My girlfriend (28F) broke with me (27M) after 5 years but still want to live and sleep with me

We had a conversation yesterday and she told me about her feeling, she doesn’t love me anymore, no particular reason, it’s gone, it can’t come back, nothing to do, it’s the end.

I was prepared since 2 weeks because she was very distant, so I handle it very well to be honest, far better I expected. I was very sad, but relieved that this nightmare was over, to no longer live with doubt and questioning, that she had found the strength to tell me things and imagine that it soothed her heart too.

But well, things cannot be so simple! She tell me she still want to live with me, she want to be my friend. I said to myself, she’s trying to reassure me that I’m not going to find myself alone overnight.

I didn’t want us to continue living together by default or out of pity or to avoid loneliness.

So I ask her directly, “do you prefer to live alone or with me ?” she said with me, I asked another question “Do you want to live with Luna (her best friend) or with me ?” she said with me.

I found that weird, but it was only the beginning. I wanted to sleep in the living room, and she doesn’t accept it, she come multiple time to speak with me during the night, and finish by sleep with me because she doesn’t want to sleep without me.

And this morning she can’t stop to be tactile with me, and started to cry, and told me she doesn’t understand what is happening in her head because she doesn’t feel the same thing as yesterday.

She asked me “You’re not going to leave are you?”, I said no but… well, maybe yes, I should.

It look like she is regretting very fast…

But I don’t want to have hope for nothing, I don’t know how to behave. It look like she realise what she did and what she lost.

But what is the value of this electric shock? Is it temporary? She says her brain sends her lots of images of what she likes about me and really doesn’t understand what’s going on.

I told her I was really surprised by her reaction, I thought she would be relieved and start to get back to normal.

But I have in front of me someone who wants to continue to live, sleep and have affection with me. That for me it is the very definition of love. That if it’s a lack of intimate desire or something else it can be worked on. I added that it was my definition and that perhaps we did not have the same one.

She said “yet I agree with what you say”.

She continue to cry and show regrets, I told her that I understood, that I’ve known this feeling before, of realizing the importance of things when I lose them, that it didn’t matter, that she had to take the time to reflect and put her mind and ideas in order.

I don’t know what else to do, I just want her to be okay and know what she wants, I love her so much

Please tell me if I did the right thing.

Was in a relationship with my gf – turned fiancé for 3 years (total relationship length including engagement). Planned to get married to her next year. She has been great towards me and all these time I sincerely loved her, and have never hurt her in any serious way, and vice versa.

Last week, she left her phone in my car after we went out for dinner. Took it with me to return it to her. Her phone rang, and it’s a guy’s name, which I didn’t recognize. I decided to pick it up, and before I get to say anything, the guy on the other line starts ranting and crying about her.

The guy is begging for her to come back to him, the guy asked why is he not enough, why did she dump him for “some guy” that she “just met”, what did the “other guy” has that he don’t, etc.

I then spoke, and said I’m her fiancé, to which the guy cried again. I thought it’s just a long time ago kind of ex, but…from his tone, I felt curious, and decided to keep talking to him.

Long story short, my fiancé had been in a relationship with him for 3 years and it was a wonderful relationship, but, this guy has been busy working to get more cash to marry her, and had almost no time to be with her although he consistently text and call her. He was busy thinking about buying a house, car etc. He works two different jobs too just to fulfill her dreams. She then decided to cheat on him with me. Yeah, I’m that “some guy” and “other guy” he was ranting about.

I never knew she cheated on her ex. And her ex sounds like a good guy. I told him that I’ll try to find out more through her.

So next day, met her, asked her, and she admitted it. She said she chose me cause I already have the “whole package”. House, car, money, career, etc. I then ask what about for me? To which she said that she did love me more than my “package”. Then I asked her, what about her ex, he’s also a great guy. She admitted that he is a great guy, but she can’t wait any longer for him. She admitted she doesn’t want to go though the worst with him.

I don’t feel right. If she’s with me for my “package” and not for me, and only waiting for me at the finish line instead of walking beside me, plus, cheated on a good man that has worked really hard for her, my heart says I can’t trust her. I decided to call it off. She was begging and say that her love for me is real. But.. by that time, I have doubts.

Hours later, I called the guy, and told her I ended things with her. And that he shouldn’t bother thinking about her or try to get back with her. She’s not worth it. The guy, said he’ll do his best. We are friends now and we meet up sometimes, although we don’t talk about her.

Now…did I made the right call? Sometimes I felt like, maybe I was too harsh? I mean…I don’t want to be with a cheater. It just seemed like if I had a downfall, she’ll just be looking for someone else.

So yeah…sorry it’s a lil long. Hope those who read this can give me a piece of your thoughts on this. Thank you.

A netizen shared a lengthy letter to his ex-girlfriend, sharing his thoughts about why and how they broke up, and how he still thinks of her.

Here is the story:

“I know its been a few months since we broke up. Sometimes when I see you reshare stuff like TikTok videos such as “You deserve so much better”, “Don’t settle for anything less” types of emotional videos, I get so sad.

I felt like I really gave you my everything. I clear your shopping lists, I plan dates, I occasionally fetch you to & from school, I always bring gifts to your parents and try to impress them. And yet I don’t expect anything from you except emotional love.

I don’t get why you broke up with me because you think I’m childish for buying anime figurines instead of spending money on you.

I keep this hobby/interest private. Only the closest of my friends know about it. I don’t see the problem with it? It doesn’t spill over to my public image/persona.

Heck, if you want to compare dollar to dollar value, I can assure you that I spend way more on you. Maybe, you’re just trying to find a convenient reason to leave me.

But then why repost all those stuff, insinuating to your followers and friends that I didn’t treat you well in the relationship? or am I looking too much into it?

If you’re reading this, I hope you can find your ideal knight swooping in to treat you like the queen you are. I’ll be removing you and moving on with life.”

Editor’s note: Be glad you got rid of her, she’s not worth it.

I love my son to death but he’s a freaking bum that refuses to do anything with his life
He’s a good kid but he’s 25 and has zero motive in life.

He spends any money he gets on games and sits at home on the computer all day

Every time I try to get him a job somewhere he always says he doesn’t want to “make someone else rich”

I try to get him to enroll in school and it’s “school teaches you to work for someone else”

When I ask what he wants to do, he says something business, like entrepreneurship and investments. Yet he doesn’t seem to understand that you need money to invest nor have any other business ideas.

He said his dream is to make money without doing anything because all the YouTubers he watches make it look extremely easy apparently

I’ve even tried so many times to get him to do something like sign on with the army but his answer is always “I’ll die before I sign on”.

I’m not sure why he thinks like this. I feel like the 100s of social media influencers he follows has something to do with it.

I’m not sure what else to do. Can anyone else relate?

my boyfriend tells me that i look good without makeup and it’s starting to really get on my nerves

i know i look good without makeup. i sometimes go makeup-free and i feel just as pretty when i wear makeup.

but i have acne and i only do that when i dont have bulging bumps all over my face. he knows im insecure about that so i think he says this as a way to help, but he says this every single time he sees me with makeup.

he likes to put his hand on my face and wipe it off and i freak out because he’s putting germs on my face and also making my cystic acne show.

i really dont know how to make him stop without being rude. ive told him that i dont like when he does this, but i know he thinks he’s helping so he does it again.

any advice on what to say to him?

Netizens’ comments

This is a “doing bad by trying to be good” thing.

Just be honest with him and tell him how you feel, just don’t do it in a way that might make him feel attacked for his past behavior, as I have an inkling he just doesn’t understand entirely.

Makeup to a man is often shown or advertised as “she’s trying to be beautiful”

It took me quite a few years myself to begin to see it as an accessory, rather than whatever else I saw it as, for lack of a better word.

He appreciates your natural beauty, he just doesn’t know you’re trying to accessorize or compliment that with some makeup.

This is going to sound like the craziest thing ever, but I don’t care. If you want to comment mean things, go right ahead. It’s just more engagement on my post.

Also, I’m not sure if I can post this in the parenting FB group since they’re not human kids.

Anyway, here it is.

Ever since I was a kid, I’ve been buying stuffed animals, and I started taking care of them like my kids until they actually became my kids. They all have their own voices and personalities, and I love them all.

I have no idea how this happened. It’s just been happening and has been a part of my everyday life ever since I could remember. It probably happened as a mixed result from my autism and a stress response from my evil dad.

But now this is my life, and I couldn’t imagine it without my stuffed animal children! Anyway, this was just an introduction. I’ll post more later.

I know not everyone is going to understand or be nice about it but I’m going to continue posting about my kids. Cheers.

This…this blew up. Please continue sharing your stories about your own stuffed animals! We’re all in this together. thank you so much. It makes me so happy to hear about your stuffed animals.

Send me any info you want about them. I’m hanging out with my mom tonight (who is a human btw) but if I don’t update by tomorrow I definitely will tomorrow! There’s so much I want to share!

Here are what netizens think:

My cats love their stuffed animals friends and lay all over them and hug them when they sleep. It’s the happiest part of my life, having my cats and teddies get along. You sound like my cat.

I’m glad to see that there’s a lot more people out here who are the same way. My boyfriend and I went on vacation last May and we found this little dolphin stuffy, it was the cutest thing ever so we got him. It happened pretty quickly where we were making a joke and I said, “Don’t talk to me or my Dolphin Son ever again!” and the name just kind of stuck. I would always refer to him as Dolphin Son and then my boyfriend got into it also.

Blindsided divorce with cheating. I was wondering if you ever had an ex reach out that you thought you would never hear from again.

Found out she was cheating less than one year into our marriage. She was immediately cold and wanted nothing to do with me. Our relationship had no fighting, no abuse. Everything seemed so wonderful. I guess she had communication issues. Im posting this wondering if anyone has ever had an ex reach out years later acknowledging there behavior or even apologizing.

I don’t expect to ever hear from her again as we haven’t spoken since September other than our lawyers finalizing the divorce.

Here are what netizens think:

• Yes! It was an incredible experience – he had been high most of our relationship and emotionally abusive. 15 years after our breakup, he asked if he could talk with me because he had an issue in his current relationship and felt like I would be a sympathetic listener. During the course of our call, he apologized for how he had acted 15 years earlier. I was gobsmacked! I think I shook for 2 days. He passed away a few years later and I’m eternally grateful that we made our peace before he died.

• your ex sounds like a completely different person from the one you married… did she ever apologize and ask to try to make things work for planning that trip to cheat???

• I had a similar situation. Married for 2 years and she up and left me for another guy who was married with kids. She had major communication issues because I thought things were great, she let every little thing bother her and never told me. Honestly I would love an apology from her for not communicating well in our relationship and hurting me as bad as she did but I don’t expect anything. It’s been 7 years since the split. Honestly I’m ok if she never reaches out because the only thing better than an apology is to never hear from her again. Significantly better off without her in my life.

A man shared his story of how he managed to bump into a woman who took his first time when he visited Geylang in his younger years.

To some people, the first time is important but in this day and age, it’s a bit overrated.

Here is the story:

I cannot believe my eyes, earlier today I was at Geylang as my colleague insisted on going there for some beef kway teow.

It’s been 20 years since I came to Geylang as I do not have any business here and often eat near my home on the Westside.

While we were eating, a familiar woman came and sat at the table next to us. Memories start to flow back and I could not believe my eyes.

When I was still a student, my friend brought me to Geylang to drink and I ended up following them to a “chicken house” and I lost my first to the “chicken”.

Time has not been forgiving for her and she looks like the auntie that sells Bar Chor Mee near my house.

I smiled at her and she smiled back, I then asked if she remember me. Obviously, she does not, there must be tons of customers like me.

But to my surprise, she said “Did I give you a red packet before”. I replied: “Yes!”. She laugh and asked how long has it been since I visited her.

I told her “20 years”, she was surprised as I was still able to remember her.

She said that she is no longer working in that “profession” as her age is no longer suitable, she is working as an admin at an office nearby.

Seems like you will never know who does what, as she looks like a regular office lady now.