I sleep with my mother in law while me and my wife were separated.
Last year me and my wife were going through a separation and it was pretty hard for me. Before the separation I was helping her mom with some renovations she wanted for her house so I would still regularly go over.
One day I noticed she was drinking pretty heavily during the day and I know she has a drinking problem , so I mostly ignored her while I was working
but then I came in the house to tell her I was leaving and she just started talking to me about the issues she was having with her husband.
I started drinking with her talking about everything we were both going through and eventually we ended up getting intimate on the bed.
The next day she called me upset that it happened and she told me she wouldn’t tell anyone about this, that we should just pretend it didn’t happen and I agreed.
Me and my wife are back together and her and her husband are still married but nobody but us knows what happened an I often feel guilty about what I did.
I can’t believe you thought we’d side with you… You’re a fkin loser. You and her mom!
Well, if you had a discreet affair nobody would know. But of the 4 billion women to screw, this is at the pinnacle of the stupid list. Not only will it destroy your marriage, it will destroy the trust between mother and daughter.
If you and your wife are “nearing divorce” just do it. Don’t be a coward.
You know that what you’re doing is wrong but you’re too scared to do what’s right. Karma will take care of this situation since you will not.
I (36F) have been friends with a guy (48M), we will call him Rob, for years. He’s a very wealthy and successful guy, does very well for himself, and has no kids, never been married before, etc.
He is a serial dater and his goal is to date the hottest girls he can. He spends sometimes thousands on them every week in buying them gifts, dinners, and straight up giving them cash.
It’s his thing and one of the ways he likes to spend his money. Whatever floats his boat, his life, his money, I don’t judge and if he’s happy then I’m happy for him.
However, recently, he went through an awful breakup that sent him spiraling and I was there every day and night to talk to him on the phone, offer him advice, read his sometimes over a hundred messages a day and otherwise console him.
We’re talking hours every day that I was spending on him and it went on for weeks. Quite honestly, it was exhausting after a while and there was definitely a lot of trauma dumping going on.
I am a single mom who works full time and I don’t always have a lot of free time or mental energy but I did my best to support him.
He recently invited me out to dinner saying that he “owes me” for all of the support I’ve given him, so we went out to a really nice restaurant and had a nice dinner, until the end.
The check arrived and he stated “Alright, we’re splitting this thing.” I was shocked, as he wanted this dinner and invited me!
When I questioned him and also informed him that I had to pay $100+ to a babysitter to be able to go out with him, he insisted that he’s not paying for me, that we are just friends.
I’m able to support myself and my kids obviously but going out is a treat because of how costly everything gets, $100 is a lot for me.
I sent him my half and left shortly after, somewhat upset, as I felt blindsided by this and also felt that he should’ve treated, given the fact that he invited me and also because he makes exponentially more than me and knows my struggles sometimes as a single mom.
tl/dr: Wealthy friend made me pay half of the expensive dinner bill even though he invited me to the dinner and he knows what a financial burden it is for me to go out.
I am a guy in my late 20s who has never really had a conversation with a woman
I am in my late 20s and I have no real experience being around women. I am straight FYI. I never really talked with girls in school.
I am a shy person and throughout my life to the current day I have no experience talking or being around women in any real capacity aside from my mom.
I interact with women at work and but I have never talked with a woman my age outside of the traditional work or school environment.
I have never been to prom, flirted with a girl, or have had any “normal” conversations with a woman. Women are pretty foreign to me and I don’t know how to talk to them on anything really.
Whether those “things” are something like abortion or a hobby. I am never really around women outside of work. I have occasional conversation with a woman like 15 years older than me but that is it.
I have never, for example, talked with a woman in her mid 20s. Considering I am getting older women just become more and more foreign to me.
I was thinking of trying dancing to be around more people, especially women. What do you think? Women are just so foreign to me.
Women just kinda scare me. The only time a woman ever reached out to me was a girl in school feigning interest in me and dared by her friends. I still carry the social scars of school where I was looked down on by everyone.
Netizens’ comments
First. Don’t bring up abortion in your first hundred conversations with women.
“Hey nice weather we are having, how do you feel about abortion” OP I would say maybe look up some normal conversations starters something along those lines
stop viewing women as another species. you’re just alienating yourself. you have no reason to be afraid of women, you’re only holding yourself back by giving into your fear. start by just talking to ur co-workers or something. or go out with friends who have girlfriends. most women talk about the exact same things guys talk about, just with more giggles. the more you treat women like you’d treat any of your guy friends, the more they’ll like you. they don’t want to feel objectified. most of all, be interested in them. just ask a ton of questions. or just find urself a gay guy you can tag along with.
Askes for a 15k raise to come back into the office…….buuut
I was hired on with a hybrid schedule, three days in the office, 2 remote. This worked with my wife’s and childs schedule.
A few months ago I was ask what it would take to come back to the office 5 days a week and I told some a 15k salary increase. Months went by without an update and I thought they just forgot, until last week.
My boss called me into the office and said, they’d be able to give me 10k, not the 15k. Since it was lower than I asked for, I said at the moment I can only come in for four days a week. He asked how soon until I can make it five and I didn’t confirm on anything.
Am I wrong for not coming back in for five days because they gave me less than I asked for?
BTW nothing is in writing, this was all done taking to my boss one on one.
Netizens’ comments
Until it’s in writing you don’t even have the 10.
I mean this is what will happen. Year end comes and you ask for your yearly raise, they will go lol no we gave you a raise we believe covers your next few years well.
“how soon until you can make it 5 days?” “As soon as those extra 5k come my way”
Honestly, for $10k more pay, I wouldn’t even give them an extra day in the office. Sure, it covers the extra expenses, and more, but being forced to go to a specific location for a job I can do perfectly well from home is SO demoralising. This whole RTO push reeks of desperation to maintain control over their worker drones, and frankly, any employer pushing it without a very good, tangible, reason can f right off.
Haven’t slept with my wife for 2.5 years and I feel like I’m in a prison and am rotting from the inside
We saved ourselves for marriage, didn’t really grow up in purity culture, or at least feel any shame or pressure. The night of our wedding was met with tears and fear. I admittedly didn’t react well. Trying to understand if I did something, or if there was something she wasn’t telling me.
The next 6 months was me highlighting the fact that we NEEDED to figure this out, not only for me, but because we can’t make it normal. She didn’t understand why I wanted this so bad and was confident we’d figure this out.
2 years from that point, we’re still here. 3 different counselors/therapists, 1 year of pelvic therapy, lots of honest talks with friends and still no penetration. At all.
Vibrator is fine, but we’ve made no progress. She is unable to get her legs to relax and if I try to force it, it feels like rape. I can’t stay aroused because she’s resisting me, despite her telling me every day that this is something she wants.
I just don’t understand what I’m supposed to do. She doesn’t want me to watch adult videos, but I can’t get by with hand jobs that I only get if I ask for them.
I can’t leave because I vowed to work through our problems, I can’t stay because I want to actually have a chance at a family.
I want someone who is passionate about me and actually does something about it. Every marriage in my family has ended, every single one has ended in divorce and I am better than that. But I just don’t see how I’m supposed to live in limbo like this.
I often fantasize about me or her dying because it’s the only way I see out of this.
Is it a big deal to have served as an officer during NS?
My friend told me of his interesting interview experience tt day. He served as an infantry officer during NS and listed it in his resume. His interviewers were apparently impressed tt he was an officer and 1/2 of the interview was talking about his officer experiences. The job is not related to the military and is not a leadership position.
I wanna ask from your daily experiences, do people rlly show ‘respect’ or are impressed by someone who was an officer during NS?
Netizen’ comments
Reality is that if you go into a MNC and work with expat teams and colleagues, nobody is going to care if you were an officer. But if you happen to work for Singaporean boss who also siao-on NS and was an officer then there is the chance that being in OCS will reflect well on you lor. It’s the same bias that elitist school alumni have when they see someone else from their same elitist school. “Oh you also ACSI one ah? I was an old boy Best Is Yet To Be HOOYA something something.” For the record, I was an officer in NS but have never once included this in my resume because I got better things to include lol. Only mentioned if interviewer (usually Singaporean males) asks what I did in NS.
The best kind of officers are those that you didn’t know they are an officer till you asked them first.
Yes if: – Your hiring manager is expat foreigner and holds military service in higher regard than other Singaporeans. (Americans xdd) – If you’re fresh out of university with no other notable work experiences, your NS experience can be part of your resume – Applying for a civil service job.
It’s not a big deal if you’ve been in the workforce for 5 years and still put NS in your resume because you have nothing else to put there.
The People’s Action Party (PAP), Singapore’s ruling party, is actively striving to regain control of the opposition-held constituencies of Hougang, Aljunied, and Sengkang.
In a recent address at the PAP’s Awards and Convention on Sunday (5 November), Prime Minister Lee Hsien Loong expressed his confidence in the PAP’s efforts, asserting that they would ultimately succeed sooner or later, according to The Straits Times.
The Challenge of Winning Back Opposition-Held Constituencies
Prime Minister Lee acknowledges the formidable task faced by PAP activists in reclaiming opposition-held constituencies. He notes the need for the PAP to demonstrate its presence and effectively combat the opposition’s influence.
PM Lee commended the dedication and hard work of Mr. Lee Hong Chuang and Mr. Ling Weihong, who have been instrumental in leading their respective branches in Hougang and Sengkang East.
The recent leadership transitions in the Hougang and Sengkang East branches saw Mr. Jackson Lam and Mr. Marcus Loh take the reins. PM Lee assured the new leaders of the PAP’s full support in their work.
The Role of Mr. Lee Hong Chuang
Mr. Lee Hong Chuang, the former chairman of the Hougang branch, has been actively engaged in grassroots events. He participated in a Silver Generation Carnival, promoting active and healthy aging among seniors in Aljunied GRC and Hougang SMC. His presence reflects the PAP’s commitment to community engagement.
Aljunied grassroots advisers, including Shamsul Kamar, Victor Lye, Alex Yeo, Chan Hui Yuh, and Chua Eng Leong, have been working tirelessly to connect with residents. Their dedication extends beyond political affiliations, with a focus on serving the community’s needs.
In discussing the PAP’s work in opposition-held wards, Ms. Chan emphasized that their grassroots efforts are politically neutral. Their primary objective is to ensure that government policies align with the people’s needs and to provide assistance where necessary.
In a tale that could be straight out of a novel, a man from China named Mr. Zhu found himself at a crossroads when his fiancée demanded an additional 30,000 yuan (S$5,600) as a dowry.
Their initial agreement stood at 188,000 yuan (S$34,900), a customary dowry amount in Mr. Zhu’s hometown in Shanxi. This unexpected twist in the pre-wedding proceedings left him with a tough choice.
Mr. Zhu then made the extraordinary decision to forgo the dowry, quit his job, and embark on a life-changing journey across China.
The Dowry Dilemma
Mr. Zhu’s story begins with a seemingly typical romance. He met his fiancée through a blind date, and after eight to nine months of dating, they decided to take their relationship to the next level. As their wedding date neared, the unexpected occurred – his fiancée requested an additional 30,000 yuan as a dowry, which she claimed her friends had asked for.
At this point, he was already stretched financially, having used his savings of 168,000 yuan and borrowed the remaining 20,000 yuan from friends to meet the initial dowry demand. The sudden request caused a heated argument, with both parties eventually deciding to end their engagement.
Pressure and Expectations
Mr. Zhu’s journey into uncharted territory was not solely prompted by the dowry dispute. He had begun to feel the weight of societal pressure to marry as he crossed the age of 30.
His parents, too, were urging him to find a partner. This pressure led him to several blind dates, ultimately resulting in his now-dissolved engagement. His decision to quit his job, however, was not planned initially; it was a result of his inability to secure leave for his trip.
The Transformational Journey
With the dowry money fully returned and the borrowed funds repaid to his friends, Mr. Zhu was left with 168,000 yuan. This was the catalyst for his life-altering decision to embark on a tour of China.
Starting on June 1st, he traveled to over 40 cities in five months, spending just over 30,000 yuan – a fraction of his initial savings.
He adopted a minimalist approach, relying on trains for transportation and hostels for accommodation, which made his travels cost-effective.
Sharing His Adventures
Mr. Zhu shared his extraordinary journey with the world through Douyin, a popular social media platform in China. His travel updates gained him over 43,000 followers as he explored the diverse landscapes, cultures, and experiences that China has to offer.
Marriage and Matchmaking
While Mr. Zhu’s journey suggests that he is against the institution of marriage or matchmaking, it’s important to clarify his stance. He admitted that he feels uneasy on blind dates but is open to a more casual approach to finding a partner.
He even mentioned going to popular places like Haidilao and watching movies, which could be seen as signs of willingness to meet people.
Interestingly, his parents had plans to provide the down payment for his future marital home, a gesture he deeply appreciates. However, he wrestles with the idea of them investing in his future while they themselves have not explored the world.
A Future Uncertain
As of now, Mr. Zhu has no concrete plans for the future. His journey has left him without a set direction, and he is content with letting life guide him. He still hasn’t informed his parents about his job resignation, fearing they may perceive it as irresponsible.
In a viral sensation that initially baffled the internet, a Thai delivery rider in a GrabFood uniform was captured making a chicken rice delivery order fromSingapore to Thailand. What made this story truly intriguing was that it appeared to be an unofficial delivery, entirely orchestrated by a Thai TikTok user.
The Mysterious Delivery
The story began with a video circulating on TikTok that showed a man dressed as a GrabFood delivery rider boarding a plane bound for Singapore. This seemingly audacious feat raised many eyebrows, as it was not something Grab officially offered.
In response, Grab, the popular ride-hailing and food delivery platform, stated that the video was “fictional” and not associated with their services, and they claimed the delivery rider was not registered with them.
The Plot Unravels
Despite Grab’s denial, it was later revealed that the entire stunt was not as it initially seemed. The mastermind behind this viral stunt turned out to be a Thai content creator known as @domteamwork.
In a TikTok video, he outlined his plan to send a delivery rider from Thailand to Singapore to pick up chicken rice and return with it to Thailand. The catch? It was all for the sake of entertainment.
@domteamwork, after placing an order for chicken rice through Grab, offered the chosen rider 10,000 baht (equivalent to S$381) for the journey.
The rider, after being briefed on the plan, accepted the mission and the cash. With the money in hand, he promptly headed to the local airport in Thailand, Don Mueang International Airport, as previously seen in the original TikTok video.
The Journey Begins
The Grab rider boarded a flight from Thailand to Singapore, documenting the entire journey. Once in Singapore, he seamlessly integrated into the local scene, taking the Thomson-East Coast Line (TEL) MRT.
Upon reaching his destination, Maxwell MRT Station, he stepped out into the vibrant streets and shophouses of Chinatown, a renowned culinary hub in Singapore.
Here, he was on a mission to purchase the iconic chicken rice that had become the centerpiece of this fascinating expedition.
At a bustling hawker center in Chinatown Complex, the rider ordered five servings of Singapore’s signature dish, all neatly packed into the familiar yellow plastic bags adorned with the emblematic lion symbol.
With the order secured, the rider returned to Changi Airport Terminal 4’s departure hall, ready to embark on the return journey to Thailand. The screens indicated that it was 8.14 PM on the same day, signifying a whirlwind adventure.
The Grand Reunion
Back in Thailand, late at night, the content creator @domteamwork reunited with the man who had successfully completed his delivery mission.
In an unexpected twist, the TikToker and the alleged delivery rider shared the chicken rice together, marking the culmination of this bizarre yet captivating journey.
I wish I was attractive to men other than my husband
I got married to my husband at 19, he was my first ever boyfriend. We’ve now been married almost 8 years and we have 4 children together.
I’m finding myself feeling utterly unattractive and self conscious… I really wish that other men found me attractive even though I don’t want to cheat, I wouldn’t cheat, but it just feels really bad to feel unattractive.
I wish men would flirt with me. I feel like I really wasted my prime by getting married and having kids so young…
And especially now that I’ve lost a lot of weight and I’m finally… Not fat… I just wish somebody appreciated it. I wish I felt appealing.
I just feel like I’ll always be unattractive and gross even though I’m still relatively young.
Netizens’ comments
Sounds like a case of FOBO to me. This is generally how cheating starts. You should talk to your husband.
That’s a slippery slope you’re trying to go down, tread cautiously.
