I started a new job today after 6 months of being unemployed. I took this job (customer service) cos I wanted something mindless and normal working hours so I don’t miss lessons as I’m studying part time at night and graduating soon.

The job turns out to be mind numbing boring to death. I have to travel for an hour one way, sit in a classroom for 10hours each day for lectures and then travel 1 hour home and then go back home to listen to 3 more hours of lecture and repeat the next day. I also need to sit for some tests at the end of the week for work while I have pending assignments for school and I’m graduating soon in March.

The trainer is unprofessional, speaks broken English and makes terrible jokes. He is part of the reason I am asking myself life is too short to be stuck with this?

Seems like I have made a mistake. I should most probably not signed up for this full time job and just wait till I graduated but I overestimated myself.

Is there any way that I can quit this job without serving its 2 weeks notice period? Isn’t it weird for me to show up to learn when I would be out of the company by end of 2 weeks esp if the info given can be considered sensitive.

Here are what netizens think:

• U did say u wanted to do something “mindless” as stated in para 1 right? So u got it. Be careful what u wish for.Btw, my thoughts are that a customer service job isn’t actually as mindless as u think. It often requires a myriad of skill sets. Also, regarding the trainer with “broken english n terrible jokes”, maybe u need to be a bigger person n see beyond that. Don’t discount someone just because he or she isn’t eloquent like how we (society) like it. Sounds like u think u are too good to be taught by him/her. Just focus on what the trainer is trying to impart lah. If u can’t even tahan the trainer, you won’t be able to tahan the many types of personalities you will encounter in society in future.

• when people is having a good life, what did they do, complain and whine. this is what we called jia ba bo sia pang, meaning: eat full already go nothing to shit. some people just do not understand the meaning of gratitude. be grateful with what you have.

• If you want to leave immediately, you would need to compensate to the company the salary in lieu of notice (2 weeks), which is not worth it. Unless the company is willing to waive.You can resign ASAP and serve your notice. If you worked less than 3 months with the company, MC taken is considered as unpaid leave. Ask whether they can release you earlier.

To anyone that’s reading this, never hesitate to tell your loved ones/your crush that you love them because you might not know if they will still be around.

I met this guy through my friend where they were talking about relationships and that was when my friend introduced me to him. At that moment, he saw my photo and chose me over the girls that were with full-on make-up. He was so excited to meet me where we eventually met.

Although it was our first time meeting, our convo naturally flowed and I realized that he’s a nice guy to talk to. At the end, we exchanged number and after parting ways, he asked me out on the 2nd date during Christmas.

I always wanted to look for a serious r/s (have been single for all my life) and I knew that this guy would be a gem so that was when I decided to think about us more seriously. No doubt there were worries and that’s why I decided to be open about my feelings. He was so understanding, he reassured me and he told me he wanted to continue seeing me.

As I’m one that would realize my feelings slower, I didn’t realized that I actually do like him by the 3rd time we met. I know you will probably say I’m a fool for being so quick to fall in love, but now I feel more like a fool for not realizing my feelings earlier when he showed all signs of interest in me.

After the 3rd time that we met, he got busy with his work when the new year came. That was when things changed. Just over 1 night, he ended things with me although we’re still at the friends stage.

But why?

When I read that I’m not someone that he’s looking for, my heart literally sank. What about all the times when you said I was different? What about all the times where you told me about the things that you wanted to do with me?

My wound now is so raw, it hurts so freaking much as though I just been through a break up. What’s worse was that I have been dreaming about him for 3 days straight, and all of them were scenes of us being so happily together.

Every time when I wake up, I honestly wish that this was all a dream.

I have no idea why things could just change overnight like this and I just want an answer to my endless questions.

If anyone is feeling this, just know that you’re not looking for a closure. You just want another chance to change what happened, hoping that he would come back.

To anyone that’s chasing after your crush, tell them that you love them today. I know it’s scary but just take the chance while you could. You never know if someone will be gone the next day.

Any other girls face this issue? My boyfriend is physically out of shape, but I don’t mind because he spends a lot of time at work and he has a good character. I intend to marry him. However, I’m beginning to be worried for his health. He gets out of breath very easily (including nighttime activities), and when I feel/listen to his heartbeat it’s always fast and irregular.

Whenever we do any physical activity together he always has chest pains and chest tightness. I’ve asked him to go to the doctor but he refuses.

How can I convince him to take action? I don’t want to marry him and then have him collapse and die.

Here is what netizens think:

• I was also facing these issues. My boyfriend used to be like yours but I manage to convince him. I told him is either he sees a doctor or make it a point to exercise.He has been doing jogging for almost 3 years. Slimmer and fitter than me. He runs marathon monthly. So proud of him.

• Get good insurance coverage.Jk. On a serious note, can get him like a fitbit or something first so maybe some numbers will convince him something is amiss? Having a blood pressure cuff may be useful too if you can borrow one and say let’s check together or something like that. I have low BP so I have one to check now and then. Only when I checked my hub’s one then he realised he needs to be careful about his own bp as well. So it does help

• Tell him to start slow and small. Can be walking to his lunch place and walking back. Climbing one flight of stairs today, take lift and slowly increase the flight of stairs. Find those quick and simple 5min workouts on youtube that’s manageable. Get him to do once a day, then twice a day, then 6 times a day. Make part of your dates together a long walk (shopping mall or park) to help him.

I need advice. I don’t know what to do about my relationship with my boyfriend. I wouldnt go so far as to say that the relationship is toxic but I have the nagging feeling like this relationship seems off, like im forcing myself to believe that it will work and yet I don’t want to break it off with my boyfriend because of the familiarity and the fact that I lost my virginity to him.

I have been with my boyfriend for 1.5 years, and it started off loving and sweet, and eventually, we became intimate because it felt right at that moment.

Initially our arguments were all regarding my mother’s opinion about him ( my mum doesn’t really approve of him amd doesnt like the idea of him, because of his academic qualification and earning potential) but I have since reassured him that I would choose to stay by his side despite my mum’s disapproval, that him earning significantly lower than me doesn’t matter because ultimately our incomes will combine and we will be sharing the financial burden when we start a family.

Lately our arguments have become more heated ( most of the times it is because I feel upset about something he did and I would subconsciously show it in a way by refusing to show him affection like holding his hands or hugging him, and he would flare up at me for showing him ‘attitude’), to the point where he will shout at me when we are back in his room. I cry everytime he shouts at me, and his anger still wouldn’t subside no matter how I try to communicate with him. I have tried showing him affection during the arguments to try to appease him, but when I can still sense his anger and see the intense anger on his face, I get scared and pull away and he will get angrier at me for not trying to appease him by showing him affection. There was once when he got so angry that he punched the wall till his knuckles bled and were bruised. His anger seems to get more and more intense with each passing argument. Every time during our arguments,  when I would cry, he doesn’t even flinch or react to me crying. And yes, I do know that he is feeling emotionally negative and angry at that moment and I shouldn’t expect him to care about my emotions, but it still feels like he doesn’t care that he has made me cry.

I don’t know what to do about this relationship. My male friends have advised me to break it off with him, saying that his temperament and anger might just get worse in the long run, that no matter how angry they were at their partners, they have never shouted at them till they cried or shouted at them in public ( he has shouted angrily at me in public to hold his hands when I was walking ahead of him).  I’m reluctant to break up because i feel like this 1.5 years will be wasted if I just let this relationship go ( he was one of the few guys that didn’t ghost me after meeting up from a connection on a dating app, I have been ghosted so many times after meetups, that I feel unworthy of love), I don’t think I have the emotional energy to get to know someone new all over again ( I am an introvert and opening up and getting close to someone is nerve wrecking for me), being with him on the good days feels so nice and loving and I cant imagine being so vulnerable and familiar with someone other than him on such a physically intimate level.

What do I do? Am I self sabotaging this relationship by thinking about all the bad and not looking at the good? ( But there seems to be more bad days than good)

Thank you for taking your time out to read this lengthy post. I would appreciate any advice.

“Do what you love” was the worst thing that was said to me, ever. This economy was design to crush your dreams.

I’ve always been a great student and always had the best grades. I once thought I could do anything in life, because people kept telling me to “follow my dreams” and “do what I love” and “you’ll succeed”.

I could have become a lawyer, a high level manager or maybe even someone in the medical field, but I never wanted any of that.

I never felt like I’d be happy in those fields and I still believe that. I don’t want to do something I dislike. I never thought the money would be enough to make me happy.

Instead, I went to the path of trying to become a designer, something that I liked to do ever since I was a kid and I still love.

It couldn’t have been a worst decision. It doesnt matter how hard I try, how much I work, if I don’t get extremely luck, I’ll never be able to get above the subsistence line.

Many of my friends are now in fields that have absolutely nothing to do with them or their personalities (most of them I even consider to be terrible professionals or got nepotism jobs), but at least they’re not struggling like I am.

PS: Unless you work in a high-end agency, design is not a high paying field. In fact, many designers that I know have to settle for minimum wage and countless additional hours of freelance work to keep things going.

At 30, I feel like I need to restart my whole life to be able to get anywhere right now and I’m tired as hell. I hate everything.

Netizens’ comments

1. Counterpoint: I do not do what I love, and the economy is still crushing me.
2. Opposite problem here. I was forced to try and pursue thing I absolutely didn’t want to do and because of that failed hard.
   Rather than pursue something I enjoy that holds my focus and I’m good at, I studied business.
   And am now working a job that makes me want to die while also earning less than I would have if I had of gone after what I wanted.
3. I think the sweet spot is finding something you like to do, but isn’t your passion. People with a calling can be more easily exploited. People who like what they do but it isn’t their passion as able to walk away from it when needed.

My girlfriend hurt my son

I feel like the worst f-ing person ever.

I have been a single dad for 10 years due to my wife dying when our two sons were 4. My sons are my whole world. I probably would have killed myself when my wife died if it wasn’t for them. I have never been able to get back out and date, until last year.

I started dating my (now ex) girlfriend a year ago. She seemed like an amazing person and as I slowly introduced her to my kids she seemed like she loved them. She always knew I had kids so she could have backed out at any time. She moved in a few months ago and I thought everything was great.

Yesterday I came home from work and I found one of my kids sobbing on the couch while his brother was hugging him. I asked him what was wrong, hoping it was a relationship issue or something. What happened was so much worse.

Apparently, my girlfriend was home from work early and was there with my kids. She was asking him to do some chores but he was playing a video game and wasn’t wanting to. I understand the frustration, but I couldn’t believe what she had done. She started calling him useless and saying how we’re going to kick him out and then hit him.

I almost collapsed right there. She f-ing hit my son. I don’t care what he did you don’t put hands on a child.

When she got home I confronted her and when she confirmed it I told her to get the hell out of my house and never contact me again before I call the cops on her. It was taking all of my strength to not completely go off on her.

I hate myself. I hate myself for putting my son through that. He doesn’t deserve that. I have taken off the next week from work as I want to be with him and make sure he’s ok. He wanted to sleep in my bad last night so right now he’s laying next to me asleep. I plan on doing anything he wants to do for the next few days to make up that. I know it won’t make up for what happened, but it’s a start.

I will never let someone hurt my son in my house again.

I quit after two days and boss wasn’t happy. Am I in the wrong?

So…in my previous post I explained my new job. Trained for two days, boss was moody and impolite the entirety of it, I decided the job wasn’t a good fit.

Did not give him any of my bank info or paperwork, he only had my name and number. Didn’t even work long enough to learn coworkers names.

I quit over the phone a few hours before my shift, told him I appreciated the opportunity and effort to train me but the job isn’t a good fit and I’m resigning.

He interrupted me to basically say that he understaffed and me not coming in would be a huge fuck up, he also started to say “you can’t just start a job and say you don’t like it and leave”….

I trained TWO DAYS. It’s a minimum wage part time job. I hung up on him.

I know that this was a very unprofessional way to go about quitting and I’ve never left a job with bad blood before.

He was genuinely an a-hole to me every time we interacted, so why do I feel guilty ? For example: he slammed dishes, berated me and others, cussed all the time, would get angry I didn’t know something and slam a dish and walk away and say “fking fix it”.

He’s a fully grown man and owned a bakery. I did nothing to warrant any verbal insults. I was merely being trained. Am I an a-hole for quitting without respect?

Netizens’ comments

1. Naw. You don’t owe any job anything and you especially don’t owe respect to someone who doesn’t deserve it.
2. Well, if he wasn’t happy with you he’d have no qualms firing you after two days so…
3. I would’ve told him point blank what you have explained on here. If he wants to act out the way he has then he should expect for people to consistently quit. He needs to take a long look in the mirror. If I’m constantly losing people, as a manager it’s up to me to try to understand why.
4. Boss: “You can’t just start a job and say you don’t like it and leave”.
   OP: But yea, I can, I just did it. Is the fabric of reality going to collapse?

Guys, I’m scared now. I might have entered a contract with ghosts.

So earlier today around 3-6pm, I was bored and with a bunch of friends went to “check out” a supposedly haunted site in Singapore.

Now, I’m a non-believer in the supernatural, ghosts and deities.

However, I got really really bored while they were snooping around. Honestly, I felt nothing during my entire duration there.

They were taking a long time, I was getting annoyed and wanted to head for dinner. So in my mind/heart, I muttered: if here really got ghosts, you all come and let me tio 3 straight soccer bets tonight, next week I come back and feed you all my blood.*

*I don’t believe in ghosts and supernatural, but have heard plenty of stories, including stories that ghosts which feed on blood become very powerful.

Now as you can see below, wtf smlj, really tio 3 straight soccer bets. OK granted I all bet on the favorites, but it is still….too zhun. Somemore I picked funny matches-the first from Japan League Division 2, the second was Women’s World Cup and the third from Norway’s League. I don’t even watch soccer and was just blindly betting.

Long story short, I now somehow have a windfall of $1,000.

Did I enter a contract with ghosts at whichever site I went to just now? I’m scared guys. I’m turning here for advice because I don’t want to talk to my friends about this because I always scoff at their idea of ghosts.

Do I really have to go back and feed them my blood? What happens if I do not do so?

Or is this just out of coincidence?

EDIT 1:

Guys, I shit you not, I just anyhow hamtam, kena another 3 tios again, backing Barcelona (not favorite), backing Flamengo (not favorite) and Espanola in Chilean league (don’t even know got one).

Another $1,900 windfall.