I don’t have a printer at home so I always use the one in the office to print my documents. Of course I use the office paper but at least I’m more automatic than some who don’t even bother replenishing the paper when the printer runs out. I got refill one hor!
I know a few other people who also do the same but that’s not the point! The point is that day when I went to print my stuff, I saw someone left their document behind by accident. When I picked it up to kaypo, I found out that it’s actl my colleagues’s flight details to Bangkok. Just when I was gonna go return it to her, I realised that there was a second paper behind it and it was my boss’ ticket for the same flight.
It’s very weird because from what I remember, my boss is married and I think this colleague is also attached. It can’t be a work trip because our company doesn’t have any partners in Thailand and usually our work trips are to Australia. I don’t think they are secretly siblings either cos their surnames are not even remotely close. They are most definitely not father and daughter cos my boss is only five years older than my colleague and I.
If all the above also doesn’t sound plausible, then confirm stamp chop is go there hanky panky alr lah!! O M G so juicy leh this gossip!
I really feel like booking a ticket to Bangkok too just so I can see them for myself in the flesh. should I anot ah?
34/M here working in the civil service. Recently, my boss has been hinting to me that he has plans to recommend me for an overseas posting and if I were to take it up, I’d have a high chance of being promoted when I return. I’m tempted to be honest but this would mean that I’ll be overseas for the next 3 to 4 years. What about my family?
My wife is doing quite well in her job and it would be unfair for her to quit and move over with me. Although our children are still young, the eldest one would be entering Primary 1 in two more years and we were hoping to school her in Singapore. I’ve briefly mentioned it to my wife and I don’t think she’s very keen on me leaving. I don’t mind not taking this up but I’m afraid that by saying no, I’m jeopardising my future opportunities too.
The thought of taking a posting overseas is exciting and terrifying in equal measure. On the one hand, I’m presented with the opportunity to experience a life-changing adventure, gain invaluable work experience, and potentially receive a promotion upon my return. On the other hand, I will be leaving behind my family, friends, and home. It’s a big decision and I’m trying to weigh all the pros and cons.
I’ve been thinking about the impact this could have on my family life. It’s a huge commitment and I need to be honest with myself and with my family about what it will entail. It’s not just me who will be affected – my wife and children will also have to make sacrifices if I take this opportunity.
I’ve been considering the practicalities of living overseas too. I need to think about the cost of living, the language barrier, the job prospects, the cost of travel to and from home, and the cost of health insurance. It’s a lot to consider and I’m not sure I have all the answers yet.
Should I discuss this more seriously with my wife? Should I stay or should I go?
When I was in school, I always thought that studying hard would allow me to get a good job that pays well in the civil service, whose metal rice bowl would make me the envy of everyone.
Now that I’m actually grown up and living my supposed ‘dream’, I realised that that’s a thing of the past.
We used to think that only the elite can qualify for a metal rice bowl but honestly why would someone with skills and ambition need that? If the company doesn’t value them for what they’re worth, with their capabilities, they can easily go to another company for equal if not more pay. The company should be the one worrying over retaining its people and not the other way round.
However, I have since learned that this is not necessarily the case. While it is true that hard work and dedication can open doors, it is not the only factor in determining one’s success. There are many other variables to consider, such as luck, networking, and even one’s personal relationships.
Networking is also an important factor in finding a good job. It is not just about having the right connections, but also about having the right attitude. You need to be able to build relationships with people in your field and be willing to put yourself out there. Being able to present yourself in a professional manner and having the right attitude can go a long way in helping you secure a job.
So actually the only people who truly need a metal rice bowl aren’t those who can do well but rather those who don’t do well and know that they can’t do better if they are ever asked to leave. And what does this imply? If you’re a civil servant, you’re not as capable as your peers who go corporate. When I realised this, it really made me very sad I spent all my teenage years studying instead of having fun and picking up real skills.
Though hard work and dedication can open doors, I have learned that it is not the only factor in finding success. There are many other variables to consider, such as luck, networking, and even one’s personal relationships. It is important to understand that hard work can only take you so far, and that other factors are necessary to achieve career success.
I was never the most athletic kid, so naturally, my mom was always trying to get me to eat more. I remember her incessantly telling me to “eat more, eat more” as if it was going to magically make me stronger and more active. Little did she know that all of her nagging was actually making me more inactive and, eventually, much heavier than I should have been.
My mom’s guilt trips started when I was in primary school. She would guilt me into eating more by telling me that I should be eating more because of how skinny I was. Then, she would move onto the “you’ll never be strong” angle. That was one of her favorites.
Guilt Trip
For example, I really hate eating fruits but every night after dinner, my mother will cut fruits and force the whole family to eat. There was once I told her I didn’t like to eat fruits, she guilt trip me by saying that I don’t appreciate her efforts and she only ate fruits the whole week to show that nobody wanted to eat and she had to clear everything herself.
Another time I pretended to eat but actually I was holding the same piece of fruit the whole night but somehow she knew and she kept asking me if the fruit is nice. When I said yes, she set aside one whole bowl for me and watched me finish it. It was the longest meal I ever had.
Even though I hate fruits, it’s not like I don’t have vitamins or fibre in my diet cos I can eat vegetables so other than to torture me, I really don’t know why my mother wants to force me to eat fruits.
It wasn’t that I didn’t want to eat; I just didn’t have much of an appetite. But, that didn’t stop my mom from trying to stuff me with food. She would often go out of her way to make what she called “special treats” for me. These were usually unhealthy snacks that were loaded with sugar and fat.
I would try to tell her that I wasn’t hungry, but she just wouldn’t take no for an answer. She would keep pushing and pushing until I caved in and ate whatever she had prepared.
My mom’s guilt trips didn’t end there. She would also constantly nag me about exercising. She would always tell me that I needed to be doing more physical activity, and she would guilt me into going to the gym with her. Of course, when I got there I would just sit on the side and watch her workout.
This went on for years and, as expected, it had a huge impact on my health and weight. I gained more and more weight until I was finally considered “obese” by doctors. I was so embarrassed and ashamed of how I looked that I would avoid going out in public.
I felt like a total loser. I was constantly getting teased at school and I never felt like I fit in with the other kids. I was also miserable because I was stuck in an unhealthy cycle of overeating and not exercising.
In a recent Facebook complaint that has garnered attention online, a customer expressed frustration and disappointment over an incident that occurred at the Ya Kun Kaya Toast outlet located at City Square.
According to the customer’s account, she patiently waited for a table until an individual vacated one. Seizing the opportunity, the customer promptly occupied the empty seat, planning to join the queue after to buy her food.
However, the Ya Kun cashier then insisted that she give up the table. The cashier’s reasoning was that the table was reserved for the next person in the queue who was placing an order.
Perplexed by this request, the customer sought clarification, questioning why she were being asked to surrender their seat when Ya Kun’s own policy, displayed on a prominent sign at the cashier counter, instructed customers to find a seat first and then proceed to the queue for ordering.
The customer assumed that those in the queue already had a table assigned to them, or if they didn’t, they should secure one before joining the queue.
However, despite pointing out the sign to the cashier, the situation did not improve. Instead, the cashier persistently maintained their stance, even as another staff member involved in coffee preparation joined in and proceeded to shout at the customer, suggesting that she should leave if she wasn’t going to consume any food or beverage.
The incident left the customer shocked and deeply upset, feeling that she were treated unfairly by the Ya Kun staff members who not only disregarded her efforts to adhere to the restaurant’s rules but also handled the situation with rudeness and unnecessary aggression.
The customer concluded her complaint by expressing her strong dissatisfaction with the staff’s behavior, vowing never to patronize Ya Kun Kaya Toast again.
Here is what she said
I was at Ya Kun Kaya Toast at City Square outlet. I waited around for a table, and a customer got up.. and I sat down.
But suddenly.. the Ya Kun cashier told me to get off the table, as it is meant for the person in the queue who is ordering. I asked the cashier why must I give up my seat? I was merely following the “rules” set by Ya Kun itself.
A big sign placed at the cashier counter, that says, find a seat first, then queue and order.
I presumed those in the queue and ordering already had a table. If they didn’t, they should get a table first?
The cashier staff was very rude and insisted that I give up my table, so i showed him the sign they put up. Still.. the cashier insisted that I was wrong. Then another staff who was preparing the coffee.. shouted at me, asking me to leave if I am not drinking.
I was shocked and very upset with all that had happened. The staffs dealt with this unfairly, and they didn’t have to shout. I was just showing them, I was following the rules.
How do I (29 M) tell my GF (27 F) she is bad with money?
So we are together for more than 4 years, and during all that time my GF is making significantly less money than me (like, for a long time it was half the money I make).
And I’m not even making that much, maybe an average pay. Because of this for these past years I wasn’t really able to be financially stable, so to say, because it was always like “please buy me a coffee” or “please give me gas money” or “please give me 10$ for something”.
for a long time I also had to carry a bigger part of food spendings (we live together), so every month I’m down to square one, with almost no savings and nothing even bought for myself. I don’t really need lots of stuff, but damn, I want to treat myself once in a while.
With time I developed a system for us to spend only a fixed amount of money on groceries and it was really working. So I am more or less aware of my incomes and spendings, but still she was regularly asking for money here and there.
Recently she got a good new job which pays more (still less than I make but with short term prospects of making more than me), and I was kind of relieved,
I managed to save up some money in the past few months and I was planning to buy some nice things for myself and for the new apartment that we are moving into.
But here comes the moving day (right in the beginning of a new month so she got her paycheck like 1-2 weeks ago) and she says she has no money again, so I had to pay almost my full monthly pay for the rent, advance and all that crap.
Keep in mind, we were talking about moving and actively looking for an apartment for a month minimum, so she was aware that we were going to move and pay that much money at once. So now she owes me half of her paycheck as well, so next month she’s gonna be broke again. So the cycle continues.
That said, she never holds back in spending money not even for herself, but for everyone else. Like, we are going for a dinner to my parents, she buys candy for the kids, wine for mom, groceries to cook something for them. Sometimes she even buys something for me, something I don’t necessarily need.
Every time I start even a remote conversation about the money and spending, not even insinuating that she is broke again and I have to carry us through with rent and etc, she just gets pissed at me and says something like “you always tell me how stupid I am with my money”.
We had one of these conversations yesterday and it was the same thing. After all these years she says that she tries to keep it together with her spendings, but for the love of god I can’t see it.
Fuck man, I’m really close to breaking up with her just over this, I love her, but I want to buy things for myself and just feel stable once for 4 years of this and not grab money from my savings account (which is miserable as is) just to get by.
I am getting complaints from my colleagues and boss that the interns are not responsive. Despite my repeated reminders and even going to the school’s internship office, the situation is not improving. They are on 10 week internship ending in mid July.
From time to time, the interns take long lunch breaks (2-3 hours) during working hours. My startup has a relaxed culture where we WFH 1-2 days a week. Despite this, the interns take long lunch breaks when they are in office. This is a very blatant misuse of the trust given.
The interns are slow to respond on whatsapp and do not acknowledge when work is assigned to them. This makes coordination difficult as they do not seem to value work as being important. They have ignored work assigned to them by my boss and other department heads until I had to call them.
The interns expect the supervisors and other company staff to match their timings. The interns seem to think we are their lecturers or school teachers and we must meet their expectations. They were late for an event and expected me and my colleague to wait for them.
Seeing that the interns were late and there was a long queue. Me and my colleague wanted to have an early lunch at HDL and didn’t mind treating the interns but the interns refused and made us go back to attend to them.
My colleague felt very offended and felt that the interns did not have respect for us. They have also forced me to give them an off on 29 May as it was results release day and threatened that they would not be in the mood to work.
Despite me telling off the interns on their work attitude, they have threatened me and told me to tell their school to release them early for internship if I am so unhappy. When I emailed the school, the school said they are interns and expect me to give more guidance and be understanding.
At this point, I feel more like a nanny and lecturer. Should I just fire these interns and get banned from the school or leave the interns to finish their internship.
Hi, So my wife has just got a job not long ago as a publishing house editor. She has been working on every weekend for like up to 3 weeks plus. Now her employer says because she earned more than 2600 a month she’s not entitled to OT or anything.
Is this even legal? My wife says her company quoted MOM saying that shes not covered under part IV of Employment Act.
I would like to ask for advice if anyone has any.
Edit: The main point of this post is really to see if this is a common practice in Singapore. And unfortunately I guess it is… I can only imagine how many people are being worked to death just to earn what they rightfully deserve. And they probably deserve even more.
So here is the thing, there are deadlines to meet and her company deals with government projects so I guess it is pretty intense.
Her boss asks her to work on weekend because almost every Friday the ministry will send in one last round of feedback when the deadline is on Monday. And in order to fix those comments from the client, as an editor she has to consolidate the comments and then instruct various designers, artists and the authors to make the changes and then consolidate those changes to submit on Monday.
She is a very capable and meticulous woman and she seldom fails to deliver. But I guess in this case there is really not much she can mange “better” so that she can avoid being so last minute. It is just not up to her.
Netizens’ comments
If i’m her and i don’t absolutely need this job i’ll quit instantly, not worth trying to last one year for your resume to look clean, by the time her mental health is damaged it won’t be worth it. Also mom has a limit on OT hours worked per month on phone can’t quote properly but see below. Maximum hours of overtime An employee can only work up to 72 overtime hours in a month.
Is she forced to go to work on weekends? Or are there deadlines to meet that are especially intense this time of the year? Or is it because she is new at this job and she isn’t editing as fast as the employer thinks she should be, and therefore she needs to catch up on the weekend? Not entitled to OT is correct. She’s an executive, and working extra hard to meet deadlines is legal. The question is whether your wife wants to keep the job or not. She’s not going to get more money for sure.
PMETs have very few protections under the law here. Unless it’s in the contract, there’s no paid OT. You can find out more on the MOM website. Check her contract too. coverage of part iv https://www.mom.gov.sg/employment-practices/employment-act/who-is-covered Editors are usually tertiary educated professionals I think. Rough luck, she should check what her notice period is and see if she can find a better job elsewhere.
Well, I’m currently in poly and my mom is… picky with jobs. She wants a job that’s close (30min and below,) short shifts, less working days, and doesnt want to do fnb/be a nanny. I have tried again and again to nudge her in getting a job first, because shes been looking for her ideal job for 3-4 months? And my parents are divorced, and my dad only gives her 1000 a month for alimony (joint custody). So we’re kinda just scraping by (we don’t need to pay rent, have our own flat and its fully repaid).
I’ve tried to convince her and ask her to lower her standards, and everytime she says “你当儿子的教妈妈怎么做人？” idk how to translate but it basically means “why are you teaching me about life as a son?” We always get into an argument when we talk about it, so I just avoid the topic nowadays. The thing is however, we can really use the money (miracle we survive with 1k on two people), and she also has no savings to speak of, so shes banking on me to support her in her golden years.
And its not like she’s spending the time productively. She also doesnt go out much and lives a sedentary lifestyle, watching tiktok lives and scrolling facebook everyday. At least if she was caring for her health I’d be less concerned. Shes a housewife, but honestly theres not a lot to do around the house. I do my own laundry and wash my own dishes, clean up after myself, and I’m the only child, so apart from some basic cleaning theres not a ton to do.
Idk what to do with her or how to convince her. She has the FastJobs app installed, so its not like she doesnt know how to look. Shes just very selective. Does any korkor or zehzeh here have any advice? Please help out
I’m going away in a couple months for a birthday trip, we’re going to Europe so it makes sense to go for a good 7-9 days.
My boss denied my leave application and said I can only go 5 business days because it is unfair to my other co-workers.
I don’t understand how two days makes a difference, I also asked everyone else in my office and no one has an issue or is taking time off at that time.
I also made a point that we are fully staffed and that I’m going at a time that it’s actually very slow in the office as it was also slow last year.
My boss threw a whole fit and said that it’s unfair to everyone else for me to take so many days off. I said I don’t get how that matters as plenty of people have gone on vacation and a lot of people in the office have gone away at the same time.
I can’t afford to quit right now so until then I’ll just look for any small job and take whatever, if not I will not be going back there after that trip.
I work 40 hours a week how is a week and some change going to affect the job? These companies are ridiculous.
Netizens’ comments
Job hopper raise, job hopper problem solving, job hopper vacation! If they didn’t want you using this solution then there would be another solution.
You’re not ASKING for vacation, you’ve giving NOTICE that you’re taking vacation. Don’t let your boss BOSS you around. Stand your ground. I have NEVER been denied a vacation request.
“Hi boss, I wish I could say I get where you’re coming from, but unfortunately I really don’t. It doesn’t really matter though, because my time belongs to me until and unless I choose to sell it to you for a wage. My time on those days is not for sale. I’m giving you notice so that you can plan around it.”
