I went out with a guy last week that I like, we actually met a few years ago at a bar and kissed when we had been drinking, but it didn’t progress into anything and we just stayed friends and talked occasionally on social media.

I didn’t see him for almost 2 years because I was studying overseas, but then I just moved back to Singapore, and we went out on a date last week. He was really nice, we went to dinner, he paid, and then we went to a bar to listen to some music with his friends. Afterwards, we went to his apartment and were watching TV in his bed. He didn’t try to pressure me into anything, but I could tell he probably wanted to hook up because of some of his body language. lol, but I just kinda ignored it because I didn’t feel like I know him well enough at this time to do it with him. We kissed for a while but that was it.

I haven’t heard anything from him since last week when I left his apartment. I did text him first once that day about something random but his answers were really short, so I stopped trying to make conversation. Before we went to his apartment (still during the date) he kept talking about “oh we should do this together” or “we should take this trip!” together so it seemed like he was interested in pursuing a relationship may be or at least getting to know me more.

Do you all think he just wanted to hook up and isn’t reaching out to me anymore because of it?

I feel kinda disappointed bc I feel like we had a fun time and I like spending time with him, but if he was just interested in a hookup I guess I shouldn’t be wasting my time with him anyway. I don’t know.

Here are what netizens think:

• Maybe he felt you were uncomfortable with him?

• Reach out and start a normal conversation. Then you will understand what he feels or needs

• You gave him the ultimate blue balls, u kiss him went to his apartment and leave him hanging, now your expecting him to give you more effort? Give and take.

• leave him alone. You gave him messages on date night and he interpreted them in the most respectful way possible. Now he’s given you some: you should respect them.

• It is a great idea to try and clear it up with him. And it would be even better to start that conversation by explaining the reason for your actions, which he likely perceived as a lack of interest.

A little backstory, she got hit up by an old uni friend earlier last week and immediately I had a feeling something was off. They ended up hanging out 2 times this week and although I knew something was off, I wasn’t going to be controlling and say no but I did voice my concerns.

But anyway, I felt something was really off over everything and I made the mistake of checking her messages. But it’s all there, she has been sleeping with another guy. They talked about how nice it was and their plan to continue. Needless to say, I’m lost.

She suffers from depression and has had times where she tries to push me away by saying things like she thinks I would be happier with someone else or that she is just bringing me down. I took it as just her going through things but she had another major meltdown a few months ago and hasn’t really been the same since. It’s hard to explain but I’m seeing now maybe she had finally written me off in her mind.

We have been married for 5 years and bought our condo 2 years ago. I own 70% of the deed because I was making more at the time and paid a majority of bills and down payments. I don’t have the money to buy her out comfortably as I have been paying all the bills for a year since she opened a business.

But if I sell the house, I might not even break even with the commission and all the other costs. I can move back in with my mom without too much issue but I think that is my last resort since I don’t want to be stuck in her house (we have different views on a bunch of things so it just gets annoying hearing her takes)

I think I’m just at a loss on what to do and don’t have anyone I can really reach out to beside strangers on the internet. But any advice is helpful.

I (20F) decided to try get a job as a waitress for the holidays, I had a selection of places but one high end restaurant I went to had a really nice bar on the side that needed staff and was also very good pay.

I gave in my cv , and got the interview (which went smoothly). I started working there after the following weekend.

After a week or two of working there, there was a night when I had to reserve a table specifically for someone important who turned out to be a co-owner of the establishment. He was a really well-built guy in his 40’s and he came with a group of men similar to his age in suits.

The other older staff told me that he comes in every other week with his group and spends copious amounts of money on food from the restaurant and bar, and I the new girl of course was in charge of bringing them.

The second I came up to them for there order I noticed the guy staring at me and the rest of the men with him made had few not so subtle looks at me but I kept eye contact with the co owner. It kept on like this the entire night and I’d notice the comments on me being louder every time I’d leave their table.

Towards the end of the night they asked for the bill and before they left the co owner came over to me at the bar and started talking to me as I cleaned up.

He wasn’t super obvious on his intentions at first he was just being nice and we exchanged names and age, he mentioned co-owning the place and I acted surprised as if the other staff hadn’t already told me.

He asked me if I had a boyfriend which I laughed and said no to, he said I was too beautiful to be single which I also laughed off after thanking him. I said my shift was almost over and he asked me to come with him after the shift for drinks which I obviously said yea too.

We went back to his home in his car and we spoke the whole way about his ex-wife and kids so I just was extra nice and listened in , he thanked me after hearing him for a bit by putting a hand on my thigh and grabbing it a little, it didn’t move from there until we got to his.

We got to his home and I got comfy on his sofa and we drank and spoke until my legs were basically on his lap and his hand was between my thighs.

We kept flirting for a while and I asked if I could sleep over at his place because going back at this timing was such a hassle and he said as long as he gets to F my brains out.

I agreed and told him to take me right now, and he did for the next hour until I literally tapped out, it was so good until I shivered when I came.

I kept that job and continued seeing him, and I told my parents that I got a job and I remember not mentioning the name of the place specifically. It never came up in conversation again for a while.

Just got fired at the end of a 3 month probation for out performing my manager and raising a concern in a constructive way in line with the supposed company culture and values.

All under totally fabricated and exaggerated reasons.

This guy couldn’t even look me in the eye and was as white as a sheet delivering the news as he knew it was total nonsense.

The truth is that he hated sharing my successes and was hypercritical of everything I did and was constantly seeking ways to criticise me.

Other team members had also noticed this in our dynamic and had even said that it’s clear this guy my manager is trying to do whatever he can to prove I shouldn’t be there.

When I smashed all the performance targets he was shocked and then fabricated reasons as to why i don’t fit in to the environment and how there are hesitancies around my approach to work.

I’d developed great working relationships with the whole team and this guy hated the fact i was doing so well.

Turns out time spent in a company is more important that the right thing to do in supporting an isolated and manipulated team member.

Netizens’ comments

1. I usually do just enough to get by during the probation period if there is one for this reason. Managers see you as a threat instead of an asset if you’re outperforming people.
2. Unfortunately if it’s one thing I learned, as soon as an incompetent manager views someone as a threat to their position, that person becomes Enemy #1 and thus on the shit list.
   It’s currently happening where I work, where incompetent and inexperienced managers in a multi million dollar company aren’t willing to listen to the more experienced employees (I’ve only been here 1.5 years) and a lot of the ones speaking out are being snubbed every step of the way.

Company requesting “volunteer” work after hours for no pay.

Our company recently went through downsizing and restructuring. Its been difficult and morale is low.

Several people have quit recently. So the execs decided that to turn things around, a survey of our clients to find out what we do right/wrong would be helpful.

Today they sent out a memo asking people to work for a few additional hours every night next week to call clients and administer the survey.

No compensation other than a gift certificate for dinner for the person who makes the most calls. Is this as deranged as it sounds?

Netizens’ comments

1. Calling clients during the evening is deranged. Don’t do it for free. If you are salary, I guess that is different. Kill time during the work day.
2. Tell your boss that you’re looking for a volunteer to clean your house, wash your dishes, run your laundry. Unpaid but maybe you’ll give them a gift card or something.
3. Do. Not. Work. For. Free.
4. Gift certificate to dinner??? They still don’t get it. These mother f-ers will never get it. We want PAID for our work and our time and we want paid appropriately.
5. No chance I’d stay late off the clock.
6. If your company doesn’t even know what they’re doing right or wrong by now there’s no point in doing the survey. Customers tell you all the time what you’re doing right and wrong, but you have to listen.
7. Our company is struggling, so let’s piss off our remaining clients by ringing them outside working hours, and let’s piss off our staff by making them do it for free. I think it’s a fairly safe bet the reason the company is struggling is because of poor management.
8. Nope don’t work for free EVER. Once you do this it becomes an expectation.If they can’t see where they have made mistakes it’s on them not you.Start working for free and then come the payouts and shitty raises.

So what happened was I (F25) was working out with my personal trainer and he suddenly grabbed my genitals from behind in the middle of the gym.

I’ve been training with this man for almost 4 months and everything was fine until recently. I noticed he was more and more tactile with me during our session.

One day he even groped me while pretending to correct my posture, placing his hands on my lower back as we did stretches and he slid his hand down. I kind of enjoy it and secretly want him to continue doing it more.

I know that he knows that we are both turned on, although none of us have said anything about it.

So today I made sure to wear my tightest gym tights and I didn’t wear any panties under it. I knew something would happen and it did.

We have been flirting with each other before that for a long while now, throwing hints around her and there.

During the whole session I made sure to be as suggestive as possible. I would bend over and while squatting (without weight just to warm up) I pressed my behind against his crotch and I could feel he was starting to get hard.

Suddenly without any warning he touched my private parts from behind and told me how wet I was. In the middle of the gym, while other people were training.

I was so turned on but also embarrassed, and I could feel myself getting red and I really wanted F him right there and then. I didn’t say anything. We finished the training like nothing ever happened.

I can’t stop thinking about it and about what could have happened. What should I do the next time I see him? I want more but don’t know what to do about it.

So the 7th month hungry ghost month is ending and I want to strike a contract with ghosts.

I notice that a nearby block, there are some praying. But while most are on the table, praying to don’t know what gods, got one is on the floor. Based on my knowledge, on floor means praying to yin deities, including ghosts.

What if I drip some of my blood there and offer 10 years of my life? Then declare my name and ask them to let me strike TOTO first prize?

Do you guys think that would work?

Serious question hor, not talking nonsense here or trolling. I need some pointers on what to do.

Netizens’ comments

1. You don’t even know if the contract is binding. For all you know they may just take and not give. 10/10 not recommended
2. Beware of what you wish for, for one we don’t know how long we actually have on this plane of existence. Also, you might just share the first prize with a record number of people..
3. Siao eh, if it really works, then everyone already offer to shorten their lifespan for money liao and there will be no more poor people. But you can try ah, drip on joss paper and burn and see how lor.
4. Actually, this reminds me of some guy who posted some weeks ago about him asking brothers and sisters to help him win his soccer bets 3 in a row. What happened to him ah? He got update or not?
5. Blood cannot bro, u must take out KKB rub until shiok shiok then white white milk come out, collect in dishbowl and offer
6. What makes you think they have the power to?
7. It’s a one way communication. You tell them what you want. But you wouldn’t know what they want. If they can give, they can take.