Someone asked me to pay to repair her $5000 handbag

So I was walking down the escalator at the train station this morning, and I was carrying a few things, so I had quite a bulky side bag.

A woman came up to me at the MRT platform later and approached me claiming that I had “hit” her $5000 handbag and chipped the corner off her handbag.

She was basically looking for a fight, confronting me in the middle of the doorway to the MRT during rush hour.

I just moved us both into the MRT when it arrived, and asked her what she wanted or expected from me. She showed me the corner of her bag, and insisted that I pay for the repairs. But when I looked at the other corner of her bag, it was chipped too.

She claimed that was “small” so it was understandable, but the chip that I made with my Nike reusable bag was “bigger”. She didn’t want me to take a photo of the other side of her bag, but I took a photo of the chipped side. She kept trying to talk to me and start a fight in the train, but I just put my headphones in and ignored her.

Anyway, just want to know what to do when she texts me. Do I have to pay for her repairs? Or can I just block her and ignore her messages? Does she have any legal recourse against me if I just ignore her? She doesn’t have my name, but I did give her my real number because she called me on the spot to check.

Netizens’ comments

1. Corners of real leather bags wear and tear easily with use, especially if it’s lamb or goat skin. She’s trying to finesse you lmao crazy
2. If she calls or texts you, give her a police station address and meet there inside.
3. Not going to lie kinda sounds like she just wants your money. That aside, how the hell did your Nike reusable bag chip a bag? Like what part did it even chip?
4. You gave her your number? Just ignore her, block her as well. The police does not have time for this.
5. Sounds like a scam brudda
6. Tell her she hit your Nike bag with her 5000 bag but you’ll let it go.
7. Ask her to provide evidence(s) that you were the one who damaged her bag. She can get the police or her lawyers involved but most likely nothing is going to happen unless there are concrete evidence(s) like CCTV recording that your bag “rubbed” against her’s with a force that’s enough to cause damage to her bag.

Worked part-time ad hoc job and did not receive pay. What can I do?

I worked part-time for a company about 2.5 weeks ago for 2 days. The boss said she would pay out the salary 1 week after the event so that she could settle other stuff first.

Giving the benefit of the doubt, the other part timers and I waited. But 1 week after the event, she did not update the others and I about the payment she promised to pay out.

Only when another part timer voiced out in the whatsapp group of not receiving the pay did she start to reimburse them.

As the week went by, I kept checking my transactions to see if the amount was transferred into my bank account, but unfortunately, it wasn’t (and still have not received it btw).

So I decided to text her last week to check with her for updates. She kept giving replies like ‘I will check with finance and get back to you tomorrow’ – in which she never did till I retexted her.

This happened for about 3 times (6 days) before I had enough of her bullshit. So I texted her yesterday regarding my salary. She replied saying ‘finance has paid out to all, it is not possible that all has received except you right?’

I kept asking her about it and she gave her standard reply again – ‘i will ask finance and get back to you, probably in 1 to 2 working days because the account for the event has closed’ which is quite ridiculous honestly.

So here I am, waiting for her reply tomorrow. Do you think I’ll ever get my money? What can I do if she keeps dragging this on?

Some additional information:

1. I was not hired under the same circumstances as the other part-timers (they went through an app) while I met the boss from another event I was working at.
2. I am receiving a higher pay than the other part-timers because she agreed to match the salary I was receiving at the job she met me at
3. I have proof that she hired me for the job and agreed to pay me the higher salary (from whatsapp messages)

Questions:

1. If I decided to name and shame this company, telling all the companies associated to them how they treat their workers etc., will I suffer from any consequences? (be it suing for defamation etc.)

Disappointed with my mom

My brother (25) is asking for my mom for her CPF money to sponsor him for studies. Issue is that my mom herself does not have enough even for retirement as she was a housewife for a long time.

She seems reluctant to give but says that she will give it to my brother to “maintain the peace” as my brother will curse at her if she refused.

He was working full time previously but seem to have spent the money on other things so he is unable to afford his school fees now and has never given a single cent to my mom before.

Anyone has any advice? I am worried for her as she seems to be unable to say no and always gives in to my brother whether they are reasonable requests or not.

I feel so helpless as ultimately it is her money and she can do what she wants with it but i’m sorry to say that i don’t see my brother being grateful now or in future.

Netizens’ comments

1. Cpf to pay for studies is a loan, your brother will need to pay back cpf with interest.
2. Let me clarify because my mom is reaching 55 so she can withdraw some cash which she initially wanted to keep for her own use but i think now she’s going to give some to him
3. Your brother is 100% an a-hole Ever since my father passed, my brother and I have decided to not let our mother pay for any of our major expenses, we cover our own school fees and allowance so as to allow my mum to enjoy an earlier retirement. This occurred when I was 23 and my brother was 21. As a 25 year old, your brother shouldn’t be so selfish. Ask him to take a study loan if he wants it so badly.
4. What comes out of cpf must go back in later. Who is going to pay for it then? Your mom also needs to set away money for her retirement further down the road. Must think of her future.
5. If I’m the father, I will slap the daylights out of your brother. Ungrateful…

I am a 26M and my older sister Julie is 28F. Julie is married to Tanner, 29M, and they have two kids that are 6 years and 5mo old.

I have been best friends with Kyle 26M since we were in diapers. Kyle is engaged to Cathy, 28F, and have a wedding date set in November.

Cathy and Julie went to school together and have been close friends for years. Kyle and I both work at a gym that Tanner owns.

2 weeks ago I was out with Tanner getting lunch before heading back to work, when Tanner started to swear while looking at his phone.

He showed me the phone and while looking at his baby camera app, Tanner saw Julie and Kyle kissing and getting intimate.

Tanner started yelling at me asking if I knew about it, where I was in shock and told him no. Tanner started taking screenshots of the images and said he was going home for the day.

That night he ended up confronting his wife, my sister, Julie. She admitted to having an affair with Kyle, my best friend, for months.

Cathy was not around that night but Tanner called her to tell her what was going on. Cathy came back the next day and immediately called off the wedding and kicked Kyle out of the house.

Tanner took the same route and also asked Julie to leave the house so he could think over how to go about separating while also keeping the children in mind.

A few days later Julie and Kyle decided to move out and rent an apartment together. Two days ago I helped to move them in and I am getting a lot of heat from Tanner and Cathy.

Kyle is my best friend and Julie is my sister and I know what they did was wrong but I also know that they don’t have a lot of support at the moment and they are both family to me.

This takes us to today. Tanner is now telling me I am not allowed to see my niece and nephew since I decided “cheaters are more important than him”.

I also lost my job today, where Tanner was my boss. I am stuck in the middle where my best friend and sister were the ones who had the affair but Cathy has become like family as well as Tanner and my niece and nephew.

I am stuck in the middle of the family drama as I am the single one of our now broken friend group of 5.

My (32F) guy friend (30M) refuses to date women over 30 because he wants to have kids

My friend wants kids like really badly and when he dates, he takes that into account and he comes to me for relationship advice since I’m one of the few female friends he has.

One of the first things he told me was that he wouldn’t date women over 30. I asked him why and he said it’s because a relationship will take a few years to grow.

He said he would need to take her age into account because he wants a few kids and space them out a bit. He’s against having kids with women over 35.

He thinks it’s dangerous. So, to be safe he’s working backwards and only dates women under 30. I was like ok… I didn’t judge.

He’s having trouble finding success in dating women in their 20s because they don’t have the same life goals as he does. I told him gently that the age group he’s targeting is probably too young to be thinking of having kids and settling down. He replied

“Why are you as a woman prioritizing fun with a stranger rather than trying to find the right person having fun with them?”

The last girl he dated was like 25 and he got angry because she said she hadn’t thought at all about having kids.

When I tell him it’s probably more likely for women over 30 to be thinking about having kids, he doesn’t listen. It seems like he would rather become a passport bro (which I advised against) than to even consider women his own age. I don’t know how to make him see it from a different perspective.

Netizens’ comments

He’s not listening to you as it is so I can’t imagine pushing the issue is going to make him listen the next hundred time.

Next time he complains, just say that you told him so and that he needs to stop coming to you for advice since you think his standards suck.