I used to be a die-hard fan of Thai discos in Singapore. Back in the day, these kinds of clubs were the place to be if you wanted to have a good time and meet new people. They were always packed with crowds and the atmosphere was always electric. But now, things have changed.

It seems like Thai discos in Singapore are losing their popularity. The crowds are thinning out and the atmosphere is not as exciting as it used to be. It’s quite sad to see this happening, as these clubs were once the most popular places to hang out.

There could be many reasons why Thai discos are no longer as popular as they used to be. For one, the music and atmosphere of these clubs don’t appeal to the younger generation anymore. The music is mostly old-school and lack the energy and excitement that the younger generation is looking for. It’s also possible that the cost of entry and drinks are too high for young people to afford.

Another reason could be that Singaporeans are now looking for something different. We are always on the lookout for the latest trends and activities, and it’s possible that the Thai disco scene has become a bit stale. We want something new and exciting that can give us a fresh experience.

This is why I think Singapore needs to come up with something new when it comes to nightlife. We need to explore and create new forms of entertainment that can cater to the younger generation. We can look to other countries for ideas or create our own unique nightlife experiences.

For example, why not try a themed club night? A themed club night is a great way to bring people together and have a fun night out. You could choose a theme, such as a movie night, and create an atmosphere that caters to the theme. You could also bring in live bands or DJs to play music that fits the theme.

Another idea is to have a club night that focuses on different kinds of art. You could have art exhibitions, live performances, and workshops. This way, people can explore and experience different kinds of art forms in an exciting environment.

These are just some of the ideas that can be used to create something new in Singapore’s nightlife. There are plenty of other possibilities, so it’s up to us to explore and come up with something new and exciting.

I believe that if we come up with something new and creative, Thai discos in Singapore will be back on the map. We need to keep exploring and pushing the boundaries so that Singapore can remain a vibrant and exciting nightlife destination.

I had met the love of my life in Taiwan, and I couldn’t bear to be away from her for too long. So I decided that I would make the long trip to Taiwan once a month, no matter what it took.

At first, it seemed like a great plan. I was able to see my girlfriend often and still keep my job in the Sg. I would take a few days off each month, hop on a plane, and be with her for a few days.

But as the months went on, I started to realize how much money I was spending. Plane tickets, hotels, food, and other expenses were really adding up, and I was starting to worry about how I was going to keep up with it all. I was already living paycheck to paycheck, and this was just making things worse.

But I kept going. I kept telling myself that it was worth it, that the time I was able to spend with my love was worth it.

Then one day, I got a call from my boss.

He had noticed that I was taking more and more days off, and he wanted to know why. When I told him about my trips to Taiwan, his reaction was less than enthusiastic. He told me that if I kept taking these trips, I would have to find another job.

I was devastated. I knew that I couldn’t keep travelling to Taiwan every month if I wanted to keep my job. But I also knew that I couldn’t bear to be away from my girlfriend for too long. I wanted to be with her, but I also wanted to keep my job.

In the end, I chose my job. I had to make the difficult decision to stop travelling to Taiwan every month. It was one of the hardest decisions I ever made, but it was the right one.

Now, I only get to see my girlfriend every few months. It’s tough, but I know that I made the right decision. I’m doing my best to save up money so that I can visit her more often, and I’m also looking for ways to make more money so that I can afford to travel more often.

It’s been hard, but I’m so glad that I chose my job. It’s allowed me to support myself and my girlfriend, and it’s also allowed me to save up enough money so that I can visit her every few months.

Is it wrong to feel uncertain of my future with my bf because I don’t think he can support me? Before you call me materialistic, please hear me out.

He majors in a field that gets maybe so-so money, and he has no interest in starting up his own business because he doesn’t have the capital and interest. On the other hand, I come from a decent family background whose family always grinded onto me to be my own boss, and I truly do want to start my own business. For one, I find it very unsatisfying to work under someone, so if my business fails, I think I will just be a housewife. Coming from a good family background, I am not used to nor will I accept living in small HDBs located in some ulu areas, so the kind of house I am alright with living in would be expensive in Singapore’s context.

I think if my business doesn’t succeed, we will not be able to live a comfortable life at all. I’m not asking for cars or bungalows, but at least a decent house in a convenient location, and being able to afford a yearly family trip. And I have to admit, I tend to like and buy more branded goods (not super brands like Chanel, but still branded enough to cost more). I feel like if my business does not take off, I have to forgo so many things that I doubt I’ll be in a happy place.

Call me traditional, but honestly I would feel much happier if a man can provide for me rather than me earning all the bacon. So even if my business takes off, I am afraid that our relationship is off-balance and I would feel more like the provider than the one being cared for.

Personality wise, I think my bf is the very easygoing kind, he doesn’t have any expectations of me at all, which I think is one of his strongest points. However, I can’t help but feel that he is too laidback to aim higher in life – he’s the kind who is content with the bare minimum in terms of everything, from clothes, to houses, and of course his gf. He also games a lot, so I’m not too confident of his parenting/’husbanding’ skills as that would leave little time to care for his family if this does on. In contrast, I am the kanchiong kind who is always aiming very high (academics, where I want to live, building my own MNC etc), so I am not sure if we are such a good fit in that sense. Those who says opposite attracts – it’s actually a misconception and people are better off marrying someone with common principles and values.

I know, from all these it’s easy for many of you to criticize me for being materialistic. If liking and buying expensive things is called materialism, then yes I am materialistic. But just… try to put yourself in my position. I have lived my whole life comfortably and been taught to expect the same in the future. My parents for one won’t be pleased if I were to marry someone who can’t provide for me. It’s probably hard for most of you to understand my situation if you guys come from normal family background, so I won’t expect any of you to understand. In fact, I can foresee people would just comment I am too materialistic, which is not wrong.

So in the end, I guess I just wonder if we are ever going to work out or if it’s better off to go our separate ways because the difference in principles and values are just too much? I can honestly say that even if I forgo all those materialistic stuff, I would not feel happy.

Also, I’m wondering how on earth do other married couples work out? I think it’s next to impossible to have only one breadwinner in the household unless he or she is earning over 5K a month or the family lives in some ulu small HDB and live with the bare minimum. And I also wonder what other couples think with regards to their future. Are they okay with living minimally? Will both of you work and leave the kids with a maid/grandparents (seems like the answer is yes)? I think the living costs in Singapore is just ridiculous:(

Is there a link between networking and promotion? I don’t enjoy socialising with my colleagues so I always eat lunch on my own. I think it’s a total waste of time waiting for everyone to get ready and when I eat on my own, I don’t have to accommodate to anyone and can just eat whatever I want. Also I’m just one person, I dont have to wait long before I get a seat and can always skip long queues.

I don’t know if I’m thinking too much but I noticed that everyone in my team has been promoted at least once except for me. I don’t think it’s a performance issue because I’ve always been hitting my KPIs. It’s my eighth year in the dept this year so seniority wise, it should be my turn this year right? But the promotion went to this girl who only joined us last year. I’m not in my boss’ bad books cos when he came back from his overseas trip, he still got me a souvenir but of course I’m not as close to him as my colleagues who go out drinking with him after work.

It’s not that I’m hard up for a promotion but I’m just wondering if I have reached my peak here and should consider jumping ship. Has anyone experienced this before too or am I thinking too much?

Here are what netizens think:

• I believe that there is. As someone who has been in the workforce for more than 15 years, I’ve seen first-hand how networking has helped my colleagues and me to secure job promotions. It’s an essential part of career advancement.

• It’s no secret that networking can open doors, build contacts and create opportunities. But is there a direct link between networking and job promotion?

• It’s about making genuine connections and building relationships. It’s about engaging with people, listening to their stories and learning from their experiences. It’s also about sharing your own experiences and being open to advice.

I never thought that I would find myself in the situation I am in now – married to an insecure wife who keeps wanting to have children as a way to try to control me. It all started out as a seemingly normal relationship. We started dating when we were both in our early twenties and I was completely taken by her. She was beautiful, funny, and we shared so much in common.

My wife is constantly bugging me for a third child. I don’t understand why she’s so insistent on having another one when we already have two naughty boys at home that we can barely handle.

She keeps saying that she wants to try for a daughter and that she’s the one who has to suffer the pains of pregnancy not me so why am I not being supportive about this?

I didnt want to tell her but honestly I feel quite offended. It’s true that as men we don’t go through the pains of childbirth but we also contribute and sacrifice our time in taking care of the child what! I know pregnancy is tough so I try as much as I can to make life easier for my wife by doing more housework and pampering her. I also tired leh who come and pamper me??

Plus another child means another mouth to feed and I have to make sure that my pay alone can support all of us since she won’t be able to work. Now our expenses are already quite high so I don’t know if we can cope with one more. Worse still what if try alr still a son? Then how? Keep on trying ah? Why can’t she just be content with our two boys…

I started to realize that my wife was using the idea of having a child to try and control me. She wanted to be able to keep tabs on me and make sure that I never strayed. It was a way for her to have a sense of control over me and our relationship.

Sign on or out?

Since young, my parents had always emphasised the importance of studying hard so that I can get into a good school and find a good job in the government sector.

In fact, my whole family is in the public service! My dad used to be an army regular but had since retired, and now both my elder brothers took after him and signed on too.

In a few months, I’m going to complete my National Service and my parents have been bugging me to apply for a government scholarship so I won’t be afraid of not being able to secure a job when I graduate. I’m so tempted to do that just so they will stop nagging me about it but the thing is, I can’t imagine myself being bonded to a single organisation for like what, 5-6 years of my life! And I don’t even enjoy serving NS, why would I want to sign on?

I have already thought of what I wanted to do after NS and that is to apply for NAFA and study Fashion Design but I think if I tell them this, they’ll faint. They might even disown me. And it definitely doesn’t help that my snooty cousins are either doctors or lawyers. I can already picture the judgy faces of my aunts and the kind of bullshit that they’ll say to my parents about me.

Should I just lie to my parents that I applied but got rejected by SAF or should I thrash this out with them? Never knew ORD could be such a pain.

Here are what netizens think:

• You want go Nafa ah, 99% all become admin. not doing anything to do with arts.

• Waste money la, my cousin also same thing knn. Waste my uncle money study nafa end up doing some garbage job.

• Garbage collector also earn more

I don’t have a printer at home so I always use the one in the office to print my documents. Of course I use the office paper but at least I’m more automatic than some who don’t even bother replenishing the paper when the printer runs out. I got refill one hor!

I know a few other people who also do the same but that’s not the point! The point is that day when I went to print my stuff, I saw someone left their document behind by accident. When I picked it up to kaypo, I found out that it’s actl my colleagues’s flight details to Bangkok. Just when I was gonna go return it to her, I realised that there was a second paper behind it and it was my boss’ ticket for the same flight.

It’s very weird because from what I remember, my boss is married and I think this colleague is also attached. It can’t be a work trip because our company doesn’t have any partners in Thailand and usually our work trips are to Australia. I don’t think they are secretly siblings either cos their surnames are not even remotely close. They are most definitely not father and daughter cos my boss is only five years older than my colleague and I.

If all the above also doesn’t sound plausible, then confirm stamp chop is go there hanky panky alr lah!! O M G so juicy leh this gossip!

I really feel like booking a ticket to Bangkok too just so I can see them for myself in the flesh. should I anot ah?

34/M here working in the civil service. Recently, my boss has been hinting to me that he has plans to recommend me for an overseas posting and if I were to take it up, I’d have a high chance of being promoted when I return. I’m tempted to be honest but this would mean that I’ll be overseas for the next 3 to 4 years. What about my family?

My wife is doing quite well in her job and it would be unfair for her to quit and move over with me. Although our children are still young, the eldest one would be entering Primary 1 in two more years and we were hoping to school her in Singapore. I’ve briefly mentioned it to my wife and I don’t think she’s very keen on me leaving. I don’t mind not taking this up but I’m afraid that by saying no, I’m jeopardising my future opportunities too.

The thought of taking a posting overseas is exciting and terrifying in equal measure. On the one hand, I’m presented with the opportunity to experience a life-changing adventure, gain invaluable work experience, and potentially receive a promotion upon my return. On the other hand, I will be leaving behind my family, friends, and home. It’s a big decision and I’m trying to weigh all the pros and cons.

I’ve been thinking about the impact this could have on my family life. It’s a huge commitment and I need to be honest with myself and with my family about what it will entail. It’s not just me who will be affected – my wife and children will also have to make sacrifices if I take this opportunity.

I’ve been considering the practicalities of living overseas too. I need to think about the cost of living, the language barrier, the job prospects, the cost of travel to and from home, and the cost of health insurance. It’s a lot to consider and I’m not sure I have all the answers yet.

Should I discuss this more seriously with my wife? Should I stay or should I go?

When I was in school, I always thought that studying hard would allow me to get a good job that pays well in the civil service, whose metal rice bowl would make me the envy of everyone.

Now that I’m actually grown up and living my supposed ‘dream’, I realised that that’s a thing of the past.

We used to think that only the elite can qualify for a metal rice bowl but honestly why would someone with skills and ambition need that? If the company doesn’t value them for what they’re worth, with their capabilities, they can easily go to another company for equal if not more pay. The company should be the one worrying over retaining its people and not the other way round.

However, I have since learned that this is not necessarily the case. While it is true that hard work and dedication can open doors, it is not the only factor in determining one’s success. There are many other variables to consider, such as luck, networking, and even one’s personal relationships.

Networking is also an important factor in finding a good job. It is not just about having the right connections, but also about having the right attitude. You need to be able to build relationships with people in your field and be willing to put yourself out there. Being able to present yourself in a professional manner and having the right attitude can go a long way in helping you secure a job.

So actually the only people who truly need a metal rice bowl aren’t those who can do well but rather those who don’t do well and know that they can’t do better if they are ever asked to leave. And what does this imply? If you’re a civil servant, you’re not as capable as your peers who go corporate. When I realised this, it really made me very sad I spent all my teenage years studying instead of having fun and picking up real skills.

Though hard work and dedication can open doors, I have learned that it is not the only factor in finding success. There are many other variables to consider, such as luck, networking, and even one’s personal relationships. It is important to understand that hard work can only take you so far, and that other factors are necessary to achieve career success.

I was never the most athletic kid, so naturally, my mom was always trying to get me to eat more. I remember her incessantly telling me to “eat more, eat more” as if it was going to magically make me stronger and more active. Little did she know that all of her nagging was actually making me more inactive and, eventually, much heavier than I should have been.

My mom’s guilt trips started when I was in primary school. She would guilt me into eating more by telling me that I should be eating more because of how skinny I was. Then, she would move onto the “you’ll never be strong” angle. That was one of her favorites.

Guilt Trip

For example, I really hate eating fruits but every night after dinner, my mother will cut fruits and force the whole family to eat. There was once I told her I didn’t like to eat fruits, she guilt trip me by saying that I don’t appreciate her efforts and she only ate fruits the whole week to show that nobody wanted to eat and she had to clear everything herself.

Another time I pretended to eat but actually I was holding the same piece of fruit the whole night but somehow she knew and she kept asking me if the fruit is nice. When I said yes, she set aside one whole bowl for me and watched me finish it. It was the longest meal I ever had.

Even though I hate fruits, it’s not like I don’t have vitamins or fibre in my diet cos I can eat vegetables so other than to torture me, I really don’t know why my mother wants to force me to eat fruits.

It wasn’t that I didn’t want to eat; I just didn’t have much of an appetite. But, that didn’t stop my mom from trying to stuff me with food. She would often go out of her way to make what she called “special treats” for me. These were usually unhealthy snacks that were loaded with sugar and fat.

I would try to tell her that I wasn’t hungry, but she just wouldn’t take no for an answer. She would keep pushing and pushing until I caved in and ate whatever she had prepared.

My mom’s guilt trips didn’t end there. She would also constantly nag me about exercising. She would always tell me that I needed to be doing more physical activity, and she would guilt me into going to the gym with her. Of course, when I got there I would just sit on the side and watch her workout.

This went on for years and, as expected, it had a huge impact on my health and weight. I gained more and more weight until I was finally considered “obese” by doctors. I was so embarrassed and ashamed of how I looked that I would avoid going out in public.

I felt like a total loser. I was constantly getting teased at school and I never felt like I fit in with the other kids. I was also miserable because I was stuck in an unhealthy cycle of overeating and not exercising.