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MAN EARNS $6K/MONTH, BUT WANT TO QUIT FOR LOWER PAYING JOB WITHOUT STRESS

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Ever felt like giving up and quitting a stressful job to get a lower paid one without stress?

For context I am 30 and earning gross 6k including bonus which is not a lot. I give 1k to my parents all inclusive as they are retired and do not have much savings.

I do not plan to get married, since i prefer being single. Kind of gave up owning a house to be honest. No passion in my job and just scraping by. The stress makes me overeat and stopped exercising.

Has anyone ever wanted to give everything up and just be a lie down gen? I am tempted to just find a 3k plus job but am afraid of regreting my decisions

Netizens’ comments

  1. Bro just tahan and suck it up, you can be stress free all you want when you retire with a fat bank account. Now is not the time to give up.
    • By then he already ki siao and jump from HDB from the stress lo
  2. This is normal actually. There are already people taking up a less stressful job for a slightly lower pay. Health is always above everything including mental health.
  3. Planning to, I’m also 30, used to be ambitious and passionate but bcos of my health issues I can’t keep up anymore. I need to avoid stress or else my condition gets aggravated.
    I think it’ll be worth it. An ex-colleague did the same thing and she’s so happy now. Dead end job, but zero stress and pay is ok-ish 4k+. I’m sure you can also find something easier yet pays decent?
    Just plan our finances, spend less, retire abit later, we’ll be fine.
  4. right there that might be the issue. convert your stress to lifting weight or punch someone on an mma class
  5. There are also jobs that are at 6K and less stressful. You don’t necessarily need to go down to 3K for less stress. My 3K job was the most stressful, and current job (same range as you) is the least stressful. There may even be higher paying jobs that are less stressful. Look around you at work, or a friend’s career that are higher salary range, do all of them look stressed out?
    You might find that in Singapore, going down to 3K a month can quickly become slightly stressful, maybe your parents would be concerned. But if all parties are ok with it, nothing wrong then.
    No one should regret removing the stressors in their life. You get your life back, better health and better mind can help you achieve way more in life than you’d expect. It is just too bad too few people opt to or can choose to do this.

WOMAN LET HUSBAND GO OUT PIAK AROUND CAUSE SHE’S NOT KEEN, NOW OUTSIDE GIRL PREGNANT

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Husband [30M] and I [28F] opened our relationship and now everything is terrible.

My husband and I have been married for 6 years, together for 8.

My husband, I’ll call him Eric, has always been a really intense person but he’s a good man. When we got together I noticed he had a much higher drive in bed than I did, but I would usually let him f me when I wasn’t in mood anyway because I love him. He’s never vocalized any problems until somewhat recently.

I should also mention, just before we got married we talked about having kids. I’m indifferent to kids whereas he doesn’t want them, so agreed not to have them.

Over the last year my interest for f-ing has been almost non existent. I’ve been checked by doctors and they say nothing is wrong physically but I should talk to a therapist, which I haven’t done yet.

About 4 months ago he sat me down and we talked about all this and he said he needs physical intimacy, which I told him I understood but I can’t give that to him right now. We argued for a bit and he ended up sleeping on the couch. In the morning he suggested we open the relationship. I was heartbroken.

He explained that we either give this a try or end the relationship. So I agreed. We set boundaries: no bringing the person to our house ever, no talking about it, always use protection and regularly get tested. He agreed to all of this.

I was actually surprised how okay I was with this as the months moved along. Even when he’d text me that he’s going to be late, or when he’d kiss me and tell me has plans that night. It almost felt like a burden was lifted from me.

Well yesterday my husband sat me down again and said he something really difficult to tell me. For the last couple of months he’s been seeing this one girl and she’s pregnant.

I think I dissociated a little because I heard him talking but couldn’t understand the words he was saying. When I came back to reality I asked if it was his and is she keeping it. Yes and yes. And he plans on being in this child’s life actively.

I asked him who she was and he told me. It’s someone I know, not well but I do know who she is.

I’m utterly heartbroken. I haven’t told family or friends yet, I asked him not to. I asked him if he wants a divorce, he didn’t say no. He’s basically leaving it up to me.

So I guess my question is, do I cut my losses and move on or give this marriage another try?

WOMAN HAVEN’T BOOM BOOM FOR 10 YEARS, ASK IF NOWADAYS GOT ANY NEW “UPDATES”

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I haven’t had a physical encounter with a man in a decade. That changes tomorrow.

I am a 40 year old woman who has not slept with or had a relationship for over 10 years. The reasons for that are irrelevant, but it was a deliberate choice…until now.

I met a guy I really like and he seems to think I’m pretty great. He has not put any pressure on me at all since we started talking.

Tomorrow we are going to spend the day together entirely alone for the first time. Considering we both want it to happen, I’m very sure tomorrow will be the day.

Birth control is not an issue as I lack the necessary organs for pregnancy. I’m not concerned about STI’s since he verified (with lab testing) that he is clean.

My concern is really rather stupid. Has anything changed where f-ing is concerned in the last decade that I should know about? Have things changed when it comes to making love nowadays?

How can I help myself be a touch less anxious about this? Is there anything new I absolutely need to know about before taking this step?

I have a genuine fear of embarrassment in the bedroom and I just kind of need some encouragement, I guess.

Netizens’ comments

  1. You’re going to be just fine. Take things at whatever pace you are comfortable with, communicate, and enjoy yourself and each other. Hopefully this will be the first of many encounters and you’ll have a chance to give each other plenty of pleasure.
  2. The only change I’ve noticed is that things are less taboo these days but that has been steadily happening for the past 60 years.
  3. Step-family roleplay are kinda in nowadays.
    • (OP) I am too old for this s-t
  4. I wish I could tell you nothing has changed, but that hasn’t been my experience. I’m 37 and I got back on the scene after a 5 year relationship earlier this year. I don’t know how to really explain how it’s felt other than like being a fish out of water. I even felt that way when I got back on the scene in 2017 after I had broken up with my previous boyfriend of like 6 years.
  5. I think a big thing though is how old is this guy? If he’s younger (and even if he isn’t), I’d say maybe (definitely) have a talk about things you are in to.

S’PORE GUY’S FOREIGN FRIEND ALWAYS MAKE HIM PAY THE BILL WHEN HE COME HERE MAKAN

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Friends who always let you take the bill

I have a foreign friend who splits his time between SG and AU, whenever we meet up here I’ll take him to places to try new food, and because I’m the one ordering on his behalf(he’s not familiar), I also end up paying all the time.

He makes it up by getting coffee, which is cents on the dollar. It’s been this way for years and I’m totaling in the hundreds now, what would you do in this situation?

*This guy is not poor, I’m not richer than he is. He spends thousands per month on his fiancée.

He usually asks what the bill is, when I show him the receipt he’ll offer to get coffee.

Maybe that’s why he’s poor – he spends thousands per month on his fiancee lol.

anyway, next time you go out, before you order tell him you want to split the bill. if he refuses then don’t go out. if he says yes but doesn’t do it, then he’s not your friend anymore.

Netizens’ comments

  1. After you’ve paid just tell him his share of the bill and he can Paynow you. There’s nothing to paisey about that.
  2. “Eh you get the bill first? I treat you coffee later. You always treat me coffee one I paisey.”
  3. Stop taking him out to places to try new food? Unless he suggests to go out and eat – at which point you make it clear that the bill is going to be split.
  4. bring him go 7-11 try nissin cup noodles next time.
  5. Maybe that’s why he’s poor – he spends thousands per month on his fiancee lol. anyway, next time you go out, before you order tell him you want to split the bill. if he refuses then don’t go out. if he says yes but doesn’t do it, then he’s not your friend anymore.
  6. If you can’t say you CB always I pay, then you are not friends. And if you are not friends, why even bother meeting up? Your time should be even more precious than the money, so spend it on ppl you actually enjoy going out with. You wouldn’t even think about the money then.
  7. Either you stop being calculative, or you man up and start getting him to at least pay his own share. Or stop giving him the opportunity to just get coffee – have coffee at the same place you have lunch and split the total bill.
  8. Stand up for yourself you weakling

MAN WHO TRIED TO SIAM POLICE IN MONEY LAUNDERING RAID, WAS DIRECTOR OF NO SIGNBOARD HOLDINGS

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In a startling episode that has captured both national and international attention, Su Haijin, a 40-year-old Cypriot national, leaped from a bungalow to elude arrest during an anti-money laundering operation tied to a staggering $1 billion in cash and assets.

S’pore’s biggest anti-money laundering raid

A Brief Background

Su Haijin’s connection to No Signboard Holdings came to light during a comprehensive search on the Accounting and Corporate Regulatory Authority (Acra).

The findings revealed that Su served as a director of the restaurant operator from October 2021 to June 2022. Notably, the company’s 2021 annual report, filed in the previous October, indicated that Su held a substantial 20 percent stake in the organization.

Despite holding a significant stake, Su Haijin voluntarily resigned from his position as a non-executive director. The reason for his departure was attributed to his desire to focus on other personal commitments.

A spokesperson for the company clarified that Su had not been directly involved in the company’s day-to-day business operations, nor had he participated in board meetings or decision-making processes.

Unfolding of the Blitz

The Arrest and Charges

The alarming incident took place as part of a broader crackdown on money laundering. Su Haijin, alongside nine other foreign nationals from Fujian, faced a series of charges that included money laundering, and resisting arrest.

The suspects, ranging in age from 31 to 44, were apprehended following a meticulously coordinated operation involving more than 400 officers from various law enforcement departments.

The suspects were believed to be interconnected, and notably, none of them held Singaporean citizenship or permanent residency. Among the 10 individuals charged, three were Chinese nationals, three were Cambodian, two were Cypriot, and the remaining two originated from Turkey and Ni-Vanuatu.

Su Haijin stood out with the highest number of appointments among the arrested group.

Connections and Holdings

A closer look at Su Haijin’s background revealed his multifaceted engagements. He held positions as a shareholder and director in Aiqinhai Investment, as well as at Daily Glory International, a mobile phone dealership.

The Astonishing Escape

An Unexpected Maneuver

The most attention-grabbing element of this narrative was Su Haijin’s attempt to evade arrest. As officers approached his residence, Su purportedly jumped from the second-floor balcony of his lavish bungalow at Ewart Park near Holland Road, resulting in the fracture of his hands and legs. He was eventually found hiding in a drain by the police and arrested.

A Bizarre Explanation

During the court proceedings, Su offered an intriguing explanation for his drastic actions. He claimed that he thought the knocks on his door were orchestrated by an individual intent on trying to kill him.

He also alleged that he got intimate with a woman in Dubai, and the woman’s boyfriend had been threatening to kill him as a result.

Su’s hearing into his case is set to resume next week.

Recap

GANGSTER VS AH LONG – LOANSHARK GETS CONFRONTED TO SAY SORRY TO DEBTOR

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Ah longs, the colloquial term for loansharks, have earned a sinister reputation for their ruthless tactics, employing intimidation, harassment, and physical violence to extract money from borrowers.

They have been known to demand exorbitant sums far beyond the original loan amount, often leaving borrowers trapped in a cycle of debt. Even after payments are made, they may continue to harass borrowers for more money, making it nearly impossible for them to escape the clutches of debt.

However, it seems an Ah long in Malaysia may have met his match, when he got confronted by a former-gangster for demanding money from a victim.

The debtor had borrowed RM1,500 and already paid more than RM4,000, but the Ah long still wanted RM12,000 from him, resulting in the former gangter confronting him.

The Rise of a Hero: Mustafa Khan’s Confrontation

A Glimmer of Hope

Amid the reign of terror caused by ah longs, a former gangster named Mustafa Khan has emerged as an unexpected hero. Fueled by his own experiences and a desire to stand up against injustice, Mustafa took matters into his own hands.

Mustafa confronted the loanshark who was extorting money from a victim that had already paid more than the required amount. The entire incident was captured in a 4-minute TikTok video that shed light on the confrontation and its aftermath.

A Tense Exchange and a Demand for Accountability

Seeking Justice

The TikTok clip showcases Mustafa’s encounter with the ah long in a tense exchange. He questioned the ah long’s actions and demanded accountability for his behavior.

During the confrontation, Mustafa insisted that the ah long return the stolen belongings, particularly a laptop, to the victim. The loanshark had purproitedly broken into the debtor’s home and stolen his laptop.

In the video’s caption, Mustafa extended his support to those facing similar situations with ah longs or scammers. He encouraged them to reach out to him via WhatsApp, offering his assistance and guidance to help them deal with the hooligans.

@mustafa_khan1992 Hari ini 9/6 saya telah menerima aduan daripada mangsa ahlong bahawa dia telah mengambil duit Rm 1500.00 daripada ahlong dan dia telah pun membuat pembayaran sebanyak Rm 4000.00 dan manakala ahlong tersebut masih lagi ingin menuntut sebanyak Rm 12 000.00 daripada mangsa. Bukan itu sahaja,Ahlong tersebut pernah mencereboh ke rumah mangsa dan mencuri laptopnya. Jika anda mempunyai masalah #ahlong #mangsaahlong #mangsascammer #pinjamanwangberlesen #scam #pelaburan ♬ original sound – Mustafa_khan2203

SEMBCORP MARINE EXECUTIVE CHARGED WITH TAKING $150K IN CASH BRIBES

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A 61-year-old man hailing from Malaysia, employed as a commercial executive at Sembcorp Marine Integrated Yard Private Limited, is facing 14 charges following accusations of engaging in corrupt activities, according to a press release by the Corrupt Practices Investigation Bureau (CPIB).

Balakrishnan Govindasamy was charged on 16th of August, 2023, in accordance with the provisions outlined in the Prevention of Corruption Act.

He had allegedly acquired or made efforts to acquire forms of gratification in monetary form, amassing no less than S$202,877 from 2015 to 2021, from the contractors of 9 different companies.

CPIB’s statement

Sembcorp Marine Commercial Executive Charged for Alleged Corruption Offences

16 AUG 2023

On 16 August 2023, Balakrishnan A/L Govindasamy (“Balakrishnan”) (61-year-old male Malaysian), a Commercial Executive of Sembcorp Marine Integrated Yard Private Limited at the material time, was charged in Court for allegedly committing corruption offences.

2. Between 2015 and 2021, Balakrishnan was alleged to have corruptly obtained and attempted to obtain gratifications in the form of cash totalling at least S$202,877 from nine contractors representing different companies.

These gratifications were meant as an inducement or reward for advancing the business interests of these contractors with Sembcorp Marine Integrated Yard Private Limited.

For his alleged offences, Balakrishnan faces 14 charges punishable under Section 6(a) of the Prevention of Corruption Act, of which five charges are amalgamated under Section 124(4) of the Criminal Procedure Code and punishable under Section 124(8) of the Criminal Procedure Code.

3. Singapore adopts a strict zero-tolerance approach towards corruption. Any person who is convicted of a corruption offence under Section 6 of the Prevention of Corruption Act can be fined up to S$100,000 or sentenced to imprisonment of up to five years or both.

Any person who is convicted of an offence under Section 124 of the Criminal Procedure Code can face two times the amount of punishment liable for that offence.

4. Companies are strongly advised to put in place robust procedures in areas such as procurement and internal audit to prevent falling victim to corrupt acts by their employees.

Guidance for companies on measures to prevent corruption can be found in PACT: A Practical Anti-Corruption Guide for Businesses in Singapore, which is available on CPIB’s website. Companies are also strongly encouraged to obtain certification under the Singapore Standard (SS) ISO 37001 – Anti-Bribery Management Systems, which is designed to help companies implement or enhance an anti-bribery management system to reduce corporate risk and costs related to bribery.

NEA OFFICER CHARGED WITH ALLEGED CORRUPTION, TRIED TO GET $24K FROM CLEANING COMPANY

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A Singaporean male aged 42, previously employed as an executive officer within the National Environment Agency (NEA), was in court on 16 August where he faced 15 charges related to alleged corruption.

Over the period spanning from May 2019 to April 2022, the accused party, identified as Ruzdiman Salhan Bin Mohamed Salim, is said to have engaged in activities involving the solicitation and attempted solicitation of personal gains.

This specifically pertains to the solicitation of loans totaling S$24,420 from a collective of eight present and former personnel associated with YS Yong Services Pte Ltd (YS), according to the Corrupt Practices Investigation Bureau (CPIB)

CPIB’s statement

National Environment Agency Executive Officer Charged for Alleged Corruption

16 AUG 2023

On 16 August 2023, Ruzdiman Salhan Bin Mohamed Salim (“Ruzdiman”) (42- year-old male Singaporean), an Executive Officer of the National Environment Agency (“NEA”) at the material time, was charged in Court for allegedly committing corruption.

  1. Sometime between May 2019 and April 2022, Ruzdiman was alleged to have obtained and attempted to obtain gratification in the form of loans totalling S$24,420 from eight current and former employees of YS Yong Services Pte Ltd (“YS”). These were inducements to show leniency during the quality assurance audit of cleaning works by YS for the routes under Ruzdiman’s inspection. For his alleged offences, Ruzdiman faces 15 charges punishable under Section 6(a) of the Prevention of Corruption Act.
  2. Singapore adopts a strict zero-tolerance approach towards corruption. Any person who is convicted of a corruption offence under Section 6 of the Prevention of Corruption Act can be fined up to S$100,000 or sentenced to imprisonment of up to five years or both.
  3. The Corrupt Practices Investigation Bureau (CPIB) looks into all corruption-related complaints and reports, including anonymous ones, and can be reached via the following channels:
    a) Lodge an e-Complaint;
    b) Email us at [email protected];
    c) Call the Duty Officer at 1800-376-0000; or
    d) Write to us at the CPIB Headquarters @ 2 Lengkok Bahru, S159047.
  4. Where possible, the report should include the following information:
    a) Where, when and how did the alleged corrupt act happen?
    b) Who was involved and what were their roles?
    c) What was the bribe given and the favour shown?

FACEBOOK USERS ISSUE PUBLIC APOLOGIES FOR SPREADING FALSE ALLEGATIONS ABOUT SHANMUGAM

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Two men on Facebook have issued public apologies to minister K. Shanmugam, for recirculating allegations about him having an affair with another MP.

Apology from Dave Tham

I apologise that I had put up a scandalous post on Minister K Shanmugam, which also referred to a post supposedly made by his ex wife. I checked with his ex wife, and she confirmed that she did not put the post up. It was put up by someone , pretending to be his ex wife.

I should not have done what I did.

I have removed all posts in regards to the K Shanmugam’s affair with Foo Mee Har as I’ve found out after double checking with his former wife Jothie Rajah to be falsehood

I reached out to K Shanmugam first….and he was kind enough to let the matter rest….as he was aware what truly transpired I’ve also reached out to Ms Foo Mee Har as well apologising to her in regards to the above

At no point in time they’ve threatened or induced me in anyway

For me if I think a wrong is made or done…just do the right thing by righting the wrong asap

Apology from Gordon Ong

On 15 and 16 August 2023, at various times, I published false, scandalous statements about Mr K Shanmugam on various Facebook pages, including my personal Facebook page. I also referred to a post by an imposter who pretended to be Mr Shanmugam’s ex-wife.

I sent these falsehoods actively on no less than 92 occasions on those two days.

I apologise unreservedly to Mr K Shanmugam for making these false and scandalous statements.

I have removed the statements and undertake not to publish any further statements on this, or to make any allegations to the same or similar effect, in any manner whatsoever.

What I did was wrong, and I am very sorry for what I did.

Gordon Ong

Recap

TIKTOKER CLAIMED THAT GOVT CAN TRACK WHO YOU VOTE FOR, RECEIVES POFMA ORDER

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The Protection from Online Falsehoods and Manipulation Act (POFMA) Office issued a Correction Direction and a Targeted Correction Direction to TikTok user @dr.ishhaq.jay under the instructions of Minister Chan Chun Sing.

The TikTok user had claimed in his video that the government can allegedly trace who voters have voted for and penalise them for their voting choice.

He will be required to put up a correction notice as well as a link to the government’s clarification statement on his TikTok page, stating that he had made a false statement.

@dr.ishhaq.jay #tiktoksingapore #singapretiktok #fyp ♬ original sound – JAY i. G○○○D M○Rn¡NG! – JAY i. Good Morning!

POFMA Office’s statement

Correction Directions under the Protection From Online Falsehoods And Manipulation Act 2019 to Address Falsehood on Voting Secrecy

The Minister-in-charge of the Public Service, Chan Chun Sing has instructed the Protection from Online Falsehoods and Manipulation Act (POFMA) Office to issue a Correction Direction to TikTok user “dr.ishhaq.jay” and a Targeted Correction Direction to TikTok Pte. Ltd. in relation to a TikTok post by user “dr.ishhaq.jay” on 17 July 2023 (“the TikTok Post”). In the TikTok Post, he falsely claimed that the Government can trace who a voter has voted for in order to penalise the voter based on his or her vote.

2 The user “dr.ishhaq.jay” will be required to create a new TikTok post containing a correction notice which states that the TikTok Post contains a false statement of fact, and provides a link to the Government’s clarification. TikTok Pte. Ltd. will also be required to communicate a correction notice to all end-users in Singapore that had accessed the TikTok Post.

3 For facts of the case, please refer to the Factually article “Corrections regarding falsehood in TikTok video by “dr.ishhaq.jay” posted on 17 July 2023” at https://www.gov.sg/article/factually180823.

ISSUED BY
ELECTIONS DEPARTMENT
PRIME MINISTER’S OFFICE
18 August 2023

Govt’s response to the TikTok video

Corrections regarding falsehood in TikTok video by “dr.ishhaq.jay” posted on 17 July 2023

Falsehood that the Government can trace who a voter has voted for in order to penalise the voter based on his or her vote.

The Elections Department (ELD) would like to point out that the TikTok video posted on 17 July 2023 by “dr.ishhaq.jay” (“the TikTok Post”) contains a statement that the Government can trace who a voter has voted for in order to penalise the voter based on his or her vote.

The statement is untrue for the following reasons

  • The Parliamentary Elections Act 1954 (“PEA”), and the equivalent provisions of its predecessor Acts, provide for voting secrecy. The Government (including ELD) has complied strictly with the statutory procedures and obligations relating to voting secrecy, as a matter of policy and practice.
  • The statutory procedures and obligations to protect voting secrecy are rigorous and comprehensive. For example, every officer, clerk, interpreter, candidate and agent authorised to attend at a polling station or at the counting of votes must, before so attending, make an oath of secrecy.
  • Another set of statutory procedures provide that, for votes cast in person at polling stations, there is no break in the chain of custody of ballot papers transported from the polling stations to the counting centres, and from the counting centres to the Supreme Court. The ballot papers would be sealed before they are retained in safe custody at the Supreme Court for six months and subsequently destroyed. This process is transparent and open to observation by candidates and their agents.
  • The serial number on the ballot paper is meant to protect the integrity of the electoral process. It enables accounting of all ballot papers issued and cast, and safeguards against counterfeiting and voter impersonation. Calling out the voter’s serial number and name also allows polling agents, who are observing the proceedings, to validate that the voters are listed in their copy of the register.
  • When the ballot paper is issued, the voter serial number is written on the ballot paper counterfoil to facilitate vote tracing, if necessary, e.g., if there are allegations that the vote was fraudulently cast. However, inspection of the sealed votes is allowed only with an order from the General Division of the High Court, and such an order can only be made in limited circumstances. The Judge hearing the application must be satisfied that the inspection is required for the purposes of instituting or maintaining a prosecution or an application under Section 90 of the PEA, which seeks to void an election on certain limited grounds, including breaches of the PEA that affected the election result or corrupt or illegal practices committed in the election by a candidate.
  • Therefore, the Government cannot trace who a voter has voted for, as it wishes.

The Minister in-charge of the Public Service, Chan Chun Sing has instructed the Protection from Online Falsehoods and Manipulation Act (POFMA) Office to issue a Correction Direction to TikTok user “dr.ishhaq.jay” and a Targeted Correction Direction to TikTok Pte. Ltd. under the Protection from Online Falsehoods and Manipulation Act 2019, in respect of the TikTok Post.

We advise members of the public not to speculate and/or spread unverified rumours.

TikTok user responds to POFMA notice

@dr.ishhaq.jay #singapretiktok #tiktoksingapore #fyp ♬ original sound – JAY i. Good Morning!