One of my best friends admitted that he thinks of me when he sleeps with his gf

We ended up together at a friends house, at the end of a party, smoking outside and watching the stars. We got to talking about relationships and how things can get boring after time, and he just blurted out he pretends she’s me in bed sometimes.

It confused the hell out of me. I’m in a happy relationship and as far as I know he is too. I just don’t see any scenario where we can be the friends we were before. Am I overreacting?

Netizens’ comments

• The conversation took that turn so he could feel out your interest.
• He was absolutely testing the waters..
• Maipulative flattery it’s called. He wants to do you. Don’t fall for it. Keep your distance.
• You’re not overreacting. You’re in a relationship you describe as happy and he tried to push the boundary – you owe it to your relationship to cut the cord immediately.
• just stop talking to the guy. Those are thoughts that you don’t have to tell other people. Disgusting. Go No Contact.
• Don’t become the side piece, it’ll ruin your self-value and once you know it, you don’t mind being one repeatedly until you end up in some TikTok story about how the man left his wife for the side piece and now her children is being mean to their step mom cause a rift in the family.
• I don’t think you’re overreacting at all but I also bet he feels really embarrassed. This is definitely something you can choose to ignore if you want but I would definitely understand if it made you uncomfortable to the point where you don’t want to be his friend anymore.
• I would feel pretty good if a friend told me that, definitely a confidence boost to say the least but it doesn’t mean I’d share the same feelings towards him or her and I would tell them I don’t have the same feelings sry.

Is it worth bringing someone to court for scamming me $300?

Situation:

1. Bought a luxury wallet for $300 at Carousel
2. Seller said if it is Fake, can refund. Since this is a gift.

Met up with seller at his house void deck and paynow him.

1. Went for authentication check, the result is the item is fake.
2. Confronted the seller but he MIA and just Last Seen me. Call him and whatsapp but no response.
3. Went to file police report. And SPF said this will be under breach of contract/agreement. Can bring him to court.

Summary:

If you were me, will you bring the seller to court for a $300 transaction?

I have his address, phone number, chat history and physical evidence that the item he sold is fake.

Honestly, I don’t want him to get away with this but I am unsure if there are any unforsee legal costs.

So far i only know that there is only $20 cost involved to submit my case to the court.

Netizens’ comments

1. Try the small claims tribunal!! It’s for relatively small-sum claims like this
2. No guarantees he will even turn up at small claims but you can try. And if he doesn’t turn up it doesn’t mean the police will arrest him. Source: I’ve been to small claims before.
3. Are u sure it was his void deck ? File a police complaint against for selling fake goods – do it via police website online. File a breach of contract in small court – may be he will get scared and pay you money
4. Its a scam. The police can handle this. They will request the bank account to be frozen, summon him to station. Can check with another officer? It’s so weird that the police will just “ignore u”, maybe a newbie on the job
5. I would file for small claims tribunal. Might not get back the money but oh well, at least I wanna make his name famous in court doc

M23, ORD last month. Just some background, I didn’t really study when I was in secondary and flopped my Olevels.

Went to a private institution to get a private diploma related to business because of the people around me stigmatising ITE as it’s the end etc.

Didn’t realize that u can’t really do much with a private diploma back then unless u have a degree. Didn’t have any particular useful skills.

After I ord, parents wanted me to get a job and work instead of letting me go for degree programme. My friends told me I should just go do grab and don’t bother applying for office related jobs since I m pretty useless.

So the question is, is my life f-ed? Will I just be sole grab delivery driver till I die?

Netizens’ comments

• If you’re willing to take hardship, work a trade, like plumbing, aircons, electricians etc. don’t look down on these trade, because no one in Singapore wants to do them. You don’t necessarily need a degree to do well in Singapore. judging from your past, most likely you’ll suffer in a academic setting like university again.
  One example is one of the tradesman I regularly engage. Based on his charging model, he can likely make close to 10K on a good month. Of course, he most likely worked very hard to achieve that kind of reputation in the industry to allow him to charge a premium for his skill.
  U can consider doing an apprenticeship. Sometimes his apprentice will be doing the work when I engage him. But seems like most can’t tahan the hardship cos they don’t last long. So prepare to really work damn hard. Of course do not expect alot of salary at first. But once u gain enough experience, u can always start to strike out on your own
• I dunno man. 20+ years ago, I was in Express stream (not like it is a big deal). And 20+ years later i have friends who are from Normal (A) and Normal (T) owning business in different fields.
  Sometimes success in life can depend, but not solely, on academic result. If your lifepath is focused on getting a good and high paying job, I think you won’t find much headway here.
  If you are willing to use your brain/creativity/determination/blah blah blah more… You can potentially get more out of life that you would imagine.
  Someone told me, success in life is determined by what you are doing from 8pm to 10pm everyday. But read between the line. It is not about the timeframe, it is about what are you doing when you can afford the time to chill and relax.
  All the best to you.

I’m planning to use my wife’s long ago affair as an excuse to leave her for another woman.

I already feel super guilty about it but it’s been 3 years since her affair ended. In the last 6 months, the woman that could be considered “the one that got away,” came back into my life and has admitted that if my wife ever cheats again then she wants another chance with me.

She has stated that she will only respect the marriage but she felt like she needed to let me know.

Oddly enough I had been having many recurring dreams about her prior to us reconnecting. I haven’t done anything other than text or call this other woman, but my heart absolutely knows this is what I want.

I have no children of my own, so it makes thing a little easier, but the sense of guilt is still there.

I know it will devastate my wife, but things have not been the same since her affair and we both know it. Prior to marrying my wife I had a chance with this other woman to try again but I told her no due to me already planning the engagement.

Both of us have wondered “what if,” ever since. I’m scared, excited and I also feel like a horrible person know that this will devastate someone I planned a life and future with.

Honestly this might just sound like a first world problem or that I’m just a spoilt brat but I’m really annoyed at my current situation and was wondering if its normal

For context: I’m a 20M chao NSF private in a non-combat vocation earning $630 monthly living with my parents (52M and 51F) and 2 sisters (23F and 15F). My dad is a finance guy earning $12K+ monthly while my mom earns about $6K+. My older sister is currently doing some sales job with a base pay around $2.5K (not including commissions) She’s not a FA/Insurance agent or whatever so she does not have to treat clients etc. Younger sister still in secondary school with no PT job so obviously no income

Even though my parents earn so much, I’m still expected to pay for many of the services that my household uses and it’s seriously depleting my funds. For example, my family likes to use Netflix, Disney+ and Prime Video but I’m the one paying for it. So that’s like $26 + $12 + $3. Even the household internet bill my mom wants me to pay which is like $70+ monthly, like wtf whole house use internet but I chao NSF need to pay?! Bruh. I also pay my own phone bill ($20/month) while my older sister’s bill is paid by my father, like I mean I don’t mind settling my own phone bill since it gives me more freedom to choose what services I want but why isn’t my older sister settling it herself when she earns way more money than me? And when I ask my parents why can’t my older sister help settle some of the bills instead, my older sister just keeps insisting that she does not want to do that causing my parents to just drop the matter and the responsibility falls on me again

A few months back when I first enlisted, my father signed me up for a new insurance plan and just expected me to pay for it without even telling me how much it was going to cost. Like I literally only found out when the insurance company started to bill me and I saw it in my bank statements. I know insurance is a good thing to have but he didn’t even consult me and just suddenly want me to pay $100+ monthly for it out of nowhere and I don’t even know my plan benefits lol. Yet my dad still partially pays for my older sister’s insurance even with her full-time job while I’m struggling to keep my bank account alive. My parents don’t give me money anymore and expecting me to pay for so much while living on $630 a month is just crazy. Like I also want to live life, spend money on MYSELF, save up and invest? But reality I’m just left with peanuts every month. Like my father is a literal finance officer but can he not see that my current situation is not good for me?? Like on top of all this, I still have my own personal expenses like food, transport etc that I have to cover myself.

I’m also just feeling a little upset that every year during birthdays, Christmas and father’s mother’s day I would always get gifts for my family and bring them out to eat (using my own money) while I consistently get nothing from them lol. Like last year during both of my sisters birthday my parents had a celebration meal for them while during my birthday they didn’t even do anything or gift me anything lol. My older sister also would take days just to lend me 10 bucks when I consistently spend money on her. I just feel damn irritated like I’m doing so much for my family but I feel like I’m not getting fuck in return.

Like I already know my family financial situation is already considered better than some others and I’m not saying my family poor or what but like wtf why is my parents like this when they know that fucking SAF allowance so damn little

Should I just put my foot down and not go the extra mile for them anymore? Fuck lah just needed to rant feeling damn tilted

 It all started with a harmless prank. I thought it would be funny to plant my underwear in my girlfriend’s bag and see how she reacted.

I was sure it would get a laugh out of her, and I even told one of my friends about it. Little did I know that it would backfire so spectacularly.

The plan was simple. I put my underwear in her bag, waited for her to leave the house, and then followed her to see her reaction. I was expecting her to be shocked and maybe a bit embarrassed, but I was not prepared for what happened next.

When she opened her bag and saw my underwear, she was not amused.

Instead, she called and asked me what I was doing and accused me of trying to control her. She said that I was trying to make her feel embarrassed. I was taken aback by her reaction and tried to explain that it was all a joke, but she was not convinced.

The situation got even worse when she accused me of trying to make her “sniff my essence”. She said that it was a disgusting thing to do and that I was trying to make her feel like she was less than me. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing and tried to explain that it was a joke, but she wouldn’t listen.

At this point, I was starting to get angry. I told her that I was sorry if I had offended her, but that if she couldn’t take a joke then maybe she should find someone else to date. This only made her even more upset and she yelled that she was done with me.

I was so embarrassed and angry that I just walked away without saying anything else. I felt like an idiot for thinking that it was a funny prank, and I was sure that she would never want to be with me again.

The next day, I tried to apologize, but she wouldn’t even talk to me. We both went our separate ways and I haven’t seen her since. I still feel embarrassed and guilty about what happened.

When it comes to relationships, it’s important to be honest and open with your partner. However, when it came to my own relationship, I found myself feeling embarrassed by the scars my boyfriend had.

It wasn’t that I didn’t love him with all of his imperfections, it was more that I was worried about how others would react when they saw him.

After all, I was ashamed of the fact that he had been through so much and I wanted to protect him.

One day, I finally decided to confront the issue head-on. I asked my boyfriend if he had ever thought of covering up his scars with makeup. At first, he was taken aback by my request. He didn’t understand why I was asking him to do something like that, but I explained that I wanted him to feel more confident and comfortable in his own skin.

He was hesitant at first, but eventually agreed to my request. He started experimenting with different products and eventually found a foundation that he liked. He would use it to cover up his scars and I could see the difference it made. He looked more confident and his self-esteem was boosted.

However, I soon realized that wearing makeup was not enough to make me feel comfortable. I could still see the scars, even when they were covered up, and it made me feel even more embarrassed. I knew that I needed to find a way to make him feel good about himself without having to rely on makeup.

That’s when I decided to start complimenting him more. I would tell him how handsome he was and how much I appreciated him and his courage. I also made sure to tell him how strong he was for overcoming all of the obstacles in his life. I wanted to make sure he knew that I loved him just the way he was, scars and all.

It took some time, but eventually, my compliments started to make a difference. He began to feel more confident and his self-esteem was boosted. He was also more open to trying out different makeup products, which made me even more proud of him.

My relationship with my boyfriend has changed so much since I asked him to put on makeup. Not only has he become more confident, but I have also learned to accept him as he is. I know that no matter what he looks like, I will always love him and be proud of him.

I was on holiday in Kuala Lumpur, my first visit to Malaysia, and I had been enjoying my stay. I had gone out for a stroll to take in the sights and sounds of the city, when I encountered a rather unpleasant situation with a local man at a bar.

I was drinking in a pub at Mont Kiara when I heard a group of people talking loudly. It was quite loud and I could make out some of the words they were saying.

One of them was saying something along the lines of, “You think you’re so special, just because you’re from Singapore?”

I immediately knew he was talking about me. I was the only Singaporean in the group and I had an inkling that this man was jealous of me. I had heard stories about locals getting jealous of foreigners, especially those from Singapore, because they were perceived to have more money.

The man started to get more aggressive, poking his finger in my chest and shouting, “You think you’re better than me, just because you’re from Singapore? I work for BMW, I always go to Singapore”

I was confused and didn’t know what to do. I tried to explain to him that I was just a tourist and that I wasn’t trying to show off. But he didn’t seem to understand and kept getting more aggressive.

At that moment, a couple of the locals stepped in and tried to calm him down. They told him that there was no need to get so angry and that I was just a visitor who had no intention of showing off. After a few minutes of arguing, the man finally backed off and left.

I was pissed off by the incident and didn’t know what to do. I had heard stories of locals getting jealous of foreigners, especially those from Singapore, because they were perceived to have more money.

But what I didn’t realise is that this jealousy was based on a misconception. Singaporeans do not necessarily have more money than Malaysians. In fact, most Singaporeans are just as financially challenged as the average Malaysian.

The man I encountered was probably just frustrated and angry about his own financial situation. He was probably feeling helpless and powerless, so he lashed out at me. I can’t really blame him.

To that loser out there, if you ever try to do it again I will make sure you get fired by BMW!

Being a regular customer at a pub in Johor Bahru, I had grown quite close to the staff and hostesses working there.

I had known them for several years, and I had become quite familiar with their daily struggles and hardships.

One day, while I was ordering a few drinks, a single mother who was working as a pub hostess came up to me and we chat, it did not take long before she asked me if I’m a Singaporean customer and if I could rescue her from working in pubs.

Do I look like Santa Clause or Robert’s head?

I felt disgusted at her request. I knew that she was desperate, but I felt that it was wrong to ask such a favor from a customer. She had already made a commitment to the pub, and it was not my place to interfere.

I told her that I could not help her and that she should seek help from other sources. I could sense her disappointment, but I also knew that she was too proud to accept charity from me.

The next day, I saw her again at the pub. She was still working hard and seemed to be in the same situation as before. I felt a deep pity for her and it made me really angry. I couldn’t understand why someone would have to put themselves through such hardship just to make a living.

It was at that moment that I realized how lucky I was to not have to endure such hardships. I had a comfortable lifestyle and my job allowed me to have a good income. I was thankful that I was not in the same situation as the single mother.

But at the same time it boils down to the word “education”.

She probably did something she regret when she was young and gave birth early which probably stopped her chances of getting higher education making her end up in working in this kind of places.