I’m 27f grandparents are Mary 70f and John 72m. They’re technically not my grandparents I met them when I was 10 they lived next door.

My mom was single and working multiple jobs 7 days a week. So we kept each other company and developed a grandparents/granddaughter relationship.

They have 2 kids and 4 grandkids. I’m not sure how old they are but likely in their 50s. When I was younger I would joke and say “when you die in 100 years please leave me your teapot sets.”

She’d laugh and say she’ll put it in the will. I moved away as a teen but we still talk every day.

I went to visit last year and she had everyone over for dinner. When she brought out dessert she brought the teapot out. I said don’t forget to leave me that in your will. She said, “oh don’t worry you’re getting everything.”

I laughed because I thought she was joking. She wasn’t I’m the sole heiress in their will. Her kids were pissed! They came up to me when I was getting in my car and told me they knew what I was doing and I should be ashamed.

I told them they’re the ones who should feel shame. They live their lives as if they don’t have parents. They go on yearly family vacations without them. Mary calls me crying because nobody visits (unless they need favors)or brings them along. They rolled their eyes and told me I was out of line and that it was family business and I wasn’t family.

Now the inheritance is a lot. It could pay off my car, loans, and I can move out. But it’s money they’ve been saving for over 50 years. They’ve received multiple inheritances and saved it all. The money would certainly help me but I think it’s unfair to be left all the money.

So, for months I’ve been trying to get them to use the money instead. To go travel like they always wanted. So after months of convincing them, they agreed. I set them up with a friend who is a travel agent and they’re planning a two-year-long vacation.

They’re super excited but their kids are not. They added me on social media and called me on there to tell me that what I was doing is wrong. That I have no business convincing them to waste their money.

I said they were ungrateful a-holes who couldn’t appreciate the parents that raised them and worked hard for them.

They said the only a-hole here is me because I’m making sure they spend their money because I knew if they left it to me they would fight me in court and win because they were promised the money years ago.

I hung up. They didn’t contact me again but I’ve heard they’re still upset. Now I’m feeling weird about it. Is it their right? Especially if they were promised it?

My [32F] perfect husband [35M] is getting too attractive and now I’m afraid to lose him

I have been with my SO forever, we met in our early twenties. We were a pretty even match back then but things have really changed.

We supported each other through everything, university etc. He very well educated now with masters degree in science and I’m a nurse. We have 2 wonderfull kids, economically stable and can afford to travel.

I also found 20 kg extra weight and it showed so about 2 years ago I went all in and lost 10 kg in a very short time.

My husband was extremely impressed and very supportive and also started training as he said he was inspired by my succes.

Today I’m no longer dieting and gained 4 kg again, so still a not loss. He however is still working out and really takes care of himself and he looks awesome… as in way out of my league awesome… this has made me extremely insecure and I have talked with him about my insecurities and he said he would never leave and he loved me all the rights thing but I still felt worried. I kind of said he should maybe train a little less, but he just replied we should lift each other up, not down and he would support me in dieting or any other thing I would do and I should support him in training..

He has started to live a more full live with hobbies a d activities and a lot of socializing at work.

I fear that he will realize can do so much better and leave. I miss my old husband who laid in the sofa with a chubby dad bod.

I (29f) regret divorcing my husband (29m) and want to reconcile. How to approach?

3 years ago I got pregnant and due to hormones and the stress of being pregnant I guess you could say I lost my mind.

I started listening to my parents about how he was not adequate still playing with toys when he is a grown man (he still has a group of friends he plays with) how he doesn’t provide enough (he earns good money just not good enough in their eyes, ffs we could afford to buy a house together in our 20s who can do that today), and other things which I will not get into here.

Anyway I became rude and snappy, treated him worse and worse and it culminated in me asking for divorce 1 year after our son was born.

During this whole time he was never fighting back. I believe he was even worried about me because pregnancy and having a toddler was stressful especially how I biologically had to bear most of the burden.

He would organize days of for me when the baby was born so I could go out or have his sister come over to watch over our son so we could go out.

But I didn’t see any of that. Now mind you we had our arguments but he was present and supportive of me and my plans.

Our arguments were more about how he would stay up late playing video games and not sleep enough, or people saying the wrong things nothing that couldn’t be worked out by talking.

When I asked for divorce he didn’t fight it. He said I will give you everything if you want just let me spend time with our son.

I agreed and that was the first time I noticed I messed up, not enough to call it off but it was the first of many stomach knots to come.

As you can imagine my parents were happy, his family more sad then angry that I divorced him.

Over the last years he would come and spend time with our son as often as he could and I would never fight it , I enjoy watching the two of them together.

Now as soon as the divorce was finished I started having regrets. They started out small. But they are unbearable now.

I miss how he would look for any chance to bite my hips, I would pretend I hate it and complain he would retort it’s my fault because I look adorable.

How he would drool in his sleep all over my arm. How he would say something romantic and then immediately proclaim himself the most romantic man alive and that I am so lucky to have him (it was infuriating how he would ruin aww moments).

This week my parents came over and apologized my dad told me they both noticed how unhappy I was, and the only time my eyes look alive is either when I talk about my son or his visits.

They said they should have been supportive and realized they had a hand breaking up my marriage. They just want me to be happy.

And if he made me happy they should have not treated him or our marriage as they did. I broke down screamed how they ruined my life how I miss him and want back my husband.

They both hugged me and cried with me and said sorry in a thousand different ways. After we calmed down they said I should speak to him and see if there is any chance to try again.

He is always friendly when he comes and visits and whenever I need help he comes running, makes me feel optimistic I still have a chance.

Now just to clarify my parents are also to blame but most of the blame falls on me it was me who listened and me who filed for divorce.

My question is, what to say how to approach him? Tomorrow he is coming to take our son for a walk and to the park.

Do I call him and ask to meet when he is not visiting? I need advice please help. I know I messed up and I’ll regret it for the rest of my life but I want another chance. He is single and has been since divorce same as me.

I manage the internship program at my job. We have six and twelve month internships. This post is about a woman (22) in the program, I’ll call her Hester.

I noticed Hester hugged her colleagues a lot. It was something I brought up in our One on Ones because it seemed excessive. She didn’t seem to like that feedback but didn’t say anything.

Around December she tried to hug me at a company function. Her review was the next day so I brought it up again.

Saying she needed to keep her hands to herself, that this was a work place and not a social club, and reminded her that a lot of people, including myself, do not like being hugged.

She argued with me and said it was how she greeted people and shared a connection with them. I told her she needed to find another way of doing so.

She got sulky and I don’t feel like we came to much of an understanding, despite my efforts to talk through it. I told her that this would be the last time I would be willing to have this conversation with her.

A new intern program joined us a couple weeks ago. On Monday, two of them came into my office and wanted to talk about Hester.

Apparently, she had been constantly hugging on them, despite them both telling her to stop. I apologized to them and also had some conversations with the teams the interns worked with and this had been an ongoing problem.

Wednesday I brought Hester into my office and told her that she could no longer be part of the program. I explained that we had talked about this twice before, that she was making people uncomfortable, and she appeared to not be picking up on work place norms.

She was not happy about this and ended up needing to be escorted out. Yesterday and today I’ve been getting calls from her parents saying she needs this internship and that they don’t think it’s a big deal and I shouldn’t have fired her for it.

Literally always broke. I get paid, it goes to bills, then I have about $50 bucks in my account. Is this how it’ll be in the adult life? (19m)

I work at a call center but it doesn’t matter where I work. I’m not gonna lie, I’m always ordering food but it’s because I hardly have food at my home but this is in general.

Once I get paid, always around $1.2k after CPF. It goes to bills and saving account. then out of nowhere there’s debt that just shows up.

I wanna move out of my parent’s place and move in with a roommate in the future but I don’t even know how I’d even pay $900 in rent monthly.

I wanna move out so bad but I can’t afford to even sustain myself, how to survive?

Netizens’ comments

• You need to make a budget and stop ordering take out, to start.
• No. You’ll get older. You’ll gain experience. You’ll save money. Learn how to use that money and you’ll do fine.
• Start making small changes. Even if you just opt to eat one more cheap meal at home in lieu of takeout each week, you can use that extra money to pay down credit card debt.
  Also, start saving just to get in the habit. Even if it’s only $1 per paycheck, you need to get used to having savings as part of your budget. Over time, as your income grows and your debt shrinks, you’ll be able to save more.
• Everyone is giving good advice on budgets and jobs and what not but I think the bigger issue is that you don’t know how to do things for yourself. Like a learned helplessness. So regardless of your budget, learn how to money manage. Learn how to cook. How to rely on yourself and not others. It’s easier said than done and it’ll take time but you have time. 20 year old rarely if ever have it all figured out.
  You could make 100/ hour or 100/ month, if you don’t know how to live within your means, it’ll never be enough.