Strange men waiting outside ION B1 Toilet

Has anyone realised there is an influx of men outside of the Men’s toilet at B1 waiting to follow other guys in?

At times after work I’ll be walking around Orchard specifically near Wisma and ION to eat/window shop and then I tend to go the Men’s toilet at B1 right before making my way to brown line Orchard MRT

and I get followed by strange men. Sometimes they’ll follow me to the urinals and use the ones near me.

The strangest thing is that they’ll leave the toilets first then come back just to look at anyone who’s attractive before they leave. This has happened to me quite a few times these past two weeks, with different guys following me in.

Anyone knows why? Is there like a secret thing going specifically at that toilet level?

Netizens’ comments

1. trying to say you’re attractive but not trying to say you’re attractive
2. Congrats for being attractive to… weird guys
3. Didn’t think there was so much cottaging in Singapore, maybe can report to the security desk there next time
4. Are you waiting us to praise you because you are attractive?
5. I think it has something to do with your username (rainbowbutt9000)
6. That why i go pee inside the toilet urinal.
7. Wah you learn something new everyday

My bf (M35) of one year suggested he take me (F32) for a Brazilian wax as a ‘date’ idea. How do I tell him he made me feel uncomfortable?

Background: I asked my bf if we could start going on more dates together. Over the past months, I’ve felt like he’s stopped planning anything for us. I can’t remember the last time we went out for dinner or he surprised me. Things have been feeling stagnant.

So I suggested things like a painting or cooking class, spa day etc. He seemed uninterested in what I was saying and said he can’t really afford any of those options. I do understand that as he’s a full time student atm. But then he suggested he take me to get a wax (Brazilian).

At first I laughed it off and said ‘when you do!’. But I was genuinely upset at the comment. He later told me he was ‘just joking’. (For context, I do trim a couple of times a week).

Now he’s been annoyed and standoffish since I brought the date ideas up. He said he doesn’t like being told what to do, that things should happen “organically” and he feels he’s not enough.

I’ve tried to explain this is my love language and the dates don’t have to be expensive. He responded that he took me for “burgers” 3 months ago and that was him making an effort.

I feel uncomfortable that he commented on my body like this. I feel like I’m asking too much of him. How do I get him to understand that I value and need quality time in a relationship?

Netizens’ comments

1. I don’t see the point in dating someone who refuses to go on dates with you.
2. When you find a BETTER boyfriend, you’ll be kicking yourself for months that you wasted this much time with this POS!
   The only thing you should be ripping out by the roots is this relationship! You can find a guy who’s interested in life, in events, in experiences. It ain’t this guy!
3. So he refuses to go on dates with you but then plans a painful one that implies he doesn’t like your lady bits as they are, to enhance his own experience in bed? Then he turns it around and tries to guilt you by saying he doesn’t feel like he’s enough?
   What kind of garbage is this? Maybe he isn’t enough.

Getting married was the biggest mistake of my life.

Today is Valentine’s Day and, like always, my wife has been teasing me that we can finally get intimate (been three months since we last been together) and here I am laying in bed and she’s nowhere to be found.

I’m so tired of this. I’m so lost and unfulfilled. We have been together for 12 years and she never hugs or kisses me. I’m always initiating, I caught her looking up old flames on Facebook. I don’t feel like her husband.

Her excuse has always been: “I’m not the affectionate type”, and this is true. She’s not affectionate at all. It’s her personality and I’ve accepted it for the last 10 years, but when our first child was born, she’s been the most affectionate person I’ve ever met.

I love that she is caring for our baby, for the last two years she’s been a great mother.

But I’ve asked her for some of that love and she ignores me. This has been 12 years, and today she finally broke me. I’m going to get a divorce.

Netizens’ comments

1. Unrequited romantic love hurts like a motherf. Happy that you are able to make a change even though it’s a difficult one to make.
2. She’s not attracted to you. And probably hasn’t been for a long time. You will find many people will stay in a relationship because of fear of the unknown. She doesn’t love you the way you love her. Make the hard choice and end things.
3. Best to get out of an unloved marriage, before you waste your entire life being ignored.
4. I dated a girl that was like this as I’m a very loving and touching person. Towards the end our relationship she tried everyday, but at that point it was too late. I’m glad I cut it off because ultimately I know what I want and she can’t provide me with that.
5. I’m glad you notice how toxic she is and are doing something about it. I hope you find someone who can love you and care for you!!
6. It sounds like you settled. You shouldn’t have married and had a kid with her in the first place. Now you’re stuck in a loveless marriage and your wife makes your child her top priority while you get nothing.
   It wouldn’t be hard for her to make you and your kid priorities equally but for some reason she chooses to ignore your needs/wants entirely.
   No wonder so many couples with kids eventually divorce. You give and give and get nothing back. It isn’t a happy relationship/marriage and your wife is being disrespectful and neglectful. Getting a divorce will be better for everyone involved, especially you.
   You deserve so much better. I know too many friends and family members in similar marriages. Many of them settled for their spouses and now that they have kids they’re miserable and treat each other horribly but still stay together for some stupid reason. It’s so sad to see.

I want to see my mother for Valentine’s Day, but my fiancé said “no”

Basically, my mom was supposed to get a cochlear implant surgery tomorrow and it was denied by insurance. I feel really bad.

I haven’t see her in three weeks and I wanted to just spend time with her (my fiancé took me to dinner on Saturday for our anniversary), he’s quite upset that I want to see her, I understand he’s upset but is it wrong off me to spend time with my mom? Or are his feelings more justified?

Edit: he is not a controlling person and a perfect fiancé other than this. She is mentally manipulative towards me and that could be why however that’s still my mother and I want to be there for her in sadness, it’s a complicated relationship.

Edit. X2: I bought flowers for my mom, and dropped them off. I only saw her for 45 mins! She was happy about that

Fiancé tried calling me multiple times, eventually texted. Said that he didn’t want me to spend all day with her because of how I get but he was so busy with work, we couldn’t have a full brown conversation about it, right then and there. He also said that I argued with myself today and was upset for no reason. He got me flowers too!

Netizens’ comments

• Info: why doesn’t he want you to go see your mom? Also, why haven’t you seen her in three weeks if she lives so close? Also, why doesn’t your fiancé come see your mom with you?
• It sounds like he feels like she’s going to hijack what is supposed to be a good day and make it suck. I’d side with him if he’s so good to you, he must have both of your best interests in mind, here.
• I kind of feel for your fiance. You had three weeks to visit her,but instead chose a holiday dedicated to partners. An implant is a low risk surgery, you can go with her to the hospital tomorrow, and be her designated driver. It does concern me that your fiance said no and not a let’s discuss this. 
• Why did you wantt to make your fiancé look like he’s controlling when he only wants to protect you lol

Fellow Singaporeans living in Sengkang. How do you do it?

I’ve lived in sengkang for about 15 years and i love it for the most part. One gripe though

I swear, seems like the RSAF purposely ask the fighter pilots to fly circles around my house everyday. Its so loud and the frequency went up??

9am also have 7pm also have. Sometimes 10pm also have jfc. I literally have to stop all convo/pause my movie and wait for the pilots to finish their pass. This can take anywhere from 1-3 minutes of just constant jet noise.

And ffs my bto at tenga gg

Netizens’ comments

• I live in the west and I am facing the exact same problem. It makes working from home really difficult at times. Next time if I were to buy a house, the first thing I would look out for is this. Ain’t no way I will live somewhere near an airbase anymore.
• Lived in the West all my life, roaring planes are always a part of it. Funny I don’t realize how intrusive it is till COVID puts us at home for long periods of time. Now they really are a nuisance I’m unable to ignore.
  Wanna have zoom calls for work? Sure, if I’m juz the listening one. If you have to listen to me, forget it!
• I stay at sengkang and I don’t even remember hearing them so often.
  More often is motor and car revving their engine that is the noisiest in Sengkang.
• Lived here my entire life, kinda just got used to it tbh but yeah it’s annoying AF especially near National Day.
• I don’t live in Sengkang but you just get used to it until you have a wfh meeting and have to make the whole call wait for the plane.
• By 2030, PLAB (Paya Lebar Airbase) will shift its operations to either (Changi) or (Tengah) till then you just need to bear with the noise. Sengkang and Punggol, which lie directly under the flightpath of RSAF fighter jets taking off from PLAB

i got into a job scam last year and lost around $50,000 SGD. Yes, i graduated from NUS and made such a stupid mistake.

I have made a police report and till now, police is still investigating.

I am still holding onto the hope that i may perhaps get some money back.

I can’t get away from the guilt and pain from the loss. Coming from a single parent family, my mom had worked her whole life bringing my brother and me up. Now at her old age, my mom is still working and did not even have $20k in her savings, and yet, i squandered away $50k just like that. The money lost could have improved my mom’s quality of life and perhaps, allow her to not work so hard now. The guilt has been eating me up daily.

How can i walk out from this?

Here are what netizens think:

• Your education doesn’t matter. Remember anyone can get scammed, If you are lonely, they have a love scam. If you are greedy, they have lobangs. If you are skint, they have job scams. They’ll find your soft spot.

• You are still very young. Take the 50k as your school fees on how evil this society can be and learn a lesson from it. Find a job, a side hustle whatever and quickly earn back the 50k. It’s no use wallowing in guilt and self pity.

• Dang. I’d have bought a Rolex Daytona with that and still get some spare change for some good food and wine…

• Lesson learned, no to betcoin.  We’ll, anyway damage has been done, all you have to do is to embraced it and it served as a lesson for you that there’s no such thing in this cruel world is instant. God is good all the time, you can get through this. Just have faith.