It’s a question that has been asked for centuries – can men and women ever truly just be friends? I’m a young woman and I’ve been pondering this for a while now.

I believe that men and women can never purely just be friends and I think there’s always some underlying feelings for each other.

Sure have some sparks somewhere

I think that men and women can never be just friends because of the natural attraction between them. There’s always a certain spark that ignites when two people of the opposite gender interact and it’s hard to ignore.

The flirting and banter, the chemistry – it all adds up and it’s hard to deny that there’s something more than friendship going on.

I also believe that men and women can never be just friends because of the typical gender roles that are expected.

Men are expected to be the pursuers and women are expected to be the pursued. Men are expected to make the first move and women are expected to wait and see what happens.

This dynamic creates an imbalance that makes it hard for the two to just be friends.

Finally, I think that men and women can never be just friends because of the emotions that come with being friends with someone of the opposite gender.

Confirm got something more than just liking as a friend

Friendship is a complicated emotion and it’s hard to deny the feelings of love and affection that come with it. When two people of the opposite gender are close, it’s hard to deny that there’s something more than friendship going on.

This is why I believe that men and women can never purely be just friends. There’s always an underlying attraction and emotion that come with being friends and it’s hard to ignore.

I think that it’s important to recognize these feelings and confront them instead of trying to deny them. I believe that by being honest with each other and recognizing these feelings, men and women can form meaningful and lasting relationships.

I never thought I’d say this, but I’d rather be a monk than marry a local Singaporean girl. I’m a Singaporean man, so this isn’t my prejudice against my own people, but rather an honest assessment of my own experience.

I grew up in a traditional Singaporean family, and we had a very rigid idea of how relationships should be. Men were supposed to be the breadwinners and take care of the family, while women were expected to stay home and look after the house and kids OR go work but contribute nothing to the family.

This was the only way that relationships were to be conducted, and any deviation from this was seen as a failure.

I was never comfortable with this arrangement, but I followed it because it was the “normal” thing to do. I eventually got married to a local Singaporean girl, and we got along fairly well for a few years. But then I began to notice that she was becoming increasingly demanding and controlling.

She wanted to have a say in every decision I made, and she expected me to do things her way. I felt like I was her puppet, and I had to do whatever she said or risk her wrath.

That’s when I started to realize that marriage wasn’t for me.

Marriage should be a partnership, and I felt like I was being smothered by my wife’s demands. I was no longer a person, but merely a tool to be used to satisfy her needs. I could no longer be true to myself, and I felt like I was losing my identity.

That’s when I started to think about becoming a monk. I wanted to escape from the demands of the modern world and live in a simpler, more peaceful existence. I wanted to be closer to nature and live a life of contemplation and prayer. I wanted to be free from the pressures of society and be able to focus on spiritual pursuits.

But of course going to be an actual monk is going to be more difficult than just saying it. It is my way of comparing marriage life and single life.

When I got married to the love of my life, the last thing I expected was for her to tell me to find a lawyer to make a will in case I die.

I was overjoyed and even a bit overwhelmed as I had never thought of something like that before.

At first, I thought it was a bit morbid, but then I realized this was actually a very wise decision. After all, no one knows when they are going to pass away, and it’s important to make sure your family and loved ones are taken care of in the event of your death.

When I got married, I was filled with joy and excitement, but now I was faced with the sobering reality of the fragility of life. Making sure my wife was taken care of if something were to happen to me was my top priority.

I started researching different types of wills and estate planning options. I soon realized that there were a variety of different ways to make sure my wife was taken care of financially in the event of my death.

The first option I researched was a “joint will”. This is a will that is created by both spouses. All of the assets are divided equally between the two of them upon death. It ensures that the surviving spouse will have access to the deceased spouse’s assets.

The second option I looked into was a ”living will”. This is a document that outlines a person’s wishes in terms of medical care. It can be used to provide clear instructions on how they want to be treated if they become incapacitated or unable to make decisions for themselves.

The third option was a ”last will and testament”. This is a legal document that outlines a person’s wishes regarding their possessions and estate. It includes instructions on how to distribute assets upon death.

Finally, I also researched ”trusts”. This is a legal document that allows a person to designate a trustee to manage their assets and distribute them according to their wishes.

After researching these options, I decided to consult with a lawyer to make sure I was making the best decision. The lawyer was able to explain the different types of wills and estate planning options in detail, and helped me choose the one that was the best fit for my situation.

I ended up creating a living will and a last will and testament. I also created a trust to ensure that my wife would have access to my assets should something happen to me.

Making these decisions was not easy, but I am glad I did it. I know that my wife will be taken care of and my wishes will be carried out even if I am not here to make sure that happens.

When I decided to become a digital nomad and move to Johor Bahru, I knew it was a risk.

I had no idea what it would be like, and I didn’t know anyone there either. But I’m so glad I took the plunge and made the move – it’s been 6 months and it’s been an incredible journey so far.

Johor Bahru is nearby, just across the causeway from Singapore. Moving here was a big change for me, coming from Singapore. I was worried that it might be too different, but I quickly realized that there was a lot to love about Johor Bahru.

The first thing I noticed was the peace and quiet. Singapore can be quite noisy and crowded at times, so it was nice to have a change of pace. The streets of Johor Bahru are much quieter, and it’s a great place to relax and get away from the hustle and bustle of city life.

The cost of living is also a lot cheaper here than in Singapore. The rent is much lower, and food is much more affordable. I love going to the local markets and trying out all the delicious food, and it doesn’t cost much at all. I’ve also been able to save more money since moving to Johor Bahru, which has been great.

The people here in Johor Bahru are also incredibly friendly and welcoming. Everyone has been so welcoming and accommodating to me, which has made the transition much easier. It’s been really nice to get to know the locals, and I’ve made some great friends here.

Johor Bahru is also a great place to explore. There are some beautiful beaches nearby, and there are also plenty of hiking trails in the area. I’ve been able to explore the city and the surrounding areas, and I’m always finding new places to explore.

I’m so glad I decided to move to Johor Bahru. It’s been an incredible experience, and I’m so glad I took the risk. It’s been 6 months now and I’m still loving it here. The peaceful environment, the cheap cost of living, the friendly people – there’s so much to love about Johor Bahru.

I can’t wait to see what the next 6 months has in store for me!

So Lost

I have a crush on this guy for almost 2 years now. We have a direct and very close working relationship. He is charismatic and caring but sometimes can be quite immature. I am drawn to his loyalty towards his friends and the people whom he cared a lot. And I see past all his flaws. He is him and I accept everything about him despite it can be quite triggering sometimes.

He is very nice towards me but he gets very emotional at times. I am also an emotional person so it can be very challenging. We have argued before but a part of me is lowkey enjoying it. It shows that we actually cared for each other. We have established a great bond and mutual trust when it comes to work.

At times, I told myself to give up and move on. It’s better to stay as friends and maintain this good working relationship. But I am confused because the urge to risk it all and confess to him is getting stronger each day. Somehow I feel that I am not his type based on the girls / exes he has shown interest in. If I were to confess, am sure he will either upfront rejects me or leave me in a limbo because he fears of hurting me. Either ways, I know things will never be the same and we can never look at each other the same way again.

Recently I just found out that he has dated someone who is close to me but has since broke up a year ago. They didn’t disclose the relationship. When I worked back the timeline, I realised that this girl has been asking me many questions regarding him during the period when they were together and till this date she is still prompting me updates / gossips about him. I have a closer working relationship with him than she does. Like way closer. It’s like she’s trying to find out things about him or testing me. Idk. She tried to ship us together before but eventually told me we are not suitable and I deserve better. I am so confused over her motive, so I don’t share much with her anymore.

Anyways, I am still thinking if I should confess knowing the fact that I will definitely be rejected. I don’t have the courage to face him thereafter. Or should I just continue to hold onto this one-sided love and wait till the day I resigned to let him know? But what’s the point then? Not sure how long will that be as I don’t plan to leave my job yet and probably he is attached / married by then.

My husband’s colleague is trying to get him to hook up

I recently discovered my husband’s colleague is trying to hook up with him.

I got to know of this because my husband came clean with me. He told me one of his colleagues has been texting him inappropriate things and sending him suggestive pictures recently (think sexy lingerie, cleavage shots, suggestive poses etc).

For context, this colleague just got married and my husband has known her for ~4 years. She has never came onto him like this before this incident and their relationship was purely work related. (Or so my husband claims)

My husband showed me the texts between him and the colleague and I did see him rejecting her saying its not appropriate for her to say such things to him given that they both have their married partners etc. She said in her texts that she wanted to see if she stood a chance because she really likes him.

I just wanted to know, do you all think my husband is being honest? That their relationship is purely work related and there’s nothing going on between them? And why is his colleague being such a slut? Trying to seduce someone else’s husband when she has her own? Can someone really stoop that low?

Here are what netizens think:

• Do not doubt your husband and throw a fuss at this point. He came clean willingly. If you give him a negative experience, next time he will never tell you anything. The fact that he came clean also means he is siding with you. Just remember the mantra, keep your man’s stomach full and balls empty and you’ll have a fine family.

• Text her back this way: Let’s keep things professional. If you continue to harass me, I’ll have no choice but to report you to (boss’s name). Then block her. No need to entertain people like that. If your husband refuses to block, there’s something amiss there. Between colleagues, there’s no need to text, email do just fine.

• Let your husband be free. As they say, if you love him, set him free. If he loves you, he will come back.

I’m 24 working in a company for 1.5y and will most likely got promoted soon.

If I get promoted, it will be a different job role compared to the role I applied initially (which I’m not sure if I will like it) Not to mention, there will be higher expectations.

Most of my colleagues left 6 months ago so currently, I’m the only one in the team working with my boss (but obviously I’m doing all the work) and my new colleague will only join 3 months later. I’m also covering things way above my supposed job scope which will help my transition easier if I were to get promoted.

However, my boss is very hard to deal with especially when it comes to cost. He will also always except me to get alot of things done when I’m already overwhelmed. It’s really tough cause I don’t have much experience and don’t have anyone to guide me except him.

Even though he’s willing to guide me, he don’t know the processes and it’s always easier said than done. This makes me mentally drained – I don’t hate the work but I hate dealing with him because he always make things difficult even for the simplest thing. I’m conflicted if I should leave as I know promotion is not easy but I’m also scared I will be more stress if I get promoted and can’t perform well (he gets mood swing easily…).

Seriously need an advise whether I should take on this opportunity or hop before he expects more from me…

Here are what netizens think:

• Lots of red flags here. When your colleagues leaves one by one and you are the only one left. Next person only comes in 3 months later. You are not promoted by merits. Promotion is likely a decoration on you to make you stay or give you a false sense of recognition. He just wanted someone to stay and work there to pick up his workload and do a JOB. If you don’t feel any passion in your job. Do some soul searching and plan your next career move. A proper CAREER has a coach or someone whom leads and advise you on your future and what qualities you should develop to value add to your personal portfolio.

• nothing comes without cost. the promotion feels more like a sugarcoated trap than a reward as you have described. your call as to see it for what it is.

• Do shop around and see if you can jump ship. No point making a counter offer cos it’ll look bad down the road. But tbh times may be getting tougher and things are rly slowly down…

• Come on.. Everywhere is the same.. Hard to find a good nice boss around.. Fave the music.. Have a nice talk to your boss… It won’t hurt of u wish to resign also.. Market is tough now