I want to see my mother for Valentine’s Day, but my fiancé said “no”

Basically, my mom was supposed to get a cochlear implant surgery tomorrow and it was denied by insurance. I feel really bad.

I haven’t see her in three weeks and I wanted to just spend time with her (my fiancé took me to dinner on Saturday for our anniversary), he’s quite upset that I want to see her, I understand he’s upset but is it wrong off me to spend time with my mom? Or are his feelings more justified?

Edit: he is not a controlling person and a perfect fiancé other than this. She is mentally manipulative towards me and that could be why however that’s still my mother and I want to be there for her in sadness, it’s a complicated relationship.

Edit. X2: I bought flowers for my mom, and dropped them off. I only saw her for 45 mins! She was happy about that

Fiancé tried calling me multiple times, eventually texted. Said that he didn’t want me to spend all day with her because of how I get but he was so busy with work, we couldn’t have a full brown conversation about it, right then and there. He also said that I argued with myself today and was upset for no reason. He got me flowers too!

Netizens’ comments

• Info: why doesn’t he want you to go see your mom? Also, why haven’t you seen her in three weeks if she lives so close? Also, why doesn’t your fiancé come see your mom with you?
• It sounds like he feels like she’s going to hijack what is supposed to be a good day and make it suck. I’d side with him if he’s so good to you, he must have both of your best interests in mind, here.
• I kind of feel for your fiance. You had three weeks to visit her,but instead chose a holiday dedicated to partners. An implant is a low risk surgery, you can go with her to the hospital tomorrow, and be her designated driver. It does concern me that your fiance said no and not a let’s discuss this. 
• Why did you wantt to make your fiancé look like he’s controlling when he only wants to protect you lol

Fellow Singaporeans living in Sengkang. How do you do it?

I’ve lived in sengkang for about 15 years and i love it for the most part. One gripe though

I swear, seems like the RSAF purposely ask the fighter pilots to fly circles around my house everyday. Its so loud and the frequency went up??

9am also have 7pm also have. Sometimes 10pm also have jfc. I literally have to stop all convo/pause my movie and wait for the pilots to finish their pass. This can take anywhere from 1-3 minutes of just constant jet noise.

And ffs my bto at tenga gg

Netizens’ comments

• I live in the west and I am facing the exact same problem. It makes working from home really difficult at times. Next time if I were to buy a house, the first thing I would look out for is this. Ain’t no way I will live somewhere near an airbase anymore.
• Lived in the West all my life, roaring planes are always a part of it. Funny I don’t realize how intrusive it is till COVID puts us at home for long periods of time. Now they really are a nuisance I’m unable to ignore.
  Wanna have zoom calls for work? Sure, if I’m juz the listening one. If you have to listen to me, forget it!
• I stay at sengkang and I don’t even remember hearing them so often.
  More often is motor and car revving their engine that is the noisiest in Sengkang.
• Lived here my entire life, kinda just got used to it tbh but yeah it’s annoying AF especially near National Day.
• I don’t live in Sengkang but you just get used to it until you have a wfh meeting and have to make the whole call wait for the plane.
• By 2030, PLAB (Paya Lebar Airbase) will shift its operations to either (Changi) or (Tengah) till then you just need to bear with the noise. Sengkang and Punggol, which lie directly under the flightpath of RSAF fighter jets taking off from PLAB

i got into a job scam last year and lost around $50,000 SGD. Yes, i graduated from NUS and made such a stupid mistake.

I have made a police report and till now, police is still investigating.

I am still holding onto the hope that i may perhaps get some money back.

I can’t get away from the guilt and pain from the loss. Coming from a single parent family, my mom had worked her whole life bringing my brother and me up. Now at her old age, my mom is still working and did not even have $20k in her savings, and yet, i squandered away $50k just like that. The money lost could have improved my mom’s quality of life and perhaps, allow her to not work so hard now. The guilt has been eating me up daily.

How can i walk out from this?

Here are what netizens think:

• Your education doesn’t matter. Remember anyone can get scammed, If you are lonely, they have a love scam. If you are greedy, they have lobangs. If you are skint, they have job scams. They’ll find your soft spot.

• You are still very young. Take the 50k as your school fees on how evil this society can be and learn a lesson from it. Find a job, a side hustle whatever and quickly earn back the 50k. It’s no use wallowing in guilt and self pity.

• Dang. I’d have bought a Rolex Daytona with that and still get some spare change for some good food and wine…

• Lesson learned, no to betcoin.  We’ll, anyway damage has been done, all you have to do is to embraced it and it served as a lesson for you that there’s no such thing in this cruel world is instant. God is good all the time, you can get through this. Just have faith.

As a parent, I have experienced the joys and challenges of using an iPad to keep my child entertained during long journeys or when waiting in a queue. However, recently, I had an experience that made me question the wisdom of relying too much on technology to keep my child occupied.

It was a typical weekday afternoon, and my son and I were on our way home from his piano lesson. We had a long journey ahead of us on the MRT, and I knew that it would be a challenge to keep him entertained for the duration of the trip. So, I brought along his iPad and loaded with his favourite games and videos.

For the first half of the journey, everything went smoothly. My son was happily engrossed in his iPad, and I was able to catch up on some reading. However, as we approached the midway point of the journey, I noticed that my son’s iPad battery was running low. I reminded him to save his game and switch off the device, but he refused. He begged me to let him play a little longer, promising that he would switch it off as soon as the battery ran out.

I hesitated for a moment, but then I gave in to his pleas. I figured that a few more minutes of screen time wouldn’t hurt, and it would keep him calm for the remainder of the journey. However, as soon as the iPad ran out of battery, my son’s mood changed dramatically. He threw a tantrum, screaming at the top of his lungs and kicking the metal pole in front of him.

I was mortified, and I could feel the disapproving glares of the other passengers on the train. I tried to reason with my son, telling him that he had already had plenty of screen time and that he needed to learn to entertain himself without technology. However, my words fell on deaf ears, and he continued to scream and cry.

In that moment, I felt like the worst parent in the world. I had relied too heavily on the iPad to keep my child calm, and I had failed to prepare him for the possibility of a low battery or technical malfunction. I realized that I needed to make some changes to my parenting approach and find a better balance between technology and other forms of entertainment.

As a smoker, I had been keeping an eye waiting for the announcement that the tax on cigarettes was going to increase.

I felt like I was living on the edge of a volcano, knowing that it could blow at any minute and wondering how I was going to cope with the changed landscape.

Went to stock up on cigarettes

When the news finally broke that the tax was indeed increasing, I knew I had to act fast. I was determined to stock up on cigarettes before the price hike came into effect.

I didn’t hesitate. I grabbed my keys and rushed out the door, heading straight to the convenience store below. I was relieved to see that the shelves were still well-stocked with cigarettes. I grabbed a few cartons and headed to the checkout.

The cashier was a bit surprised by my purchase, but she didn’t ask any questions. I knew that the tax increase was going to make cigarettes more expensive, but I didn’t realize just how much.

When I got to the register, I realised that I had bought $500 worth of cigarettes.

Eventually could just quit smoking because its prices are getting too ridiculous

I was glad I had acted quickly, but I was worried about how I would manage my budget in the future. I knew that I would have to cut back on other expenses in order to afford my habit.

I also knew that I would have to be more mindful of my smoking, because I couldn’t afford to buy more cigarettes every week.

As I walked out of the store, cigarettes in hand, I couldn’t help but feel a little bit relieved. I knew I had done the right thing by stocking up before the tax increase went into effect.

I was still a bit anxious about how I would manage my budget, but I was glad that I had taken the initiative and acted quickly.

I made my way back home, feeling a little bit better about the situation. I was relieved that I had been able to get my hands on some cigarettes before the price hike went into effect. I knew it was going to be tough to manage my budget, but I was determined to make it work.

All in all, I was glad that I had taken the initiative and bought some cigarettes before the tax increase went into effect. It was a smart move, and it saved me a lot of money in the long run.

My Valentine’s Day began like any other day. I woke up, went to work, and went about the typical day-to-day. When I got home, I was surprised to find my boyfriend standing in my living room with a bouquet of flowers.

I was taken aback, since it had been a while since I had gotten flowers, especially on Valentine’s Day. He had a big smile on his face as he handed me a bag of chrysanthemum and said, “Happy Valentine’s Day!”

Upon closer inspection, I realized he had given me an unusual gift – chrysanthemums. My heart sank. Chrysanthemums are usually associated with mourning, and it seemed like my boyfriend was trying to send me a message.

The one I got is those kind bought from Chinese herb shops that are used to make chrysanthemum tea.

I asked him why he had chosen to give me chrysanthemums. He explained that he had heard that chrysanthemums were a sign of loyalty, something he wanted to show me on this special day. He said that I demanded for flowers every year and he is getting sick of it and decided to play a prank on me.

I was so pissed by his gesture, and I couldn’t help but get angry. I thanked him for his thoughtful gift in a sarcastic way and kept quiet after.

I don’t think I would have ever thought of giving chrysanthemums as a Valentine’s Day gifts he trying to break up with me?