I feel fed up staying in sg.. Do I really hv to rent a unit in Johor and travel to work everyday in order to stay comfortable? Recently I just move out from previous house bcoz the landlord increase rental. This current house owner is old lady, now I know why ppl say never rent from old people.

She has more restrictions from my previous house but I endure it all coz i wasn’t happy at previous house already. First she say just keep clean and no cooking, dry clothes inside room.. etc I’m fine with these restrictions coz her rent is way cheaper and it’s just next block from my previous house easy for me to move, even tho i used to cook a lot. Her kitchen microwave, air fryer, boil water all cannot use.

Then only decided to move in realize she got no shower heater, I accept it too coz it’s too late to change mind. She say can eat at her dining table as long as wipe the table clean. But once I wanted to use her dining table she change her mind and say cannot coz scared I didn take care properly and scratch her table when eating. Then fine I eat inside room.

My room door also got holes above the door, I covered it with soundproof foam coz i know sg house soundproof is super bad, with these holes ofcourse outside can hear noise(I’m staying with bf btw), at first she say cannot put that thing hv to take off, coz scare I cook inside room and ppl complain report police she will get penalty, I’m not that stupid and crazy to do heavy cooking inside room ok, then she say can paste as long as no cooking. But 2days later she change her mind again knock my room door and say cannot coz it’s against the law, like what

Are all old ppl like this? First say can then change mind? I’m only here for 2weeks+ and i already feel annoyed, she doesn’t know how to text so everytime she will knock my room door and disturb me and keep explaining all the same restrictions over and over again. Already tell face to face, she will still send whatsapp A LOT of voice text( if u know how old ppl send voice long and spam kind) during my work, it’s really disturbing my work coz i will feel like what did I wrong to receive so many messages then turns out it’s the same thing that already said.

I feel no privacy at all bcoz everyday hv to watch when she will come knock and say the same thing or give more restrictions that doesn’t state in contract. She is so afraid of tenant cooking inside room like I don’t hv common sense she dont even give me room key, my room feels so vulnerable with the holes and door unlocked.

And she also forgot how much she charged my rental. When I pay first month rent she was like “huh $850 only? Didn I charge u $900?” luckily got contract black and white. And also she always blame things on her son like before move in she say can come move in earlier than stated date coz she’s very easygoing person then next day tell me her son say by law cannot move in early.

The soundproof thing also, her son is actually chill with it said its ok, but when she knock my door to tell me take off she say again her son say cannot coz against the law. I’m starting to think her son never say all these she just wanna blame it on her son to make her less kiasu. Restrictions mentioned before I can comply bcoz already aware during sign contract, it’s just it’s annoying she always changed her mind and I never can expect what i can do and cannot do. Actually I hv more to rant but it’s gonna be too long essay and not to mention this all just happened within my stay in 2weeks

My family favors the daughters more then their sons.

My parents had 4 children 2 sons and 2 daughters, they favored the women in the family, my oldest sister was taught how to drive.

But my brother and I were not the same as my sister, they forced the military mentality onto us, it was yes sir this and yes sir that.

And if we didn’t do what my father said he would get extremely angry and start throwing things and hitting us.

And when my brother and I hit the age of 16, we were neglected, my brother and I became dropouts later on.

I was 14 and my brother was 16 at the time and they just stopped we just basically became free labor for them and still are now.

My youngest sister is 12 years old and they treat her like she a angel even though she spoiled and disrespectful to her mother.

My brother and I have been through hell and back together and we plan on leaving together and never looking back.

I honestly feel jealous of other teenagers because their parents actually try for them.

I stay alone, I want to rent out a room, my gf don’t allow, how

One of my friend is currently renting on her own, but her rental is ending next month. Her new house will only be ready Sep/October this year, so she is looking to rent somewhere for just a few months until then (her family is not in SG so she doesn’t have anywhere else to stay).

Since I stay alone with extra room to spare, she asked if she can rent at my place.

I had a chat with my gf about this, and she wasn’t happy because it’ll just be me and my friend at the house (my gf doesn’t stay with me due to family reasons).

So I asked her if I were to rent out the room to a guy is she ok? And she also said no, because she wants to come over as and when, and having a random guy around will be uncomfortable for her.

I understand her view, but to me it’s such a waste to not rent out the room since it is extra income. Need some advice on how to navigate this situation?

Netizens’ comments

• What if the shoe is on the other foot? Would you be okay if your gf has a house and rents out a room to a guy friend?

• aiya this kind of small problem cannot settle then no future sia

I (24M) have been with my girlfriend (20F) for about 2 months + and things have been great so far. I’m very happy whenever I’m with her. However, there’s something that’s been bothering me since a month ago.

Basically, she got to know this guy (let’s call him Adam) from a mutual friend of hers a month ago, and they started talking and texting (not sure how regularly though), and then arranged a meet up to have lunch not long after.

She then informed me a day before their lunch that she was going to meet Adam for lunch at city area and asked if I was okay about. To reassure me, she showed me his instagram profile and holysmoke, he’s honestly a 10/10 in terms of looks LOL.

So I started to get jealous over him and I relayed how I felt to my girlfriend, and she continued to reassure me that they’re just friends and she loves only loves me.

She then asked if she should cancel the lunch session with Adam, to which I said no because I don’t want to be “that controlling boyfriend” and I respect her right to meet anyone she wants.

Fast forward to this Saturday (2 days ago), she suddenly told me that she’s going to study with Adam to prepare for her upcoming exam (exam is tomorrow). The study session lasted for the whole day, from like morning to night.

Again, I got bothered by it and told her about it. She then asked if she should cut her study session short, and of course, i said no because i dont want to be an unreasonable bf. Anyway, I was supposed to meet my girlfriend today to study together, but she told me yesterday that she don’t think it’s a good idea to head out to study today since her exam is tomorrow.

So, I asked her if I am a distracting study partner, and if she had managed to complete her agenda on Sunday, to which she answered yes for both of the questions. She then further explained that she don’t usually go out a day before her exam.

I was still very bothered by it so I told her how I felt about all of this yesterday night. She told me this is how she is.

She treats guys the same way she treats her female friends. The thing is, she was accused previously by her ex-friends and ex-bf that she hung out too frequently with guys alone. However, since her conscience is clear (she only see her male friends as just friends), she is okay with hanging out with them alone. She then proceeded to reassure me that they are really just friends and she loves me so much.

So my question here is, is it normal for me to feel uncomfortable and jealous about this? Or am I just too insecure to deal with this maturely? I dont really know how to approach this issue since this is my first relationship… your help and opinion are greatly appreciated! 🙂