As a staff member in a business that is struggling financially, it is easy to understand why my boss might think it is right to take his capital out first instead of paying us on time.

After all, he is the one who invested his hard-earned money into the business and it is important to him to protect it.

However, I believe that taking out his capital first instead of paying his staff on time is not the right thing to do.

It is important to remember that a business is nothing without its staff.

Without us, the business would not be able to function, and taking out the boss’s capital first instead of paying us on time would be a disservice to us.

The staff is the backbone of any business, and taking out the boss’s capital first would only serve to weaken that backbone and make it harder for us to do our jobs.

It is also important to remember the impact that not paying us on time would have on our morale.

If we were to be paid late or not paid at all, it would have a negative effect on our work. We would feel taken advantage of and would be less likely to work hard.

This would ultimately have a negative effect on the business, making it even harder to turn a profit.

Finally, it is important to remember that the staff is what makes a business successful.

If the staff is not taken care of and paid on time, then they will not be motivated to continue working for the business.

This could lead to a high turnover rate and a decrease in productivity, which would make it even harder for the business to turn a profit.

Taking out the boss’s capital first instead of paying the staff on time is not the right thing to do.

It would be a disservice to the staff, would have a negative effect on morale, and would make it harder for the business to turn a profit.

It is important to remember that the staff is what makes a business successful, and taking care of them should be a priority.

Paying us on time is the right thing to do, and I hope that my boss will recognize this and take the appropriate steps to ensure that we are paid on time.

Why are some old people so mean

I was working from home today

So i walked down to a nearby coffee shop to buy my lunch.

The moment i speak to the auntie to place my order, she was already expressing her unhappiness in the way i talk(very random). I was sure that i was courteous, polite in the way i spoke.

Then she proceeded to say in hokkien that “kids nowadays dont work and only take money from parents”.

Then she proceeded to tout me in verbal ways, seemingly hoping i will respond back and start an argument with her.

Take note i have never talked to his auntie before

Me being me, stood calm and unresponsive to her instigation, paid money took my orders and left.

Auntie, my 1 month salary maybe can probably equate to half a year of your annual salary. I don’t take but give money to my parents so that they don’t need to around with people like you.

Not happy to work just stay at home and watch your tv or something.

Not every “kid” will tolerate your monkey behaviour like how some of us will.

Netizens’ comments

• Why are young people nowadays so easily offended
• A lot of these grumpy old people are bitter they wasted their younger years, so they vent their own unhappiness on the younger people. Serious. Unprovoked, a few frail old uncles have challenged me to a fight before. Can tell easily they have wasted their youth being fragile so they need to prove something and hope the younger person backs down out of “respect”. The only way to counter this type is to explain to them the truth of how they have wasted their lives and now can only be bitter, but you have your whole life ahead of you. They will shut up quickly.
• Laugh at her while she continues to be bitter for her remaining years. Don’t need to waste time, energy and effort to retort or argue with her. You did great, order, pay and be on your merry way. Stay positive as the road is long for you, enjoy it in a good way.
• Can relate. Also find myself wondering about this sometimes. Why are some old people so mean
• Here we go. Complaint from a strawberry generation kid. Just try to be friendly and amicable kid. A little bit of kindness goes a long way

Should I still stay?

I have learnt, after this 1 year together. I have learnt to make myself the priority, instead of you.

I am frequently spending time to wait for you to end work (where your end time is irregular), so that we can have a dinner together.

I could have made better use of that time clearing my task list instead of hanging around outside near your workplace. I could have saved some of my emotions from anticipation.

Seems like you make yourself the priority over me.

Whenever I arranged a time early in the morning with you to go for date activities, you would mostly be late to wake up and delay the itinerary.

However, you can wake up at the same early time to do your own work at home. Is this an example of a lack of effort? I guess its just you making yourself the priority.

When I look at fried food at food stalls and asked if you wanna share, you would pull me away and say you are not a fan of fried food.

However, you ate fried food happily when you went out to dine with your family. I feel disappointed when I saw this.

Why is there a difference in treatment? I am not asking for anything lavish or expensive, just to share a piece of fried food with you, and its once in a blue moon too.

You say you would prefer not to dine in malls as the food there are more expensive. Sure, we can go to coffee shops, I don’t mind.

However, you always visit restaurants with your family and friends and pay for those. Why is there a difference in this then?

Sometimes I want to enjoy some good food with you too. You said umpteen times that we should visit this Omakase restaurant ever since Valentine’s day last year, but what has happened?

I really am doubtful and insecure when you made a promise you cannot or maybe don’t even bother to fulfill. Am I still able to trust you this way?

Usually, its me initiating the date plans and ensuring that it pulls through and we get to actualise it. I am really happy when you initiated that few times at the start of our rs.

However, slowly, there come times where you suggested places to go, I became excited about them, but the plan just falls through.

There was no follow up on your side. I feel disappointed, especially after anticipating it. Over time, I have learnt not to anticipate anything from you anymore.

When I told you a disappointing issue that happened to me, you didn’t come to ask me if I am okay or not, how I am feeling etc.

You just expressed a sigh and continued talking about your own stuff. Is it too much of me to expect words of concern from you? Must I ask openly for this?

I don’t know if I am being too sensitive over the small things here, or these are red flags in this relationship.

I have tried to endure this and subtly communicate over this period, but am a little tired now.

I feel lost. What’s next for me to feel insecure about here?

Need to give angbao to Spouse meh?

I don’t understand why there is a need to give spouse(usually wife) angbao during CNY… there is even a “行情” (market rate) of how much you should be giving your spouse angbao, which is $288 to $688.

What the…

I never expect my partner to give me any ang bao… I thought we are an item already? We gave out angbao to his cousin’s nieces and nephews and also my nieces. (We haven’t had ours yet.)

We gave angbao to both our parents too. It never occurred to me that he should give me or I should give him angbao… it’s like left pocket put in right pocket then right give it back to left…

I don’t understand why some ladies whined or even complained to me that their partner (sometime not even husband, just boyfriend) didn’t give them angbao or give too little to them (which is lesser than $200)… need to be so calculative meh?

I understand if a SAHM get angbao from her hubby… a bit like PB for the whole year hard work… but if both are working adults or bf giving to gf , I really don’t see the point…

What do you all think? I’m just bit surprised and yet irritated when more and more ppl talking about this…

I started distanced myself away from those ladies as I felt that we are not on the same frequency…

Netizens’ comments

• Such a little thing then you distance yourself. Don’t think you will have many friends left. Lol Different ppl have diff opinions and thinking. Don’t expect ppl to think like you and they are not wrong even though they may have diff opinions(in this case). Why do ppl buy bday presents or give bday treats between partners or even friends? It’s just an exchange of blessing. For joy and happiness! You think this is calculative? I think you are the one being calculative leh. Don’t be so narrow minded lah aiyo, new year liao. Kan kai abit!
• Lol.. this is new. Spouse give hongbao??!! Then I must be damn lucky, because I self service myself every other day from his ATM wallet!! Better than him giving me one time hongbao
• No need to make a big fuss over this. After all, the angbao is supposed to be a blessing that you want to give to your spouse. Whether the monetary value is big or small depends on both of your views just like any other anniversary or birthday gifts. After all, it is the sincerity that counts. I gave my husband angbao ever since we are married. I also gave my brother(married) angbao yearly since he started his own business. After all, I wanted to give my sincere blessings to them. How others view the intention of the angbao are their business… What is yours?
• I think its more of exchanging a blessing just like how we give angpow to our parents during cny as a blessing. Doesnt matter the value inside, but it’s the thought that counts. But it’s really up to individual. If never practice is no wrong also. Everyone is diff!

Front facing people on the train.

Surprisingly, there are many people who lack spatial awareness on the trains.

On crowded trains, people had to get physically close to others to close up the gaps but they would FRONT FACE them KNOWING that the other person is already facing them.

Isn’t the unspoken rule to face the side of the train where MOST commuters would enter or alight?

E.g. Clementi, Buona Vista and Commonwealth instead of Dover.

While their intention could be to face the side that they want to alight (i.e. the less common side), it might really make the other person who they are front facing with feel uncomfortable, especially if they are of the SAME HEIGHT and literally FACE TO FACE.

You could see the other person bring up and scroll through his or her phone straightaway to avoid eye contact.

If their intention was to get close to a stranger, they are DISGUSTING.

Hope my rant could bring some awareness to all commuters.

Netizens comments

• nah, if they face the the side they’re not alighting, then when they abt to alight, they gotta turn then u will kaopeh, ‘why they nv show intention earlier, since they alighting at the less common side. it’s alr so crowded.’ anyway the less common side is usually only one stop, u like that also cant? (i also take that line, most dover alighting board from buona)
• Maybe you are very handsome or pretty & they wanna admire you more. Maybe they face inwards so they can see more things on the train since commute can be quite boring. People-watching can be quite interesting. I’m very petite at 153cm so I have no problem with unnerving eye contact. All I see are people’s armpits.
• Why don’t you get a car or a house next to work?
• Humanity has devolved if people are finding such asinine topics to rant about. Get a life.

Are children who complains about parents always wrong?

I know this won’t be a popular post but I have been reading arguments from both sides and I think they both make sense.

As a child, I do try my best to fulfil my parents needs but honestly there’s just so much I can do. I can’t spilt myself into 2 and stay home to help out while working to earn money to support them.

The same goes for my siblings, we are all working adults and my brother have his own family. What we can do is to take care of all the finances so they don’t have to worry about money.

I do attempt to take them out for entertainment or meals but it always end up with me being frustrated by my father’s “waste money” lectures.

It’s also very frustrated when my parents blamed us for not helping with spring cleaning and housework and turned down all our alternative solutions like hiring a PT maid or helper.

We even hired A helper to help with spring cleaning but my father just have nothing good to say about her. even says she drank water too much ‘to cheat time’.

Luckily the water is she bring herself else sure kenna blame for wasting our water also.

Bottom line, he feels it’s a waste of money but actually she is very efficient and completed more housework in that 4 hours than my parents for a whole day.

Still she have to go, else my father will definitely have mor things to say or even try to be difficult with her.

I honestly gets annoyed after a day of tiring work to come home and hear constant naggings and blaming when I already did my best to provide a solution. You don’t “get used to it” but it erodes your patience and sap your energy.

I don’t remember able to have great and meaningful talks with them, especially my dad for many many years already.

He is just so full of negativity, defensive and “I eat more salt than you” it’s hard to talk to him.

I am glad that my parents doesn’t demand a huge amount of money from us though. my friend’s parents demand 700 from her when she just started working (earning only 1.5k before CPF) and another 300 from her brother who earns more than her (boys need more money to socialise, and start a family is the explanation given by the father).

She is also expected to chip in for everything (bills, grocery, brother’s birthday gift (new iPhone) etc), she ended up having to borrow money every month because she have study loans to pay too.

Her parents didn’t let her use their CPF and she took up a loan from the bank for her studies. There’s once she just gave them 500 because she is too tired of having to borrow money but they stole her ATM card and draw out the 200.

She have to change her ATM pin after that. But they kept demanding she tell them her new ATM pin number. Eventually she just moved out with her current husband and minimised interactions, just giving them 500 a month.

I sometimes feel it’s extremely unfair that people’s first reactions to children complaining about their parents are “you’re unfilial” or “you shouldn’t be born or shouldn’t breed”.

Is it right for parents to be unfair and demanding and just impossible to communicate? When “family love” just seems to be about money and demands and nothing else?

And when we start to avoid communication because of the overwhelming blames and stress from the interactions, we are wrong again.

Parents aren’t always right nor are all parents understanding and reasonable. I know some are but mine aren’t.

How to share?

In our early 30s, deeply in love. He’s moving out from his parents’ to his condo when TOP. He wants me to move in when the time comes

I have my own too but it’s rented out.

So what’s seemingly unromantic I feel is important to seek some opinion here… though I very much want to bring up witb him at a late time…

How should it be done when it comes to money, in all fairness? Though I think many would ask me to pay half for my share but his condo is not under my name… but I would like to contribute too.

Adding my name to the house doesn’t make sense too as it would mean ABSD for me since I have a condo already

Netizens’ comments

• Only pay half for utilities and daily expenses. Nothing else. If got conflict, dont move in.
• Condo is his name, he should pay the loan fully. Other expenses should be halved because you’re both using the other stuff like food water electricity WiFi. And maybe just a bit more for him cos how would you feel if he rented his condo and kept the rent money for himself and staying in yours instead? Sometimes good to put yourself in your partner’s shoes.
• Since he is paying the monthly installment as the house is solely his, u can offer to pay household expenses, utilities or even management fees
• Whatever that both of you use in the house, share half the cost. And perhaps, be the one who contributes way more to groceries so that both parties can have a better quality of life?
• You stated that he bought the condo and wanted u to move in with him. It’s he who want to buy it and invited u to stay for free, or a “hidden price” as a couple. He could have just buy his condo and not invite u over, at the same time still see each other right?

Rant: why are the older generation of workers like this?

Just need an area to rant, I had consulted one of my older colleagues (about 20 years my senior) on where to feedback on for my own improvement.

My boss is a stubborn mule and is ridiculously hierarchal, so is very difficult to get through to, and I wanted to feedback to a third channel regarding this as I felt that I was not being considered and always the second choice even if I had expressed interest in something.

I feel that there’s still things I can learn from my job but I don’t feel like I am being trained to my full potential.

Some of it feels like gender bias and some others well, feel like straight up bias and the longer this goes on, the more leaving seems like an option even though it is not my first choice.

I consulted my colleague and asked them if there was any third channel I could highlight this to and the response was along the lines of “you should be grateful you have a job” and proceeded to sort of “lecture me”.

I don’t think I have been this dumbfounded in a while and concluded I really spoke to the wrong person. but I have got to ask the slightly older gen, why do you all think like this?

how do you all think like this? what happened to lifelong learning and improvement? being comfortable in your job is nice but have you never strived for more?

maybe this is why there gen z (me) have such a hard time adapting to work, everyone just seems to want to be comfortable and not challenge themselves anymore and when we question and try to put forth suggestions, just seems like we are arguing with the gen Xers :/