So this happened a few days ago.

My ( 35F) MIL is extremely religious. The first time I met her she waited till her son ( My now husband, 32M) was in the bathroom to say that I wasn’t right for her son as I was of a different faith

Its been years of jabs at me. Telling DH not to marry me the week of the wedding because he deserves to be with someone like him, of faith.

Here’s the thing, he’s not the same faith as her. She just can’t get over it.

So on to a few days ago. Our nearly 5yo daughter has multiple diagnoses and potential Brain Damage that we are looking into. She struggles with emotional regulation and can lash out. She also targets her 2yo sister and can scream for days. We are struggling. Badly.

MIL asked DH about our daughter and he responds with how we are struggling and really feeling overwhelmed etc.

Now one might expect a comforting msg back from a parent. Offers of help or a ear to listen.

Nope.

He got a massive msg back saying our daughter was possessed. And that we had to turn to god and perform an exorcism on her. Oh but not to do around me because I’m an unbeliever and that’s an inhibitor. She said that someone had done witchcraft, and talked absolute RUBBISH. It was bad. ( now I wonder if she is mentally ok).

I was SHAKING in anger. DH and I both agreed no contact as he admitted that his Mum would probably try to exorcise our daughter if she had a chance.

So we both composed messages back, I finally got to say everything I ever wanted to say and it felt GLORIOUS. Even said if she goes and tells DH’s sisters about how mean I’ve been then I’m happy to show them MIL messages. And what she feels about her DISABLED granddaughter.

And we both told her we don’t want to see her anymore.

She replied back. Mine was denial that she said it was possession, but merely meant OPPRESSION. Didn’t deny anything else. That was it.

DH got a lengthy one saying the same as mine, guilt tripping him and general crap. Ending in FIL has covid and is VERY sick. Nice try manipulator.

I’ve been really angry about it. Blocked MIL on everything. I did an insta post and FB story to vent. DH sisters and family have seen but haven’t said anything. I think they know how bad this is.

So yea, still so angry. Burning bridges and it feels good.

101 on how to completely mess up your relationship with your son and DIL.

A woman asked her husband on social media if it was reasonable to give him only RM500 as pocket money, but she was criticized by netizens!

In a recent conversation, a woman candidly revealed that her husband handles all household expenses, leaving her with a surplus of about RM5,00. Despite holding a degree in accounting, she chose to stay at home, following her husband’s advice to focus on raising their children. This scenario sparks a broader discussion about the dynamics of financial responsibility, personal choices, and societal expectations.

Financial Responsibility Division

Is RM500 OK for living expenses?

According to China News , a Malaysian woman asked anonymously on social media

Household expenses are borne by the husband

She mentioned that her husband is responsible for paying household expenses such as house mortgage, car loan, water and electricity bills, etc. After deducting these expenses, there is still about RM5,000. With a degree in accounting, she admitted that if she worked outside the home, her salary would be quite good, but she followed her husband’s advice and stayed at home to raise her husband and children.

“He gave RM1,500 to his mother, but only RM500 to his wife. This makes me a little uneasy.”

Netizen: You should be grateful

The post caused heated discussions among netizens:

“This matter should be discussed with your husband.”

“It’s simple, communicate, not here, but with your husband. You should let your husband know what you think.”

“My husband has already borne all the expenses, do we still need to question it? If you need more, just ask your husband. Why are you asking outsiders?”

After taking care of all the household expenses, how much pocket money do you think is enough for your wife? Welcome to leave a message and share with us~

The Debate on Career vs. Family

The persistent debate on whether women should prioritize their careers or families continues to shape individual choices. Societal expectations often impose conflicting ideals, making it challenging for individuals to make decisions that align with their values. Striking a balance between career aspirations and family responsibilities remains a considerable challenge.

The Value of Domestic Work

Staying at home doesn’t diminish the value of the work performed by homemakers. The societal perception of homemakers and the challenges they face in being recognized and appreciated need addressing. It’s crucial to acknowledge the integral role homemakers play in shaping a healthy and supportive family environment.

Economic Contribution of Homemakers

While the wife’s choice might seem unconventional, it prompts consideration of the economic contributions of homemakers. If these contributions were compensated, it could have a significant impact on the economy. Recognizing and valuing domestic work as legitimate and essential can lead to a more equitable society.

Challenges Faced by Stay-at-Home Moms

Women who choose to stay at home face various challenges, including societal judgment, financial dependence, and potential career re-entry difficulties. Addressing these challenges requires societal shifts, such as changing perceptions and creating support systems for individuals who choose different paths.

My MIL and FIL are over right now and won’t stop dropping hints about my weighT

My husband’s parents are here for the day and honestly idk how I’ll get through it. They’ve all body shamed me in the past and now today they keep dropping constant hints about their new diets and suggesting I try their low cal protein shakes.

I know it might not seem like a big deal but they’ve both mocked me for my weight gain due to a medical issue.

Honestly the dieting and calorie restriction is all they’ve talked about for the past two hours and I still have the whole day left to deal.

Encouragement or advice would be great.

Netizens’ comments

• “Yes, you’ve mentioned your latest fad diet already. I was raised not to be passive-aggressive about hinting that others need to lose weight, but I know it’s hard to resist such temptations when you’re spending so much money on a scam plan and feeling insecure yourself.
  Rest assured that I work with my medical team and that I won’t be discussing my health or weight loss plans with either of you, because I was raised to know better.
  I’m sure you’d agree that it’s healthier for everyone if we find a different topic now.”

• Just… hugs to you. I hope they get gone soon – and keep gone for a long while.

• Does your SO know it’s upsetting you? What have they done to help?

My dad (46M) and my aunt (37F)(mom’s sister) are getting together after my mom (45F) cheated on him. I (21F) am completely supportive of their relationship but am not sure if that’s weird.
About a year and a half ago, I found out that my mother was cheating and having an affair with a co-worker of her’s. I immediately told my dad and this basically led to the end of their marriage.

My mom was never there for me as a mother. She didn’t care about my upbringing and barely was part of my life. My dad was the one who was beside me every step I took and every hardship I had. Through out my entire childhood, she was using my father, was always angry with him and treating him like shit. My father would always comply to my mom’s need and she did nothing in return.

But I still had a female family member to look up to and that was my aunt. She cared more about me than my mom did and was always there for me if I needed her. We got along great and she also helped me through some tough times. She supported and encouraged me. She always had a good relationship with my dad as family. She even showed her support when she found out her sister cheated on my dad.

I currently live together with my dad and barely have any contact with my mother. My dad recently sat me down to talk and told me that him and my aunt were really getting along great together. He told me that they were both interested in seeing each other romantically but weren’t sure if I would be ok with it and if this would complicate my bond with my mother.

This does seem a bit weird to me but to be honest I actually am supportive of the idea. They were both very important in my upbringing and I’m sure they would be great for each other. I already barely have a relationship with my mother so I really don’t care about what she has to say. My father and aunt both deserve to be happy. How should I navigate the situation?