I’m not sure how I ended up here.

It all began with a casual suggestion from my male friend, “Why don’t you go to Geylang and have some fun?” I politely declined and thought nothing more of his suggestion.

But then I heard it again. This time it was from another male friend. He said, “Hey, why don’t you go to Geylang and just waste some time?”

I was taken aback. I was not sure why he was suggesting such a thing to me. Was he serious? I asked him what he meant.

He then proceeded to explain that Geylang is a place where men go to find women for casual encounters. He said that it was a “guaranteed return on investment” because if you pay for the services of a prostitute, you are guaranteed to get something in return.

After thinking long and hard, I decided to confront my friend. I asked him why he thought this was a good idea. He simply replied, “It’s just a way to have some fun and waste some time. What’s wrong with that?”

I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. How could he think that this was an acceptable way to spend my time? I explained to him how disrespectful and dangerous it was. I told him that there were many risks involved and that I could get into trouble if I went down this route.

My friend seemed to understand where I was coming from and conceded that it may not have been the best suggestion.

He then said: “One day you will know one la, you continue go find dates online la, pay dinner pay until ur finger bleed also get nothing in return, only G-Land is 100% ROI”

I have been visiting discos in Thailand for the past four years. I have had the opportunity to meet many wonderful people, and I have also had to deal with some rather unpleasant experiences.

One of the more unpleasant experiences I have had is dealing with hostesses who work in discos that say “My mother is sick, I need money.”

I understand that, in some cases, this may actually be true. Many people in Thailand are struggling financially, and it is possible that the mother of a hostess may be in need of help. However, when I hear that phrase, I feel like I am being taken advantage of.

The first time I heard this phrase, I was taken aback. I was not expecting to hear such a plea for money and I was not sure how to respond. I wanted to help, but I was also aware that this was probably a scam.

I ended up giving the hostess a small amount of money, but I was left feeling uneasy.

Since then, I have heard this phrase multiple times in different discos. The phrase always seems to come up when the hostess is trying to get me to buy her a drink or to give her money. I know that this is a common practice in some discos, but it still bothers me.

At this point, I am simply sick and tired of hearing the same phrase over and over again. It is not only dishonest, but it is also disrespectful. It implies that I am gullible and that I will give money even if the person asking for it is not in need.

I understand that some people may be genuinely in need of help, but I also believe that if someone is truly in need, they should find a more respectable way of asking for help.

I am not a charity and I am not a bank. It is not my job to take care of others’ financial needs.

I understand that the hostesses in these discos are simply trying to make a living, but I wish they would find a more honest way of doing so. I do not mind giving money to people who are truly in need, but I do not appreciate being taken advantage of.

So, in conclusion, I am sick of hearing the phrase “My mother is sick, I need money” in discos. It is dishonest and disrespectful and it implies that I am gullible. I understand that some people may be genuinely in need of help, but I believe that there are better ways of asking for help.

I’ve heard it said many times: “You have to lie to succeed in your job interviews.” I never really put much thought into this saying until my own job search, when I found myself in a situation where I felt I had to be dishonest to get the job.

At first, I was hesitant to even consider the idea. After all, I pride myself on being honest, and the thought of lying to land a job felt wrong to me. But the competition for the job was fierce, and the other candidates had far more experience than I. I felt like I was out of options, and that I had to resort to less-than-honorable means to get the job.

So I started to think more seriously about the idea of lying to succeed. I decided to do some research to see if there was any truth to this saying.

I discovered that, unfortunately, lying to get a job is more common than I thought. According to a survey conducted by the Society for Human Resource Management, almost half of employers have caught applicants lying on their resumes, and more than a third of employers have caught applicants lying during the interview.

The survey also showed that the most common things applicants lie about are their skill sets, educational background, and work experience. And while it may be tempting to embellish your qualifications to get the job, the truth is that it’s not a good idea.

Lying on your resume or in your job interview can lead to serious consequences. If you’re caught lying, you could find yourself in hot water with the company, or worse, you could be sued. In addition, lying can prevent you from getting the job, since employers are likely to think twice before hiring someone who has lied.

So is there any truth to the saying “lie to succeed”? While it may be tempting to think that lying can help you get the job, it can actually have the opposite effect. Instead of lying, the best way to stand out in a job interview is to be honest about your qualifications and to demonstrate your knowledge and skills with examples from your past experiences.

If you’re honest and prepared, you’ll be more likely to land the job than if you’re dishonest. Lying can only get you so far, and it could ultimately backfire.

At the end of the day, the old adage “lie to succeed” is nothing more than a myth. The truth is that honesty is always the best policy in a job interview. Lying will only hurt your chances of getting the job, and it could even lead to legal action.

If you want to stand out in a job interview, be honest and prepared. Show the employer why you’re the best candidate for the job, and you’ll be much more likely to land it than if you resort to lying.

HDB BTO Break Up

I am at least 35 yo and expecting the HDB BTO flat next year. My partner wish to breakup and cancel the HDB BTO flat.

I hope to retain the flat. How should I go about doing it, any advice?

Here are what netizens think

• Assuming its a 3/4/5 room bto, even if you’re 35, you need a partner to replace to keep it. Your partner also has to agree to it. Singles are currently only eligible for 2 room flexi bto.
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  Do not rush into finding a new partner to keep the BTO. You can always buy a flat anytime later. But any wrong partner can remain with you for decades. Choose wisely.
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  Same situation as my cousin. He had to give it up and get banned from getting bto for a year. Try finding someone to replace within a year and see can a not.
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  Future Tinder bio: “My ex and I are due to get our HDB BTO next year, but we broke up and I need someone to take her place or else I’ll lose my opportunity to get this amazing unit. Excellent location. Good transport links. Within walking distance to MRT, shopping mall and schools. Near park. For pics of the neighbourhood and floorplan, please DM me.”

Guy I work with comes in to work around 10 or 11, sleeps at his desk, and gets paid overtime

I work for a small equipment manufacturer. This guy is the machine shop foreman and I work as an engineer. I come in at 7-7:30 am Monday to Friday and leave around 3:30-4 pm. I am salaried.

He will come in around 10 or 11 and then, from what I’ve heard, will leave around the time everyone else does, ie 4:30-5:30 pm.

On top of this, he comes in every day and almost immediately starts to sleep and snore loudly. The other two guys in the room are newer and I’m sure they are annoyed about it.

I’ve gotten used to it over the past 3 or 4 years. I keep to myself and wonder why no one says anything about his attendance or sleeping all day.

I’ve been told by the girl who does the payroll that she can’t stand seeing him come in late everyday and sleep and still get paid overtime.

He will say things like, he came in on Saturday and Sunday. He might well have been in on those days but come on, he was sleeping and/or there for maybe a few hours.

I guess the point of this post was to vent about my current work situation. I just hate to be paid less than someone who gets to freely sleep all day without consequence and they get paid extra on top of it.

I need to move on and find a better place. I’m currently stuck waiting for my girlfriend to get a job (less than a year) and maybe I can find something worth while.

Sorry for the long rant. I feel like I’ll be making right around this salary for the rest of my life the way things are going.

My salary might go up a thousand or two a year but the inflation rate keeps my salary stagnant. I’ll never retire. I’ll never enjoy life the way it should be lived.

I fell asleep while screwing around with my boyfriend and I kind of feel bad about it. This happened to me a couple days ago and I feel embarrassed.

I fell asleep while banging my bf. I must say that I had very little sleep during the previous nights. My boyfriend said that he was on top of me( everything was normal).

Soon after, he noticed that I had fallen asleep ( he knows exactly I look when I sleep), of course, he directly stopped. I know it’s true because, I only remember when we started.

I felt very bad and guilty as well. This is the first time something like this happened. Thankfully, my bf wasn’t upset or vexed.

He was pretty amused and told me, he was glad that he helped me getting some sleep. But I’m afraid he tried to play it cool and that I bruised his ego.

I guess I was too tired. However, I can’t help but feel embarrassed and bad about it.

Netizens’ comments

1. I’m not sure if this would bruise my ego. My take is you are so comfortable when you get banged by him you can fall asleep. That means you feel very safe with him which is really cute.
   • (OP) Thanks for your response. That reassures me. I don’t know, I was afraid he would feel like it was because he was bad, boring, something like that. I was actually very tired.
2. I did this once with my ex. I was working nights and had been up over 24 hours. I just played it off like I was worried about work. I feel like if you are really tired then something like this can happen pretty easy
   • (OP) Actually that was the first time for me, but I’m glad I’m not the only one. I was very busy and had very few hours of sleep, so I guess I just couldn’t help it.