My boss hired their kids and they f-ing suck

90% of the time when there’s an issue it can be traced back to them but nothing ever happens. And somehow the boss ends up scolding the rest of us for it.

They never prep the store for the next shift. Yesterday I THOUGHT the daughter was going to do some prep work before leaving but no…she was making food for herself.

I’m looking for another job at the moment but this s-t f-ing sucks…the boss was wondering why its been so hard to hire and keep people well know I know why.

Netizens’ comments

1. Boss’ kids.. We refer to these types as the ‘Broken Arrows’. They dont work, and you cant fire them.
2. My boss (actually boss’s boss) brought his kid to work. She was bounced from all her previous internships, so since he was head honcho he made a job for her and assigned me to babysit and make sure the work she was assigned actually got done. He didn’t tell me or anyone else about her history of do-nothing at previous jobs.
   So in addition to my regular job, I watched over everything she was supposed to do, re-did most of it, and actually taught her some useful skills. I learned about her past work history from her, as well as her intention to drop out of her college engineering degree program as soon possible. Between the successful work, the skills she learned, and the general positive feedback I lavished on her, she changed her mind and finished her engineering degree.
   I was expected a nice bonus or other reward, as this was both a heroic effort on my part and an astonishingly positive outcome from what might have been a disastrous situation.
   My actual reward: I was transferred to a new manager who knew none of this story, thought I must be useless since my last job was babysit an intern, and he put me on the top of the layoff list. Boss’s boss never said a thing or even thanked me. I was laid off two weeks later.
3. I had a client who had their kid do things and then break them. Then I would fix them and the cycle would repeat. I eventually had to drop them because I was sick of him acting like I’m not worth paying because his kid could do it for free. I felt bad for his wife because she ran the office and knew without me they were in trouble. Kinda her fault for never standing up to him

buying noise canceling earbuds to tune my wife out in the morning?

I am 32 and male. My wife is 36. We have been married for five years now.

I work in a job where every morning I have different tools and items to prepare. On some days I’ll be working at an office building, other days I’ll be in a meeting, and occasionally I’ll be working at someone’s house.

Each job requires different tools, each day requires different preparations to go smoothly.

My wife has a very bad habit of following me around our home with miscellaneous items while I’m trying to find the tools that I need for the day, chosen haphazardly, asking if I need them that day or not.

She seems to think that she’s helping me get ready for my work, but she only distracts me and has caused me to forget things I actually did need at times.

The issue is she won’t do it once or twice; she’ll rapid-fire out ideas, and when I thank her but tell her I don’t need any help, she just goes “Yeah yeah yeah, but how about this?” as she holds up a new item.

I’ve tried sitting her down and explaining to her that she’s not helping me, but she keeps doing it.

I reached my breaking point. After work I went shopping and got myself a cheap pair of noise canceling earbuds.

From the next morning, I put them in, played some white noise (I’m not a big music guy), and went about my business.

My wife kept trying to get my attention by waving her hand in front of my face, as she held miscellaneous items, but it was a lot easier than normal.

I’ve also found that sending her on a little mission to get something will help a lot and wish I had thought of it sooner.

Last night she sat me down and got really angry for ignoring her in the morning. I asked what I was supposed to do, to which she responded “You’re supposed to listen to your wife.”

Did I go too far for taking this step?

Haven’t had intercourse for + 7 years, how do I get back to it

30 M, haven’t slept with anyone for + 7 years (needed time to recover from my previous relationship which lasted 8 years, then I didn’t feel any urge and occasionally pleasured myself about 2/3 times a month).

Recently I’m starting to feel the urge again, and I’m feeling that I want to find a female partner.

But I’m kinda scared, it’s been so long since my last time, and I’m worried about being under-experienced for my age.

I guess some of you are going to tell me to try escorts, but I don’t have the money for it.

Do you have any advice ?

Netizens’ comments

1. Build a connection with someone nice and be open with a new partner about the fact you’re out of practice. A nice and patient person won’t care. It’s entirely possible to be experienced and awful in bed (if you’re selfish and/or oblivious to your partner’s needs) and the reverse is possible too.
2. I went through the exact same thing. I had a few partners and, for reasons too boring to explain, I went almost 8 years without intimacy. When I started dating again I had a ton of anxiety. However, the first time again I was open and honest with my partner and she was completely understanding. The first time was still nerve racking and I was certain I messed up and she wouldn’t talk to me again. I couldn’t have been more wrong, we’ve been married for 17 years now. 
3. Our situation is so similar lol. 30F and I haven’t f anyone for 4 years. I was in a 6 yr relationship and stayed single after the breakup. It feels so hard to put yourself out there
4. As a woman I’m saying that any woman that would make you feel bad about being out of practice is not a woman you want to waste time on. It’s fine for a woman to guide you or instruct you on what she likes but if she’s expecting you to read her mind while she says nothing then that’s on her, not you. It’s been at least 6 years for me and while I also have concerns about jumping back in I will not waste my time on any guy that would make me feel bad for being out of practice. Or for not reading his mind.

What were some horrible things your parents did/said to you? Let’s share.

Here’s some of mine.

In Sec 2. One day, I was returning home from school, an unknown man followed me into the lift and tried to follow me home. He hid at the staircase while waiting for me to open the door. Luckily, I spotted a corner of his sleeve from above the stairs and shouted out to him. That guy got scared and ran away. I stood at my spot for a long time due to shock. Until I was sure that man had gone, I opened the door. When I got in, I was still shaking and I quickly told my mum, who was taking her PM nap. She screamed at me that I was prostitute for bringing unknown man home. I was totally shocked that I couldn’t respond at all.

My mother gambles a lot. Whenever she has free time or if the family cannot find her, she’s out to gamble. Before the casinos, it was on cruises out to high seas. When she loses money, she will find items to sell me. Mostly I refuse, she will curse me for being lousy, useless. “Bo lor yong” (means useless in Hokkien).

When I was getting married, she took out her necklace and asked me to give her $1200 for it. She said that, “You now have a necklace to wear. Our family gave you something. You will not look empty.” In bid to keep peace during my wedding preparations, it was one of the few times I gave her the $. It became her casino funds. She then go about to tell people that the necklace was from her. On the wedding day, she kept repeating, “You have a beautiful necklace for cheap.” I have no idea how much it’s worth but i was too busy and tired to argue.

When I had my baby, I wanted to hire a maid. She threw a fuss that I rather pay a maid than to let her look after my baby. She had been a housewife and she saw it as a job for her to get funds for casino trips. Once I OT and could only reach home nearly 9pm. Upon reaching home, she shouted me at for being late! and left in a huff. 1h later, I got a call from my Dad asking the whereabouts of my mum. It was more than enough time for her to get back. That’s when my dad realised she went to the casino and told me that she has been frequenting MBS since she took on “babysitting job” for my baby.

Just before covid lockdown, she lost a lot of $ at a Genting trip. She took out some ntuc vouchers and demanded me and my hubby that we exchange with her for cash. We refused. She cursed us with many colourful words and how lousy and useless we are.

These are just some. My full list is impossible to list since it started way back in primary school. If you don’t mind, share some of yours. Thanks for reading.

Should I quit my job?

Im a Singaporean who works in a engineering company that specializes in cleanroom applications and have been there for 2 years.

My foreign workers shows me 0 respect and I have difficulties getting them to do tasks.

They often misinterpret my instructions and do things that I dont remember asking for.

I no longer have any motivation to stay in the company and am thinking of leaving to improve my mental health better.

However my boss is a nice guy and would feel bad leaving because it would add on to their workload.

Need advice on whether I should go ahead and tender resignation?

Thanks.

Netizens’ comments

1. Your decision should not be influenced by how your boss or colleagues feel. I hope you can give more thought about yourself as an employee, co-worker, and leader. There must be lessons you can learn from this. Don’t make a move and end up in a similar situation.
2. My own boss ( a nice guy) put it this way:
   ‘If you can find better prospects elsewhere, please go. Don’t let your loyalty to this company stop you. Value your career prospects and your ability to provide for your family first. No hard feelings if you leave. I will even be your character referee.’
3. What does your boss say about your troubles with managing the floor workers? Your boss should set you up for success. If he can’t help you at all with the workers, sounds like he isn’t such a nice boss.
   Also, why do the floor workers not follow your instructions? Do they not understand English? Have you tried learning some words in their language as an intermediary solution? Is there a proper carrot / stick system in your company (your boss should set these things up imo) to reward and penalize workers if necessary? How do other people manage floor workers in other factories?
   I understand the stress but it sounds like you are going through growth pains as a manager! You should take whatever break you need 100%, but if you plan to stay in the industry maybe you could read up more about managing workers before you start your next job, or try to work under a boss that can set you up properly for success!

My (33F) partner (30M) not putting on clothes after showering

My partner (30M) and I (33F) have been together for 3.5 years. We moved in together 3 years ago and it is just the two of us in the house.

I feel that we have passed the honeymoon phase of our relationship. I don’t think intense physical chemistry can be sustained long term in a relationship in the same way it usually is at the start (maybe I’m wrong?).

Anyway, my libido has dropped and I just don’t feel like engaging in intimacy much these days. I have no interest in anyone else, for that matter.

My partner had gotten into the habit of wandering around/sitting around the house without wearing absolutely anything for hours every night after his shower.

After a while, it just got old for me and I requested that he start putting his clothes on after drying off from the shower.

Now he’s really upset and says that I find him repulsive looking and disgusting, that he feels unattractive to me. I reassured him multiple times that this was not the case however he doesn’t believe me and remains salty.

Honestly- I don’t find him unattractive/repulsive at all but I just got sick of him pandering around without clothes all the time. However he enjoys it.

Was I unreasonable in my request?

Netizens’ comments

1. Why does it seem like you are just expecting the both of you to be miserable with no end? You don’t seem to be interested in a solution, just wanting things to not so in-your-face so you dont have to acknowledge it
2. I don’t feel like this is a great fit for two humans. I love being carefree in the privacy of my own home and if my partner didn’t like it idk…
3. I saw a couple on TT giving advice after being married for 30+ years. One of the things they said was “intimacy in bed isn’t everything. But it is a really important thing”