So yesterday I was at my friends house, just hanging out as he’s going through a bit of a hard time. His mum turned up to drop off some extra food to help out and as I’ve known him so long, me and her have always had a good rapport.

She’s an older lady in her 50s, but still incredibly attractive. Very nice tight body and huge chest, always leaving some cleavage on display.

She has this incredibly warm yet cheeky smile that always feels suggestive. It was a hot day so I was there in just a t-shirt and my grey sweat shorts. Was too hot for underwear so wasn’t wearing any.

We were all in the kitchen and as he was making a coffee for all of us as I was talking to his mum. She was clearly in a cheeky mood and saying things like how I look good and have definitely been exercising more.

A little cheeky, a little flirty and wearing a very figure hugging dress, making her already huge bewbs, look so incredible!

ill admit, the light flirting mixed with how she looked and the hot weather was getting me quite turned on. I felt myself getting harder as we talked, her amazing smile just captivating me.

My friend excused himself and went to the bathroom and as he did, his mums eyes dropped to my groin level. Her eyes widening as she noticed my hardness through the sweat shorts.

Her eyes lingered for a long time. We stood there in silence for what seemed like forever as she just stared at my bulge as I just stared at her chest.

She finally looked up at me with a look in her eyes. She started moving closer, but at that moment my friend came back. Soon after, she made her excuses and left.

I cannot stop thinking about that moment

I am 22 years old in $25k debt and having a baby on the way. Currently making about $2.8k per month and living with my in laws.

Hopefully going back to bartending soon as I work in F&B right now and the slow season for restaurants is about to end.

Have 25,000 in credit card debt that I haven’t paid or answered the phone to in about 5 months. I have no idea what to do.

Have considered filing for bankruptcy but my in-laws told me I shouldn’t because it would horribly affect me ( they are very financially literate business owners but they don’t offer much advice )

My parents told me that if I wait a few years then the debt just goes away but I could potentially be sued. I’m able bodied and love to work I just suck with money.

I have a baby on the way and I don’t know what to do and need some guidance. First post on this sub. Thanks

Edit: I’ve come to the decision I’ll be calling my creditors tomorrow and fixing my situation myself. I have too much to lose and so much to gain.

Netizens’ comments

1. Phew. That’s a lot. Well, ignoring the debt is absolutely the wrong thing to do. But facing your finances and getting ready for fatherhood is absolutely the right thing to do. Bankruptcy is not necessarily going to ruin you, but it may not really be the long-term solution for you, either.
   You need to keep track of every single cent that goes in and out. I mean that literally. You shouldn’t spend any money or make any money that you don’t record. Learn where your money goes, so you can figure out how to stop bleeding out your hard-earned dollars.
   As far as your debt goes. Start by calling your debtors. Explain your situation, tell them you want to get right with them, and see if they will settle or give you reasonable payment plans.
   One of the most valuable gifts you can give your child is the ability to handle money responsibly. And to do that, you need to educate yourself.
   Best of luck to you.
2. 25k is not a lot of money. You’re 22, it feels like a lot. It’s a hysterically small amount of debt to be considering bankruptcy over.
3. If you are in trouble now because your main job is seasonal then that’s going to be even worse once the baby arrives. Cut up the cards so you can’t make it worse. If you can’t pay cash you can’t buy it.

I’m 40m and my wife is 34f, we have two children. We have been married for 12 years. I have very recently found out my wife has been having an affair with a woman.

It has broken my heart but I still want to fight for her and our marriage, for us and our children. I have told her I love her and am willing to do whatever I can to make this work, marriage counselling etc.

She says she is confused and doesn’t know if she is into women and it is messing with her head. They have only slept together twice but it has been going on for 3 months over text etc. I’ve put the decision into her. She has to decide.

I had previously said in other conversations that if someone one cheats then that’s it, there is no trust and no relationship. But it’s different now it has happened to me.

Should I wait for her to decide or just say that’s enough, for the sake of our kids and me. We divorce?

TL;DR Wife has had an affair with woman, should I stay or go after wife’s affair?

Netizens’ comments

1. How would you respond if she were to have an affair with a man? Because something tells me you’re being more lenient due to her having slept with a woman.
   It’s the same thing. She still fucked someone else and lied to you about it. It’s not less than having an affair with a man, two women sleeping together is not less than a man and a woman sleeping together, it is the same. The betrayal is the same.
   I wouldn’t be able to come back from infidelity, personally.
2. Go. She had an affair. The fact that it was a woman doesn’t change that she cheated on you. She knew cheating would hurt you and break up the family. Either she thinks you’re stupid or she doesn’t value women enough as people to consider it cheating. I think it’s the former.
3. If she’s confused about whether she wants to be with women more than she wants to be with you (since simply being into women doesn’t mean she needs to act on that, any more than she needs to act on the fact she’s capable of being attracted to other men), she can take that to therapy or do some self-reflection. She doesn’t need to be sleeping with someone else to figure it out.
   And if her answer to being told “you can explore this or we can stay married, but you can’t have both” isn’t being fully willing to do what it takes to save the marriage, or at least to figuring out whether it can still be saved instead of wallowing in “I don’t know what I want,” then you really need to ask yourself what you’re holding out to save here.

My wife refuses to let me use any protection and I am frantic and concerned

I (28M) and my wife (Fiona, 25F) have been together for quite awhile and already have 2 children (3F and 6 months F).

For me, two children is more than enough. Quite frankly I would have liked to have no children, but that ship is sailed and I can’t do anything about that now.

My only solace is that I have resolved to myself that I don’t want to have any more children going forward.

I’ve tried to have this conversation with Fiona. I swear it, I have tried. But every time I try to bring up the subject of children and how I don’t want more, Fiona seems to get really agitated and upset.

She tells me that she wants a large family with a lot of children and that she’s always wanted that, and that I KNEW that when I married her, so I should have been prepared for that.

And she’s not wrong- I used to think I wanted a few children too, but I realize now that it was just culture and society telling me that that was my life’s purpose and that I’d find joy and meaning in marriage and children (which was a bald-faced LIE).

She also seems fixated on this idea that children are a “blessing from god and that if god wants us to have more children, then we will have more,” and that will be that.

I know that she has a good heart, and maybe I’m in the wrong for being so selfish and not wanting more children, but I just cannot and do not want more!

Anyway, I’ve recently been trying to reduce intimate contact of my own volition every time that Fiona’s presumably near her period (she doesn’t tell me until after it starts).

I’m also trying to reduce intimacy in general unless we use protection, but she gets upset if I want to use it. She says that using it is “not trusting the lord,” so I’m forced to either shut the whole night down or cave in and give her what she wants.

I’m concerned that if we have another child it is going to damage me, our marriage, and my relationship with the current 2 children.

I once saw a box of [you-know-what] in the trash when I took it out, that I had purchased specifically for intimate protection, and I sneakily rescued it and put the individually wrapped units back in the nightstand.

I can’t believe she would just do something like that- normally she’s good with communication but maybe this is a sore spot for her. I confronted her about it and she told me that I should never have bought them in the first place because we don’t need them.

I just feel trapped. I can’t get vasectomy either because that also seems to be a gross violation of Fiona’s religious views.

I have healthy coping mechanisms in place but over time this stuff is just beginning to bother me and I really, really, don’t want to have a third child. I’m not prepared for this.

Just wanted to get some information and feedback on my current job situation. I have several managers who have made my working life very unpleasant – everybody bput middle fingers in the air

1. always wanting more from me,
2. very aggressive in any approach,
3. telling me to be “nicer” to other employees as a solution to problems when I ask for help,
4. disregarding and not notifying a harassment incident against me from another employee and the biggest reason-
5. refusing to hire any other women on our team of 15! I am 1 girl out of 15.

I knew I wanted to quit a while ago and quietly have been checked out for some time. I gave my 2 weeks notice in last Wednesday and wanted to just quietly keep my head down and work my last few weeks and get paid out on my remaining deals. I am in a 100% commission based job.

A few months ago our General Manager started a sales contest and the winner would get a $1000 gift card. I won BY A LONG SHOT- no one is even in second place- no one else even participated.

He verbally stated the parameters of the contest in a meeting and never sent an email or anything.. just said the contest ends in September.

I asked him about the gift card as I clearly won and he said I no longer qualified for it and smiled and shrugged his shoulders.

Yesterday I came in to work and my replacement was waiting at my desk for me to train her. No one from management had ever approached or asked me to train her.. she just appeared in my office yesterday afternoon.

There is another colleague in my same position who is fully able to train her and I feel he should be the one as he has a stake in her success where I don’t.

Though some of the managers have been absolutely unbearable I have also made some great friends there and didn’t want to leave on a bad note.

It feels as though I am being taken advantage of to train this girl for free and being disqualified from this contest. Even after you quit they still want more!

So my (25F) older brother (28M) and his gf have been dating for like 4 or 5 years now and recently my brother proposed.

Everyone has been super supportive and happy for them, my parents are over the moon and excited for the first of their children’s weddings. And im also really happy for my brother, but there was one thing that bothered me. My brother pays for everything. He is constantly surprising his gf with gifts, he always pays for their dates or meals when they go out.

I’ve brought it up before and my brother says he doesn’t mind, that our family have more money than most and that he likes treating his gf. His gf does work and does do the cooking and keeping their house(which my brother brought btw) clean, but that’s nothing compared to what he’s getting in return. My brother also vaguely explained that there is a “dynamic” to it (he didn’t really wanna talk about it with me) which I don’t really get and the whole situation still looks like my brother is getting exploited.

Last night my family went out for a celebratory dinner for the engagement. While we were there my brother started showing them the ring and shared plans for what they would want at the wedding, then the bill came, we split it (my parents paying for theirs and my youngest sister’s (16F), me and my bf (29M) split ours, my siblings all paid for theirs and like always my brother paid for both his and his gf.

I joked and said that my brother should get a prenup, my brother told me that isn’t funny, I said back that with how many gifts he’s gotten him and how many things his gf has his name on it probably won’t do much anyway. His gf looked guilty and upset, my brother told me I was being super effing rude and he and his bf left.

Most of my family are telling me I was out of line, tho my older sister agrees with me that she thinks our brother is being exploited.

There was probably a better scenario I could have brought that up?