Overstaying is an immigration offence

Long story short, I’m pissed with how ICA works in Singapore.

Early this year, I engaged my sister as my confinement nanny (just in case you dont know, MOM got this temporary permit for confinement nanny) I got the approval from MOM but I didnt know I have to extend the visit pass validity with ICA. (Didnt know they work separately as I thought SG all linked – face palm)

So when my sister depart from Singapore, she got stopped by the officer, being held in the customs office for 4 hours! She is asked to pay a fine of SGD 300 and her name forever being blacklisted as an offender. Every time she comes into SG, she will be asked to go into the customs office and its at least an hour wait.

She will miss her coach bus every time.

There was once I was with her, waiting for her outside of the custom office with my 3 children for more than an hour. When i ask the officer please speed up the process as it is close to 11pm and we need to travel another 40 mins to reach home they simply said they are checking. Seriously?

What are they checking? Is she armed? Is she carrying drug? Is she a serial killer??? She is just a 40 years old fat lady who cannot even speak proper english. My sister is traumatised by the experience previously, every time she plans to come SG it bothers her.

Is there anyway ICA can do better for this?? How long more my sister gonna get this type of treatment from ICA?? Sigh FML

Here are what netizens think:-

2 mistakes – why apply for permit when she can enter SG as Malaysian (assuming that you are one) for Visa free 30days? You should have apply for STVP (90days) in the first place. Sounds like you are making her as an employee instead. Secondly, it is the duty of the employer/employee of a permit to ensure that employee is not overstaying. Please write in to ICA for grace to remove her from blacklist by providing reasons for her overstaying as well as being her guarantor for all possible future entering to SG. This is subject to approval from ICA. Best of luck. You need plenty.

• If its your sister, WHY would you apply for her to come over as nanny???????? Just one return ticket and log her as leisure traveller and you dont need a single thing other than visa.

• Hey, I forgot to extend the validity for my confinement nanny and she had to pay the fine. But she is not black listed or stopped by the immigration officer every time she enters sg

• Ur sis is foreignor, she should strictly follow local laws what. I’m appalled that Ur sis dare to pull off such stunt. Btw ignorance is not a valid defense. Usually msian social visit pass is alrdy 30 days, u want to extend cannt go ICA there get a manual extension stamp mey? U from which Era, cannot Google to double triple confirm?

trying hard to plan. it is already complicated enough. but some people from the committee loves to throw out new ideas.

throwing out new ideas is good. but what they throw it out is unprocessed random thoughts and worse still they don’t want any responsibility associated with it.

we are visiting a children’s home for a few weeks consecutively. we have separated into different groups of people planning the individual event for the children. then suddenly this smart alec thinks that we should make this event even more interesting by coming up with a story (like a new story from scratch not even a story book). and splitting the story up into several weeks so that the children remember us better.

another person in the committee was like egging her on. saying that WOWWWW it is such a brilliant idea.

no one in the committee wants to be associated with the story writing. some more said this suggestion during the session with our volunteers now they are expecting a story and no one actually wants to write it.

yes i want the children to have a good time. yes i want to make a difference. but honestly i do not see how significant will the story help with our volunteering work.

Here are what netizens think:

Haha, I was in similar position before. Had a committee with reps from different depts. Ideas only become more and not less. Dates draw nearer and still, nothing concrete is planned, agreed or done. Then finally, the committee members will say, “HR you decide.”

Every event also like that. Was very frustrated until I 看开. Eventually I just think of the idea myself (but dont tell them) and just let them suggest and dream all they want.

Occasionally reminding them to come back to reality by saying, “Finance, I’m ok with the idea so you settle the budget ya~” Then finance rep will immediately say it’s impossible to increase budget one… 

And whoever suggest anything ridiculous, I will say, “Great! Then you lead the activity since it’s your idea and you know best. HR support your idea. Finance support you financially. ”

Usually they will immediately tell me it’s impossible or hard to do and I would “jokingly” say smth like, hahaha then you suggest for what.

Sometimes they tried to push to me and I would say 我没有你们厉害啦.. You thought of the idea but even you cannot do then how can I do? 

The meetings were honestly a waste of time for me (esp when I’m so busy) but I just treat it as a kind of bonding and engagement with my staff lor. 

• Oh I would say.. since you have the concept and idea, take charge for the planning and execution please. If he/she might say everyone can do it, you can simply reply we don’t fully understand and may not do it to perfection or mess up his/her great idea. Just get whoever come up with idea to do it, lead by example.

If you give silent treatment whenever someone hurt you, you’re a dumbass and immature af.

All you gotta do is talk. Simple as that. Just talk about what made you unhappy, annoyed, angry, frustrated, etc.

If you don’t explain yourself, don’t expect people to read your mind. No, silent treatment is not a “clear message”. Cause it could be range from “I’m really busy too talk” to “I’m not acknowledging your existence”.

If you did explain multiple times and they choose to not acknowledge your feelings, then leave. It’s not that hard.

It’s extremely tiring for us who had good intentions but probably came out wrong in our actions or words. Majority of the time it’s something very very fixable. We didn’t mean to hurt you at all.

If you’re one of the people who thinks silent treatment is the best way to deal with small issues,

You’re still immature af. Your dumbass can’t handle any small pain. Yet you stick around to give them silent treatment cause you simply love to feel power. High chance you have abandonment issues too so you simply love when people are begging you to tell them what they did wrong. And then when they cried wondering what they did, you just gonna go and say “Hey what’s wrong? I’m not mad at you, just dissapointed”.

Then when they had enough and leave, you’ll say “Fine. Go ahead. Leave me like everyone else then. And I thought you’re my friend”.

Lol guilt tripping tactics. And you wonder why you have no friends.

Keep up with this attitude and I promise you at the end of your life you’ll be all alone. No one cares about you and no one will remember anything good about you.

Grow the F up.

I wish I grow up dumb.

Since my childhood days, I was taught to only be logical in every situation, thus I was brought up to be mentally mature at a very young age. Which means I never got to experience what normal childhood feels like. You know like crying over pointless things, watching cartoons, go to the playground, etc.

When I was like at least 9 years old, I actually told a kid to stop being childish. Yup, a kid telling another kid to stop being a kid. Cause I was told to only think about logical things. No feelings. Nothing. I know it’s unreasonable to think it that way but I was frustrated on childish behavior by kids. I was told by adults that I’m “too mature for my age” and they told me that I have to wait years until I find “my kind of people”.

I’ve endured years of suffering being surrounded by what I perceive to be very immature people. I was told that when I’m an adult I’ll find people who have the same mind as me.

But I was wrong.

I’m turning 30 and from my observation some people just take don’t grow up. I’ve dealt with people older than me but behaving worse than a child. Some people just don’t seem to think about solving problems, but rather, they enjoy being a problem or creating one. But no one wants to admit it.

In the end of the day, I’m exhausted being mentally mature. I’ve constantly think about solving problems with logical methods but I’m surrounded by people who only follows their feelings.

And you know what, those people seems to be happy like that… And honestly I’m jealous.

I wish I had a dumb childhood.

I wish I grew up dumb.

I wish my parents didn’t teach me to be too logical.

All I want now is to be happy but I do not know how.

As logical as I can be, this is one problem I can’t seem to solve.

I’m a 29-year-old local Singaporean and I have been doing this for 3 years.

I never thought I would become a S worker.

But here I am, standing in a dingy hotel room, waiting for my next client to arrive.

I try to prepare myself for whatever might come through the door, but it’s hard to know what to expect.

Not her type

There was one time I had a fat and sweaty man as a client, I was nervous. I didn’t know if I would be able to go through with it, but I needed the money. So I took a deep breath and tried to focus on the task at hand.

At first, it was hard to get past his appearance. He was overweight, and his sweat was dripping onto the bedspread. Half the time I feel like vomiting but I had no choice.

But as the session went on, I started to focus on the job at hand. I tried to make small talk, to make him feel comfortable and relaxed. And eventually, I started to feel more at ease myself.

After that first time, I realized that I could handle just about any client that came my way. I learned to separate myself from the situation, to focus on the job and not on the person I was with. It wasn’t always easy, but it was necessary to survive in this line of work.

But despite my newfound confidence, there are still moments when I feel uncomfortable or even scared. There have been times when clients have been rough or aggressive, and I have had to assert myself and demand that they stop. It’s not always easy to stand up for myself, but I know that it’s necessary for my own safety.

So why do I do this job?

Growing up, I never had much. My parents were poor, and we struggled to make ends meet. I dropped out of school and started working at a fast-food restaurant, but the pay was barely enough to cover my bills. I was stuck in a cycle of poverty and desperation, and I didn’t see a way out.

That’s when I met someone. She was a friend of a friend, and she offered to introduce me to the world of prostitution. At first, I was hesitant. I didn’t want to sell my body for money, but I was desperate. I needed a way to make ends meet, and this seemed like the only option.

So I took the plunge, and I started working as a S worker. It wasn’t easy at first – there were times when I felt scared or uncomfortable, times when I didn’t want to go through with it. But I pushed through, and eventually, I started to get used to it.

I know it’s not glamorous, and it’s not something that most people would understand. But for me, it’s a way to make a living and support myself. I know that I am providing a service that some people need, and that makes me feel a sense of purpose and worth.

And even though it’s not always easy, I know that I am strong enough to handle whatever comes my way. I am a S worker, and I am proud of who I am and what I do.

I remember when I used to play a prank on Ah gua who was waiting for customers in the Changi Village carpark. It was a lot of fun, but also a bit risky.

I was living in the Changi Village area. I had heard about the ah guas who were around the area, so I decided to have some fun. Every night, I’d go to the carpark and wait for the ah guaa to show up.

When they arrived, I would hide in the shadows and watch them. I knew they had to wait for customers, so I figured if I could make them think someone was interested in them, it would be a good prank.

My plan was simple. I would walk up to one of the ah gua, pretend to be interested in them and tell them I won’t pay more than 50 cents, and then run away.

The first time I tried it, I was surprisingly successful. The ah gua I approached seemed to be taken aback by my presence, but I quickly ran away before they could do anything. I was so excited that it worked.

But the next night, I was not so lucky. The ah gua I approached this time was not amused by my prank. She shouted at me, and I quickly ran away and she chased me.

I continued to play my prank over the next few weeks, but I became more careful. I made sure to stay in the shadows, and I never approached any of the ah guas directly. Some times I would driveby and shout at them..

Playing this prank was a lot of fun, but it was also a bit of a risk. I was lucky that I never got caught. I’m glad I was able to have some fun without getting into any serious trouble.

It’s been a few years now since I last played this prank, but I still remember it fondly. It was a fun way to pass the time when I was young.