My girlfriend was beautiful and had the kindest heart. I was in a blissful state of mind whenever I was with her and I simply felt like I was on cloud nine. We had been dating for a few months and things were going great.

I work in a female dominated environment, and she didn’t want my colleagues to hit on me so she came up with a ‘plan’

One day, my girlfriend told me that she wanted everyone to know that I was attached. She wanted to make sure that everyone we knew was aware that I was taken and that she was the one I was with.

I didn’t know how to respond, so I asked her why she wanted everyone to know, and she said that because I was working in an environment that was female dominated, she didn’t want people coming up to me to flirt with me or even hit on me.

I tried to explain to her that even though I was working in a female dominated place, it did not matter because they won’t dare to be so daring. But she was adamant that she wanted to make sure everyone was aware.

So she came up with a plan secretly and decided to put her plan into action when we had S- one day.

Executed her plan while we were having S-, gave me many visible ‘chops’ on my neck

While we were getting it on, she started to kiss my neck and then gave me a lot of ‘chops’ on my neck. It was something that she did not do before and she was doing it so vigourously I felt that my neck was a passport getting chopped by the officer.

I then realised that this was a part of her plan all, she had deliberately given me the ‘chops’ on my neck so that whoever I meet will see them and know that I had a partner.

I’m not sure how it happened, but I had somehow ended up dating three guys who were all friends.

I hadn’t been looking for a relationship and honestly couldn’t believe my luck when each one of them asked me out separately.

I didn’t know that they were friends, but it was fine with me though

I thought I had stumbled across some dating luck, until I found out they were all friends and they each asked me out one by one separately.

I started to get suspicious that they knew each other after I followed one of them on social media and realised that he had a group photo of them together.

We soon established that they all knew one another and we even went out together before just as friends.

They would out of the blue look at me then look at each other then laugh

However, they would often all laugh and exchange knowing glances whenever we were out together and I felt like I was being judged.

I was too afraid to ask what was going on, so I just kept my head down and pretended like nothing was wrong.

Then one night, I decided to follow them to a bar after they had left without me because I wanted to hear if there were any gossip about me.

Realised that they shared their intimate experiences in bed with me to each other

Then, to my horror, I heard them discussing my s- skills. They were comparing me to each other and rating my performance.

They were talking about how I was good in some areas but not in others, and I felt like I had been betrayed because all these were supposed to be private.

I never found out who was responsible for starting all these talks first but, but I know that I will never trust them again.

In the end, I decided not to hang out with them anymore.

Chased out despite being sick

Hi to all. I am just curious to know, does anyone here have toxic family members whom will ask you to leave the house and stay in a hotel whenever you are sick?

Family ask us to move away because we were sick, all scared to die

My husband and I were sick for the last 3 days. We have the common flu symptoms, sneezing, coughing and fever.

Instead of showing us any concern, my in laws actually asked us to move out to my mother’s home to stay. In laws said that if we stay we will spread the germs to our entire family of six.

My mum is a single parent and never been married. She texted me to ask which day am I returning this week to have dinner with her. I visit her weekly.

My own mother don’t let me go home for a month just because we had flu

I told her my husband and I were sick, guess what my mum replies was? She asked us not to visit her for 30 days. 30 DAYS???? I was shocked.

My in laws were worse and pathetic enough, my mum was worse. Until this hour while I was typing this out, my sis in law was still trying to ask my husband and me to go back to my mum’s house to stay.

What is family love? To me it’s all bulls-t. There’s no such thing as family love and acceptance in this world.

It’s a good thing we don’t intend to have any children. I do not know what kind of a mother will I be, since I am surrounded by toxic afraid to die people each day.

In between we will still be staying at home, my husband says those whom are scared should move out, not us. We deserves our rest.

I screwed up by lending my friend money

Before anyone passes judgement, I know I was damn stupid to lend my friend 5 digit worth of money, only for everything to be lost in a scam.

Told him to settle others first, because we are friends

We were all victims of the situation, especially my friend, so I tried being understanding about the due date in which they would return the money to me. They owe about 6 digits worth to multiple people.

A lot of people say this money is confirm lost, no need to look back at it. But 5 digits is a huge sum, and at this point it is a matter of principle.

I didn’t need the money ASAP so I told my buddy they can take their time to pay back, focus on the more kancheong ppl first.

Really took his sweet time, go holiday also don’t want pay me

It has been 2 years, and I can’t help but to be impatient because I see them going on trips to Japan and Korea and all that with their family.

Like hello, did you forget you got debt to pay? I’m trying to be nice and give you your human right to enjoy life la, I don’t want to be an ah long.

But this money is a big deal to me too. Just because I don’t make noise, doesn’t mean you can take advantage right?

I’m sure they are not doing it on purpose, but it does make me anxious.

I’m not one who wants to lose a friendship because of money, so i’m stuck

Especially now I’m planning to get married, I need that cash soon. I never want to lose friendship because of money, because honestly this is my buddy buddy.

When I fell on hard times they helped me out big time financially also. But the difference is I paid my dues on time, they are currently not doing that.

What do I do? I know I already screwed up lending him, not going to do it again, but I want my money back. I know for a fact he can pay.

Leading a double life.

I’m going to get bashed for this post…but here goes.

Got wooed by one of my bosses 20 years older than me

Been in this relationship since 2016 or millennials call it Situationship these days. We met at work, he’s one of the shareholders and I’m just a OL.

He was in his early 40s and me in my late 20s. He’s “unhappily” married (as they always claimed), I was unhappily about to get married because family/peer pressured(Sin’s culture of get married bcos of BTO).

I wasn’t keen in meeting someone new or the hassle of breaking off and the drama involved so I decided to just go ahead with whatever makes everyone happy.

I was professional for the first 3 years, he indirectly courted me throughout and really took good care of me.

He brought me around the world for conferences, we took business on company expenses, stayed at only the best, we really travelled the world and nothing happened and that was ALL his plan knowing I will immediately reject if he came on too strong.

He’s very smart may I add(that itself is so charming). 3 years of taking good care of me, showing me what a charming person he was and it didn’t take too long for me to accepted his advances.

Made up for all my husband’s shortcomings

Things that my now husband neglected he made up all for it. I enjoyed the romance, the chase and eventually I really enjoyed him as a person. Funny, smart, tall and speaks eloquently.

I left the company when covid happened as I wanted to study, he sponsored my studies and even gave me $5000 a month.

He even gave me his car because he didn’t want me to take grab or Public transport. I’ll be stupid to not take it.

Since covid happened till now I’m happily taking his money without guilt even though we hardly meet anymore too.

My feelings faded and I wanted to try and be right to my husband

Tbh my feelings faded, now I just want to end things off as I’m so tired of hiding and deleting texts, I’m actually tired of being the bit-h/mistress whatever names u may want to call me.

To be honest, I want to lead a decent life with my husband and try to love him again, I care for him but I won’t say I do love him.

Yes I’m going to miss the free money and even the car but I have to start somewhere. It’s honestly not e money for me as I’m able to get a job that pays the same or more but again, free money I like it.

My boss was not happy because he ‘invested’ a lot on me

I tried to break things off tactfully but drama ensues, he was mad he “invested” so much in me(I mean we both are married I don’t see where this is heading).

I saw the ugly side of him, I feel bad of course but things eventually have to end. It has not ended yet but I told him let’s cool down, things got too heated, he wanted to meet I avoided etc.

Im just venting here and I don’t know what advice I need.

Maybe an advise to fellow girls out there, don’t be pressured because your friends are getting their BTO, are talking about marriage plans and you feel like you are not young too and need to follow suit.

If he’s not the one don’t rush into it. Many of my friends now are about to get a divorce or divorced now.

Don’t settle just because and definitely is not right to be a mistress.

Troubled by ex-colleague

I had a colleague (B) whom I got to know in 2017, I have also met and spoken with his wife in his presence. We met in the arcade.

B reminded me of my late Grandpa

This colleague, B, resembled my late grandpa in many ways.. and I was drawn to him because of this reason. I saw my grandpa in him.

Missing my grandpa a lot, it was inevitable that I tried to talk to B whenever I had the chance to. Why? Just because he looked at me just like how my grandpa would look at me, and when he smiled at me, it was as if my grandpa was smiling at me again..

My other colleague back then, lets just call him H, knew that I was working closely with B on an assignment (H’s a friend of B and his wife, I knew about their relation because we had common friends whom told me about it).

For some reason, H didn’t like that I’m close with B

H wasn’t very happy about it (that me & B working on the same assignment), for what reason I really dunno.. and H suggested that I work with H instead.

However, after knowing more about H’s interest (which wasn’t quite aligned with mine), I kindly declined his suggestions to work together but we remained acquaintances.

Now, I dunno for what reason, H is showing unhappiness towards me and told my other friends things which he imagined about.

He even did something probably without B’s wife knowing it, and is he even doing the right thing? I really don’t know.

Please tell me how to stop H from throwing tantrum at things which he shouldn’t be worried about in the first place.

And please do not create further rumors about B and me, my bf will not like it.

How do you differentiate if someone is really interested in you or just a friendly gesture?

Background

I knew this guy from work but matched with him on a dating app a few years back.

He was really good-looking and some of my colleagues had a crush on him.

We chatted a bit but I was ghosted eventually which I didn’t bother too much about because (you know!) it’s a dating app. People ghost people.

I was used to it even though I was really hoping that our conversation would last.

Fast forward a few years later, we reconnected back recently via instagram. Though chats, I knew he had switched his career path and I had moved to a new city to work.

We were in different cities but not so far off by flight. We chatted a bit more and decided to meet up in his city as I had planned a visit to his city that weekend.

We met and exchanged numbers after that and continue to chat to this very day. He does send some flirty messages sometimes.

He will take his time to reply me

That’s where my dilemma starts (or it’s not). As we were in different cities and even though we chat with each other every day, he was very very slow in replies.

The replies can even come in only the very next day or 2 days later. He would still apologize every single time for late replies as he said he was drown in work.

I can understand this as he just kick started his new path and I wasn’t in the position to expect him to reply to me instantly or even reply to me at all. I have my own priorities too.

I double texted sometimes but I wouldn’t want to triple text or quadruple text even though he said it’s ok to do so because he’s a workaholic.

Nevertheless, he would still make the effort to reply to me even when the replies are very slow. But, I was also contemplating on how busy can a man be until he cannot take the time to reply to messages for 5 minutes.

The reason of me having this kind of dilemma is because I’ve met a guy, whom I really like, who is like that before.

He would still try to look for me everyday but in the end, he told me it’s just a friendly gesture, not because he took a liking for me.

Since then, I try to avoid overthinking this kind of thing even though they were potential candidates to me.

I’d probably had the answer on the back of my mind but I still don’t know if I should wait around or let others come into my life.

Out of all my potential candidates, this guy is ticking all the boxes on my list but I really don’t know if he’s interested in me or just a friendly gesture to pass time.

What should I do?