My husband plays an online game called World of Warcraft (WoW) and he was upset that our upcoming newborn’s delivery is conflicting with his raid schedule.

I’ve never felt so hurt.

I’ve allowed him to play the game for as long as we’ve been in our 8 year relationship. It’s only the past 3 years that he’s come to bed extremely late.

He talks about the game all the time and I let him indulge in his info-dumping.

I’m set to go to the hospital on Monday as I might be close to delivering our first child. He said that his raid with his guild is on Tuesday and Thursday and he’s fighting the final boss of mythic and this might be his only chance to do it. The baby might be delivered next week.

I don’t know how I feel about this or how to process this. I’m so afraid he will choose the game over us.

Netizens’ comments

• Dafuq? As a former WoW junkie I can say that this is the exact point where he needs to seek help for his addiction. Seriously, when you hit parenthood if you want to play games they need a pause button. So you can go back to it when things have been taken care of.

• You need to talk to him about the fact that for the next six months, he won’t have time or energy to touch that computer. How does he plan to integrate fatherhood into his schedule?

• This was how my first marriage ended. My husband chose raiding over attending the celebration my family held for me when I completed my masters degree.
  I am so sorry you’re going through this. Video game addiction is very real, and very painful for those of us struggling with a family member deep in the depths of it, especially because it’s frequently unrecognized.
  I hear my ex husband no longer plays. I sincerely hope your husband can recognize that this is out of control and become the partner and father you and your child deserve.

How do you guys cope with the fact that you aren’t attractive?

Never really bothered me or maybe I was just too young a few years back. I have heard stories of my friends receiving confessions and getting into relationships but it never bothered me and I genuinely am happy for them even though I had none.

Moving into my 20s soon, I guess that’s when I started thinking more about my future, and expectations to settle down eventually. (I know I’m still young, but time really flies)

I know looks isn’t everything, but it is still very important and many circumstances have proven that. Good looking people get better connections, better jobs, befriend people more easily hence higher chance to meet lifelong friends, people are nicer.

Can’t really remember if anyone called me ugly straight to my face nor hinted at it (though I think they are just being nice because none of my friends are that direct) but definitely was called very average by a friend lol.

Never once thought I was ugly too, only as I got older, I literally had a glow down and I don’t get how is it possible like isn’t it puberty suppose to make you better one.

I just find it hard to accept the fact that I don’t look as good as others, others are prettier, better, than I am. It has affected my self esteem so much that I hate looking into the mirror, I hate myself to the point I can’t even look at people and hold conversations anymore because all that is going through my head says ‘you’re ugly’.

And everytime I make eye contact with someone for longer than a second I strongly believe they are looking at my features and thinking how ugly I am. It has affected my chances to make friends, even more so relationships which I of course hope to have one and settle down one day.

Just late night thoughts, so what do you guys do to cope with the fact that you aren’t attractive, maybe even considered ugly by others? How do I lift my head up again to talk to others? I constantly feel like shrinking my presence till I’m non-existent because I’m afraid others would look in my direction and discover how ugly I actually am…

I’m leaving my husband because I found out that he has been making fun of me behind my back to his ex.

My husband (m45) and I (f36) met about 6 years ago. We have been married for 1 year. When we met I was very fit and athletic. I started gaining weight however after suffering 2 miscarriages and the loss of my mother to cancer. I was greatly affected and barely got out of bed if not to go to work.

I stopped exercising and instead started eating junk food. I gained 20kg in 2 years (2019-2020). Under this time my husband (then fiancé) was very supportive and loving. I felt guilty and tried to give him an out several times but instead he proposed and we got married last summer.

Since our marriage I have been feeling much better and it showed. I have lost around 20 pounds so far and I gained back my muscles and abs. He was so happy to see me feeling better.

On his computer however, it was totally a different story. He was talking, almost under our entire relationship to his ex wife about me.

His ex wife (f46), left him about 7-8 years ago for her colleague. The relationship didn’t work however and she tried to get back together with my husband. He has already met me but they stayed friends, mostly via chat, texting.

My husband was complaining about everything about me. My job, my mental health, my cooking but mostly about my weight. He was telling her how disgusting I was to him, how he even found it hard to share the same bed since I snored like a dog.

He sent her pictures of me while sleeping, sometimes in underwear with comments about my belly, double chin, “back boobs” etc. She found these pictures extremely amusing and she came up with the name “whale”. They both found it hilarious and now this is what they referred to me as.

They don’t flirt exactly or talk about being together or starting an affair but they do say that they miss each other and they reminisce about the time they were married.

She’s more flirtatious and he really enjoys it. Whatever he’s telling her isn’t what I have experienced with him. I don’t disgust him. He tells me that he loves me all the time. The way he touches and makes love to me is so great he must be a really good actor if he was in reality disgusted by me.

And he hates the few times we have to sleep apart. He’s lying and I don’t know why he’s doing it. He’s lying to one of us and I’m not sure if I want to know who he’s lying to and why. I decided to get out of this marriage and leave this behind me.

Right now I’m acting like everything is normal but I have started looking for a place to rent. I also started with birth control pills, in case something happens between us and I have talked to a lawyer to prepare the divorce and start the process once I’m gone.

What a waste of love he has been!

I hate having intercourse with my GF while she’s on her period but she wants to still do it

My (23M) GF (20F) are in a sort of long distance relationship where we are away from each other. I’m coming home for a couple of days, but she’s currently on her period.

I love being intimate with her but doing it on her period grosses me out. I know it’s natural and I shouldn’t judge it but at the same time I don’t wanna do it.

It hurts her feelings when I tell I don’t wanna. What can I do to help her relax and calm down when I tell her again?

I told her that I’m planning a huge date that’s gonna be filled with many dates all in one day because I want her to understand that I’m not grossed out by her in any means.

I want her to feel loved and attractive but at the same time I want her to just understand that I’m just not comfortable doing it while she’s on her period.

Netizens’ comments

• Consent goes both ways. She needs to respect your boundaries.

• Though it hurts her feelings, she should respect you dislike that. A relationship is respect for each other.

• Have a conversation with her about it. She can respect it or not. If she doesn’t, you may want to reconsider if she’s the right person for you.