We moved into our house when our son was three years old.

First night in the house, it was only my son and me because my husband was away for a work. Got us ready for bed, and then as I’m about to turn off the kitchen lights and head down the hallway to the bedrooms, which was still lit as well (so, low light was not an issue), my son says hello to a friend suddenly.

Child saw many people who were not there

He called everyone, including strangers, „friends“ back then, and I asked who he was talking to. I was more worried about break ins, and I couldn’t see anyone that he could have been talking to. He told me he was talking to a friend, and if he was making eye contact, the friend’s eyes were at the same height as his.

Even though I saw nothing and immediately realized that this was possibly a paranormal event, I didn’t panic at all, and I started asking questions calmly and cheerfully, like whether the friend is in the house right now (yes), what his friend’s name is (unknown), if the friend said anything (no answer), and if he has seen his friend before or if this is a new friend (no answer). My son mostly just stared at the friend, and he said hello again at my suggestion. I then I asked him if he could touch his friend. My son took one step forward, stuck his hand out, and slowly moved his hand in front of himself.

He then said no, he couldn’t touch his friend. I couldn’t even see anything at all this whole time. I asked a few moments later if his friend was still there. My son said he was gone, but he couldn’t give me an answer when I asked where the friend went. Some of the unanswered questions may have come down to comprehension because of his age. We both went to bed, and I was able to convince myself that it was nothing to worry about. We were tired from moving all our stuff in as well. Fell asleep quickly.

There’s not anything here that gives me bad vibes, and nothing else has happened since then that I know of, except possibly a minor, probably unrelated and possibly not even paranormal thing that doesn’t give me ill vibes either. The neighbors are very positive about the previous owners, who seemed to live nice lives and lived in this house for many decades before their health declined (but they are still living).

A relative I told about this event thinks it may be something to do with a vision of a friend from a past life since my son was still so young and since I couldn’t see anything. This relative’s sister (so, another relative of mine too) had a somewhat similar event when she was a child, and she does not recall it. Her parents told her when she was much older. I’ve never asked my son about it again because I don’t want to scare/concern him by fixating on it. This happened nearly two years ago now, and my son does bring up very specific memories randomly from 2-3 years ago in our old house, but again, I just don’t want to concern him, which is also why I remained calm and cheerful during this encounter. I also did not want to upset our possible visitor since perhaps we had caused a disturbance by moving in, and I prefer to show respect.

My family has had some possibly mild paranormal experiences over the years, and I always appreciated my mom for telling us to not be afraid and to gather and remember as much as we can about these experiences. One of my mom’s relatives has even jumped in front of floating entities simply to see what would happen. Most of us have science degrees and such, and this stuff makes no sense to us, but we want to learn as much as we can about it.

I always worry about hauntings before moving in, but nothing has ever happened right away, nor like that before. Most places wind up totally uneventful in the paranormal realm, despite very bizarre local lore and histories and despite some other people living in such places being completely convinced that the local area is severely haunted.

If anyone has any ideas on what this could’ve been or similar stories, I’d love to hear. 

So there’s this girl at school who’s a year younger than me and is really pretty, and a few days ago while I was leaving school I caught her staring at me, I smiled at her and she smiled back at me (she tried to hide it), and yesterday she caught me staring at her, and she smiled at me, so I smiled back, this time my friends noticed and told me to go talk to her, and I chickened out, but today I gathered the courage to go up to her. So I tell my friends that I’m going to go talk to her and they cheer me up.

I’ve never had any problems flirting with girls, but this time I don’t know what happened, just at the moment I reached the place she was standing and opened my mouth, nothing came out, instant b r u h, my mind went blank and I didn’t know what to say, so I started to try to improvise.

I managed to do an ok job saving the situation but seconds later my mind went blank again, so I spend the next 5 seconds just staring at her without saying a word, and she just stood there looking at my awkwardness without saying anything either, so I start to panic and compliment her eyes, then my dad called me and saved me from messing up even further.

In conclusion, I went to talk to a pretty girl, made it all awkward, she didn’t talk much at all.

How can I save this situation???

Here are what netizens suggest:

• Talk to her tomorrow and apologize if you came off awkward when you approached her. Tell her whenever you see her you forget what to say and often where you are at that moment and no other girl has fever made you feel that way. Then ask her if there is any way she would like to go get a coffee or an ice cream. If she says yes ask her for her number if no say you still think she’s cool and go on your way.

• Walk to her and drop a rubber.
• Tell her your ku ku point the north pole when looking at her

I married my childhood sweetheart almost 10 years back. We have known each other all our lives (we were neighbours, went to the same school, played together, grew up together, fell in love and have been each other’s first in every possible sense).

In school, we were a group of 6 friends, 4 females, 2 males. In 2016, my son was born, and in 2018, I had my daughter. Everything was going wonderful (in hindsight, almost feels like a dream). My parents wanted to see the grandkids but due to covid, they haven’t been around much. I planned a trip with kids to my parents place. He said that he had official commitments and can’t get out of them.

So I went with the kids without him, but halfway there, my mom said that she is positive for COVID and told me not to come. So I went back home, I found my husband with one of my females friends from our group in school in a compromising position. I caught them and I leave immediately.

I stayed at a hotel, and told him not to call me. He came to the Hotel a day later, and when I asked how long this has been going on, he said that it had been only a few weeks. I asked him the exact date when it happened for the first time, and he stammered. After ALOT of prodding and requests, he confessed that they have been doing it on and off for 5 years. He said that she was extremely vulnerable after the “so called friend’s” husband passaway

After the screaming went on for a while, he said that he feels sorry for whatever he has done. I felt like I couldn’t breathe. He kept begging me to not leave him and that he will mend his ways. And that he loves the kids alot. He doesn’t want our kids to come from a broken home. He says that he loves me alot and can’t imagine his life without me. He is willing to cut all ties with her and even move to a different country if needed.

The “friend” messaged me saying that she never wanted to break our family and that she was extremely lonely and he was emotionally and physically available and it just happened and that they didn’t plan it. She, also, says that she is willing to do whatever I want her to… Feels like my head will explode….

I have been crying inconsolably and my mind cannot function anymore.

I feel like my whole world has been a lie. The birth of my daughter has been a lie. All our holidays, dinners, laughs, special moments.. all of it has been a lie. We had weekend dinners with each other.

She used to babysit my kids, she is their favourite aunt. She has been a part of our family, all the while, she was DOING my husband… I can’t get the image out of my head of them on the sofa. I keep thinking about my children, and then about what a lie my life has been. Who do I talk to? Who do I trust? None of it makes sense anymore.

Open to any suggestions and comments at this stage.

I was recently proposed to by my fiance 40yo. We have been planning our wedding for 4 months, and our big day was supposed to be in three weeks time. 

Just over a week ago, I saw on our guest list that my 3 kids (from a previous marriage) were not on the guest list. I immediately confronted my soon to be husband, and he simply stated that it was a no kids wedding, which we had never talked about or agreed to. 

As you can imagine I was annoyed and asked him what in the world he was talking about. I had been under the impression that my kids were allowed to come, and that my ex-husband would be dropping them off. I and he are close still, but understandably he isn’t coming to our wedding as we all agreed it would be awkward. 

As it turned out everyone was aware of this, including my parents and bridesmaids. They had all assumed I was the one who decided this, which explained why they had been acting rather distant from me lately, especially my sister, who was my maid of honour, who was salty that she couldn’t bring her kids. 

He said he thought I knew, which was a reason I refused to accept. I asked him why he wanted no kids, and he explained to me that kids are apparently annoying, and he didn’t think they would be comfortable , where there would be a lot of drinking, even though I don’t even drink. I explained to him, slowly, that my eldest was an adult, who is legally able to drink, so she’d be fine, and that my youngest two were only coming to the lunch, not the dinner. 

He then complained that they were immature still and that he wanted to feel comfortable with me without “judgement from my kids.” 

I went to speak to my kids, and when they heard my fiance didn’t want them to come, they got very upset, especially my eldest daughter. She claimed that since she wasn’t even a child she should be allowed to come, and at the lunch it’s not like my husband and I are going to be expected to look after them, which is what she could be doing if it would allow them to come. 

I ended up saying all this to my husband, but still he wanted no kids, there, and even went as far to say that if it were up to him there would be no kids in our relationship. I was so confused. I knew he didn’t exactly have a bond with the kids, but not even wanting them was a step over the line for me. We got into a large argument, and he said it marriage wasn’t about my kids, but our shared love for each other, and if I couldn’t see that then I wasn’t being reasonable, and should rethink my actions towards him. In frustration, I told him that my kids are more important to me than he would ever be, and that if they weren’t there, I wouldn’t be either. He said fine, so I yelled at him the wedding was off. 

His family is annoyed at me as they flew all the way over to see this wedding, and most people are calling me selfish,

Am I the selfish in this situation? 

A man shared how he stands on his balcony every night in the dark and stare at ongoing traffic.

Here is the story

After the wife goes to bed the dark knight rises.

My wife and I live on the top floor of our apartment. There is a roundabout and relatively popular road right behind our apartment below our balcony.

Every night after my wife falls asleep I’ll turn out all the lights in the living room (that way you can only see my outline from the road.) and I’ll go and stand on my deck and loom at all the people who drive by.

Usually from 11:30 PM 12:27 AM. Idk why I do this, but its fun. I hope they see me and it really just gives them a story to tell when they get to their destinations.

“How was your drive?”

“Fine, I guess.”

“Was that guy out at that apartment again?”

“Yes!, we have to move into a better neighborhood.”

When it rains I wear a poncho and let it flap in the wind. Not the most scandalous confession ever, but I probably don’t want my loved ones knowing about this particular hobby of mine.

Is wearing a bra compulsory in Singapore? My girlfriend got told off!

So my girlfriend was visiting from Iceland and she normally doesn’t wear a bra (especially when it’s hot). We were in town having coffee and this lady (who’s name I assume was Karen) came up to us and said to her “wear your bra!” in a very strict tone.

But because of her thick Singaporean accent, we couldn’t really discern what she was saying and we thought she said “where did you get your bra from”…which really confused my girlfriend.

To which my girlfriend replied “I usually get them from….” (I forgot the store name)

The lady got so confused and she started scolding her and telling her that she must must must wear a bra or the police will come.

We both laughed as we found it absurd.

SO MY QUESTION IS: why is wearing a bra so important? I feel like women should be free to wear whatever they want or don’t want. Bras can be really uncomfortable.

Netizens’ comments

1. The image of your gf telling her where she gets her bra from to an enraged Karen makes me laugh ngl.
2. Honestly I don’t care if people want to go braless, their body their choice. And yes wearing bra in this hot and humid weather is very uncomfortable.
3. as a local female, my friends and I would never go braless.
   Besides SG being a conservative country w an aging population, there are SG forums and tele groups where people (usually disgusting men) take pics of women in public places even if they’re just wearing slightly revealing or considered appealing to them. It’s not talked about often but there def is a number which is revolting af. Some women just wear bras to just ‘protect’ ourselves
4. No idea why these Karen’s think they own our bodies 🙄 Hope this didn’t ruin her time here!
5. Nope, no law against it but conservative people will rant about anything if it doesn’t fit the “norm”. Gender equality.

My wife is 20 weeks pregnant. We have 2 kids

Ever since the beginning of her pregnancy, she has got into the habit of sending the kids to me whenever they ask her for permission. She tells them “I’m ok with it but check with your dad once”. The first time she did this, I told the kids that I was also ok with it since my wife was ok with it. That day, she’d told me that I’m not actually supposed to give them permission and that she doesn’t want them to think that she’s not allowing them which is why she tells them to ask me. She said that I’m supposed to say no. I initially agreed but now the kids are saying that I never let them do anything etc.

So I told my wife that this cannot continue any longer and that she would also have to learn to say no and not make me look bad in front of the kids. She refused to say she doesn’t want the stress of listening to the kids whine during her pregnancy. I got mad and said that the next time she sends the kids to me, I’ll be giving them permission.

She started crying and said I’m being inconsiderate of her feelings and that the kids will hate her if she says no. She said that I should take one for her happiness. I refused and stood my ground saying that I will no longer be the bad guy while she pretends to be the nice guy.

Today, the 10yo asked if she could go to her friend’s place for a sleepover. My wife told her that she was completely fine with it but daddy might not be ok with it so to ask me permission first. I was pissed because she threw me under the bus once again. So I told my daughter that she was free to go. My daughter excitedly hugged me as she had expected me to say no.

When she was out of the room, my wife started to yell at me saying I’m a jerk for not helping her out.

Girlfriend shaved her head right at the start of the relation ship

I started seeing this girl at the start of last month, after a month of having really good times , we have decided we’d be a couple and within the same 24 hours, she told me she shaved her head, replacing her long, silky, feminine hair

I’m a person with a high drive in bed and libido , and so does she , our first month we f-ed up to three times a day.

Now, also she’s still hot in its own way, she still has the same attractive personality but attraction became harder to manifest for me, I can’t get turned on by her anymore after she shaved her head.

I would like advices on how to approach the situation with her and for myself.

Netizens’ comments

1. I would try visualizing her as a strong woman, like actually trying to put that image in your head. She is still a woman, and I am sure her body doesn’t look like a boy, so focus on some other parts instead of her head and hair.
   You could bring up the wig thing very carefully. Try telling her that her shaved head is a good opportunity to explore some role play or dress up in bed. That you think that would be really hot and fun. You can ask her if she would like to see you in anything, etc. Don’t frame it as a complaint about her look, but rather a fun opportunity.
   Also, if you really like her, you most likely just need to be patient. Hair grows. My wife has had everything from a shaved head to long hair and many different colors. I like some more than others, but some women just like to play with their look.
2. Use a plastic bag, cover the face and f the base.
3. My BF once shaved his head without telling me and I lost completely my attraction to him (temporarily). So as I had a similar experience as you I will give you my advices.
   Wait a little bit of time. First of all the hair will start growing out, and second of all you will get used to her hair looking like this and as you spend time with her you will feel the awkardness go away and the attraction getting back.
   Don’t let your overthinking win. Try not thinking about it in a bad way and focus on things you like. Her face, eyes, smile, or even body, even tho if it’s something in her face it’s better. You will point out to yourself her beauty and this will absolutely help.
   If you really do love her personality so much, these will absolutely help you. Do not give in to the shock and bad feelings.