My 28 y.o wife and I (30) have been married for about a year now. Except for a few hiccups here and there, we’ve had a very smooth relationship. We support each other and even spend a lot of time doing household chores together.

However, there’s a quirk of hers that I find very annoying. She’s very susceptible to catching a cold and she has a runny nose most of the times she has a cold. And she has this dirty habit of blowing her nose loudly into a napkin wherever she is; even when I’m sitting right beside her and having dinner. I try very hard to act like it’s nothing, but within, I feel disgusted and nauseated.

Yesterday, when she did that, we were having dinner and it almost made me retch. She noticed and asked me if everything was okay. I couldn’t hold it in anymore and I told her that I found this habit of hers repulsive. I told her that she should’ve excused herself and gone to the bathroom. I put it across as delicately as possible, but she still got upset and said that it was “acceptable” to do that and that I shouldn’t fuss over what was simply “a bodily function.” This defensive attitude of hers irked me and I said, perhaps in a somewhat curt tone, that it was impolite and inconsiderate of her to do this in front of others, and that, as a woman, she should be more graceful and polished in her manners. When I said that, she simply stopped eating her meal and went away to the bedroom.

She’s been giving me the silent treatment since then and totally ignoring me. I’m not sure, but I think I might have heard her sobbing when I went to bed in the night. Even today morning, she didn’t eat the breakfast I’d made for her and had cereal instead. I tried to apologize but she pretended like I wasn’t even there. I kind of feel bad for her now. It’s “that” time of the month for her and she gets quite touchy and sensitive during that time. I think I might have been a tad bit harsh with her.

Here is what netizens think:

• What does her being a woman have to do with any of this? 

• When I read that, I still had the hopes that it was mentioned because they actually did it together. Like, a fun couples thing. Then, when the nose blowy thing started I still thought it could go two ways, if you really hate the sound or something you can discuss that.

• He’s so wonderful doing the womanly chores with her. Next time she needs to blow her nose she should wipe it on his sleeve. Show him what disgusting actually looks like

• Seriously, it was almost, almost understandable for him to feel grossed out

• My husband has this same reaction to blowing noses – he can’t even blow his own if he’s congested. And unfortunately I have allergies and constantly congested sinuses. And we compromise. Sometimes I step away, or try to be quiet and other times he just plugs his ears.

I eavesdropped on a group of girls at Sukiya. One broke up with a Doctor because the Dr ex-boyfriend told her that he may have to sleep in the hospital a few times every month while working there.

The girl told her girlfriends that she didnt want an absent father, thus she broke up with him.

WTF sinkie girls so naive one ar? as if doctor will not progress and forever be a houseman at a hospital working long hours?? how stupiak siol.

Then they also discussed about the proposal ring, must be how much then they accept. they said it must be something they struggle to get, must be several months of salary for the ring then they accept it. one bunch of stupiak GCP LOL.

my girlfriend also eavesdropped and said they most probably havent even come out and work, coz they were saying about their family buying air tickets for them to travel.

Looks like they are undergrad students, yet so naive…

Netizens’ comments

1. Sounds like the doctor dodged a bullet
2. Bunch of gold diggers
3. not all doctors are rich, some GPs make ok profit every month, high cost rentals, medicine, manpower, insurance etc, medical groups + government public hospitals doctors are slightly better, most money the doctors have to specialised in certain fields, even specific fields varies, example neurosurgeon command higher fees than urology etc
4. very likely these will be the same ppl who will remain single for the rest of their lives too. just ignore.
5. I overheard such bimbotic convo before, made me lost faith in sinkie women for 2 days
6. Hmm like you said, those might be undergraduate, still students.
7. Too young too naive!
8. Hahaha those girls are probably too naive to realize.. Consultants do their calls out of hospital..tahan HO, MO and reg, then consultant is stay home calls liao. Uhm… Not too smart those girls.
9. Your girlfriend agreed with them the proposal ring must be few months of your salary? How come you tell your girlfriend your salary?

Does my wife just like attention … or is it more?

My wife and I have been married for 26 years and while our bedroom activities doesn’t sizzle like it did in the early days, we still have a great time together and we’re very happy.

I have suggested to her over the past 10-12 years that I would love to watch her in action with other men, but she always responds by saying, “you don’t really want that” or “you could’t handle seeing me do that.”

She’s a lot of fun, but is also really striving to maintain the perfect wife/mom image.

That said, it is very obvious to me that she loves attention — especially from younger men. I think it probably reminds her of her younger days when guys were constantly hitting on her.

I have also noticed that on some nights when she gets a lot of attention and flirts, when we f later that night it is incredible. I mean, she is so ready for it that almost zero foreplay is necessary.

How should I read the situation? Just innocent fun or is she perhaps open to being shared?

Netizens’ comments

1. Wife receives compliment
   Wife feels good
   This isn’t rocket science my guy, she told you no at least a couple times. Just because you have a cuckold fantasy doesn’t mean she needs to participate in it when she very obviously does not want to. This is just you thinking with the lower head.
2. No need to jump in both feet first with non monogamy. You could try out being “monogsmish” and see how it fits. Google the term and lots will come up.
3. Don’t share your wife
4. Just because your wife likes the attention from other men when she’s out and it’s making her wet for later on when you are back home doesn’t mean that she definitely wants to sleep with those men infront of you. You should talk about it and find out what she actually wants and likes.
5. Do you even know your wife.

My head is all over the place right now so I apologise in advance if this doesn’t make a lot of sense.

I was engaged 6 years ago. We were living together but one day I went home to find all of his belongings gone and a note saying he was sorry and that he loved me so he was setting me free. I tried contacting him but he had blocked me on everything, I tried contacting his family and friends but everybody refused to tell me where he was or if they had even been in touch with him to make sure he was okay. It was the worst time of my life and it took me 2 years to feel like a semi-functional human being again.

Yesterday my dad told me we would have a guest for dinner so I should dress up nicely (I live with them now and have for the past 6 years). This isn’t unusual since my dad sometimes invites his associates/clients for dinner.

The guest was my ex. I was completely blindsided because I never expected to see him again and my dad absolutely hated him back when we were engaged (enough to disown me unless I broke up with him) so it made no sense that he would be inviting him for dinner. The longer he was there, the more it started making sense. My ex has changed a lot, now he’s the type of person my dad would respect and it was obvious my dad liked the new him a lot.

I tried really hard not to cause a scene but half-way through dinner I just lost it. I was crying a lot and demanding to know why he was here. My dad suggested the two of us talk privately so we went into another room.

The conversation we had was long but the short version is he left because he felt guilty for making me choose between him or my family and he could see I was unhappy that they had cut me off. He wants a second chance now that he’s back because he thinks things will be different now.

I don’t know what to do. Part of me has never stopped loving him but a huge part of me is scared to get hurt again. He is also so different now and I don’t know if things would be the same between us. I also know my dad was a big reason he left me in the first place, which I always suspected but it hurts having it confirmed.

Any advice?

So, my girlfriend of 2 years cheated on me with my very own of a best friend.

I was part of a local band that did gigs for bars and coffee shops around town. And during those times, my ex (who was my girlfriend then) joined us from time to time on both the gigs and even rehearsals/practices and needless to say, she got close to all my other band mates including my former best friend who was also in the band. By then, I started noticing how she would constantly get close to my best friend by being flirty with him in front of me. Needless to say, I became jealous. So, I did what any good boyfriend would do, and talk to her nicely about her behavior. But, she blew me off, and even had the audacity to scream at me and say that I was being too “un-trusting.” So, I decided to let it slide, since I knew she was a very touchy person to everyone.

But after a while, she started spending too much time on her phone, laughing and smiling all the while. And my best friend would start missing rehearsals for our gigs. It was unusual of him since he was a pretty dedicated guy when it came to our band. And each time he misses a session, my ex would be away as well. I started getting suspicious after seeing signs of cheating from her. I didn’t want to suspect her nor my best friend having an affair, but there are so many things pointing to it.

So, I decided to take action. I wanted to find out the truth. So, I secretly took her phone and checked her DMs in Instagram and Facebook. Lo and behold, there it is. The conversation between her and my best friend ranged from flirty to raunchy. Needless to say, I was fuming. I decided to take a picture of the DMs as proof of her infidelity.

So, out of the blue, I decided to do something for our upcoming 2nd anniversary. We had a gig on the day of the anniversary so I told her that she could come with us after the gig to celebrate. During rehearsals, I told the band that I would like to sing a few solo songs for my girlfriend during the gig. They agreed to it, and that includes the GUY she was cheating with.

He even wished us a happy anniversary. All the while, I was resisting the urge to bash his head with my guitar. Little did they know, I was planning to sing a few original songs about cheating to see how she would react.

The day came and we did the gig. We finished up all our setlist, and that was the moment for my small bit for her. While on the mic, I announced to the crowd in the bar that it was our anniversary, and people cheered with congratulations. I pretty much “thanked” her for the 2 years she’s been with me and all that jazz. She was even beaming at me as if she knew nothing about what she’s done. So, I started singing one of the original songs I wrote for her. As expected, her smile turned to a frown slowly as she realized that I wrote these songs for her. She then stood up in the middle of one of my songs fuming in anger. She came in front of me screaming her head off. Pretty much expected of her reaction. I told her that I knew what she was doing with my best friend and asked her why did she do that. She kept denying it, until I pulled out my phone and showed her the conversation she’s been having with him. She became silent in front of the crowd. I pulled up the mic and announced to everyone, “Thanks for the two years, B. This is goodbye.”

After more than 3 years has passed since that incident, many things have happened. Me, kicking her out of our place, ending my friendship with the so called “best friend”, and sadly the disbandment of our group to pursue other things. But, hey!

Single life is happy, and I’m still doing some music. But it’s just more of a hobby. Looking back, I can never understand why cheaters do this.

I’m 31 this year and my gf is 25, we have been dating for about 2 years.

My GF has beautiful hair that seems a lot more low maintenance than most women I know. She doesn’t use all a hundred different hair products, nor does she blow dry it. It honestly doesn’t take her long to style her hair or anything. However, she always insist on using this special towel to dry her hair.

She insists that she can’t use any regular towel for her hair. She gets mad if I use her hair towel as a regular towel too. She says that the towel should only be used for hair. She even bought an extra one of these towels that she keeps in her drawer at my place. She also takes the towel with her when she goes on vacation.

I usually don’t mind it, since the towel doesn’t take up much space, and it better than listening to a hair dryer all the time. But it’s a bit weird because I don’t know anyone else who has a towel just for their hair.

When we were clearing our leave, we decided to go a staycation. Before the trip, I asked my GF to leave her towel at home since we’ll be staying at a hotel. It would seem weird to be a towel to a hotel where there is already plenty of towels.

Since we planned to leave early in the morning, GF spent the night at my place. I noticed that she packed the towel she kept at my place in her suitcase. When she was asleep, I took the towel out. She didn’t notice the towel was gone until after we got to my parent’s house.

I thought it was okay, and my GF didn’t seem mad at all during the whole trip. However, when we got back at my place, my GF got into her car and drove off without saying goodbye. She texted me later saying she’s mad at me because of that stupid towel and she needs some space. I keep calling and texting her, but she won’t respond.

My friends think she’s being overly dramatic, but my GF isn’t that type of person. Now I’m wondering if I messed up.

Here are what netizens think:

• 100% it’s about him not seeing her as an equal. Even if there is no real reason for her to need a special towel besides that she likes it, his behavior is breakup worthy to me. If he’ll do this over a towel that he thinks she doesn’t need, what else will he take away from her?

• there seem to be a lot of posts on here about men undermining women because of their hair routine, especially curly haired women with a different routine. It’s so gross. Different hair has different maintenance needs.