I’ve been dating my gf for a year. Before we got together, she gave me the impression she was a person who loves to exercise, eat well, and take great care of herself. She doesn’t drink or smoke.

Doesn’t eat junk or processed food too. She moved into my place 4 months ago and I find she doesn’t seem to be what she says she is.

She fills the kitchen with chips and chocolates. She orders Korean alcoholic drinks in cartons and has more than a can every night.

The freezer is full of frozen fried food, sweet drinks, snacks and ice cream. She tells me when it’s that time of the month she will have craving for these kinds of food. I can accept it but that time of the month can’t possibly be every day? She’s snacking and drinking every day while watching k drama. Then she will have a craving to have Korean instant noodles as supper at the same time.

She used to be dressier in the beginning and would deck out in colours that suited her, but now she wears full-on black every day and it really doesn’t sit well in my eyes.

It’s like she’s ready to go to a funeral anytime. I’m a visual person and I also make effort to look good for her. I still go for regular haircuts and I still cycle and lift weights. I brush my teeth before I kiss her but she doesn’t. She doesn’t bother about her appearance anymore and I’ve not seen her exercise for months. I find myself getting increasingly frustrated at home while I’m with her.

I still love her but I find that she’s very different from when we started to date.

Is this what it’s like living together? I haven’t even talked about chores. There are some chores that she refuses to do and she said it’s my place after all, so I’ll have to be the one to do it. I think I’m covering 80% chores while she’s only keen in doing 20%.

She has the habit of leaving washed underwear in the toilet and I would have to be the one to take it out to hang because she would forget and ask me to do it instead. There are many other instances that she would forget to do something and I would be the one finishing the chore. I cannot imagine doing this long-term.

When I try to talk about it she would get upset and binge snack and drink. I’m not even arguing with her. It’s just talking in a calm tone.

Is that time of the month that bad that it becomes close to almost every day? Or she’s not what I think she is? How can I improve the situation?

Here are what netizens think:

• It’s your place anyway…as she said, then kick her out of your place. I would reconsider whether this is the kind of person to fall in love and be with. Seem the compatibility is very low now. If one has to change from what she said, it should be for better not worse. I’m not you, but I can’t tolerate with this kind of behavior and I don’t think she would be a good mother for my kids at the end.

• You two are a big mismatch! It’s sad to see she doesn’t love herself much, and not taking care of her fitness. Likely this is true herself, which you can’t change much. Just leave her. Breaking up this toxic relationship is beneficial for both you and her. She’ll find someone who’s as messy as her.

• LOL after dating for only a year and she’s completely let herself go already. DUMP HER

I’ve been together with my boyfriend for 3 years. Last year he graduated and found a job that pays him $3.5k a month. To be honest I was shocked that his salary is quite low. Because some of my friends and cousins are earning much higher than him. I often encouraged him to find a better job. I also asked him to take up some courses to improve his chances. He already took up a few courses but he still couldn’t find a better job.

Recently, I was bored and downloaded a dating app for fun. Surprisingly, I matched with a lot of guys who seem quite eligible. I even matched with a lawyer and an investment associate. I have been chatting with the investment associate for two weeks now. He would text me only a few times a day because he’s a very busy guy. Yesterday was his birthday so he told me he celebrated his birthday with his family at home.

After his birthday celebration, he suddenly said he wants to see me. At around 3am, he snuck out of his house and drove to my house to see me. I went down to the carpark to meet him and was quite surprised to see that he drives a luxury car and he looks even better in real life. We chatted for 2 hours in his car. He then walked me to the lift and even kissed me on my cheek. Although we barely know each other, I actually feel quite happy that he kissed me. When he reached home, he texted me to say that he enjoyed talking to me and he would like to see me again.

He seems like a really nice guy. I know I shouldn’t compare but my bf isn’t even that nice. And my bf is unable to find a decent job so I’m worried about my future when we get married. But my bf and I have been together for 3 years so our relationship is very stable. I feel like if I break up with him now, 3 years of my life would be wasted. What should I do? Should I just stick to my bf because he is obviously a safer choice? Or should I continue to go out with the investment guy and then break up with my bf when the investment guy confess to me?

Editor’s note: You should break up with your boyfriend, definitely – because he deserves much better than you.

My dad was a confirmed C+ case in Oct 2021, we managed to stop the spread at home. July 2022, my sis got it and we also managed to stop the spread at home. The sunday just passed, my mom was confirmed C+. So far, the rest of the family members are okay. I’ve been testing negative all these while so thankfully I’m the only one that hasn’t been infected.

My dad and sis have been obedient to stay isolated for the whole duration. My dad was 10 days since he was contracted when they first annouced recovery at home. Sis stayed throughout 7 days in her own room. Both were vigilant and informed us if they need to leave room to use common bathroom. Only the master bedroom has attached bathroom but no shower head. So when it comes to showering, it’s a common bathroom.

We did all the research that the infected must sanitize, air for 30 minutes before the next user. And all the routine santizing and isolating to keep the remaining household members safe for my dad and sis.

Come to my mom, she was tested positive on Sunday, 7pm at the clinic. Please correct me if I’m wrong, that your hour 1 starts when you are tested positive at the clinic or when MOH sends you the SMS. She is then isolated in the master bedroom with an attached toilet, no showerhead so we need to do the same routine as my dad. Don’t ask me why there’s no showerhead.

Since the time she has been in isolation, she has been finding excuses to leave the room – water her plants/ wash clothes/ wash utensils/ take hot water. All of which we can do for her willingly. We even cooked meals (cos grabfood is too expensive to do it frequently) and washed the clothes. So we tell her, you follow MOH’s law, isolation for 72 hours etc… she said I accuse her of breaking the law. She made a ruckus yesterday night and I was scolded by my dad because I said that’s MOH law, ok fine.

Come today, every hour she has been accusing me of being so sensitive and that I’ll get covid one day. My point is that I’m not saying I won’t get coivd, but if I can stop the spread at home, why should I risk it. I cannot put my dad at risk of reinfection since he’s already 60+.

She insists that today is day 3, but if I were to follow MOH’s message, she is only at her 40th hour.

Am I being too sensitive or should I just leave it? I’m really at my wits ends cos she has been calling relatives and friends to say I’m sensitive, I’ll get it one day, I treat her like prisoner.

To those who read it till the end, I really appreciate. I need a space to voice out all these because I just walked past her room and she’s complaining to her relatives about me AGAIN.

Found out my friends introduced me to my girlfriend as joke, they’ve all slept with her before. I’m incredibly shocked and don’t know what to do

I’ve (22) been with my girlfriend (22) for 4 years now, and it’s been the greatest 4 years of my life. She’s the sweetest person I’ve ever met. She’s hilarious, insanely creative (she’s an artist), goofy and just the happiest girl you’ll ever meet. She’s always smiling and very out going, she’s so energized & I’ll admit it’s sometimes hard to catch up with all her adventures. But wow, it’s been so amazing being with her. My friends introduced me to her when we all graduated from school, and we immediately bonded. We’re both into comics, anime, marvel/DC, dungeons and dragons – we had so much in common, we just because super close very quickly. The fact we had so much in common made it easy for us to spend time together, going to conventions, anime events, game tournaments, superhero films – this all of course led to us officially becoming a couple, and the rest is history. My parents also are in love with her, which is honestly the cherry on top. It’s nice to see my be so welcoming towards my girlfriend, although they’ve gotten a little protective towards her like parents lol.

I plan to propose to my girlfriend later this year, as we always joke about getting married, having a weird geeky wedding & starting a family – and I really want that so much, so proposing to her is my main goal of 2022. Fingers crossed she says yes! I really hope so.

Now this is where my friends come in. I have 3 close friends of mine, friends I grew up with. We all split up a few months after school, they left to further their studies so right now we all either just talk through zoom chat or I go visit them once in a while. I decided to be close to family and my girlfriend. Well I told my friends that I plan to propose to ashley, that I’m believe I’m 100% ready to start a family with her & how excited I am to see how it goes. They kept asking if was serious, even calling me a dumbass. They really were going at it with me, quite roughly. I just figured they hated the idea of marriage, so I ignored their comments. That’s when they told me the truth, and holy crap the proof they had made it even worse.

They all said they met my girlfriend 8 years ago at midnight bowling, they met her through a friend of theirs that invited her that night. I don’t know this other friend at all, so I can’t say who it is. That’s how they all met, they thought she was hot and cool so they stayed in contact with her. After that my friends still continued hanging out with my girlfriend, playing video games, anime – and of course, bedroom activities. They told me they’ll “pass her around the group” for fun, and that’s practically why they were friends with her. They kept using the word slut, which crawled into my skin in such a negative way. So pretty much they just kept my girlfriend around for intercourse, all 3 of my close friends have slept her plenty of times.

This lasted a good portion of school, but of course I didn’t know my girlfriend at this time cause she attended another school. They decided they’ll introduce her to me because they wanted to see if I can also “get lucky”, that it was all a joke to see if I can also end up sleeping with her. I didn’t believe any of it, but my heart completely shattered when they showed proof from instgram messages. It was nothing inappropriate like pics or anything, they just showed me that they all indeed keep in contact with her in the past.

And you know what they did? They made me the “dumb guy” and made all this a joke. They said I’m a dumbass for dating her, that I should’ve known better. They didn’t expect me to date her at all, that my girlfriend was going to act “slutty” towards but they were surprised she didn’t. How the hell am I suppose to have known better? Friends introducing friends to a boy/girl is a normal thing, that’s how i interpreted all of this. Also I had no idea about their history with my girlfriend, so them saying “I should’ve known better” is ridiculous. I didn’t see my girlfriend as an object like them, I saw her a friend that I ended up falling in love with. She treated me very kindly, comforted me whenever I was sad, told me how much she loved me – we fell for each other, It wasn’t just intercourse. The only reason my friends told me this was because they think me getting married to her is “too far”, so they expected me knowing the truth would lead to me dumping her. “She’s too much of a slut man, just let her go” one of my friends said. I just got off the chat, and they’ve been sending me non-stop texts ever since. I haven’t replied, I don’t feel like talking to my friends at the moment.

I approached my girlfriend about this, and I instantly regretted it. She broke down completely, which I’ll admit kinda teared me up. I’ve never seen her panic so much, she was freaking out as if someone died. She kept apologizing, telling me she’s never slept with anyone else while with me & saying she didn’t know about the joke my friends were doing. She told me my friends simply invited her to hang out, and during the hang out they introduced her to me. That’s how it all went, she says she wasn’t aware of a “plan” or anything. “You probably think I’m a slut, right?” Is what she kept saying, which just hurt me to hear. She told me she loved me, that to please just ignore my “friends” to to not break up with her. I just told her I loved her as well, and that what I know doesn’t change my feelings towards her. She still thinks I’m going to break up with her, which I won’t ever do. I just kept her in my arms, that’s all I could do. I didn’t want her panicking, so I just comforted her. I’ve been with this incredible girl for 4 years, created beautiful memories with her & I’m not going to let what my friends have said to me ruin what I have with her.

I’m not mad at my girlfriend, why should I be mad? She didn’t do anything wrong, her past is her past & it’s not of my business. Who she sleeps with is none of my concern, my feelings towards her haven’t changed – I love her with all my heart, i always will. I’m mad at my so-called friends, because one being they’re taking all of this as a joke, speaking of my girlfriend awfully – and the other being that this all started as a little joke between them. They didn’t have good intentions when they introduced me to ashely, they simply “passed her to me” thinking I was going to treat her like a toy or a piece of meat.

I’m just shocked, that’s what I am. This whole thing has been mentally stressing me out, and I wish I didn’t know about it. I love my girlfriend, but I’ll admit the thought of her with my friends hurts me. I’ve cut all contact with my “friends” these past couple of days, I’ve been ignoring their calls and texts – and there’s a ton of them. I just don’t know what to do, I really don’t. Also the thought of my girlfriend immediately sleeping with my friends kinda bugs me, because me and her took it slow. Maybe she did care about me compared to my friends, and didn’t want to hop straight into bed. I also think this because even my friends said she didn’t act “slutty” towards me, that she actually cared about me. You see, these are the stupid thoughts I’m getting in my head & I hate it.

I’m personally still going to propose to my girlfriend, I’m not leaving her. I plan to cut contact with my friends and simply focus on my future. If any of you have any advice to share, I’ll greatly appreciate it. I definitely need to relax my mind, that’s for sure.