Bf bought me an obiang branded bag from overseas. What should I do?

Bf insisted to spend min 1k on my upcoming anniversary gift because I have gifted him an ipad pro for his bday.

Nearing the anniversary, I have bought him an iphone to replace his 4 year old phone. He was actually quite unhappy upon receiving the present because he once told me he don’t appreciate receiving a phone as present. So I intend to sell it on carousell since I can’t refund the phone that was purchased during Lazada flash sale. My bf decided okay he will use the gift since it’s a gift from me so he broke the seal of the iphone box even though i managed to find an interested iphone buyer but left it unused up til now. In fear that I wouldn’t like his 1k+ gift, he revealed he’s buying a DSLR for me as I can take nice photos if travel overseas. I stopped him from buying. Reason being the current working adult me has no use of a DSLR, and my flagship phone camera is suffice for someone who doesn’t take photography to the next level. I find the bulkiness of the camera more of a hindrance for an amateur.

A few days later, bf went into jb with his friends and asked me if I am cool with getting a branded bag for my anniversary gift since they are headed to JPO. I have zero branded watches/bags, because I believe that scrimping and investing are good for my future. I just thought it’s a good idea to be gifted my first branded, so I gave him the green light. I very much prefer a swissmade watch but since he suggested, I decided to flow along with no objections (additional info – He doesn’t like to be restricted by a wishlist…. And I clearly updated him I wanted watch/necklace/proposal ring from him). I specifically told him no coach/longchamp in order to avoid “auntie” designs. He chose to surprise me with a gucci instead.

I was ecstatic to receive it initially, however…. After unboxing and removing from the dust bag…. The bag looks just like what I’ve imagined a coach bag to look like. When I posed with it in front of the mirror, I couldn’t control my expression and my bf could feel that I was disappointed. The bag doesn’t feel like a luxury bag…. I would pay $150 tops for the bag, but it costs around $2k. He chose the bag based on functionality(i.e. Able to store umbrella and water bottle) rather than aesthetic. Later I went on to google about the bag and JPO, and realised that the design is unlisted on gucci website (any bag pro could tell me what this means? Does it means my bf has bought a fake?) and JPO mainly sell outdated products.

Bf told me if he’s alright with me selling if I can sell it above cost price, but the max the buyer is willing to pay is only 50% of cost. Bf is still heartbroken and unwilling to bring it back to JPO for exchange/refund because it’s very bulky and he said it’s hard to bring across the custom via bus. It’s endearing to see him put effort into choosing my gift, and I’m really guilty of rejecting the gift. If this bag is <$300, i would have willingly kept it as a memento instead of desperately wanting to turn it back to cash.

It’s now sitting at my house gathering dust for the past week. Have been feeling uneasy whenever I see the bag… Probably because I don’t want to use it and a $2k bag that I don’t want to own is now my responsibility. Can anybody advise me what is the next best step?

So I finally crossed paths with my ex at my workplace after 3 years. Since we parted ways I’ve always wondered how I would react to her reappearance again. All I did, quite pathetically, was tapped on her shoulder and uttered a measly “hi”. Even as I walked away, my heart was pounding frantically, as if back to the first time we met after my fateful confession.

She was my first love and every shade the dream girlfriend as a teenager I yearned to have. We were also our class’ model couple, and received heaps of marriage invitations as if everyone expected us to pull it off eventually. We were also inseparable throughout secondary school and JC; she was there through the lowest points in my life, and so was I for hers. But as it turned out, we grew apart and ultimately went our separate ways.

As far as I know, she’s relishing a life of familial bliss now, married and happily raising a son – a future we had once envisioned as a couple. To be honest, I’m just a tad little envious, but mostly happy that she realised her dream. As of me, it has been a rough journey since 3 years ago. The gaping hole that she left behind remains to be filled. There is this girl I met in CCA that caught my attention, but for reasons unbeknownst even to myself I haven’t been able to summon enough courage to even strike up a conversation with her, much less start a new relationship. Once bitten, twice shy, perhaps?

To all budding, first-time couples out there: don’t be afraid to devote your all in a relationship. Even if it doesn’t work out in the end, you would have written a exhilarating chapter in your life – that of first love. There will be countless regrets, and I dare say, they are even inevitable.

But the one thing not matched by subsequent relationships is the naive, innocent and pure romanticisation of love; a signpost you will look back later for guidance as you try to navigate romance in the harsh, real world.

To P, I’m thankful for everything. Really.

It’s been a year since I’ve started working at a hotel. This is my first hotel job. I work at the front desk. I actually wanted to work in the hotel industry, I mean the hotel discounts + talking to different people from different places and occupations.

I genuinely wanted to get into event planning in the hotel industry. It can be a pretty rewarding job.

I work for a good company and I have great managers. However, this shit is fucking tiring. It’s draining. These people go insane when they don’t get a specific floor or when they have to pay for parking or breakfast.

My company says “When you have a passion for helping people, then hospitality is the right job for you”. bullshit because all I am helping are entitled rich people.

Every day I ask myself, “How does anyone last so long in this industry?”. In the past year of my working here, 3 people have quit.

It’s not the company or the job, it’s the PEOPLE. I am so over it. This is an adult daycare. And I don’t get paid that much to deal with these people’s problems.

Boohoo you didn’t get the 5th floor on a sold-out night and you didn’t get housekeeping one day during your 10-day stay. Or they throw a tantrum when I gave them cocktail napkins instead of dining napkins, I DON’T WORK IN FOOD AND BEVERAGE.

Also they just specifically asked for napkins. How am I supposed to know the difference? I just work the front desk, I don’t know everything nor can I solve all your problems.

There are people that are dying in the world! There’s a bloody war going on right now and you’re mad at me because you didn’t get the 5th floor…

Thank you for reading this, I am over this industry. And I am someone who actually wanted to be in this industry.

Now I just want a little office job where I work weekdays and don’t work weekends or holidays. Where I can take little weekend vacations without having to request those days off every time.

Please let me know if there are other positions I should look into besides the hotel/hospitality industry. I am genuinely over it.

In a job for all of 6 weeks — These people are looking for a submissive genius unicorn.

I’m an executive assistant and board liaison. I am person number 4 so far this year in terms of turnover. 15 years of relevant experience and well educated.

There is no formal training in this role. The director answers every question with “you should know that.” And has called me a liar.

When I said Teams (the program we use to communicate across the company) is down and I can’t send something out immediately, she told me I lack accountability, am lazy, and that at week 4 I was no longer new and could no longer use that as an excuse.

Her response to me saying look we need to work together so I will gladly do what it takes to communicate effectively (I’m paraphrasing) was “you’re not doing me a favor, this is your job.” That’s enough for background.

Organizing board meetings is tedious in general but the way they do it here is ridiculous. They’re extremely high strung.

They put a date out there, want you to organize everything at “lightning speed” (their words) — For the date and details to change a literal 4 to 5 times before the event even happens. Why the pretend urgency?

The executive didn’t want to hear anything I said — said I was being combative for literally trying to speak.

Her response was that she didn’t do drama and just needed the work to get done, and that I was expected to dig for information.

Which while valid, isn’t how you manage people. She said “You’re going to have to leave (the role)” and I said “okay” and her response was “Let us wait a few days and we’ll reassess” Like, what?

Not everyone responds well to being spoken to like that. And 6 weeks is not nearly enough time especially if what we’re doing is done quarterly.

Half a year to a year in a new role is normal. If what we’re doing is so sensitive, maybe don’t have a new person involved?

I’ve been a top performer on every team I’ve ever been on so I’m really struggling here. I regret leaving my previous role (as a contractor for really great people) but didn’t have benefits.

I’m trying not to beat myself up. This sh-t right here is why people “don’t want to work anymore”

s it considered rude to stare in Singapore and other parts of South East Asia?

I’m a 28 year old exchange student with caucasian background that has been living in Singapore for two and a half months now and so far I’ve been loving my experience here.

However, there are a couple things that do make me uncomfortable, and one of them is being stared at.

I often get stared at a lot here in public and I thought it may just be because I have blonde hair and blue eyes, which makes me stand out, but many of my exchange student friends experience this as well, some of which also have mixed Asian backgrounds as well.

We thought it may just be something that happens here in Singapore, but when travelling in Malaysia and then in India, the staring only got more intense.

Is staring socially acceptable here in Singapore and other parts of Asia? At first I thought it was an element of curiosity, yet myself and my friends seem to be met with a stand-offish demeanour or sometimes rudeness if we have tried to talk or interact to many Singaporeans in general, which makes it hard to get to know people here, which sometimes makes us think people here might not be as open to getting to know foreigners.

Is this true or can anyone shed some light on something we might be missing here?

Netizens’ comments

1. We don’t talk to strangers in general. The “offstandish” attitude you receive is probably because we find it weird that a stranger is chatting us up. Staring, depends. Not everyone stares but some do.
2. I think you need to separate your experiences.
   Part 1: being stared at.
   – I do think it is out of curiosity or that you’re good looking. You’re gonna get stared at a lot, especially if you’re going to less touristy areas in SEA because locals there may not have much exposure to foreigners.
   Part 2: been met with rudeness when interacting with people
   – I think Asian people generally keep to themselves so they might be caught off-guard when you suddenly initiate a conversation.
   – Language barrier may also be a factor. If they don’t understand you, they might try to escape from the situation by ignoring you/walking away hahaha.
   – it also depends on what you’re talking to them about. If you just randomly approach someone off the streets to ask them about their lives, you might have been the rude one.

Are youth today just plain mentally ill?

I’m pushing 30 but what is it today with Gen Z and Gen Alpha.

First got the axe murderer case, then got Pri 6 kids and younger ppl in my family that scroll TikTok 3 hours throughout the whole weekend family lunch, then got a few people show up at internship interview talking about undiagnosed PTSD, anxiety and gender dysphoria.

Now I kena arrow to be mediator because two of my colleague interns sent each other death threats because of dispute between One Piece and Scooby Doo fandom. I “different race so neutral mah.”

Netizens’ comments

1. So which is better, One Piece or Scooby Doo? I need the answer.
2. It’s partly also thanks to our gen that they became this way. They’re raised by parents who are in their thirties and forties now. So maybe consider the issues behind why our gen are passing down such things to kids that turned out to be like this….
3. My theory is alot of these kids grew up basically orphans. In other mammals we see if we remove older members from the group and leave only youngsters they become more aggresive and leas sociable.
4. Funny that 30 years ago, the 30 and 40 year olds were feeling the same way to the youth in the 90s. Every generation will say the youth of their day are worse than theirs.
   • (OP) In your 20s did you threaten to beat up your coworker and vandalise his door because you liked a different cartoon show?
5. Dunno if it’s higher awareness, or their brains just more fragile.
6. Every generation, cost of living gets more expensive, parents working longer hours and less time to spend on raising children.
7. When you expected to slay Everyday be this and that while dealing with the higher up problems, higher cost, even more problematic people

Being poor takes up so much time. I don’t know how else to quite word this. My wife and I recently had this conversation just a day ago.

I was just venting a bit about how when you have a lack of money, you have to spend so much time researching and strategizing about how to ‘stretch a dollar’.

Looking up on forums like this one for hacks, tips, and whatsnot. Looking up coupons here and there. Walking around town to because a particular item(s) are a few cents cheaper at different locations…just a few examples.

It’s like, I’ve found myself having buyer’s remorse while I’m in line at Valudollar, wondering if I’m making the right purchases at the right time, despite the fact what I have is just a handful of necessary items.

On a better note, I also found quite a few toiletries marked down to just $1 the other day, and I was so excited.

I see some of my friends always going out, taking really cool trips, and yet, this is the poorest I’ve ever been.

Hoping that all of this will be a bit better next year, but sometimes I doubt that too. But, I digress.

I know that even rich people sit down and track their spending; they have to be smart with their money too, after all.

That said, it would be nice to have enough and just go into the store and do some regular shopping and not have that nagging feeling of “I wonder how tight things are gonna be after this?”

Netizens’ comments

1. It is true that to save money you do have to spend time and mental energy. One approach is to simplify your life to a point that you have to make fewer spending decisions. For example, my breakfast and dinner(mostly two meals) are more or less the same everyday with a few tweaks. This makes it easier for me to shop and I have a good sense of where to buy what at good prices. This reduces my expense of mental energy on finding good deals.
   But yes, it would be nice to just walk in to a store and pick up whatever you need. In many ways, I have stopped buying a lot of stuff because things are so expensive these days, and honestly I don’t miss it.
2. Being poor is so expensive
3. I hear you. Sometimes I’d like to just buy a simple item without researching as if it’s a major purchase.

My boyfriend’s private part grew… how?

So my (F23) bf (M28) was a little on the smaller side the first few times we’ve slept together. I never complained, he worked with it well.

It’s been about two months now, and it’s gotten noticeably longer. I’ve seen people say it’s not possible to grow your genitals?

He said he has been exercising the muscle or some shit like that. Theres a specific method he has been using. It seems like it’s working, but I just feel like this goes against everything I’ve read about sizes lol.

Has anyone ever actually done this or seen this happen?

Netizens’ comments

1. Most of our hardness are 90-95%. You witnessing 100% full strength.
2. Weight can affect your length indirectly. Basically there is less fat at the base which exposes more flesh. Solid reason to lose weight.
3. There are pumps that are available in adult shops that help to make it bigger you know.
4. Maybe he’s more comfortable with you in bed, increasing his confidence thus removing any mental blocks and allowing him to enter his final form? sometimes when I’m amped up i am noticeably bigger when I’m hard.
5. Surprised no one seems to mention it, but I assume he is doing kegel exercises. If you do then for a while you can definitely get stronger hard ons, could be the the reason why he feels bigger (but just is more erect)
6. I’m thinking it something else. I had a similar thing happen but it was because I was going to gym more often and running more.
7. Longer but no thicker at all? If that’s the case he’s prob stretching it. If he stopped it would go away
8. Whatever he’s doing love have him sell the method to others. He’ll be a billionaire overnight to be honest