I have always been a skeptic when it comes to dating and relationships. So when I was asked out for a date with a guy and he told me he only wanted to watch a show and chill over drinks, I was immediately suspicious.

Thought that he was lying because ‘netflix and chill’ means something to guys

I mean, who actually believes that line? I was convinced he was lying and he only wanted to have s- with me.

I had heard stories from my friends about guys who asked them out and then it turned out they only wanted to sleep with them. I had heard about the concept of “Netflix and chill” and I was familiar with its implications.

It was a phrase that was used to describe a situation where one person was trying to get the other person to sleep with them.

So, with all of this in mind, I was convinced this guy was lying to me. He told me he only wanted to watch a show and chill over drinks, but I knew what he really meant. He wanted to have s- with me and he was trying to be subtle about it.

At first, I didn’t know what to do. I was torn between going on the date and having a good time, or calling him out on his lie and ending the date before it even began.

After a lot of thought, I decided to go on the date. I wanted to see if my suspicions were correct or if he truly did just want to watch a show and have some drinks.

Turns out, he really didn’t want to have S-

When we met up, I was still skeptical. I was expecting him to try and push for something more than a night in watching a show. But, to my surprise, he actually did just want to watch a show and have some drinks. We had a great time and I realized that he was being honest with me and he wasn’t lying.

In the end, I was glad that I stuck with my gut and went on the date. I realized that not all guys are like the ones I had heard stories about and that some are actually genuine and honest.

There are still times when I get suspicious when a guy asks me out, but I try to remind myself that not all guys are the same and that some are genuinely looking for something more than just a one-night stand.

I never thought I’d telling this out in the open and this took a lot of courage. I’m on the verge of ending my 6 year long relationship with my partner but I’m so conflicted because I’m scared I’m making a mistake because somewhere in the back of my head I think he’ll change.

He is always very self centered, doesn’t really care about me after all these while

I’m unhappy and don’t like being tied up with this person who has no regard whatsoever of my feelings or even existence in his life. I strongly feel he just wants company.

I would really like to work on our relationship but I’ve lost all hopes and don’t know what to do. I have been going through this for years now so it’s a long read, I’m sorry.

No communication, he does not talk, completely shuts me off if I do. We’re always watching something on the tv when spending time together. Avoids resolving conflicts, every time we have an argument he tells me to stop talking about it and says I’m nagging and doesn’t like my voice.

Well its obviously going to feel like nagging when I’m the only one talking and he says nothing and that annoys me and makes it sound like a nag! Makes me feel that I’m crazy to even have a problem when we’re talking about issues and then makes me feel like I’m always making a big deal.

He is selfish with things he owns and plans he makes.

Plans only for himself (never includes me) an example: I have been asking him for the past 3 years to join the gym with me just because we’ve both been wanting to lose some weight and get healthy again and he’s always denied but after 3 years just 3 months ago when his friends decide to, he very willingly decides to join with them.

He conveniently tells me I’ll be going to the gym with so and so without any hesitation even though he hasn’t gone up till now because he’s extremely lazy but this decision upset me very much because I have been trying to go together for years.

Only looks for pleasuring himself during s- (no kisses, no intimacy, no foreplay, not much eye contact) he always wants to have a quickie and I’ve spoken about how I’d like us to have longer s-, like some foreplay or kissing but he always tells me he’s tired or next time.

I love pleasing him and I do things that I know please him but never receive it in return. I don’t like having s- with him anymore.

Makes me feel unattractive, he’s never complementing me or sharing views on anything I do or wear differently.

Uses me for his advantage, I have asked him multiple times to get his drivers license but he keeps delaying it even though HE WORKS NEAR THE PLACE THAT ISSUES DRIVERS LICENSE.

He always says that he can apply any day. He keeps asking me actually expecting me to drive him when HE THINKS I have free time. There’s many more instances like this.

No plans for the future, Says we’re too young to do grown up things like making plans about where we want our relationship going, career paths, investing into a house together I understand if not it’s not now but in the coming years.

But doesn’t even want to do things like go for dinners, parties, bar, watch a movie, just for a walk in the park, eat ice cream, bowling, golfing etc.. He even refuses to go out on dinners with my family.

I keep using the excuse that he’s an introvert who enjoys staying home and that we enjoy watching movies together as a way to spend time together I’ve said this to others and to myself to the point that I started believing it but honestly I resent it.

I hate that we’re always at home and that he doesn’t want to go out, even going to watch a movie is a struggle that I’ve started to think of ways I can trick him into going out with me by pre-purchasing tickets so he can’t back out last minute and I feel so heart broken doing this because I never want to have to trick him to do something.

I know he’s not an introvert because he very much enjoys going out with his friends whenever they make a plan even if that’s 8pm on a work night. It’s not often but that’s definitely because his friends have a life but I’m certain if they planned frequently, he’d be going.

When it’s with me, he’s always tired, has a headache or some other bs excuse to not do anything. If I had a dollar for the amount of times he’s used a headache as an excuse to not do something I’d be able to pay off my student loan.

There’s things like he’s messy, lazy, inconsiderate, unorganized, self centred and so on but those really aren’t reasons for me to finish things off. I feel realization for these little things come to people with responsibility and time.

But the bigger things that really upset me have been bothering me for a very long time now and it only gets worse. I think I don’t want to continue this relationship anymore but I truly love this man and I’d do anything for him to finally realize and try to change.

My mother did and is still doing the same and I don’t want that repeating honestly I’m just looking for some advice because I’m not sure what I should do anymore.

I used to work at a tourist attraction in a who shall not be named, and it was always a pleasure to serve all the different types of people who visited us.

However, I have to say that one particular group of people that came to us always stood out of the crowd. I’m talking about the so-called “cheapskate tourists”.

They always come in a huge group, make a lot of noise and then order the cheapest thing

These people didn’t leave a very good impression on me and the other staff members at the tourist attraction. They would usually arrive in groups, make a huge bunch of noise and always order the cheapest items from the menu.

Once, I remember that a group of cheapskate tourists ordered a cup of coffee, and then asked me for six empty cups so that they could split the coffee amongst themselves.

It was clear that this group of tourists was trying to save money by sharing the same cup of coffee between them instead of ordering individual cups. I was taken aback by this request, as it was not something that we usually see in our cafe.

However, after some thought, I decided to let them have their way and gave them the six empty cups.

The cheapskate tourists thanked me and took the six empty cups away to where they were seated. But, as I watched them split the coffee between the six cups, I couldn’t help but feel a little bit disgusted.

I felt they are saving money at the expense of the business’ resources

I mean, it was one thing for them to try and save money, but it was another thing for them to go until this level.

I think that this incident really made me aware of how some tourists can be really selfish when it comes to saving money. It’s not only about the money; it’s also about the lack of respect they show towards the resources of the place they are visiting.

Of course, I understand that everyone has their own financial situation, and that some people are more privileged than others. However, there are ways to save money without being disrespectful to the people who offer services to you.

I think it’s more important to be mindful of how you spend your money when you’re travelling, and to remember that you’re a guest in someone else’s land.

I had always been fascinated by branded clothes and the way they made the wearer look. I thought that the way a person dressed was a reflection of their success, and I wanted to be successful. So I decided to start splurging on branded clothes.

Started to splurge on branded clothes

I started visiting my favorite stores and buying the latest and trendiest clothes. I would try to dress like the models in the magazines, and I would buy the most expensive items I could afford. I thought that if I could just look good, I could be successful.

I even once bought a plain Louis Vuitton T-shirt which cost me almost $1,000 plus

But even after I had bought all of these expensive clothes, I was still unsuccessful and I was still not as successful as a lot of people who wear plain clothing.

I had spent so much money on branded clothes, but it was all for nothing. I was still the same person I was before, my businesses were not doing well and the clothes were not making me any more successful.

I had wasted so much money, and I had nothing to show for it. I was frustrated and angry at myself for believing that dressing well would make me successful. I realized that success does not come from dressing well, but rather from hard work and dedication.

My experience taught me a valuable lesson. I learned that success does not come from the clothes you wear, but rather from the effort you put in.

No matter what kind of clothing you wear, if you put in hard work and dedication, then you will be successful.

So if you are thinking about splurging on branded clothes because you think that a person’s success comes from his dressing, then think again.

Dressing well is not the key to success, and it is definitely not worth wasting money on. Instead, focus on hard work and dedication, and you will be successful.

I am a girl who worries about her future and the future of my relationship. I’m in a relationship with a man who earns only $50 a day, and he is content with that.

Can’t help but think that he has no ambition, and I don’t feel secure bring with him

I can’t help but feel that he has no drive in life and there is no security being with him.

I know that money isn’t everything, but it is a big part of our lives and it is necessary for a secure future. He has no ambition to earn more and I feel like he is stuck in a rut. I can’t help but worry about what will happen when we have kids. If he is already content with earning such a low salary, that’s likely all he will ever earn.

I love my boyfriend, but I worry that our relationship won’t survive in the long run if he doesn’t make an effort to earn more. I’m not asking him to become a millionaire, but I want him to at least have the ambition and drive to try and make more money.

I want to help him in any way I can, but he won’t let me. He insists that he is content with his salary, but I can’t help but feel that he is just settling. I want him to have more opportunities in life, and he will only have those opportunities if he pursues them.

I also worry that his lack of ambition will lead to a lack of respect from others. People who earn more money are often respected more, and I don’t want him to be looked down upon because of his low salary. I want him to be respected for his hard work and achievements, not for the amount of money he earns.

Afraid that our future will be full of suffering

I know that money isn’t everything, but it is a big part of our lives and it is necessary for a secure future. I want my boyfriend to have the ambition to earn more and have opportunities, and I’m afraid that won’t happen if he doesn’t do something about it.

I’m trying to be understanding and supportive, but it is hard when I feel like he is settling and not taking the initiative. I want the best for him and for us, and I worry that our future is uncertain because of his attitude towards money.

I just want him to have more ambition and drive, so that he can have a better future.

What’s your opinion on JHK dating SG girl?

Usually its Singaporean guy with Malaysian girl

Saw a young msian guy and sgrean girl chatting in train, the scene was quite interesting as the girl speaks fluent english while the guy speaks like a non-native.

I then realise that’s a quite uncommon combination as in usuallly it’s always sg guy + msia girl. Super rare to see sg girl “marrying down” to a developing country.

So what’s your thought on msia guy dating sg girl?

Here are what netizens think

• Why are you insecure?
  
• kaypoh leh. true love cannot?
  
• You’re assuming Fluent English = Singaporean. Gal could easily be Malaysian as well.
  
• Lol, is your self worth tied to how much better your country is to others? Have you nothing of value to offer yourself?
  
• It must be love because, unless the JHK is filthy rich, he won’t have much to offer her if they settle down in SG, with this kind of exchange rate. That, or the SG girl is trying to settle down in Msia in the end.
  
• Women don’t date down. Hypergamy isn’t solely based on financial assets. If she’s with him there is a value he’s adding to her life that other guys aren’t.
  
  Maybe he’s good at s-, maybe he’s good looking and has amazing personality. It could be a whole bunch of things that only the couple in question knows of. We don’t know.
  
  Also just bc someone is jhk doesn’t mean they’re poor tf
  
• If this is how you view relationships to begin with, then I at least pray you find happiness in life. Somehow, past these archaic hierarchy views.
  
  You judge others by their covers, but that renders you an open book. I wish you happiness out of pity. As not many will wish you the same.

Please help. I ORD-ed a few months ago but after completing my service, now more than ever I feel an unbearable rage that I was forced to waste away what should/could have been the best two years of my life.

Most females around me think that girls should have it easier than men

Before having joined NS, a few of my teachers (not many did but whenever it happened it was always a female teacher who didn’t serve -_-) constantly brought up NS as something as a grand and delightful experience, something that people should be jealous of (Spoiler: It was not).

Many of my teachers were also gender biased, (some more openly like the feminazi humanities teachers and the rest more discreetly by simply being nicer to girls) and when I spoke about this during recess one of my female classmates said that “It’s only fair that girls have it easier in schools because women have it way harder in the workplace.” and the rest actually agreed.

I was shocked that my female peers, who were my age and at the time had never worked, held such pessimistic views about their future prospects, that they would surely be victimized and offended that they assumed that I and my male friends would be their oppressors even though we had been getting along so well.

Apparently, according to my classmates and teachers, misandry in earlier stages of life is to account for misogyny later.

Now that I have endured misandry throughout my education and suffered through National service am I now required to be a misogynist in order to maintain equity between the genders?

For what have I been forced to stay up, skip meals, and be berated by my superiors on countless occasions over the last two years? Why are my female peers studying, earning money, and enjoying life at my expense? I have become so old and what do I have to show for it?

I could change my perspective in hindsight but I find that I am unable to lie to myself and look back on NS positively. It’s weird because while I was serving I thought that it was better if my female peers didn’t have to suffer.

That it was better if I just took one for the ‘team’. However, after I have ORDed I am extremely jealous and unable to accept the realities of my situation. Flashbacks of my school and NS time keep haunting me and I have been losing sleep.

Over the last few weeks, I have been ruminating a lot and reading more news articles on female criminals getting away with committing crimes by dodging caning, being preferentially treated in family court, and how NS will mean even less in the future (though to be fair I already knew this one before enlisting).

At first, I went on AWARE’s website to try to learn about and understand women’s struggles but I was completely unable to take any of their material seriously. Now I catch myself going on there just to belittle them and justify my hatred of feminists.

Recently, I needed to go back to my JC to pick up some documents for university applications and I, unfortunately, ran into my English teacher (and of course, the piece of **** brought up NS) and I had this burning desire to punch her for all the stress she caused me.

Obviously, I didn’t, and that’s why I am able to type this rant now but it’s sad because I had much better able to tolerate her before NS which ironically was supposed to strengthen my mental fortitude.

Finds it harder to respect the females around him

I have been finding it harder to talk to and respect my female friends and coworkers at my part-time job. I tried to more casually bring this up within my friend circle and terms degrading gender like “small d- energy” and “incel” are thrown around to quickly shut down the conversation, although I am glad that at least some of my male friends are still able to be themselves post-NS.

I know I can no longer do anything about the lost time. I know I’m heading in a bad direction, I can’t stop myself and I don’t want to drag my other friends down into this spiral.

I want to just grow up and be happy. Does anyone have any advice on how I can move on?

So I met this girl last month on this app called “SA” (iykyk). We chatted and I invited her over on the same day with both our intention of having s- and here is the start of my nightmare.

I had problems staying hard because she was not attractive to me

When she arrived at my place I realized I got catfished coz she looks different from her picture. We still got all our clothes off and we proceeded to have s- but because she wasn’t really my type, I couldn’t stay hard for more than a minute (sure make fun all u want).

She of course was disappointed that I couldn’t do the deed and proceeded to ask me to finger her. So I did and after a few minutes she said it was painful and asked me to stop which I did immediately.

She said she felt a sharp pain. So I got her a grab and gave her $650 to get it checked.

Showed me a picture of her injured cb and started to ask me for more money

Later on, she showed me a pic of her lady part with a cut and said that she got cut during the time I was using my fingers on her (probably coz of my nail). She said she needed to be hospitalized for checks.

The next morning she said the doc wanted her to stay in the hosp longer. She then said I should be responsible for my actions. I asked what the estimated bill was and she said it could cost $4k and that I should pay at least 1.5k which is the deposit of the hospital.

So I transferred another $850 to her on top of the $650 so it works out to 1.5k.

First red flag is this. The $650 was to her paynow and the $850 was to her paylah. Both names are diff. She claimed one of them is her ic name.

It became quiet for the next few weeks until March when she contacted me and asked that I paid for the rest of the bill. She had to borrow the rest of the money from her friends to pay the bill.

Now here is the strange part. She’s 20, and because she’s under 21 her hosp bill was sent to her parents. Now her parents are angry and demanded to know the guy responsible for this (me).

Apparently, because I’ve committed a great sin of being intimate with her, she said I would have to marry her or else there will be interference from certain ‘people’

Obviously I wasn’t the first guy she was being intimate with, she even told me her last s- experience was last year. Secondly, the app is a hookup app so she knows her actions are very much sinful.

I also checked with another friend of mine who also got a cut in her lady part during intimacy and her total bill with checks and everything came up to $600. She even said that max it could cost was $1k for such situations.

I’m really at lost on what to do now.

I don’t know if i’m being extorted and that I should make a police report. I’m so stressed over this

I was so excited to finally be able to get the tattoo that I had been dreaming about for years when I started my first job. I had saved up all of my spare money for months, but it still wasn’t enough to cover the cost.

Decided to take a loan from my girlfriend because my money not enough

Being short of money, I asked my girlfriend if she could lend me the money to make my dream come true.

Little did I know, my girlfriend had a different idea in mind. She told me that if I wanted her to lend me the money, I had to tattoo her face instead of what I originally wanted to tattoo.

I was shocked and a bit taken aback by her request, but I also knew that I really wanted to get the tattoo and maybe after getting the money I could convince her that I don’t want to tattoo her face, so I reluctantly agreed to her request first.

Thought I could change her mind, but she insisted

After getting the money, I tried to talk her out of it but she refused to budge. She said it was a way for me to show my commitment to her and that I should just be grateful that she was willing to help me out with the money.

I thought I could still get my dream tattoo done as I would be going to the tattoo shop myself but she followed me there. I could barely look at her. I felt so embarrassed and ashamed of myself for going along with this. I was also scared of how people would react to it.

Once the tattoo was done, I was relieved that it was over but I was still terrified of how people would react when they saw my girlfriend’s face tattooed on me. We kept it a secret and I hated that I had to lie to my friends and family about it.

But of course, people eventually found out and I felt like a complete fool. People had a lot of opinions and I felt embarrassed and ashamed every time someone brought it up.

Eventually, the relationship ended and I was left with a permanent reminder of my bad decision. I had to live with the fact that I was so desperate to get a tattoo that I agreed to something that I shouldn’t have.