Do I report this to the police?

My GF currently works as an intern and she told me her one of her manager has been acting weird towards her. It all started when he asked her personal question like why is her skirt so short and what kind of make up does she use.

It escalated about a month ago when he asked her if she shaves and if she is a virgin or not. Yesterday he invited her to come over via call saying that he and 4 other colleagues are gathering at his house to drink.

She felt smth was wrong so she brought a work colleague along and when she reached, the manager claimed that the other 4 colleagues never show up.

She called me yesterday and told me this and I wanted to drive down to confront that cb cus im fcking pissed. My question is do I report this to the police?

Everytime the manager says smth that is not supposed to be said its always through f2f or calls and my gf don’t have hard evidence.

I’ve known this for quite sometime and i cant do anything cus i’m afraid it will affect her grades and shes planning to go NUS. What should i do? Any advice will be appreciated

Netizens’ comments

1. Just file a police report. Even if there is no action taken his name will be in the record and if he does something similar then the police can take action
2. I’d advise you to get some evidence (e.g., get your girlfriend to secretly record/video him saying or doing something incriminating). You’d have a stronger case when filing a report to HR for harassment or to the police.
3. yeah def get some concrete proof for now, file report to HR or police but ensure ur girl doesn’t get anywhere close to him ALONE for long periods of time 🙁 for sure unsafe sia this is damn tilting even to hear even as a stranger.. is this for poly intern or just self sourced? if poly make sure report to sch too bc i wouldn’t want the sch to keep sending their students to that company and to that f-ed up manager hope ur gf is okay and will be okay. she shouldn’t have to deal with this
4. What I would do is ask the gf to report to the uni/school before going to the police. If the gf gives a consistent and convincing statement, the school must have a reason to believe and act.

Teachers of SG, share your moments with parents that made you go “WTF?”

Gossiping about terrible parents is my favorite pass time with my colleagues. I’ve been a teacher since 2019 and I’ve had my fair share of parent-interactions. But this story my friend told me as a new teacher really made me go “WTF?”

My friend had a particularly unruly kid (aptly named Kayden). He was a menace in the school. And he made life difficult for all teachers and students in the school. He was THAT kid in the school. After much contemplation, my colleague decided that she should call his father down to the school to speak to him.

He was apparently a busy man and her moaned and groaned a lot about having to come down to the school but my friend thought it was absolutely necessary that she kept him on the loop ftf. My friend was absolutely professional (her words, but I believe it cos she’s a gem) and basically told his son off in a nice way. His dad rolled his eyes at several statements, and said that “All boys are like this growing up”

At the end of the meeting, he looked at his son and said “You better study hard now. If not one day you’ll become a teacher like her” and pointed his finger at her. My friend was so taken aback that she said nothing, but cried in the staffroom later that day instead.

I get that most parents aren’t this way, but I feel like there’s an increasing number of parents who think their children can do no wrong. Any stories you’d like to share, teachers?

Netizens’ comments

1. Parent called me at night (8+ or 9+) because child (sec1) cannot download google slides in the phone
   We needed to do slides for a WA project
   I haven’t interacted w the parents before so I didn’t know I’m picking up a parent’s call & I didn’t think a parent would call me at that moment && for that reason
   that was when I realize I’m also in the IT support dept on top of the many roles
2. Parents going through divorce, take turns to drop off and pick uqp children on different days. Due to miscommunication, came to pick up children on same day. Caused a scene in front of other parents and kids. We had to tell their children to go back first while we mediate and let them sort it out.
3. Was a contract teacher for a very short period of time between 2011-2012. After 2012, i left MOE and decided not to go NIE but went to study medicinal chemistry to go back to my previous dream rather than continuing being a teacher. I admit I’m not cut out to be one. But that brief experience made me realize teachers have it hard both from the school admin and from parents.
   The most ridiculous one I ever had was one parent was wanting to know the scores of the other kids in the class. Apparently she was mad that her son wasn’t the top student. He was 3rd and she demanded from me to tell her who the top 2 were and their results. She also asked me to recheck the marking on her son’s test papers. This was only in primary 1.
4. Not a teacher, but I have a friend who is. She teaches primary school (will leave out some details to let her remain anonymous).
   She said she once received a request from a parent who wanted to have a serious conversation with her about their son being targeted by other students in school. The parent was claiming some other classmates were physically assaulting her son. She took it seriously and set up a meeting with her HOD, discipline master, the mother and the kid to discuss it.
   At the meeting, the kid’s mother came in full force, threatening the school and asking how this could happen, saying she will go to MOE, etc. The higher-ups tried to assuage her concerns, said they would investigate and took it very seriously; they have no tolerance for such behavior, etc.
   Meanwhile, my friend is sitting there thinking- the mom didn’t even name one example. So she spoke up and asked what actually happened so they can investigate properly.
   The answer- another student stole his correction tape. That’s it. When asked who, the boy answered he wasn’t sure because he had come home and it wasn’t in his pencil case. He could have just lost it.
   The mom thought this constituted a “physical attack” on the boy.

A netizen shared how he used a fake account to talk to his cousin and see her private pictures.

Here is the story

I recently found out through Facebook my female cousin (who I always thought was attractive) was an escort who had a premium service to videocall her without any clothes on.

I decided to make a fake account to see if it was legit

It took her a while to respond but eventually like a couple hours later she does

It was pretty back and forth for a few minutes asking her what she does / sells

Eventually she said for 25$ she’ll video call me for 5 mins.

Which then led to me using PayPal to send the money (which I’m not sure if it has the name of the card on there or not).

She then video called me and I turned off my front camera to hide my face.

I feel dirty every time I see her at family gatherings, I’m 100% sure she has no idea what I’m doing. A part of me wants to stop but I also want to see If could escalate the situation to something better

Netizens’ comments

I don’t think this is what people mean by supporting the family business

Nice, charity starts at home. Gotta support the fam. Don’t be ashamed of your kink, everyone has one even if they try to act like they don’t.

Recruiter Asked Me What the Lowest Amount I’d Be Willing to Take
Hello,

This was like the second or third question in the initial phone screen. They asked me word for word “what is the lowest pay you would be willing to take for this position”. I said a number and then they told me that it was perfect because that number is their starting base pay.

I am going up for salary and benefits negotiations likely tomorrow or the following day, I’m thinking of asking them “What’s the highest amount of compensation you are willing to pay for this position”

Did the recruiter purposefully try to low ball me?

Netizens’ comments

1. Everyone will always try to lowball you. Now I go with a fixed number I have worked out beforehand.
2. Standard practice by recruiters.
   What you do is think of the number that would make you dance if you got it, and tell them that is the minimum you would accept.
   Edit: They will likely say they cannot pay that much, that is when you say you can negotiate (if you want to negotiate)
3. There’s only one answer: the same amount you’re willing to pay out as a maximum. Plus 15%.
4. “What is the salary band for this position? I have a number in my mind and I’d first like to see if it lines up with what has been budgeted for this role.”
5. Recruiters are disgusting. I remember once where a question was literally “what is the minimum amount you need to survive?” They weren’t even hiding the fact that they plan on giving you the bare minimum for the privilege of working for a company
6. A recruiter gets paid when they find a candidate that is hired by the company. If a recruiter thinks that his client is highly motivated by price, then he’s going to try to identify the cheapest candidate that meets the minimum requirements for the job.

What are the most Siao Lang stories you’ve heard/experienced first hand in NS?

Can be anything ranging from the ridiculous lengths blatant chao keng warriors go to to pes e psychos threatening to stab you with a pen. Anything under the sun pls

Netizens’ comments

1. ACS dude was afraid of going to the toilet alone at night, will always wake people up to accompany him, asked everyone and anyone after his buddy got tired of him having to pee 2-3 times every night.
   During one particularly difficult day, we were all dead tired at night and none of us entertained his toilet request. Middle of the night, the entire bunk woke up to loud shouting and cursing, the poor guy couldn’t hold it in anymore and wet his bed, urine dripped down onto his buddy’s face lol.
2. Heard of a guy who didn’t want to use the toilets at Tekong, so he planned on holding it in for the whole two weeks. The superiors heard about this, and they made sure he ate properly and shit properly, and one of the sergeants actually had to wait outside his toilet and go in to see if he actually took a shit before flushing it.
3. My BMT got this guy for his entire 2 years in NS, from BMT to unit, acted like some retarded blur cock who stutter alot. ORD come out 180 like a different person, talk until very suave. Now is some insurance agent.
4. Guy accidentally booked in on a Sunday and the Guard house did an impromptu check on his iPhone. Camp was not greenlight for smartphone back then. Found “man on man” videos and him soliciting male prostitutes with his own kkj pics. He was investigated by ISB/SIB and the case officer took MC after writing the report. The case officer had to document the convos, videos and photos.
   Same guy was found loitering in sergeant’s bunk with pants down and weird stain on bed sheets. Claims he didn’t do anything.
   Same guy molested a new officer fresh from OCS during weekend duty. Touched his abs and stuff. Poor officer broke down and cried in toilet.
   Same guy got sent to SAFDB a few times but even they couldn’t stand him at times. Complained that blanket was not soft and bed too hard. SAFDB commandant pleaded not to send him there again, the people had to draw lots on who will stand guard for his cell. I reckon his 2 years got extended to 3.5 due to his time in DB.
5. Platoon mate couldn’t get marksman for Combat Shoot.
   Throws SAR21 onto the floor before initial check clear at range. (Not sure if unexpended rounds still in chamber)
   Whole detail’s score gets disqualified and had to go back range a few months later to repeat whole live firing conduct.
6. Nothing much. Just a regular SGT attended a course which was conducted by a CPL nsf. Don’t know what SGT did to pissed off the nsf, he got half-rights at the parade square in full view of the rest of the camp trainees. We nsf instructors generally give leeway to regulars, but this one is damn ballsy by both parties. You know how xiasuay for a regular to get punished by a NSF?
7. My platoon mate in BMT was a few years older than the rest of us JC batch. He was really friendly dude, but we all knew he was the type to chao keng whenever he could. One day he went missing during morning PT (running around sch 1). Turns out he had snuck onto the roof of another coy’s building and threatened to jump down (a few enciks had to convince him to step off the ledge). Our PS came into our bunk that night and told us to make sure our lockers were locked before we slept in case the guy decided to take our SOGs and stab us or something. Last I heard he managed to PES F.
8. Hearsay guy threaten to chop up OC wife and serve her liver to him when he kenna confined. Last I heard he got investigated by ISD and put on watchlist.

My 28F first time being intimate with my boyfriend 27M wasn’t intimate at all.

I’ve been dating my boyfriend now for over 2 months now. Everything has been perfect so far. He’s genuinely so kind and loving. He sees a future with me, and I with him.

He always gives 100% effort in our relationship and it’s been such a breath of fresh air because I was in two bad relationships before him (but have done 3 years of therapy since and worked through all of that).

Imagine my disappointment when we slept together for the first time last week and it was anything but intimate.

I’ve been feeling so sad since and realized what might’ve made me feel this way. We’ve had a few sleepovers before this but he’s always respectful and never initiated anything.

This time was no different until we woke up in the morning and I could feel he was hard and we started kissing, but not for very long.

He asked if I wanted to f and I very much did. So we undress and it was just immediate penetration. No more kissing, no touching, he didn’t touch me or anything.

We did missionary for a minute and he said he was trying not to finish. We switched to doggy and he finished and then we showered/went on with our day.

Since I’ve had time to think about this, I think I feel so empty because we didn’t kiss, no foreplay, just plain penetration and he didn’t ask if I came or anything.

His behavior since has been the same. Same amount of attention/communication, but I’m concerned that this is a red flag because I haven’t seen any others so far.

Is this normal? Did he not want to kiss because of morning breath? What should I do? Anyone else go through this? Will it get better?

Positive/constructive feedback is appreciated!!

I want to sleep with a friend. But I’m married.

I know cheating is bad. It’s unacceptable, disgusting, it’s terrible. I am not here to argue this fact.

I’ve (31f) recently discovered that my husband of ten years, is deviant. This has led to us hating each other, not sharing a bed, and not touching at all.

I found that he slept with a friend of mine, and has some questionable fetishes. It’s impossible to leave him anytime soon. He won’t agree to separate or divorce.

I am lonely. And if he is going to cheat on me, so be it. I’m going to meet up with a semi-removed friend, and take my frustrations out.

How screwed up am I?

GUYS, it’s not really negotiable lol. This dude wants to tie me to a tree (the friend). No one is talking me off this ledge.

My marriage is definitely f-ed up and that’ll be sorted in due time. Details were just context for why I am going to do this. Maybe I shouldn’t have given details. I just wanted to confessssssss

Netizens’ comments

1. I’d start talking to lawyers before completely taking divorce off the table
2. “He won’t agree to separate”? What has him agreeing with it got to do with anything? Grab your important documents, pack your clothes, and leave! You don’t need his permission.
3. For the record I think you should rethink this. It’s not a decision that you can take back and soon enough “he cheated first” and “I couldn’t divorce him” won’t be enough to justify to yourself why you got on his level.
4. You shouldnt go as low as your husband is. But you do you.
5. I don’t think the casual liaison is going to fix the loneliness. Maybe get a dog, a big dog that will attack when he’s dragging you to the tree.
6. Good for you. At the beginning of the post I was mad at you for thinking of cheating but by the time I got to the “he cheated on me with a friend of mine” it all made sense.

Laid off in ~2 months, expected to train my replacements, no severance. Recommendations on how to deal with the guilt/anxiety of doing less than the bare minimum?

Long story short, I work for a large tech company and our entire side of things was laid off in a Team’s meeting with 0 notice.

We were told we have 2 months maximum with the company, no severance, and that we need to remain professional and train our (extremely unqualified) replacements until then.

I’ve been doing less than the bare minimum at work including laying in bed most of the day today. Shit is piling up, clients are losing their minds, millions of revenue is being lost, etc.

I know I shouldn’t care but for some reason, I’m still feeling an extreme amount of guilt and anxiety when I am away from the computer.

But when I sit down and look at my 200+ inbox, my brain shut down and the anxiety just shifts that direction and I want to go back into bed.

Does anyone have any recommendations on dealing with the anxiety/guilt?

Netizens’ comments

1. I would imagine yourself 5 or 10 years in the future looking back on this moment,
   would you be the person who gave in and helped clients to a company that fired you without notice or a care, outsourced the skill set you’ve developed over years to someone who can’t handle it just to increase the profit of your bosses?
   Or would you rather look back and see you had the strength to cut ties with a company that cut ties with you?
2. Loyalty is a 2 way street. they have cast you aside and your loyalty is cast aside with you. Find a new job and dont give them diddly.
3. YOU DON’T NEED TO TRAIN YOUR REPLACEMENTS. What the actual f?
   Start looking for the next job. Why even bother pretending? They told you to remain professional when not giving severance and telling you to train your replacements?
4. You should be working 8 hours a day…on finding another job.

What are some of the lies your parents told you when you were younger to stop bad habits?

As a kid, I love to snack on things like chips. My favourite was Twisties curry or tomato flavoured.

My dad got real angry and said that if I keep eating Twisties, my stomach will combust and catch fire one day because Twisties are like charcoal, and is flammable.

He took a piece of Twisties from my packet and used a lighter on it. It caught on fire and turned black.

Being younger and didn’t know much about science back then (kindergarten or lower primary), I got scared and stopped eating Twisties since.

To make sure I don’t swallow fruit seeds apart from watermelons, my mum told me that if I ingest seeds from a fruit,a fruit tree will grow out from my belly button.

Please share what are some of the hilarious lies your parents told you in your childhood! Would be nice to know how absurd some of these are

Netizens’ comments

1. she made me have a bob haircut throughout my childhood cuz it’s easier for her to manage, less time to shampoo n no need for hair ties
   her reason for not allowing me to grow my hair out? she told me i’m allergic to long hair styles
2. If don’t finish all the food on my plate, my partner face next time will look like the leftovers on the plate.
   Heng I lick my plate clean, cause my partner looks damn good hehe.
3. It’s not really a ‘lie’, but to keep 4-year-old me from always asking for a sip of sweet coffee whenever she makes herself one at noon, my mom once gave me two tiny particles of ground coffee and let me taste them. After experiencing its bitterness, I immediately lost interest in the mysterious drink.
4. If i do something bad they will sell me to garang guni
5. My friend grew up thinking that she was a boy for the first 10 years or so of her life because her parents gave her a crew cut (easier to bathe), wore her elder brother’s clothes (to save money), told her she was a boy (to prevent people in the workplace from molesting/taking advantage of her as they always brought her to work with them) and that she should behave like a boy because certain behaviors were unmanly.
   Around 11 or so, they told her that she was actually a girl, started letting her keep her hair long, wear her elder sister’s clothes (again, to save money), explained to her the reasons why and then told her that certain behaviors needed to stop because it was not befitting a girl.
   Luckily she adjusted well, but sometimes the behaviors she exhibits makes me think that the male behaviors she learnt never really left her

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