My wife had gone crazy for sx…

My wife and I have been together for 25 years. We’ve always been very active in the bedroom, but everything has since escalated to whole new levels.

About 4 months ago she started bioidentical hormone replacement therapy testosterone. She has turned into a nympho.

It’s unbelievable she wants to f all the time. Two three times a day for hours on. It’s the most incredible thing ever.

New interests are showing up or having massive amounts of backdoor f-ing. Gosh, has this ever opened up a new reality for us? Anyone else experience the same?

What have you guys done to take things to a new level now that my wife is basically up for anything?

Netizens’ comments

1. I’m on the same thing as your wife and it made me the same way. My husband has been extremely happy lately. We have been together almost 30 years, and it’s like a whole new world opened up. We are having so much fun.
2. From the other perspective, I’m a husband that’s been on TRT for a while and my drive is absolutely vile now. I thought when I was young I had an overactive drive, but it’s twice as strong now. It’s a side effect of elevated testosterone levels.
3. What exactly is she taking? Calling my wifes Doctor as soon as you reply..

Hello everyone,

I’m seeking advice for my current situation with my husband. I’m just not sure what to do anymore.

I’ve been married to my husband for 5 years and we have been together for 10. He’s caring, loving, and patient. I couldn’t be happier with the exception of our bedroom life.

Before the past two year, it was great. We started off slow as this is the first relationship that I’ve ever had and slept with. He was willing to take things as far as what I was comfortable with and did not pressure me into sleeping with him.

Once we started having intercourse, things were great. We could literally not take our hands off of each other. Things intensified when we got married and it was wonderful.

There were no issues with him initiating until a couple of years ago. I noticed that his initiations have become less and we starting having penetration less and less. Now, I’m usually the one that usually has to initiate something.

However, it doesn’t usually lead to penetration. He responds to my initiations by engaging in other forms of play. He will often caress my body, rub my chest, perform oral on me, use toys on me to simulate penetration.

Don’t get me wrong, this feels great and he really takes care of me. He ensures that I finish at least a couple times. However, after he’s done making me come in this way, I try to take things further and usually get shut down.

I try rubbing his member over his shorts, dirty talk, telling him that I need him inside me so bad. However, he declines. He’s not rude about it. He simply holds me and tells me that “I’m tired” or “not tonight.”

I can clearly feel that he get hard when I rub him down there, but he still declines. I’ve told him that I want to please him and make sure he’s taken care of since he ensures that I’m taken care of, but he brushes it off and says it’s ok that he doesn’t get off.

I’ve tried wearing revealing clothing, playful teasing, talking about f-ing more to further indicate that I want him. He appears receptive, but won’t go further than what I mentioned earlier.

I’ve tried talking to him about this and how I feel in response to the lack of initiation and PIV. He apologizes and says that he’s just tired. He has made efforts to compensate by bringing home new toys, but I miss him and the feeling of being with him.

I know he works a lot and his job is stressful. However, I’ve caught him pleasuring a few times early in the morning.

In some of these instances I’ve seen him watching adult videos. Out of curiosity (I know, I know, it’s nosy of me), I’ve checked the search history to see what type of videos he’s been watching. From what I see he’s been into pegging, public toilets, and cuck types of videos.

I haven’t made a big deal out of it. I’ve gently told him that I’d like to watch with him and talk about some of his interests. He was embarrassed on the occasions I have caught him, but I try to be supportive and ask if he’d like any help with that.

Sometimes he’s receptive and will let me stroke him, but he doesn’t climax. I’ve tried suggesting penetration at that point, but he declines and says that he needs to get ready for work.

I just don’t know what to do anymore. I love him with all my heart. I’m sorry for the long post. I just feel so stuck.

I kicked a guy out of my apartment in the middle of hooking up, and you can too.

I was talking to this guy I matched on bumble for a week and I thought we had great chemistry, he told me absolutely alllll the nice things a woman wants to hear.

And so I decided to invite him over, we started making out. I went down on him and he wouldn’t go down on me which i didn’t understand because he told me he goes down on women.

Well, turns out he doesn’t. In his exact same words ” If I told you I don’t go down on women, you wouldn’t have any interest in sleeping with me” to which I replied, “yeah I won’t!”

If he was honest about it that would have been okay, but I felt manipulated, so i kicked him out.

This guy lied to get laid. I didn’t kick him out just because he didn’t go down on me.

Netizens’ comments

1. I have done this! I was sleeping with someone who tried not once, not twice, but THREE TIMES over the evening to f me in my backside after I had already refused and asked him not to go there.
   I was so angry. it took me a good day or two to really feel all the anger. but at the time at least I had the whereabouts to stop him completely and ask him to leave.
2. I had a tinder date come over to my apartment, I blew him for like 20 minutes, and then when I told him I wasn’t ready and I wanted him to go down on me, he was like “oh no I don’t do that.”
   That should have been an immediate NOPE for me, but somehow we kept going, until I told him to put on a condom (because duh, random dude from the internet??) and he refused.
   He tried to hang out in my bed just chatting to me after that, but I promptly kicked him out

Wife enjoys being natural infront of others. (And I like it)

Hi! So like title says my wife enjoys being au naturale in front of others, has this as a k!nk, and genuinely enjoys it.

I have no problem with it too. I enjoy watching her wherever possible. This has done a great deal of good to our bedroom life in the short term.

We even have a few open minded friends where she can be fully unclothed safely and with consent. (because we are clear about the interest)

Now, I’ve been enjoying it too much, a bit too much, sometimes, we actively pursue this. I understand its a common thing.

Has anyone been doing this for long term? What’s the effect on your life?

Netizens’ comments

1. As long as everyone is ok with it, why not? My wife has taken off everything in front of friends. It’s very liberating. And if you’re lucky it could lead into all kinds of added fun.
2. As you are amongst friends, you should not worry. After all, if they are ‘best ‘ friends you will know what they are like. There is nothing wrong with it.
3. I don’t see why not your all consenting adults & know what your doing aren’t you

atm took my money

Was withdrawing $20, took out my card and was talking to my brother for a while, then the atm drawer suddenly closed shut.

Checked my bank account after that, but they took $20 from my account.

I know partly my fault cause I forgot, but at least remain open with the money or refund me if you’re gonna keep the money :/

Did another $20 withdrawal after that, but didn’t get $40 sadly.

Not that much, but feels especially bad today cause I was spending some time looking up the best prices on shoppee for the 11.11 sale, but now $20 wasted sia…

Anyways anyone had experience, like you think if I call them they’ll refund me without proof, or will the money somehow be refunded after a few days?

:/

Edit: Apparently will refund

So it should suck in the money and register in system or something, hopefully.

I might call tmr still though.

Netizens’ comments

1. Just call the bank. There is a CCTV above the ATM so that’s your proof.
   And erm it’s not “partly” your fault, unless you meant your brother needs to shoulder the other half of the blame.
2. This happens more often than you think, there’s a bank phone at the atm usually. If not call in their hotline.
   Call in from there and talk to the operator.
   The money will be returned to your account, after they tally etc, so after a few working days

I’m a 26F and my 27M boyfriend of 6 months is addicted to “videos online”. He told me he PCC to P at least 2 times a week.

We’re physically intimate and monogamous, so I feel sad knowing I’m not enough to satisfy his urges. Furthermore, he told me that in the past he had visited a massage parlour once though he swears it was and is going to be that once only.

I’m worried that his habit will worsen and he may potentially cheat on me in future or visit a massage parlour again. We talked about it and he told me he’s taking steps to stop the P habit and assured me it was the only challenge, with the other two concerns under control.

I trust him and see a future with him, but I’m worried that his lack of self control may turn around to bite me in the future, such that whenever he goes out alone I can’t help but worry that he may visit a parlour or cheat on me. Am I overreacting or is this a legitimate concern?

Here are what netizens think:

• Your concerns are valid, and it’s understandable that you’re feeling uneasy about your boyfriend’s habits. Open communication is crucial in a relationship, and it’s positive that you’ve already discussed these concerns with him.

• self release is a common activity no matter what age and status. 16 to 85 will still watch and self release. Even if they are single or married or with kids. It’s only an addiction if it affects your mental state and have bad withdrawal symptoms. For the rest of us it helps sleep better and reduce tension. And boys, you want to confess your exciting history good for you. I can only tell you be smarter.

• What proof does he have to indicate he is reducing his addiction? Your biggest fear is cheating. Not watching 

• You both are physically intimate? This is an easy problem to solve. Go on a one week holiday with him and get him off 4-5 times a day without P. I hope he lasts beyond two days. Too much of anything is not fun.

When I first met my now-wife, I knew there was something special about her. Not only was she attractive and intelligent, but she had something that I had been looking for in a partner for a long time: frugality.

When I proposed to her, I asked her why she was so frugal. She told me a story about how her parents had instilled a sense of financial responsibility in her from a young age. They would tell her that if she wanted to eat at a nice restaurant, she had to be willing to pay the price. She learned that if she wanted something, she had to be willing to pay for it.

To this day, my wife still follows this rule. She will only buy things if she can afford them, and she is willing to sacrifice luxury for practicality. She also has a great sense of humor about it. Whenever we go out to eat, she will joke that she’s going to order the “$5 also full” foodcourt meal, referring to a meal that’s just enough to fill you up. We also joke about the “$50 also full” meal, which is saying that it makes no difference

I knew that marrying someone with such a strong sense of financial responsibility would be beneficial to me in the long run. There is a popular saying that “it takes two to tango” and I believe that to be true when it comes to managing your finances.

Having a partner who is frugal and understands the importance of saving money will help you in the long run.

My wife’s frugality has rubbed off on me. I have become more conscious of my spending habits and I now understand the importance of budgeting and saving for the future. I also feel more secure knowing that I have someone who can help me make smart financial decisions.

At the end of the day, I married my wife because she said “eat $5 also full eat restaurant $50 also full”. Not only was this an incredibly funny line, but it also showed me that she was not only frugal, but she also had a great sense of humor. Her frugality has been a great asset to our marriage and it has helped us to stay financially secure during tough times. Her values have allowed us to have a strong financial foundation and I am truly grateful for that.

In the realms of love and intimacy, a young man’s journey from bachelorhood to a blossoming relationship can bring unexpected challenges. Imagine finally breaking free from the shackles of singlehood only to find oneself struggling in the bedroom. This peculiar issue, as shared by Dr. Chen Yu-Hsin, highlights a surprising connection between solo pleasure and sexual performance.

The Case of the Tech-Savvy Bachelor

Dr. Chen encountered a 30-year-old tech professional who, after three years of singlehood, embarked on a romantic journey with a newfound love. However, his ambitious spirit took a hit when he found himself unable to perform confidently in intimate moments. Dr. Chen noted instances where the gentleman couldn’t maintain an erection or experienced a sudden loss of firmness, reminiscent of his inexperienced days as a virgin.

The Role of Solo Pleasure in a Single Man’s Life

Dr. Chen delves into the potential impact of solo pleasure on a man’s sexual prowess. It’s not uncommon for long-term singles to seek solace in self-pleasure during lonely and cold nights. While moderate self-gratification can contribute to maintaining erectile function, excessive indulgence might lead to unforeseen consequences.

The Pitfalls of Excessive Solo Pleasure

4.1 Overstimulation of Genital Organs

Individual preferences and the intensity of self-pleasure habits, coupled with the visual stimulation from adult content, can create a desensitization effect. This may result in a perceived lack of excitement during actual sexual encounters.

4.2 Unrealistic Expectations in Sexual Activities

Long periods of abstinence can lead to heightened expectations and performance anxiety. Excessive fantasizing about how to maintain a strong and enduring erection may backfire, causing distractions during intimacy and, ironically, contributing to erectile difficulties.

Advice from the Expert: Dr. Chen Yu-Hsin

5.1 Moderation is Key

Dr. Chen advises moderation in solo pleasure to strike a balance between satisfaction and maintaining optimal sexual function. It’s crucial to recognize when self-gratification turns into a potential obstacle in the pursuit of a healthy and fulfilling intimate relationship.

5.2 Alternative Stress Relief Strategies

For those looking to redirect their energy, Dr. Chen recommends exploring alternative stress relief methods such as regular exercise or outdoor activities. Diversifying stress coping mechanisms can positively impact overall well-being and intimate performance.

Taking Control of Solo Pleasure Frequency

Acknowledging the importance of self-control, Dr. Chen suggests that even the most eligible bachelors should manage the frequency of solo pleasure. Redirecting surplus energy towards constructive activities helps prevent future encounters with a partner from being compromised by self-doubt.

Avoiding the Confidence Spiral

Dr. Chen emphasizes the importance of breaking the confidence-damaging cycle that may arise from performance issues. It’s essential for individuals to approach intimacy with a positive mindset and to address any concerns promptly.

When Solo Pleasure Becomes a Health Risk

8.1 Potential Injuries and Risks

Apart from affecting sexual performance, excessive self-pleasure can pose physical risks, including genital injuries, friction-related skin damage, and the risk of ligament strain.

8.2 Seeking Professional Help

In cases where performance issues persist, seeking professional advice is paramount. Dr. Chen urges individuals not to resort to self-prescribed medications but to consult with a healthcare professional for tailored solutions.

Conclusion

Navigating the delicate balance between solo pleasure and optimal sexual performance requires awareness and moderation. Dr. Chen’s insights serve as a reminder that self-gratification, while natural, should be approached with caution to ensure a satisfying and healthy intimate life.

FAQs

1. Is solo pleasure harmful in moderation?Moderate self-pleasure is generally considered normal and can contribute positively to sexual health. However, excessiveness may lead to complications.
2. How can one break the cycle of performance anxiety?Addressing performance anxiety involves fostering a positive mindset, open communication with partners, and seeking professional guidance if necessary.
3. Can solo pleasure cause long-term damage?Excessive solo pleasure may lead to physical injuries, so it’s crucial to exercise moderation and seek medical advice if problems persist.
4. What are alternative stress relief methods recommended by Dr. Chen?Dr. Chen suggests incorporating activities like regular exercise or outdoor pursuits to diversify stress relief strategies.
5. When should one seek professional help for intimacy issues?Persistent intimacy issues should prompt individuals to consult with healthcare professionals to identify underlying causes and receive appropriate guidance.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to be rich. My father passed away when I was in secondary school because of a rare but curable cancer, and if we had $250,000 when he was diagnosed, he probably would not have died. He worked in construction and my mom worked at a nail salon. I have 3 siblings and we all lived in a one-bedder. I know a lot of people will disagree with me vehemently, but poverty is no fun.

I am now one year out of medical school and my goal is to give my family a better life.

Believe me when I say I understand fully that money will be less than useless in death. To me, making money has never been about what I can spend it on. Money will enable me to be a safety net for my loved ones.

Buying unnecessary things, traveling, paying over the top for a meal, I have never quite understood the appeal of such things. Not that I ever could afford them in the first place.

My best friend with whom I went to Hwa Chong grew up not too far from where Goh Chok Tong lives in Bukit Timah. He never spends more than $5 on a meal. It puzzled me in the beginning but then he revealed to me that he’s not being intentionally frugal he just found it difficult to justify how a $20 plate of chicken rice is 4x better than one he can get for $5. Today he is a Ivy League graduate who is in line to take over his father’s business, but he is still the same guy who wears washed out t shirts, takes the bus, and eats $3 cai fan whenever we do meet.

When I was in medical school, I met friends from upper-middle class families who were as frugal as I am. It was only surprising how common they are, people whose parents are specialists, lawyers, businessmen who are more humble than a blade of grass.

I’m not saying it’s wrong to live your life to the fullest. How anyone wants to live their life should be their prerogative. But I think if you want to mitigate the regret you will feel if you died prematurely by ignoring the fact that the vast majority of us will probably live as long as the life expectancy seems to suggest (84 years), then I think it would be a mistake not to make preparations for those ages that you will no longer be productive.

Lastly I just want to say this, seeing the world can be a great experience, but the same critique that you can’t bring money to the grave can also be said about your memories. You bring nothing away because you simply cease to exist. People who obsess over money aren’t all shallow and materialistic. Some of us need it to pay for a better life for the people we care about.

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