I hate having intercourse with my GF while she’s on her period but she wants to still do it

My (23M) GF (20F) are in a sort of long distance relationship where we are away from each other. I’m coming home for a couple of days, but she’s currently on her period.

I love being intimate with her but doing it on her period grosses me out. I know it’s natural and I shouldn’t judge it but at the same time I don’t wanna do it.

It hurts her feelings when I tell I don’t wanna. What can I do to help her relax and calm down when I tell her again?

I told her that I’m planning a huge date that’s gonna be filled with many dates all in one day because I want her to understand that I’m not grossed out by her in any means.

I want her to feel loved and attractive but at the same time I want her to just understand that I’m just not comfortable doing it while she’s on her period.

Netizens’ comments

• Consent goes both ways. She needs to respect your boundaries.

• Though it hurts her feelings, she should respect you dislike that. A relationship is respect for each other.

• Have a conversation with her about it. She can respect it or not. If she doesn’t, you may want to reconsider if she’s the right person for you.

I’m not in love with my wife anymore.

My wife and I have been together since we were 18 years old, we are 36 now. For the past 18 years, this woman has been everything to me.

She has supported me in ways that I never even knew were possible. She has given me 2 beautiful kids and I will always be grateful, but I’m just not in love with her anymore

People like to say “well you don’t just wake up one day and just decide you don’t love someone anymore.” But that’s how it happened for me, she didn’t do anything to cause this riff and it isn’t because we’ve had major problems in our marriage, or that I don’t find her attractive.

To this day, my wife is the most beautiful woman I have ever laid eyes on, but beauty has nothing to.do with anything and I just can’t explain why I’m not in love with her anymore.

I feel awful, I feel like the world’s most terrible person because who does this? Who just wakes up after 18 years together and just decides they don’t want it anymore even though everything in your life/marriage has been for the better since knowing your spouse…me, apparently.

My wife will always be my best friend and she will always hold a special place in my heart, but it would be wrong for the both of us for me to try and live a life that isn’t true to me.

Now I have to look this amazing woman in the eyes and hurt her, and I never wanted to do something like this, but she deserves someone who will always and unconditionally be in love with her.

A netizen shared a story about how she invited her boyfriend home to hang out and when they reached her home, they would hear her parents “doing it” and moaning inside their bedroom.

Here is what she said

“I have been dating this guy for about more than a year and we got together during our first year in poly.

So one day I invited my bf over to my house to just hang out inside my room, and maybe cuddle a little bit on the bed.

My mother is a housewife and my dad is technician, but they were both home that day because it was my dad’s off day.

So no problem since we were going to be in my room anyways, and then we reached my home and I unlocked my front gate.

Usually when I unlock the front gate, my mother would open the front door for me, but she didn’t so I thought she was busy or something.

We then went into the living room and my bf followed me into the kitchen, but as we walked past my parents bedroom (my house layout is, the kitchen is at the back, past the bedrooms, like all HDB flats), we could hear loud moaning coming from my parents bedroom.

There was also very loud “piak piak” sounds, and we immediately knew that my parents were “doing it” inside.

I felt very uncomfortable and my boyfriend just looked at me and laughed.

After that we went back to my bedroom and watched some movies on my laptop while just hanging out, and after a while I heard my parents’ bedroom door unlock.

I went out of my bedroom with my boyfriend and my mother was shocked to see me and my boyfriend at home.

She had a weird look on her face (probably embarrassment) as she asked “finish school already ah?”

I think she probably suspects that we heard the sounds coming from their bedroom, but this kind of thing how to ask?

Anyway from then on, I always made it a point to inform my mother whenever I bring my bf or any friends over, this is damn embarrassing.”

Editor’s note: Wah your parents uncle and auntie already still can perform ah, they really love each other.