I hate my wife she deserves what’s happening to her

I’ll keep this short. She cheated with a coworker. 4 years long affair. She was carrying his child when she met an accident. She lost the baby as well as her legs. She’s in wheelchair now and can’t ever walk again. I’m STUCK with her.

Her coworker had his cake and ate it, I’m the one paying for it. I already drained our entire savings on her operations and getting her to senses.

Now we are without savings, I’m doing 100% of the finances and housework while she stares at the window thinking about the lovable memories with her despicable coworker.

I can’t leave because we have little kids and I’ll be painted the bad guy because that’s what this society does. No matter how much we accomplish, it’s less or unappreciated.

At this point, I hope she dies! I can’t take it any longer.

Do you think divorce is that easy? I spent all of our savings to get her home from hospital and then she drops the big news of her infidelity.

Now I’m the only money maker in the family. I have to do the work, do the kids and take care of house all by myself.

Despite all that, I asked her to visit therapy. I grew up without a home. I know the importance of family. Divorce isn’t easy. I’ll have to split up everything (house, car, bank, even our kids) This is not easy!

Leaving someone you spent 20 years of your life with when they are at this condition is not easy! I see her weeping, I see her laughing maniacally and it breaks my heart!

I can’t attend therapy or file for divorce because this will further break her down and I don’t want that. Sometimes you have to sacrifice yourself and your needs! I hate her so much that I freaking love her!

Does anyone have a problem of arguing with everyone in their life?

My parents hated me since I learned to talk because of this. And I started arguing with people online.

At work, no one likes me because I have strong views and argue with everyone. My friends also do not like me because of this, I kept quiet to make friends and the moment I tell my views, no one wants to hang out anymore.

In my defense, I think that everybody else is wrong. But I don’t want to argue. How do I be “normal” like everyone else and have peaceful conversations?

Netizens comments

• I guess you could try to see things from a different perspective? Like try to face the issue from others’ point of view. And don’t be so quick to disagree or disapprove someone’s view. Be cool-headed, calm and collected. All the best 🙂

• “i think that everyone is wrong” LOL

Nothing wrong with this tbh its just what you do after, are you talking down and being rude to people telling them they are wrong and you are always right? (assuming this is the case since everyone hates you lmfao) Could it also be that its not so clear as your are right and they are wrong and more that both you and the other party are right and its just a matter of perspective/understanding? Try not to look/talk down to people just because you are right, try to be more compassionate and understanding and talk to people kindly, not with a know it all attitude. Noone likes that.

• “In my defense, I think that everybody else is wrong.”
  That’s the root of the problem. Nobody is correct 100% of the time, that includes you. Having an ego that isn’t humbled down gives rise to cognitive biases and makes us think we’re right all the time.

Don’t focus on wanting to be right, focus on getting it right. What that means is, treat conversations as if you and anyone who are discussing on a particular topic, are both doing so to get to the truth in a neutral way that considers both party’s points of view and objective evidences/logical thinking. Not your version of truth or their version of truth. I understand this can be difficult because not everyone has this mindset and some people just want to proof they’re right. If you think they’re wrong, don’t use labels (idiot, fool etc), don’t use directly/passive aggressive language and don’t talk over them loudly. Those only serve to set up a heated argument, not a constructive discussion.

Learning when is the right time to convey your thoughts, and doing so tactfully is important. For example, if you and your group of friends are just talking about what food tastes the best, there’s no point arguing with them over something as trivial as this. Next time you want to argue with someone, ask yourself, is starting an argument with them a productive thing to do? Or do you just want to show them you’re right to feed your ego? If you just want to feed your ego, then make yourself shut up.

There’s a saying: “Never miss an opportunity to shut up.” – Mark Twain. I repeat this quote to myself if I sense I’m going to start a foolish and meaningless argument with someone.

It was my birthday and nobody remembered. I shouldn’t be upset because it’s been this way my whole life but I am (30F)

This sounds really pathetic but I had my 30th birthday a few days ago and I didn’t get anything at all.

I’m not a horrible person but I’ve never been popular. My work organized a card & collection for everyone else when they have a birthday or engagement or buying a house.

I thought this year I would get something. My manager knew it was my 30th so I was hopeful but I didn’t get anything.

I have no family or friends or partner (he ghosted me 6 months ago) so I’m used to celebrating alone. I decided to buy myself a theatre ticket to see a musical but I was so down about everything that I didn’t go.

I’m done with it all honestly. Another year gone and have nothing so there’s no point. I shouldn’t be upset but I am.

Netizens’ comments

Hey I was exactly like you a few years ago. No partner, friends didn’t really care about me, family were in a different country so it was like they didn’t exist.

I used to let birthdays and holidays go by because I felt so awkward trying to reach out to people. I was so lonely and it nearly killed me.

I don’t have any advice for you other than start small and change some of the small things that make you miserable.

For me that started with quitting my job and relocating, and then I made friends at my new job and things started slowly to get better.

Nowadays I’m in a happy relationship and have a small number of friends that I’m very dedicated to. Things do get better if you’re willing to make a change. DM me if you wanna talk.

Girlfriend Doesn’t Want to Post Relationship on Social Media. Worried about Co-Workers

Me (M28) and my girlfriend (F29) have been dating for 1 year and a half. I’ve already met her family and her friends and we are very serious about the relationship.

She’s been very hesitant about posting any pictures or anything about us on social media.

Recently, it has gotten even worse after tagging her in a Facebook post I saw (we are both looking for an apartment).

She basically said she doesn’t want me to tag her in any posts because she doesn’t want people to see anything about our relationship.

She tells me that it’s because of her co-workers and that her co-workers like to gossip and create drama.

I understand keeping the relationship private, but this seems like overkill. Especially after dating for a year and a half.

What’s the best way to sit down and talk with her respectively about our relationship and social media?

Netizens’ comments

she needs to remove her coworkers from Facebook. just tell her to tell them she isn’t using Facebook anymore.

i work in a company and i have the same issue with coworkers gossiping and causing drama. in particular this 1 person who always talks crap about every single person behind their back.

i specifically don’t add anyone from my work on my Facebook because of this particular person. i have a Instagram/twitter that is work related/business and i just add coworkers on that.

We often hear supernatural stories from friends and sometimes it is better to avoid the unknown than to be “Dora the Explorer”, a man shared a story about when became ill after getting nosy.

Here is the story:

This story is solely heard from a friend. He usually smokes before going to bed, hence on that day as usual he was by the kitchen window smoking away.

He saw a lady in a black mini dress coming out of the lift from the opposite building and walking down the stairs. Out of curiosity and maybe the lady look pretty good, his eye followed her.

The lady stopped at a certain floor and suddenly sat down on the steps. She was taking things out from her bag and he got really kapo, trying to see what was she taking out.

However, he regretted his move as he saw her taking joss sticks and incenses out of her bag. The worst was that she started munching on them. Guess it scares the hell outta him. But the worst was yet to come. She suddenly looked up and straight at him and was smiling to him while she continue having her ‘supper’.

God, that really did it for him….He ran as fast as he could back to his room and under his blanket.

This incident had caused him 3 days in bed with high fever…

I started working at a company recently. I get along with most of my coworkers but been having some issues with this guy “Morgan”. Morgan from what I understand is what everyone call “the handsome” guy in the office. He dated 2 of our colleague and hit on several others. He seemed friendly when we talked, he seemed respectable and never asked questions outside of work.

He offered to buy me lunch and he kept sending me funny memes and stuff. It was nice but felt a bit too much so I asked that he stop and he did.

He started sending me pics of him that were inappropriate. I texted him saying that I’m married and he was being inappropriate.

Man refused to believe she is married

He texted saying I was lying about being married to get him off my back, then went on about how nice and attractive he is, and how I’m trying to act like I don’t like him to get him to try harder. I felt frustrated especially after he kept sendig me pics. Days ago he sent me a pic of his “beam” and told me to “eat”.

I decided to let my husband deal with it. He sent him a text back saying “sorry bud, small objects are a choking hazard for her”. Then blocked him.

The other day he came into the office looking furious and “confronted” me about being misled by not having a wedding ring on when I’m married. I said I didn’t need to prove anything to anybody and didn’t lead anyone on. He said he was trying to get close to me and I should’ve told him I’m married from the get-go.

I said I was sorry but maybe he shouldn’t have basically tried to enforce a relationship with anyone regardless if they’re in a relationship or not. He said that my husband and I were rude and offensive then rushed out. Other coworkers said Morgan was an playboy that always get into problems like this but I too bear the blame for having my wedding ring on and being somewhat misleading. I said I don’t think I owe anyone an explanation and refused to apologize for what happened just to keep the peace in the office.

My BF and I keep running into each other and people are freaked out

I(23F) spend 5days out of the week at my BF(24M) place. We are both working and studying and our brains are fried most days. We watch TV or go out for dinner like once a week, but mostly spend time either discussing HW because we are majoring in the same thing or making cool plans for when we have more free time to travel. Plans we do end up realising btw.

Sometimes we go out with friends, especially on the days we are not together. We never really ‘inform’ each other. One of us might send a text ‘I’m out, will call in 2-3h’ but that’s it. I really don’t need to know, I trust him.

Well, as luck would have it, I ran in my BF at a bar. I was out with one of my girl friends and he was out with his best friend. We laughed and just sat a little off from each other so we do not have to keep shooting awkward glances around. A month later, it happened again. I wasn’t even ‘out out’, my sister and I were picking an order at a burger place and my BF was there with another friend. Big deal, I don’t see the issue.

I told some of my friends because I thought it was mildly amusing but they all said this was dysfunctional and kinda wrong. My BF and I have been together for 2 years, own a dog together, my friends found it freakish that we run into each other randomly.

I asked my BF what he thought and he said his friend said the same thing. Now it got me thinking, should we start texting each other what we are up to? Idk, I honestly suck at things like these. Any advice welcome.

nO one is intentionally running into the other, honest coincidences. There are a few more which might be why people freak.

We have 5 days we stay side by side working, then two days when I go home and maybe go out as well as I am busy during the week. We only tell each other after the fact, you know share and stuff.

People seem to be really freaked how we just don’t check in with one another.

One day someone asked my BF where I was, he said if he had to guess I was home. I wasn’t, I was at a bar. Or someone was asking for board game night, called me I agreed, then called my BF later and he asked if I can join. Ensue confusion because I already agreed and he didn’t know.

I hope this makes sense.