see other hikers – one every few hours or so at the most
   – head off the beaten track
   – stay mostly clothed so you’ll be able to hitch up your clothes and style it out in a matter of seconds
   – if you are near any sort of path find cover and check sightlines so that you’ll see an approaching hiker long before they see you, and long long before they know what you’re doing (lookout is going to be the bj recipient’s job because the bj giver won’t be able to see much).

Friends who eat out all the time and complain about being broke

Aight, here’s my thing to get off my chest.

I (M28) get so annoyed when my friends complain to me about being broke all the time. But I’ll see them post on their Instagrams all these dishes that look mid af.

Like, good for you, you went out and spent sixty dollars on a single one inch piece of salmon on a bed of rice. For sixty bucks, I can make six dishes like that at home.

I dunno if it’s just that cooking at home is a lost art, but god damn. why don’t you just do it and stop being broke?

Netizens’ comments

1. I had a roommate like that once. She got takeout 5 or 6 nights a week, then complained about being broke and gaining weight. We were cordial, but not friends, and she paid her part of the rent on time, so I just made vaguely sympathetic noises when she complained to me and figured it wasn’t my business.
2. you know i totally get what you’re saying. it can be frustrating to see friends complaining about being broke while indulging in expensive restaurant meals. cooking at home is a great way to save money especially when you have access to affordable ingredients. maybe they just need a gentle nudge in the right direction.
3. I have a friend like that. Filed for bankruptcy being -$40k in credit card debt (never owned a house or business). Asked to borrow money at least once a month, then Id see him getting crabs and eating good food. Had to stop lending him borrow money after the amount needed to borrow got greater and so did the time he can pay it back
4. I agree. I can’t believe how much people spend on food delivery too! No way I’m paying 2X the food cost to have it delivered.

I lost my v card to a 37 year old woman, and now A 14 year old girl has reached out to me claiming I’m her father.

It has been a weird couple of days for me and I need to get this off my chest. This all started on Friday when I got a Facebook message from an old colleague telling me my daughter was trying to get in contact with me, I hadn’t heard from this person in years so I was sceptical at first but I decided to hear them out.

The girl in question has recently lost her mother to cancer and the man who she though was her father turned around and told her she wasn’t his and kicked her out, she moved in with her uncle thankfully but ever since she’s been looking for her real dad.

Anyways around 15 years ago I was a naive young man barely in my 20’s working in a supermarket, when I started I was buddied up with a 37 year old woman who was drop dead gorgeous.

Like I said I was rather naive so obviously I instantly became infatuated with her easy going and tactile demeanour, sadly only a month after I started that job she handed in her notice and that spurred me to go for it and ask her out on a date.

she laughed and agreed, and so started the wildest 3 months of my life. I won’t go into details but we were intimate on a handful of occasions and I even stupidly confessed my love to her, but it was then she told me she was moving in with her fiancé which left me absolutely heartbroken.

Later a colleague would tell me that she was also seeing another guy at work at the same time she was seeing me (and cheating on her fiance).

Back to the present day and I had all but forgot about it, I have 2 kids and a very pregnant wife to think about after all, so this has somewhat knocked me sideways.

I feel for the kid having her whole world torn apart so abruptly but the thing is I don’t think I’m her father. though I was young and foolish I always used protection but there is a part of me that hopes I am, as I can provide the loving family that she is so desperately looking for.

I haven’t told my wife yet because she is 8 months pregnant with our third child and has enough to worry about but I have arranged a paternity test.

another thought that crossed my mind that she is contacting me first because I am the better prospect, as I went on to bigger and better things while the other guy still works at the same supermarket 15 years later and from what I’ve been told has a bit of a problem with alcohol.

I’m also angry at the man who raised her, playing dad all those years only to callously abandon her when she needed him the most. I’m also angry and sad that i might have missed out on so much of my potential daughters’ childhood.

the wife knows somethings up so I think I’m going to bite the bullet and tell her, I just had to get this off my chest.