A netizen wrote a response to a man who only got a minimum salary increment after working for several years.

Here is what he suggests:

I highly suggest that you need to look elsewhere. In fact, you had 5 years of experience and yet you still get below 3k is really killing yourself.

Here’s my story, i started off in a man, i get $3000 as fresh grad. I stay around 3 years and left while having 3.6k. My first jump got me to 4.5k and i stayed another 3 years. I left again for the next jump while drawing 5k and I got 6.2k on second jump. I stayed for a while this time, promoted to senior and i am getting 7.5k now.

I hear from my boss that my max for senior exec could fetch up to 14k. But that’s the case if I want to stay as a senior exec for the rest of my life as it is the highest non-leadership role. He mentions that if I do well, I can start to handle a few headcounts under me and promote to AM. That could give me a base of 9k at least.

I am almost 35 years old now and getting 7.5k per month, I think it’s really not bad already.

So I think you need to re-look into your options and go for the company that does not lowball you. I am doing logistics and supply chain which I think is comparable to your job scope in procurement. You might as well use me as a benchmark.

Meanwhile, some people flaunt fake credentials to advance their career

A girl shared her story online and insist to have cash instead of a wedding ring as she felt that a ring is not worth much but cash is better.

Just like hiring a contractor to do work you pay a deposit first

Here is the story:

My bf and I have been together for 2 years and we have been working for a few years now. Recently we have been looking at engagement rings.

After doing some research, I realised that diamond rings have a very low resale value so I decided that I do not want a diamond ring anymore. I read that contractors often received a deposit before completing their job and marriage is a lifelong job. So it makes perfect sense for me to take a deposit from my husband-to-be.

So I told him $50,000.

He was happy when I told him that I do not want a diamond ring but he called me crazy when I asked him to propose to me with a stack of cash. He then asked me why I want a $50k and I said the cash would be like a form of compensation for me. Like if he ever mistreats me in our marriage, I can still have some cash if things go sideways.

He then said, that is like preparing for divorce before getting married. Macham Alimony

After trying to persuade him for like an hour, he still insisted that my idea is crazy. But he has $60k of savings in his bank so he can afford it and shouldn’t be a problem for him. But he is totally unwilling to proceed.

Was I really crazy to ask for a deposit?

I called a woman “mommy” dujring intimacy on Wednesday night and I don’t think she liked it. She hasn’t talked to me since.

honestly I’m pretty embarrassed. I’m a 27yo man for context. We aren’t officially in a relationship, Wednesday was our 4th date and we went to my place after dinner for drinks and a movie.

Well we ended up sleeping together and it was incredible. Honestly it might have been the best I’ve ever had.

I was on edge the whole time and desperately trying to hold back because I’m usually pretty quick and I didn’t want to disappoint.

Well eventually she got on top and started riding me and was talking dirty while pressing her chest into my face.

I think she knew I didn’t have much more left and she said “Are you gonna come for me?” That pushed me over the edge and opened the floodgates.

I accidentally moaned “Yes! Uhhh, MOMMY!”

I’ve never called a woman mommy during moments like this before so I don’t know where it came from but I could tell by the look on her face I don’t think she liked it.

I was super embarrassed and she didn’t stay long after that and hasn’t responded to my texts since.

A post on Reddit went viral after a man was punished for being late for work. His manager allegedly stop the man from going for a lunch break as a penalty for getting to work 6 minutes late.

As Reddit is an international forum, it is likely that the incident did not happen in Singapore. Luckily, we do not hear of such incidents happening in Singapore.

Here is the story:

Been working there for 4 months. I was never late and always ready like 15 min before my shift starts. Today I had a tough morning, in a bad mood and I was 6 minutes late for work. My manager called me to his office, complaining about why I didn’t call him to say I’m going to be late. I told him that I didn’t think about calling him as I knew that I’ll only be late for a bit.

After going back and forth, he told me that I’m not allowed to take my lunch break because I’m late and it was super busy. I didn’t bring my lunch, so I asked if I could at least grab a sandwich before starting my shift. He agreed, but only to cut half an hour of my pay..

I agreed and left “to grab a sandwich”. It’s been an hour and a half now since I left and I still haven’t returned. My manager just called me and I told him I quit. I don’t regret it (yet?)

Wish me luck!!

Going Viral

The story became viral with 60,000 upvotes on the thread and over 4,000 comments. Many netizens pitch in their thoughts and started discussing work ethics.

Stories started to pour on the thread with one of the users stating:

“Which is why you don’t start work early. My coworker used to get to work 20 minutes early everyday and would start working and I kept telling him don’t do it.One day he was 15 minutes late because of the WEATHER (which made the bus late) and my boss says make sure you make up that time even though he’s obviously made it up since he was 20 minutes early for work for months. After that, he started on time!“

How about Singapore?

What should one do when an employer is breaching rules of the employment act.

In Singapore, one can always refer to the Ministry of Manpower’s website for employment rights. The topics covered are

• Hours of work and overtime
• Annual leave
• Sick leave
• Public holidays entitlements
• CPF contributions

and beyond.

How to do doggy if your bf is too big down there?

Hello everyone I have an amazing life with my boyfriend and we fulfill each other’s greatest desires but he really enjoys the doggy position and we do that but it is rather painful for me because of his large girthy member.

I love him and I love sleeping with him, but it hurts a lot. What doesn’t help is that he has quite a lot of stamina and it takes him a while to finish

My gynecologist said to try to stretch more often but while it did help with the pain, it doesn’t make it any more comfortable or pleasurable. Usually it just takes me out of the mood and I just hope he finishes as soon as possible.

Even oral is very uncomfortable for me and unsatisfying for him because I can barely take half of it.

I want to satisfy my bf but bc its so painful we dont do doggy as much as we do other positions is there any methods or tricks that I can use to make this position more enjoyable for myself?

Netizens’ comments

1. For girth, lube is essential. Find one that’s compatible with the protection that you’re using. Also, before penetration, having him during foreplay try to get 2-3 fingers in you at a point where you are comfortable. This may mean that doggy is the grand finale, not the main event.
2. I mean, there’s realistically not much you can do about it, a friend of mine has a condition where anything thicker than a finger hurts her, so even an average sized penis is painful, but she’s not willing to give up on it to avoid the pain, i wouldn’t really take this as some advice, i’d honestly just say to follow your doctors advice, and stretch more often to fit it well, and keep up with it over time
3. Sadly, I don’t think there’s much you can do unless it involves toys. Remember though, it can stretch to about 14″ diameter though since it can push out an entire newborn baby.

my roommate is f-ing her bf while I’m sleeping

I don’t really know where to put this, but I woke up last night when my roommate and her bf came back to our dorm room at 4 am.

I tried going back to sleep, but I’m like 80% sure they started getting naughty with each other, and at that point, I was just angry that they were loud enough that I couldn’t go to sleep, so I left.

I’m not comfortable with my roommate f-ing while I’m asleep a few metres away. There is no divider, no desk, no anything, and I’m in perfect eye view.

I don’t like her boyfriend, I don’t want to hang out with her boyfriend, and I certainly don’t want to see him “going inside” my friend.

I spend 12 hours of the day outside of the dorm so they can have their alone time and privacy, and it makes me upset that I can’t sleep without them intruding.

I don’t care about how much they f each other, I just would really prefer that it wasn’t around me, and I don’t have another place to sleep.

I’m angry, but I kinda just want to know if this is warranted. Am I being prudish or unreasonable? I was going to have a conversation with my roommate about how uncomfortable that makes me (especially when I didn’t even know he was coming over), but I feel like I’m being mean. Let me know what y’all think.

Netizens’ comments

1. Turn on the lights, grab a snack and sit on your bed eating while you offer feedback on both of their performances. They will likely stop.
2. You need to tell your roommate that you made efforts to let them be alone. You don’t want to listen or watch them in that act. Knock that shit off or find a new roommate. Your reaction is completely normal.
3. Just get up and tell them to shut the f up

PHV drivers, do they earn a lot?

So my secondary sch friend was telling me he’s drives grab and fetch around 5-6k monthly. He was telling me he drives 8-9hr daily and only farm for peak hours. I’m quite impressed but I don’t know if he’s capping.

Yesterday night I took grab home and had a conversation with my driver, he was telling me most of the driver definitely earns more than 4k and above even with minimal effort.

He also share with me that driving grab is just merely a side hustle. As quite a lot of them owns a business or having side hustle outside.

“Many of them enjoys driving grab because of the freedom and decent payout compared to office job, I have car and I earn whenever I feel like. And the pay is above average singaporeans.”

I’m just quite impressed on the payout, really something to be look upon.

Netizens’ comments

1. Had a friend quit his job and try to do PHV full-time because he said he likes the flexibility of being a PHV driver. 3 months later he returned the car and is now back to looking for work. He didn’t wanna say but obviously he wasn’t making ‘big bucks’ as what you heard. If you add your bonus, AWS, employer CPF, AL, FCL, MC and other staff benefits you’d have to hustle really hard to make the equivalent amount.
2. Only farms peak hours, but peak hours dont last 8 to 9 hours bro
3. 5-6k monthly sounds a lot, but how much of that goes on the car payments, petrol, insurance etc?
4. It depends on the definition of “a lot”
   5-6k monthly for 8-9 hours sounds good on paper, but, you do not get CPF, and 5 years down the road, you are only a grab driver. what other skills you learn other than driving on the road?
   The reasoning of “freedon and decent payout” is true, but if you are a young chap, you have a better ROI if you sort out the kind of career path you want, and be specialized in a legimate skill.

I used to last long and now i don’t. Please help

I (M24) used to be able to last longer, 15-20 minutes and control when i want to finish. Now for the past week , when I’m with my wife I literally last a minute or 2.

It’s becoming embarrassing. 4 strokes and I already feel myself about to shoot out. I force myself to hold it in and when I do… my D just goes flat.

This is starting to concern me, I’m not happy that I’m not satisfying my spouse because of this. So far I’ve tried controlling my breathing, changed condom size, went slow with my strokes, pulled out in between and take a little 5 second break.. changed position, NONE of them has helped.

The moment i go back inside , i’m about to shoot out, I hold it in and my D goes flat. It’s embarrassing.

I go to the gym reguarly and I’m in standard shape. I also do sports.

Please can other men advice me. Thank you

Netizens’ comments

1. Psychological Factors: Anxiety, stress, and performance anxiety are known contributors to such issues. Relationship issues, mental health and a history of trauma can also play a role.
   Biological Factors: Certain medical conditions, such as prostate problems and hormonal imbalances, may contribute to the problem. Genetic factors and abnormal levels of neurotransmitters in the brain may also be involved.
   Environmental Factors: Unhealthy lifestyle habits, such as excessive alcohol consumption, unhealthy diet, poor sleep and a lack of exercise can play a part.
2. Well, since you only have 4 pumps in you, i say make the most of it. Use your hands and mouth first to make your wife finish first, then after that utilize your 4 strokes. OR, just go and see a f-ing doctor for help.

A man who recently went through a divorce felt that it is so easy for divorce lawyers to earn money as the process for his divorce was so fast and furious.

Here is the story:

I went online to seek divorce lawyers and I managed to pick a few and found the cheapest one. After arranging the appointment with the lawyer, I went down and the lawyer started to ask about my situation.

I told him that my wife who is a foreigner has gone missing and was probably away from Singapore after failing to contact her. Even though she agreed with the divorce. she did not follow through with it and went missing.

The lawyer told me not to worry and asked me for a few key details such as the identification number and detail of both myself and my wife, he then started to draft the letter to submit to a court.

He asked for my contact details and my wife’s contact details and type in the letter that she was uncontactable and missing despite trying. The lawyer told me to dial the phone a few times and take a screenshot to attach as evidence.

The whole process for the lawyer to type and submit the letter to the court took less than 30mins. After 30mins I was told to pay around $2,000.

That’s it, the lawyer tells me to wait 3-7 months and I will most probably get approval for the divorce.

30 mins get $2,000. Lawyers earn more than doctors.

After about 4 months, I received a copy of the official court letter saying that my marriage has been dissolved.

Next time got son i sure ask him be a lawyer that focuses on such affairs.

My grandpa with dementia is saying he sees ghosts that take care of him

Recently over the past few days, my grandpa has been telling my family how he has been seeing these ghosts that are taking care of him and are helping him be calm and I don’t know what to think about it.

Over almost 2 years we found out he has dementia, it has been progressively getting worse as his eating habits go from not really eating, to eating like he is starving and straying away from hanging around with family and being alone. But the ghost situation has been very recent.

He’s one to joke around but seeing the expression on his face I could tell he wasn’t joking. I have no idea how to think about if his end is coming or if it’s a part of dementia that is doing this to him.

To anyone else who may have had a loved one with dementia has any of this happened to you? How should I go about it and what should i do?

Netizens’ comments

1. Just lost a loved one to Alzheimer’s. Was his caregiver for several years. He may be having hallucinations which is part of dementia
2. Of course I always thought when people’s time is almost up. they start straddling both sides and maybe he is about to pass away.
3. My great-grandmother had Alzheimer’s and would talk to her mother and sister at the end, like they were there with her, (but she was almost 90 and they were long gone.)
4. Does the staff dress in all white? Does he usually wear glasses but hasn’t been all the time lately? Is he on a medication that would make his eyesight fuzzy? Any of these along with his dementia could have him believe he is seeing ghosts. As long as he feels comforted by them then there is no reason to worry. Just let him know you’re glad he doesn’t feel alone when you and other family members can’t be with him.
5. Hi friend. I used to be a hospice nurse.
   People with dementia can have visions/hallucinations. However, if he has never had these before, I would let his doctor know. Sometimes hallucinations are associated with a new infection (usually urinary tract) or a new neurological change.