Women Talk

You sound jealous, that’s all.

I have to admit I felt the same way before. I despise women who earn less but accept expensive meals and dates and get chauffered around by dates.

And they will show off all of these on their social media. I despise them. Them who lets their boyfriend(s) pay for everything.

Since I started dating I always insist on going Dutch. I hussle, bought my own car and my own house. I’m in my early 30s now, dating feels different with older men and with my financial status.

Some men were intimidated, some did not know how to play the game because I am not one who lets guys pay for everything.

I eventually settled down with a guy one year younger than me. He earns lesser than me and most times we go Dutch. Only expensive meals for celebration will I take the bill. But I finally settled for this man despise our financial differences because i see him try to get to a better place, to at least be equal with me.

Do I still despise those women/girls who let the guy pay for everything? Yes. Is there a reason for them to say no if they are not financially capable to and the guy is willing? No. But do they need to show off on social media without even a mention of thank you to the date who paid for everything? No.

To all women, let’s have some self respect. And yes gracefully accept fully paid for dates but also remember to be appreciative. Most importantly as a women, rely on no one else but yourself to lead the kind of lifestyle you want.

Financial advisor aka insurance agent.

Hi guys, not sure if it is the right platform to ask about financial services industry.

I am a salaried financial advisor aka insurance agent. I receive a basic salary every month. Many agency leaders have reached out to me and all of them are very hungry to recruit me in.

I would like to know: why are they so hungry to recruit me in? What benefits do they gain from recruiting me?

Netizens comments

• Tbh, agency leaders are hungry to recruit almost anyone, despite what they say about you having something special.
• They also earn overriding if they recruit you, and you make a sale.
• If you know MLM, it is the downline they are building. If not clear, I use another example. You know how pyramid looks like? They move to the top, you will work to the bone and they take a cut. If there are enough numbers below, he can shake leg.
• Because u r cheap. No insurance agent will take salaried package. They earn more frm u. Cos u dont take a lot of comms.
• Don’t flatter yourself la, they just want you to make money for them
• Salaried insurance agent? Check your contracts. Likely need to cough back all the ‘salaries’ if you fail to deliver certain revenue targets or quit anytime

Although there are many people who have the tendency to look down on poor people, I want to share my side of my story where I met rich and wealthy people who has shown a lot of empathy to me.

I was born into a family where monthly wage is around $1100 gross back in 1990s, my family would always quarrel about money and calculate our budget to each cent.

That cultivate a sense of scarcity in me which cause me to grow up later to be very calculating as well in my secondary school years.

Primary school and pre-primary school went fine since I don’t really grasp the concept of money and how the world works yet.

Then, things started to change in secondary school, my studies went from an all As student to getting f9 for all my subjects.

As I visited my friends condos and to a rarer extent, mansion, I start to build a concept of wealth gap and it’s effects in my mind.

I told myself that studying is pointless if we don’t even get the same opportunities to begin with and decided to just slack off. it hits me the hardest during prom when I could only afford a Levi belt and had to borrow a suit from my friend.

Nonetheless that friend did not laugh at me and neither did most of my extremely wealthy friends, there are a few of them who mocked my singlish initially but didn’t go too far.

When I was 29, I did meet a rather well to do person who would envy those better than her but secretly hoped that those poorer than her suffer, I had since cut off contact with her but wishing her well.

With all that I went through, it only taught me that showing empathy is an important skill because human beings are meant to work together and sharing is how we grow as a society.

Self improvement is important but broadening your horizon and not look down on others that are different from you is even more important.

What should I do?

I’m a foreign staff working here in SG. I have been working SG since 2013. I moved here, when my age was 20.

I have 5 siblings including me and I’m the youngest among my siblings. My siblings are married except me. I made a nice and big house to live with my parents and with my future wife.

Unfortunately 2021 my mother had died. I couldn’t visit her due to Covid and my study. My mother was my best friend and I’m still loving her.

I’m remembering her every single day and every single moment and missing our all memories.😢

My father is living alone in my house and sometimes my siblings house as well. Yes I love my father and supporting him as much as I can.

But if compare to my mum, my mum was best that never seen anyone in my life.

Since 5years I don’t go home. I had planned end of 2021 I go home. But my planned didn’t work out, because of my mum leaved me.

I don’t have strength, heart, soul to go home anymore. I can’t imagine without my mum how I’ll live to my house?

I can’t stay here as my expectations to make, create and live with a nice family. What should I do?

Appreciate yours good advices.

Netizens comments

• Your dad is lonely too without his lifetime partner. Go home and visit him, build your relationship with him with the shared memories of your mom. Whether you return to Sg after that is Que Sera Sera…
• Do you see a point in staying in Singapore? If not, please go to a country that helps you to advance and call your father daily and visit him whenever you can. Good luck!
• Unless you have a partner here, I would suggest that you return. You talk about memories of your mom. I promise you time will make things better.. I have also experienced the loss of a parent. Also about your dad. Don’t repeat the same regret when his time comes. Spend more time with him when you can. He also miss your mom. You sound like a resilient guy. I believe you can make a living wherever you go. Hugs.