I am pregnant with my bosses baby, idk what to do

I am an assistant for Darius, he’s a great guy and we get along well. I won’t state why he needs an assistant or what he does for a living, but we travel a lot together due to it.

Because of all the traveling, we’re around each other all the time. I’ve worked for him for almost a year (started almost immediately after turning 18) and tbh we’ve become quite close.

We traveled to a different country a few months ago, and while we were there we decided to have dinner to celebrate a big score for the job.

We were having a good time, and after dinner he started walking me back to my room at the hotel we were staying at.

we had wine at the restaurant, I was a little tipsy and when we arrived I ended up kissing him. He kissed back, one thing lead to another and we ended up sleeping together, I had feelings for him but didn’t tell him because he’s my boss, but I guess with being on a good night high and being tipsy, I couldn’t help myself.

After this night, we’ve spent lots of nights together, we go on dates and we’ve talked about making it official, he’s great, very sweet and respectful and he spoils me now.

I noticed I was late, but was also recently put on medicine for anxiety so I assumed it was that. Until lately, my stomach has grown a bit and I’ve been sicker, I figured I was crazy and overthinking but I decided to take a pregnancy test, it came back positive, I did it 2 more times and got the same results.

I scheduled an appointment with a doctor, and turns out I’m around 3 months pregnant. Darius is the only man I’ve ever been with, no way it was anyone else. I don’t know how to tell him, or what to do, I don’t want to have an abortion but I don’t know, it might be better.

TLDR; pregnant with my bosses baby, I’m not sure what to do, he doesn’t know.

Spending habit for couples

Guy(22) here and GF (21).

She has a very bad and impulsive spending habit when it comes to buying things, be it upon seeing it immediately and having to buy materialistic items such as bracelet etc when it is not a need.

While I am more on the saving side as I was brought up since young not to spend money on stuff that I don’t need.

Main reason for me asking for help here is because, I do see a future with her, yes I want us to save money to BTO and whatnot, she also wants to enter uni which you know the fees are extremely high. I’ve been talking to her about her spending habits and whatnot for the past few months, yes she did improve by not spending as much and going out as much(cause she spend crazy amount whenever with friends). But she still has this mindset about materialistic items.

Yes, if I was rich,I would definitely get that item for her, but I’m here with just a mere NSF pay and skilled on an industry that has low pay.

Any ideas on how do I talk her out of spending or wanting to spend that much on items?

I love fantasizing about my BF sleeping with other women

It’s turns me on so much. I have so many different fantasies. Some with me being present, and some not and he’s just cheating.

My favorite is the one where’s he’s watching me hook up with another woman but he’s not allowed to do anything, but then eventually he sneaks in some touches and while she’s pleasuring me orally, they start getting nasty.

The thing is, I think if this happened in real life I’d be so hurt. I can be very insecure and jealous, although I have seen this woman he’s slept with before us flirt with him in front of me, and it made me super turned on but ALSO jealous.

In the meantime please give me ideas on how to spice up our bedroom life with this secret of mine without damaging our relationship!

And also lastly, has anyone felt this way but with time, they were able to actually share their partner? I don’t want to be jealous. I really would love to do this in real life and hope one day I could be ready for it. Any hope for me?

I was raised by a single mother. I was just a young boy when my father left us, and I had to watch my mom struggle through life on her own.

Even though she was a strong and independent woman, I knew she could do so much better if she had the financial means to do so.

That’s why I was so excited when I found out about this rich man looking for a wife. I knew it was a long shot, but I decided to try and introduce my mom to him.

I wasn’t sure if he would be interested, but I figured it was worth a try.

My mom was hesitant at first, but I managed to convince her to give it a shot. I was initially worried that the rich man would think I was trying to scam him, but he was surprisingly open to the idea. He asked us to come over for dinner and meet him in person.

When we arrived at his house, I could tell he was impressed with my mom. It was obvious that he was smitten by her beauty and her strong personality. We talked and had a nice dinner, and it seemed like they were really hitting it off.

After a few months, the rich man asked my mom to marry him. She was hesitant at first, but after some convincing from me, she accepted. I was so happy that I could help my mom find happiness and security.

She got married a few weeks later and the rich man has since taken us in as his own family. He has been very kind and generous to us, and my mom has been able to give me the childhood I always wanted.

I’m so grateful to have a rich stepdad who loves us and takes care of us.

It’s been an amazing journey, and I’m glad I took the chance to introduce my single mom to a rich man. The results have been life-changing for us.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost two years now. We were really happy together and I never felt like anything could go wrong.

We could hardly keep our hands off each other and it felt like he was always the one who wanted to be around me the most.

But then something weird happened. I gained 20kg. It wasn’t intentional, but I had been struggling with my weight for years and it just kind of happened. I was expecting my boyfriend to be understanding and supportive, but instead he started acting distant.

At first, I tried to ignore it, thinking it was all in my head. But soon enough it became too obvious to ignore. He stopped calling and texting as much, and when we did talk, he was short and distant. He stopped holding my hand when we went out and he rarely seemed to want to kiss me.

I couldn’t help but feel hurt and confused.

I tried to talk to him about it, but he always brushed it off. He said he was just busy and that he still loved me. But I could tell that something was wrong. I wanted to believe him, but I couldn’t help but feel like he was pushing me away because of the weight I had gained.

I started to feel really insecure and I started to doubt our relationship. I was convinced that he was going to leave me for someone skinnier, someone who he thought was more attractive. I felt like I was never going to be enough for him. I even started to worry that he was cheating on me.

I was so desperate to get him back that I tried to lose the weight. I started going to the gym every day and I was eating a lot healthier. But nothing seemed to work. I wasn’t losing any weight and my boyfriend still seemed distant.

I was so frustrated and hurt that I decided to confront him again. I asked him why he was so distant and if it was because of my weight gain. He finally admitted that it was a factor, but he said that it wasn’t the only reason. He said that he had been going through some personal issues that he was dealing with and that it was making it hard for him to be as close as we used to be.

I was relieved that it wasn’t only because of my weight, but I was still hurt. I felt like he should have been honest with me from the start, instead of pushing me away. We talked for a long time about our relationship and how we were going to move forward.

At the end of the conversation, we both agreed that we still loved each other and that we wanted to make it work. We decided to take our time and be patient with each other. We also agreed to talk more openly about our feelings and to be honest if something was bothering us.

How do you deal with these type of situation?

i am currently an international student in singapore. i just could not believe the comment I received when I was having a dinner with my bf’s parents.

“how come u a filipino but not look like maid? “

“you sound like american too must be rich”

i let out a small smile and continued eating but i felt nauseous. i am still shaking while typing this.

Netizens’ comments

1. Your bf should be the one dealing his parents comments on the spot. If it’s strangers just walk away because these comments come from deep stereotypes that you can’t change by arguing with them anyways
2. That kind of lingo doesnt surprise a lot of common singaporeans. Especially when it comes to countries that is related to where people do menial jobs in singapore like indonesia, philippines, india, bangladesh etc.
3. Also a filipino here op! My family and I get these kinds of comments a lot after living here for many years, esp since we come off looking chinoy and don’t have the typical filipino accent. We don’t feel any malice or or hatred towards them, and usually just laugh it off since most people mean no harm most of the time (but we’ve been exposed to them for so long so we’re indifferent at this point), but sometimes they add insensitive remarks (such as the maid comments, being too fair or skinny for a filipino, talking bad about the PH, etc.) and can really ruin the mood.
   My family and I try our best to politely clarify any misjudgments/preconceived notions people have regarding Filipinos, since many of them are curious too, however there are some that downright refuse to change their perspective on us, but that’s their problem.
   If you can, try and explain to your bf’s parents, or if you’re scared they might take it they might react negatively, talk to your bf about it so he could help explaining to them.
4. very rude. however they seem to be kindof ignorant yet curious about u.
   can take this chance to educate them politely, “uncle, not all filipinos are maids.” “aunty, there are a lot of americans who are in poverty leh…”
   u don’t correct them, they may think it is ok to continue to make such comments. else find a moment with ur BF to express ur discomfort at their rudeness.