I have a best friend (20f) thats been with me through hell and back for a long time. She’s my girl. She’s my rock. She’s my writing star. We plan to be famous authors one day.

But last night? All we wanted was to be drunk. We drank. I poured my heart out and began crying and laughing. She held me.

Eventually, she dared me to take a double shot and I slammed them both. I immediately ran to the toilet and threw up. Then proceeded to get in the shower and just lay on the tub floor while she sat on the toilet lid.

She interrupted me mid rant and asked me, “what would you do if I said I wanted to kiss you right now?”

God.

I never stood a chance.

We took it downstairs and dear lord was it amazing. I hated how amazing it was.

Afterwards we proceeded to just laugh and talk and cuddle in the bed together. The next morning (now) it really dawned on me what I just did. Oh my God. That’s supposed to be my best friend.

Why am I gripped with so much anxiety right now?

I want to never mention it again and let it float in the air.

Netizens’ comments

1. As much as you want to just pretend it didn’t happen, it did and y’all need to talk about it after you’ve had some time to think it through. It sounds like this friendship is very important to you and worth going through an uncomfortable conversation to figure out where to go from here. It can definitely be confusing to have a friendship turn romantic overnight like that but it doesn’t make it wrong, unless you feel like she took advantage of you.
2. Just go with the flow.
   If there is chemistry there, explore it and enjoy each other. But also be clear about expectations, boundaries, and overall feelings.
   Is it general lust or true love for each other? Can you see yourself living and thriving with this person?
   If so, then all the best to ya
3. You might just have anxiety/guilt because of the hangover. It’s a common feeling after a night of drinking. Wait for it to pass and enjoy yourself!

I’ve been a curvy girl my whole life, but in the past few years, my curves have become more noticeable, particularly my chest.

Growing up, I was always insecure about my body—I felt like I was too big and too noticeable, and I was constantly conscious of the way people were looking at me. But when I started to develop curves, I felt like I was so much more visible, especially when I was out in public.

For the past year, I’ve been taking the MRT to get to where I need to go, but I’ve been really uncomfortable with the number of men who seem to be constantly staring at me.

It’s not that I don’t like attention, but it just feels like these guys are looking at me for the wrong reasons. I can’t help but think that it’s because of my chest size that’s bigger than average, and it makes me feel very exposed.

So I decided to take a Grab ride instead. It’s more expensive than the MRT, but it’s worth it for the peace of mind it gives me. Now I don’t have to worry about people staring at me and I can travel in comfort and privacy. I also like that I can control the music I’m listening to and the temperature of the ride.

I’m not the only one who’s uncomfortable with the way people look at curvy girls on the MRT. A lot of my friends have the same problem, and some of them have even stopped taking the MRT altogether. We’ve talked about it and come to the conclusion that it’s not just us—it’s a problem that affects women of all sizes, especially those who are more curvy than average.

I’m not trying to say that all men are looking at curvy girls on the MRT with ill intentions, but it’s definitely uncomfortable when it happens. And it’s not just about feeling exposed—it can also be intimidating. I don’t want to live in fear of being judged or harassed, and I’m sure other women don’t either.

I know that it’s not just curvy girls who are affected by this, but it’s definitely something that needs to be addressed. Women of all sizes should be able to take the MRT without feeling uncomfortable or judged. We shouldn’t have to feel like we are on display for the entertainment of others.

For now, I’m sticking with Grab ride. It’s more expensive, but it’s worth it for the peace of mind it gives me. No more staring, no more feeling exposed. I’m in control of my own ride and I can focus on getting to where I need to go without worrying about what other people are thinking. That’s worth the extra cost.

Hi Singapore. Does everyone here drink water from the tap or are you using filters and purifiers?

I ve been in SG for little over 6 months now and have been drinking water from the tap. A colleague said that I shouldn’t do that. Looking for your opinion.

Also would be great of you can suggest any budget water filters or purifiers

Netizens’ comments

• drank water from the tap since i was a kid. still alive.
• No it’s already safe to drink. Why waste money
• Some water filter companies have been pushing out a myth that local tap water is not drinkable but it is not. Unless you live in a very old estate, then maybe do a water test. Else just drink from the tap.
  Water purifiers are in most cases redundant, or worse, dangerous. See CNA documentary about water filters and why it’s best not to get one if you are not maintaining it regularly.
• Almost all tap water in SG is suitable to drink – you’ll get a big fat warning if it’s not (obviously don’t try to guzzle the water in a public bathroom).
  Personally tho, I boil the water then store it in the fridge to drink cold. I ain’t drinkin warm water when it’s already warm outside lol
• Our water is safe to drink from tap. Most households will boil the water before drinking (out of habit from the old generations).
  Filters/purifiers are just gimmicks or ppl trying to sell those MLM products
• SG tap water is very clean – issue only comes about if your pipes are dirty. Worth getting it checked to see if you should spend the cash, IMO.
• You can drink it. It’s just a mindset thing. For example, boiling water just makes me feel that the water gets cleaner that way lol. Also, Filter does make the water cleaner as some pipes might be rusty but as the others say, if you don’t change the filter and do regular maintenance, the water might end up being dirtier than the actual tap water.
• I prefer the taste of boiled water so I boil it and leave it to cook before drinking it. I don’t use any filters
• tap water is safe in SG, and water purifiers typically wont do much unless you’re immunocompromised and the purifier helps removes more bacteria (but even normal tap water has a low enough bacteria count for most people)
• singapore’s tap water is clean and drinkable but the problem is with our own taps and filter that we don’t change so there’s mould and bacteria build up
• I read before that SG tap is cleaner than UK but still depends on the pipes though especially if you’re staying in an older building. You can buy Brita filter with pitcher from the mall, just replace the filter accordingly.

Husband (32M) constantly threatens divorce over body after babies (32F)

I’m (32f)and have a 2 year old and a 1 year old. My husband (32m) and I got pregnant back to back and I gained baby weight with both pregnancies. The first pregnancy I gained 22kg and then lost 18kg before getting pregnant again (planned) and the second pregnancy I gained 27 kg. I’m currently in the process of losing this baby weight now.

I’m not proud about gaining this pregnancy weight and really struggled during both pregnancies and post pregnancies with my body image. I have struggled losing the weight quickly this second time around but I’m staying consistent and losing it slowly. I still have 9kg left to lose, and then would like to lose more weight to feel more comfortable and fit in my own body.

My husband is constantly tearing me down and telling me I’m not good enough, or some version of that. I know I don’t have the ideal body right now, I’m trying to get there. I’m also caring for the needs of a 1 year old and 2 year old full time. It’s hard. I just wish I had someone in my corner cheering me on.

He is often telling me I shouldn’t weigh the weight I am at, and anytime he feels upset by anything in our relationship, he will bring up my weight and the fact he sees other women bounce back just fine, and tells me “it’s simple, just don’t eat.” He has threatened me with divorce multiple times over my weight, over the clothes I wear (I often wear black or navy workout clothes because I feel comfortable in that right now) and he wrote me a list of what I should and shouldn’t wear, and dark colors is a no no to him. He also told me I shouldn’t purchase workout clothes in the size I am at because I am wasting money (he told me I am stealing money from my kids by purchasing workout clothes for myself), and often refers me to a family member of mine who is overweight and asks me if I want my life to end up like hers (she is divorced). we’re not great as we used to be in bed, which he also complains about and talks about how I don’t ever try to touch him. But the problem is, he’ll berate me in the morning, and then complain about it that same night. It’s hard to get there for me after he called me fat. Like, ok I don’t feel attractice, and clearly you don’t feel that way either.

I’m terrified of divorce and giving him some custody of our kids. He doesn’t take care of them mentally or physically, but he does financially.

I don’t want someone being cruel in their response, this is my life and I don’t know what to do. I feel belittled and picked on daily. I used to be so confident, I had a successful career, I was good looking, and overall proud of myself, and now I feel like a shell of myself of who I once was. Would love some advice.

My [24M] wife [24F] earns more than twice what I earn
Hi everyone. I am in a wonderful relationship with my wife, and we are almost 2 years married.

My only concern is that she earns significantly more than me and I feel pressure to progress my career to match her earnings. She is extremely ambitious and career driven. To be fair, she doesn’t mind being the main provider in the house and neither do I.

However, with such a large disparity, and especially now that we are considering buying a house, I feel guilty about not contributing as much as her. I get angry to myself about it.

Is there anyone in a similar situation who could give me advice on how to deal with this?

Netizens’ comments

1. If she doesn’t mind, then you shouldn’t either. The idea that you HAVE to absolutely make more than your wife is old news. Your wife is a hard worker and happy to help provide for the both of you. Sounds like you have a great wife.
2. I’m the main breadwinner in my marriage, and I want my spouse to be happy with what she is doing for work. I don’t care how much or how little she makes.
3. The best thing to do here is to just sit down and talk over your feelings with her. You guys are married, she should be able to lend an understanding ear for you and help you with whatever you are worried about!
4. My partner earns close to 3x what I earn. We are not married, but if we do decide to take that next step, buying a house, splitting certain financial things may seem unbalanced but it doesn’t have to be. You don’t have to buy a house you’re not confortbale with based on your finances. You also don’t have to be uncomfortable with not being able to contribute exactly 50/50 towards a nicer home if that’s the forever home you both want and your partner doesnt mind putting more towards it initially.
   I think it’s always good to be motivated to progress in life by your partner, but try to look at it in a positive way. The fact that my partner makes nearly 3x my salary definitely makes me want to progress and increase my salary, but I want that for me, not necessarily to be “as good” as her, because I’m not any lesser just because my salary is less. I want to progress for my own self worth. It’s just motivating, but in a positive sense.
   You just need to talk about this stuff and remember that you guys can work on spending mutually on things that match a budget you both agree on so it’s not such an issue for larger purchases. Also remember that it’s not emasculating to make less that a partner. Anyone who says so or jokes about it beyond anything playful is not someone you want to be around anyway. Be a good partner and that’s what matters the most.