My roommate is vegan and wanted to adopt a cat. She bought pretty much everything she needs and I was fine with it. I have a dog so why can’t she have a cat? Then an order came for cat food. It was a brand called VeganPet. She was planning to feed the cat vegan dry food.

I told her cats can’t eat a vegan diet because they are carnivores and it can lead to health issues. Not to mention a diet of solely dry food for cats can lead to kidney stones and dehydration. My roommate would not budge on this issue and ultimately said if its made for cats then it is ok for cats.

So I ultimately drop the issue and we get to the shelter. My roommate can’t drive so I was the chauffeur and as we live together we thought it would be good for us to look at the cats together. The shelter lady asked us a bunch of questions like if we had other pets, what outhouse was like, and then she gets to nutrition. She asks about what we would be feeding and vet care. My RM lies and says that she would be feeding hills instead of a vegan thing. I was gobsmacked tbh.

I wait until my RM is distracted and tell the shelter volunteer that she will be feeding vegan things and not hills. I think this is what made the shelter turn down my roommates application for the cat.

When I told my RM the truth she locked herself in her room. She hasn’t spoken to me since. I was told by our mutual friend that I overstepped and should have stayed out of it. Idk

Here is what netizen thinks:

The cat’s health comes first. The fact that your roommate LIED about it means that she knew what she was doing was wrong.

just picturing this cat bringing home dead mice as a gift to OP’s roommate. Or birds. Or squirrels. This car would be desperate for food.

ALL THAT SALT oh my god that would demolish a cat’s kidneys 🙁 “prefer savory to sweet” lord have mercy… they can neither process sugar nor salt, what are these guys smoking??

When my sister was in uni she dated a married man who told her he’d leave his wife for her. When she got pregnant by him, possibly deliberately in an attempt to speed up his leaving his wife, he ended the affair and went MIA.

She was completely devastated and humiliated. She’s made it clear we’re not to tell her daughter about the affair, she said she’d tell her when she was old enough.

My niece is now 15 and it turns out my sister has been heavily discouraging her from asking questions about her biological father by saying she’s too traumatized to talk about it, implying it’s a way darker story than it is. My poor niece has just been assuming she’s the biological daughter of some monster. And worse, when she’s in trouble my sister has gotten into the habit of telling her she’s just like her father.

So, when my niece started tearfully confiding in me about how she has some anger issues so she’s afraid she’s going to turn out to be a monster like her biological father, I told her the truth. This has caused a huge rift between my sister and her daughter, and my sister is furious with me for telling a story it wasn’t my place to tell.

She claims she was going to tell her the truth when she was ready, but I don’t really believe her and I think she was doing a lot of damage to her daughter by withholding the truth and implying her biological father was a monster and comparing her to him.

Here is what netizen thinks:

• “When she was ready” would have been when her daughter found out, or her remarks of “You’re just like him” were finally unable to keep a grip on her.

• My great-grandmother told stories like this about my great-grandfather being a raging alcoholic. My cousin is doing a genealogy and turns out there’s a lot of evidence that he was nothing like her stories. Which is fun because we have loads of generational trauma from my grandfather on down that comes directly from her “you’re going to be just like him” comments.
  
• Hnm.. the sister manipulated the guy by getting pregnant on purpose and is now taking it out on her daughter. I smell a personality disorder.

I (37f) share a son “Tommy” (13m) with my ex “John” (37m). We split up when Tommy was a toddler so he lived full-time with me and then it was 50/50 when he was around 8. During my first year of marriage, John received a job offer overseas and I initially didn’t want to go with him but John eventually convince me. I never really liked where we lived and would often talk to John about possibly moving back to Singapore, but John never wanted to discuss it.

When we were in the middle of a divorce the idea of me and Tommy moving away was brought up and John freaked out, saying that I had no right to take away his son and I was hounded by his side of the family. Tommy is literally the only reason why I still lived where I did and I have always hated the weather and missed my friends. Before the pandemic, Tommy approached me about living with his dad full-time, and when I asked him why and he assured me that it wasn’t anything about me or where we were living just that at his dad’s place he had more room.

John made more money than me and lived in a four-bedroom house while I had a two-bedroom. I won’t lie and say that I was a little sad at the idea of seeing my son less but I wasn’t going to stop him if he wanted to go. It was agreed that Tommy would spend a weekend a month and school holidays with me while John and I alternated Holidays.

A while back an old friend reached out and it was great reconnecting. It wasn’t long until we found out that we worked for the same company (it’s a nationwide firm that has multiple offices across the world), and my friend offered to give me a recommendation for a new position that I was trying to apply for.

I was grateful and sad that I didn’t get the job but a week later I was surprised when the firm offered me another position that paid more money and offered more benefits. It was also back in Singapore so I would get to be near my family again. I immediately said “Yes” and when Tommy came to visit me I told him about the job and asked him if there was anything he wanted to keep while the rest of his stuff would just come with me.

Tommy asked why I would want to move and aside from the money, I told him that I never really liked living here and was always planning on leaving once he turned 18.

Tommy seemed to take the news well but his dad called me furious and said I was manipulative because our son now thinks that I’m “punishing” him for wanting to live with his father full-time.

So am I wrong?