A female web designer becomes a gold digger after meeting someone very rich. It was during a first date, and she couldn’t help it she blurted out “Oh my God! This is so exciting!” to make it sound like she is enjoying herself in other words angkat.

Here is the story:

Recently I went to a web design company to make a website for my new venture, the person that I was contacting was both a web designer and sales. Which made me feel that this person would know what kind of person could deliver what I want.

The web designer cum sales was a lady dressed like she is going to work in a nightclub. We started a casual chat and she found out that I stay in a bungalow.

The lady’s attitude immediately changed, she started to be super nice to me and feel like a golden spade is growing out of her ***.

After gathering the requirements for the web design she started to ask me if we could meet other times also of work.

This is the time I realised the golden spade has become a 2 storeys high building.

I rejected her and told her maybe after the project was completed, Normally web designs take at least a few months but within two weeks she called me and said that the web design is completed.

After the handover meeting of the project, she tried to ask me out again. So I decided accept her invite. We went for a drink nearby and she started to seduce me by rubbing her legs to mine.

It was obvious at that time because of three points

• I not handsome
• I talk also not funny one
• I got money

I decided to leave halfway during the drinking and told her something urgent happened at home. I asked if she is drunk and she said no. Immediately I told her that “Since you are not drunk, I have settled the bill. See you soon”. I left immediately before she has a chance to respond.

Tim and I met in an English literature class our junior year of college, and we’ve been together the ten years since. While he ended up going into IT, I stayed in the arts track and ended up doing non-profit work after college when I realized I didn’t actually want to be a schoolteacher. Just to say that we always assumed he’d out-earn me by a considerable margin, though when he made more I always insisted we split things evenly to avoid potential resentment down the road.

I’ve had sort of a non-linear career path, but ended up switching to the corporate world. To make a long story short, my arts degree and time doing non-profit work gave me a lot of skills that enable me to really excel professionally in some more niche areas. I recently started a new job as a consultant, making way more than I’d ever anticipated. When I got the offer, I told Tim that the pay was “amazing”, but he didn’t ask about the actual amount and I didn’t want to be braggy about it, especially since I was fairly sure it was above his current income.

Well we just put in an application for a new place, and in the process of having to submit our payslips it’s become obvious that I make roughly 30% more than he does now. I expected him to think that was cool, since he’s a feminist and has always been super supportive of my career. But instead he’s started to make increasingly harsh jabs about how I “cheated the system” to get where I am, that no English lit major makes more than a cyber security professional without cheating somehow.

His major point is that I got my first job out of nepotism, which set me up to “trample” more qualified people who didn’t have the same advantages. It’s true that I got my first post-college job after being referred by a sorority sister, but it was for non-profit work making 22k/yr, not exactly at somebody’s daddy’s firm. He also points out that at my first corporate job, I snagged a big promotion after volunteering to take on starting up the company’s diversity/equity/inclusion program, and I’ll admit that were I a man, it’s highly unlikely I would have been able to be the face of the eventually high-profile diversity program. Tim also notes that I was awarded a small college scholarship for being a “promising female writer”, when no such scholarship existed for males.

But all that said…I still don’t feel like I cheated the system, and it makes me angry to listen to him “joke” about it, especially since I grew up blue-collar and worked fulltime while going to school fulltime to afford my degree. I reached a breaking point yesterday when he made a crack about how the new/first woman on his team is an obvious diversity hire. I told him that his jokes about women cheating the system to get ahead aren’t funny or “guy-talk ribbing” as he says, they make him sound like an insecure little boy. He told me I was being a naïve Karen and we haven’t really talked since

In June, I met a guy we’ll call Chris on Tinder. We met up for dinner and had a great time and got to know each other. He told me he was recently divorced and divulged that the reason was that his wife wanted kids and he didn’t. This was great because I mention being childfree in my profile (I’m 31 so this comes up a lot).

We met up again and ended up seeing each other a couple of times a week and sleeping together for a little over a month before he showed up in my Facebook ‘People You May Know’ and he was very clearly married with a kid and wife. I confronted Chris (and of course ended things) and he begged me not to tell his wife before he could because she’s PREGNANT and he wants to be the one to tell her. I said I’d give him a week.

Within the week, his wife messaged me on Facebook and said he told her what happened, and I gave her the full story. I told her I was sorry he’d betrayed her like this and fooled me, and that I of course never would have started dating a married man. As we were winding down the conversation, she then told me she wanted me to apologize for sleeping with her husband and that she needed that for closure.

For me, this was a record scratch moment. I did nothing wrong here. I had NO IDEA this man was married, let alone had a kid and one on the way. When I found out I confronted him immedaitely, broke up with him immediately, and forced his hand in telling his wife. There is nothing on my conscience here. I was lied to, too. I am not going to apologize because I feel like it’s disrespectful to me to try to make me accept blame.

AITA for not being willing to apologize? I don’t know this woman, and her feelings here don’t have more value than mine do to me. I don’t want to debase myself with the kind of apology she wants, and she’s furious and spamming me with messages because I’m ‘unrepentant.’

We hear these stories from time to time and it can be a bit disturbing, about students who are taking degrees working as hostesses or something “even more”.

Here is the story:

I’m not proud to say this so I will share this story anonymously. I needed some advice as I feel kind of wrong doing this.

I managed to pay for my $20,000+ degree in 2 instalments. My classmates knew that I do not come from a well to do family and they wondered how did I manage to pay for my degree in two instalments.

I often lie to them and tell them that I saved up alot of my earnings but when I go out with them… The way I spend money sometimes gave it away.

The truth is… it started out as an innocent waitressing job and I eventually became a hostess as the money was good. But I got greedy and tired from working as a hostess as I’m often drunk.

Studying for a degree is not easy and there are always endless assignments to submit and the deadline is always tight. While drinking with some customers, I told a few of them of my situation and some of them advised me to stop working as a hostess while some others told me to “tahan”

One of the customers actually offered me a deal, he said that I can quit my job and focus on my degree. I asked him “then how would I pay for my degree?”

He said that the deal was to give me a $2,000 allowance a month to be his “girlfriend”. I asked if he is asking me to be his “SugarB”. He said yes… So I asked what I needed to do, he said

“everything a girlfriend does with her boyfriend”

I was tempted but I rejected him.

Degree soon became a lesser concern

Months went by and the stress from studying was getting higher and higher, I met the same guy at the pub again and somehow this time he convinced me. I feel like a soulless doll when he was using me but the money was good.

After 2 months, I felt that I can earn much more than that and I started to do freelance and eventually MIA from that customer.

Freelancing was earning me even more, within a few months I could not only pay up my degree’s fee but also buy good things for myself. I started to think… even with a degree, I will not come close to earning this kind of money until I’m old.

By the time I’m old, I don’t have the energy to have fun anymore. Now I’m thinking should I finish my degree or just do freelance till I can afford my own property. I am really confused, a bit of me is feeling disgusted with myself. But I can’t say no to money.

I (24m) work for as a security guard at a mental hospital

So it’s a regular day at work and around 10am and I get a call from my girlfriend and she sounded distressed she tells me that she fell at work (luckily didn’t hit her stomach).

I tell my boss Kevin (not his real name btw) that I need to leave to go to the hospital to get her checked in the labour and delivery unit. He gives me the go-ahead and I leave and pick up my girlfriend from work and go to the hospital.

It takes two hours everything said and she’s alright to leave. I drop her off and head back to work, only to be told by my best friend that Kevin had said that I shouldn’t have leftover something so trivial and for some reason said that
“babies die all time from stuff like that”.

Why he would say that I have no effing clue but it pissed me off enough that I didn’t speak to him for the rest of the day.

The next day I hear him going on about me in the office how I’m always calling in sick and making up excuses to get out of work (I have IBS and have called in twice because of it).

I opened the door to the office and lost my temper at him and told him that he should keep people’s lives out of the limelight in the office and not talk about my kid dying so lightly. What I didn’t realize was not only were there 3 other guards besides him and me there was a nursing supervisor. I got two write-ups for the outburst now I’m on a final warning.

I know I should have taken this up with HR but I lost my head and reacted poorly. This was a week ago I’m still mad and equally scared that I’m going to lose my job at this detail over the way I handled it.

I started seeing this girl recently. No idea what her salary is but my best guess is it’s a comfortable amount and around a third of mine.

She is very nice to me and makes me very happy. Not that it matters to me but she is also very submissive and listens to everything I say. She is also incredible in bed.

Here’s the weird part. We’ve been to nice restaurants twice since we started dating and she has never offered to split the bill or even thanked me when I paid. All our other dates have been free of charge activities. Normally most girls will pretend to reach for the wallet on the first date or offer to pay on the second date or offer to get you dessert or movie tickets or something small. Or at the very least express acknowledgement and appreciation. None of that from her.

I don’t expect a girl to split the bill with me but some token form like the examples I listed I think is normal. In the past, I’ve also stopped dating girls if they behave like this past 3 dates. I do like this girl though and so far in all other aspects, she is really good to me.

What do people here think of this situation and the way she is behaving?

Is there also some good way for me to bring this up? I am also concerned bringing it up might ruin the relaxed but fun dynamic between us.