Have girl A and girl B in my life.

Girl A is totally my type. Perfectly shaped figure, fair skin, long hair. I suspect she’s a 32D. Knows how to dress up. Jokes flow freely when I’m with her. She’s quite fit even though she’s not an outdoor person and she’s very confident of herself. Only downside is that she has a princess temper at times but I think it’s just her way of power play as I know she’s falling for me and fear that I don’t feel the same about her.

Girl B is also a nice girl. Very simple minded, eager to please me and always agreeable. I think she’s mild tempered or she doesn’t feel comfortable voicing out. I find myself getting bored at times but it does feel nice to have someone like her and I know she’s a safe choice. Figure wise, she’s alright. She’s more of a homebody, reads a lot. Unlike me as I like to go out. She even called me every morning to make sure I’m not late to start the day. How awesome is this girl? I feel like I’m at home when I’m with her and most of my friends find her dependable too.

Before I get accused for cheating, which I’m not, I made up my mind and focus on only one of them.

YOLO. Bigger breasts rules, I chose girl A. Sorry not sorry.

I don’t understand why some people can be so spoiled and nasty. I will be coming back home after an exchange semester. I am so excited to be seeing my parents and sister after so long. I was telling a fellow exchange student about them coming to the airport to fetch me home.

This fellow exchange student is from a very wealthy family, parents have a car each and she even has her own car. Unfortunately, she knows that I am not so well to do. She went like “your family doesn’t even own a car right, so what’s the point of all of them coming all the way down… *snobbish laughter* just to take mrt back with you?!”

I felt that those words pierced my heart. Even though I know she isn’t exactly little miss tactful but I never expect this sort of hurtful words to come out from someone’s mouth. Things already go her way all the time, the moment she’s born, will it kill her to just be a decent human being…

So why can’t she just be a decent human being and show a little bit of empathy and understanding?

I understand that the world isn’t perfect and that people are different, but it’s not too much to ask for people to be respectful and kind towards one another.

It’s not like I was asking for her hand-me-down car or anything. I just wanted to share my story with her and have her understand.

It’s not like she has to do anything – she could at least pretend to care and not be so spoiled and nasty.

It’s not too much to ask, right?

I guess I just don’t understand why some people can be so selfish and unkind.

It’s not like they don’t have the capacity to be kind and understanding, but they just choose not to be.

It’s really disheartening and I can’t help but feel disappointed in them.

I guess it’s just something that I’ll never understand.

Is it ever acceptable to tell someone they smell?

What happens when a coworker smells so bad? Am I supposed to pull them aside and tell them personally? Or just tolerate it and let my nose get violated?

It’s so bad that even customers have been telling me about it.

I’m talking full on bad hygiene;

1. doesn’t brush her teeth or tongue
2. wears the same exact clothes day in & day out
3. leaves oil stains + black fingerprints on everything she touches
4. comes to work sick; coughs & sneezes everywhere -refuses to take MC or wear a mask & has single-handedly caused everyone in the office to catch her flu on multiple occasions. Including myself.

Nothing to do with a medical condition / monetary issues but it’s just really lacking in personal hygiene.

I genuinely don’t know if it’s too “mean” to tell her or just let her continue being the way she is.

Netizens’ comments

1. Straight away “Eh you smelly la!”
2. Tell your boss and let them deal with it. If customers notice, it becomes a professional issue which management needs to address.
3. Bring it up with your boss regarding the customer issue. Are you friendly with them? If so you could gently bring it up in private conversation..maybe start off by saying you don’t want them to be embarrassed but there have been some customers that mentioned their hygiene situation and you wanted to give them a heads up in case one of them decided mention it to your boss (so that they could fix the issue first before that happens). But yeah if you’re not close to them it’s better to leave it to your boss/HR.
4. how do you know she does not brush her teeth or tongue? but anyway… for me, I won’t say anything and just tolerate. It really isn’t my business… unless it’s someone who’s a friend or more, then perhaps I would say something

My (24M) gf (23F) has been getting more male attention lately, do I have anything to worry about?

We’ve been together for 2 years, she recently had a “glow up” and lost some weight through the gym. She’s been dressing in different clothes and doing her hair and makeup more often.

She used to never wear those type of clothes. I didn’t have an issue with it, I loved her confidence and she was really happy and proud. I’d always compliment her and tell her she looks beautiful.

With the gym, she made some new friends. Again, I encouraged her to be social and make friends. She used to be very shy and had trouble making friends. Her new friends go out a lot, which she never did before. She was a complete homebody.

Now that she’s going out, she’s getting attention, and it makes me really nervous sometimes. She gets excited about it and tells me about it.

Truthfully she’s out of my league now, she always was but it’s very apparent now, and it just makes me worried. I showed a pic of us to a coworker and he thought I was joking when I said she was my girlfriend.

Guys look at her and say things even in front of me, even if she is wearing normal clothes. Like some guy randomly yelled that she’s beautiful yesterday and she was wearing sweats, somehow that’s more annoying than a remark.

We had a fight about it once and I got upset, because her getting excited seems like she wants other guys attention. She said that she never got complimented in the past because she was ugly and now she feels liked.

I just feel like we’re going to end soon and she’ll dump me to find someone better than me.

My longtime boyfriend (33M) says he will never marry me (31F) because “women are shameless”

My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years, and when we first began our relationship he never mentioned that marriage was off the table.

I specifically remember having conversations with him about marriage once our relationship became serious, and he always said that he was “open” to getting married, as long as it wasn’t “rushed”. That was 5 years ago.

In the last year or so, his entire view on marriage has changed. He now says that he has no interest in getting married because “women initiate 80% of divorces” and that “nobody wants to work through the slightest marriage problems” and would rather just “get a quick divorce”.

At the end of his little rant he also said “Nowadays, women are shameless”.

I’m so hurt by this, and marriage was always something that I wanted in my life. My family keeps asking me when we are going to get married since we have been together for almost a decade, but now I have to accept the fact that marriage is never going to happen, and it makes me very sad.

Another strange thing that I have now noticed/realized is how my boyfriend always talks bad about kids being born “out of wedlock” and I have told him that I really want kids, which he said “will happen eventually” but does that mean he’s going to have “out of wedlock” kids with me??

Also, I’m starting to get anxious about my time clock for having kids starting to run out, so I can’t afford him to keep procrastinating and pushing these major life events aside.

He’s my life partner and I still love him more than anyone in my life. I’m just so devastated that I won’t be able to marry the man who I have been deeply in love with for the past 8 years.

Are there any possible solutions to this problem as I see it?

[18M] [18F] My girlfriend keeps eating my eyebrow hair

My 18F girlfriend keeps licking and eating my eyebrow hair. I know, its as weird as it sounds. She has essentially removed all of the hair in my left eyebrow and left my right one looking incredibly patchy.

I have mentioned I didn’t like it and she continued anyways. What should I do?

I really love her, I do not want to break up with her over this. She used to be normal until she joined an “eyebrow eating?????” group

We have been together for 3 years at this point, and I want to spend the rest of my life with her, but I cannot do that if my eyebrows are balding.

Plus, recently she bought a really expensive shampoo because she said it “makes them taste better”? What the f???

This has become her obession, and it’s destroying our relationship. I am worried for her and scared.

Thank you for your help in this awkward situation .

EDIT: For everyone asking I don’t let her she mostly does it when I sleep and since I am a VERY deep sleeper she rarely wakes me up while doing it.

Netizens’ comments

1. What in the world did I just read, tell her to eat her own eyebrows man…
2. Just because someone likes to do something doesn’t mean you allow them to do it. Tell her if she does it you’ll leave. Then if she does it, leave.
3. Shave your eyebrows off and draw them on… But watch out she might head for your “other hairs” instead
4. Sounds like she has trichophagia and doesnt know it. It can lead to hairballs, which can turn into ulcers which can rupture, also causes intestinal obstructions over time. Also it wouldn’t surprise me if she eats her own hair, which is more common. And longer pieces than just eyebrows.
   You can’t control what she does with her own body but you can control what happens with your own. Why are you allowing this to continue? Say no and mean it, and encourage her to get help so she doesn’t hurt herself.

F You Cody

Lazy a-hole. Wasted 8 years of my life to your alcoholic, unemployed, verbally manipulative bulls-t. I’m happy it’s over. I’m happy to be alone again. F. You. Have fun paying your bills without me.

Some people have asked why I stayed so long.

I have a lot of trauma from my childhood and my parents relationship. My mother went through the same thing with my father. I found myself clinging to this man who, personality wise, is exactly the same as my dad.

Subconsciously I was trying to get that love from him that I never got from my dad. I spent years thinking things would change and we would be good. Obviously never happened.

I had a moment of “I can’t do this anymore” and I finally stood up for myself and left.

F YOU CODY

Netizens’ comments

1. Yeah, f you cody
2. Yeah Cody, your mother looks like a hamster and your father wears ugly hats sometimes
3. Just woke up and saw this post. Cody was my childhood dog’s name. I read “lazy a-hole” and I was like yep he was definitely lazy and unemployed then I realized you’re probably not talking about my dog.
4. Everyone has an instance of “Cody” in their life. To all those Codys, I say from the bottom of my heart, “Go f yourself!”
5. Cody is such a pos glad you left him, you already seem happier like a massive weight has been removed
6. Lesson learnt, don’t be a cody in life.
7. I dated a worthless Cody too, that bastard was married and I didn’t know until after we broke up. F all Cody’s!
8. Chill, take yourself into account. No significant rash decisions (minor ones – hell yeah go for it). You might be about to learn who some true friends are.
9. I have to be honest, as a guy named Cody who is not associated I still feel attacked. I apologize on behalf of all Codys worldwide for this guy who gave us a bad name.

Found out that my wife of 12 years was hooking with two other men

Six months ago, my( 36M) now ex wife (37F) of 12 years confessed to me that she had been hooking up with two other men over the past year of our marriage.

We got a divorce because she wanted to be with one of the other men that she has been hooking up with. Our marriage seemed to be going great and we had a pretty good life.

I keep myself in shape and I’m pretty well hung down below, as well as I’d like to think I’m a fairly good looking guy. Fast forward to now and I feel completely defeated in bed.

I don’t know if I wasn’t performing up to her standards or what was wrong because she didn’t really want to talk to me about it.

I feel empty and if I try to get back into relationships and start hooking up again, I feel like I’m going to let other women down.

Have any people experienced this with a marriage and if so, how did you get yourself back into the relationship and bedroom game, even with being older?

Side note: I am not looking to bash my ex wife. I am only looking for comfort and advice in the situation.

Edit: I gave my wife a lot of emotion, romantic, and physical love outside of our bedroom. She always complimented me on that. She never mentioned any areas where I was lacking in that department and I always asked her if there were things I could improve on.

Netizens’ comments

1. I don’t have any great advice, but the first thing you have to understand is that your spouse cheating on you is a HER problem, not a YOU problem.
2. I was f-ing constantly. Three or four times a day. Didn’t matter. She cheated anyway. Some people are just like that. I have a friend who told me his wife was like an AV star in bed. Anything was possible. She never denied him affection. He cheated on her constantly. Some people are just like that. I know you want closure. You’ll never get it. It’s her. Not you!
3. It’s not you, it’s her…don’t drag yourself down.