A guy shared how he thinks he fgured out why his girlfriend dumped him, that it was because she hasn’t partied enough and wants to be young, wild and free.

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I think I figured out why gf (22) dumped me.

She said, she wanted a break (I declined) because she hasn´t partied enough, wasn´t spontaneous enough, didn´t travel enough, hasn´t been single for long and needed to feel free.

She also said she was worried she was gonna miss out on being young and wild and all that.

Well I recently discovered FOMO (fear of missing out) and I think it fits this situation pretty well. Happens a lot from what I´ve read online.

Plus near the end she was meeting a lot of new people, who were pretty much all single, sleeping around shamelessly, clubbing all the time and I think she just started to crave the same.

AND when we met (2.5 year long relationship) she was kinda fat, which I didn´t mind at all, but throughout the relationship, she started to work out a lot, watched what she was eating and she lost a lot of weight, became hotter and I think she was getting more male attention, which I´m pretty sure she enjoyed.

Is it FOMO or am I missing something?

Netizens comments

Often when we’re grieving, we try to figure out why something painful happened because we think it understanding it more will make it hurt less. It doesn’t. Unfortunately it is a cruel reality of this world that we can not control anybody but ourselves, people can break up with us for any reason they choose, and no amount of logic can bring back feelings once they’re gone.

Get out of your head, go do something nice for yourself. You can only control yourself, and you can only truly know what you are thinking at a given moment. And that’s plenty.

A woman shared how her mother-in-law was angry at her and her husband for being pregnant with a girl instead of a boy.

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DH and I have been married for a couple years now. We live with MIL for reasons that are not likely to change. We got pregnant 2 years ago.

DH wanted a girl, I wanted a boy. MIL decided we were going to have a boy- to carry on the family name.

When the results came back girl, she was furious with us because we were happy and excited that it was a girl and alternated between not speaking to us and reading us the riot act for having a girl.

And for the next 6 months had only negative or mean things to say about the baby (i.e. calling her “your stupid daughter”)

My first trimester was difficult because I had severe fatigue and was still working a physically demanding job in the evenings.

But MIL just called me lazy and said I needed to attend an aerobics class regularly or the baby was going to die.

She harassed me over text and in person every day about it and told me I was killing my baby. She practically lost her mind when I stopped taking my prenatal vitamins. I could never remember to take them, so I stopped trying with my OB’s permission.

I got this harassment every day of my pregnancy until I was nearly 8 months and finally popped. When I finally started looking really pregnant, she suddenly became the proud, excited GMa and couldn’t say enough nice things about the baby.

I wasn’t buying it, haven’t gotten over the lines she’s crossed and I know she loves DD now, but I still haven’t forgotten or forgiven her for any of it.

NOTE: MIL’s behavior like this started as soon as we got married to the point that if I loved DH an ounce less than I do, I would have left in the first month.

Also, DH gets the brunt of her behavior and he would and does sometimes try to stick up for me except she’s like a force of nature (try to stop a hurricane with your bare hands) and he’s very nonconfrontational.

We have been having problems in our 5 year marriage for about 2 years now. We have a 3 year old son and for the past 2 years, I have to basically take care of him by myself (when we aren’t at our jobs in which we have a nanny come by) because she refuses to do anything.

When I ask her for some help, she accuses me of limiting a woman’s freedom by asking her to be a stay at home mom (which isn’t true). She just watches TV and hangs out with her friends instead of helping me out. I ask her to at least cut the spending as we need the money to pay the bills but she makes accusations again.

Finally, I got suspicious a week ago and went to one of the bars she goes to and caught her making out with a random stranger. When I confronted her, she accuses me of stalking her and that I have no right to limit her freedom. When I angrily said that she had been cheating and that I would never do that, she starts punching me which shocked me as she had never done that before.

The stranger by the way also got angry at her since she lied to him that I was just her ex.

I ended up taking our kid to stay at my parents’ place where they are encouraging me to file a police report or at least file for divorce.

Maybe this is just me venting but why would she turn physically violent now?

A netizen shared how her fiance is very upset about his close female friend RSVP-ing “NO” to their wedding and her alarm bells are ringing.

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Long story short, my fiance and I are getting married later this year and one of his long-time friends RSVP’d no to our wedding. He has been upset for a week since he got the news.

This “friend” has always rung alarm bells to me and I really don’t trust her. When we first started dating, she used to make “jokes” about him dating me for money (my family is very wealthy). It also doesn’t help that he had a thing for her when they were younger, but never had a chance to get together as she was always in a relationship. I believe she kept him around for attention but obviously, there’s no actual evidence for this and whenever I brought it up to my fiance in the past he has stopped short of calling me crazy.

His friend is also exceptionally beautiful whereas I’m on the bigger side. In the past whenever we’ve hung out as the three of us, she has asked to go to the beach, which is weird because there are a million other things to do in our city and it kind of comes off like she just wants to get her clothes off in front of him so he can compare her body to mine. Whenever they hang out alone, she’ll have him over for dinner at her place or they go to a restaurant.

My fiance’s reaction has given me major alarm bells. The irritability, the sadness, it all feels hyperbolic considering they aren’t THAT close and the most important thing is our wedding, not whether or not she can come. He suggested inviting her to my bachelorette to ‘make her feel more welcome” and obviously I said no. Whenever I try to talk to him about his mood since the news, he just tells me he doesn’t want to talk about it.

Should I be worried? Our wedding is a few months away and now i’m fearing he has some sort of emotional entanglement with her.

So I and my wife have been together for 4 years and we are extremely comfortable with each other, nothing ever really grosses us out with each other. She also gave me permission to post this.

A few weeks ago, my wife pang sai herself. She was laughing, ate something she shouldn’t have, and it just happened. She was a little embarrassed, but later we laughed about it together and have made multiple jokes about it.

Recently we were at dinner with mutual friends of ours and she started laughing. I told her to be careful or it’ll happen again and she stopped and got really quiet and embarrassed. She was pretty reserved the rest of the night and when our friends left she shut herself in our bedroom, saying I had really embarrassed her and it was mean to make jokes about it without asking if she was ok with joking about it with friends beforehand.

She told me I needed to apologize to her for embarrassing her, but I told her we make jokes about it all the time and I don’t see a difference.

I wrong meh, I thought she like it when she pang sai in her pants.

Here are what netizens think:

• Joking alone with your wife about something is vastly different than humiliating her in front of friends.

• How could you even begin to think you’re not the AH? Do you not see the difference between a private joke between a couple and a private joke that has been exposed (and thereby exposing your wife) to the world?

My boss takes all of the credit for my work – and now the CEO said my imprint on the org is lacking.

I am a director at my organization, and I am constantly busy 24/7. Multitasking is my strong suit, so I take on many different projects and do a ton of work for the VP and the director beside me. I’m a team player, and I enjoy leading.

Today the CEO told me that not only does she have no idea what I’m working on, but she has no idea how I fill my time.

She said that her perception is that my time is not filled, and that she never hears my name. She said that when she thinks of me, she doesn’t see the impact I’m having on the organization and never hears about anything I do.

I am completely taken aback and sickened by this. I give my all 24/7, even outside of regular hours. I also help people from other teams because again, I’m a team player.

I didn’t want to throw my boss and my colleague under the bus and say that I do all of their work, so I just kind of listed all of the projects that I’m working on. What should I do?

This really hit me where it hurts tbh, because I try so hard and give so much. I can’t believe it.

Netizens’ comments

1. Produce documentation regarding what you worked and throw them under the bus. F ’em. They knew what they were doing, let them sleep in the bed they made.
2. This is a lesson you have now learned the hard way. There is no “noble” in all of this–you can’t just be “humble” and let your work speak for itself. It doesn’t happen in any environment. “Humility” is not a recognized quality. You need to do everything you can to talk about your work–and you need to learn to do it in a way that comes off as natural, and not overly boastful.
   “Give me that report so i can present it to the CEO.” –your boss
   “Oh no problem–I already emailed it to you.”
   What you didn’t say was that you CC’ed the CEO in the email, and you wrote “Here’s the report i made for you, and some good notes outlining the highlights. Hope this is helpful. And then make sure your authorship is embedded on every page of that report.
3. “Hi CEO, I appreciated our conversation yesterday, because it allowed me to realize that I may not be getting credit for the work I’ve done. Here is a list of projects etc and numbers I’ve improved over the last six months and below that a current list of the projects I’m actively working on.
   I hope this email provides clarity on my input to the company. As you know, I’ve been here X years and very much enjoy the work I do, and would hate to be looked over because my work is not properly recognized as my own.
   In the future I’ll be sure to put my name on these projects more clearly.”

In the last two weeks or so, sometimes at night I will hear banging and stomping from the flat below ours. This usually happens around 1 am when normally the whole building is silent. It’s interesting because no one lives in that apartment. The elderly woman who occupied it since before we moved in sadly passed away very suddenly last month. She actually slipped on one of the steps in front of the building when it was wet outside, and died right in front of our place.

I wrote off the noises as my imagination the first few times since I am very much a believer of the paranormal so I am known to get overly excited about these things. That was until my boyfriend and I heard the noises this morning. He confirmed they were coming from directly below us. As a huge non-believer, he said it’s likely a window was left open in the apartment below, and that the wind is causing it to open and shut. He didn’t sound very confident though, because you could clearly hear the sounds moving around the house, not just from the wall where the window would be.

I went downstairs to try and see if there was a shadow through the window and check if there are any movement inside. However, there was no sign of life whatsoever. To make it weirder, you can see my building clearly from the playground just behind, and when I walked up there earlier, it looked like the windows in the apartment below us were fully closed.

With two person hearing it I was very sure that I am not overethinking and I really think that someone or something is in there.

What should I do the banging is really a bit too loud. I’m afraid that if i interfere too much it might come visit my home instead.