I still remember it like it was yesterday. I was so sure that wearing my army uniform would make me pass my driving test with flying colors.

I have had my license ‘kan tong’ (confiscated) before and I have heard from people that putting on your Army uniform or pleading with the testers that you really need the license due to certain factors would make them soft hearted.

So I thought that if I just put on my Army uniform, it would let the testers have a good impression and it would be enough to help me get through the test.

Boy, was I wrong.

I showed up to the testing center with a sense of confidence. I was wearing my uniform and I felt like I was invincible. I thought that the examiner would be soft hearted and that it would help me pass. But the moment I started the test, I realized that I was mistaken.

The examiner was unimpressed with my uniform. He didn’t care that I had served in the military and he didn’t seem to be swayed by my efforts.

Instead, he was focused on my driving skills and asked me to go about doing all the requirements for the test. He appeared to be even stricter, maybe due to the fact that I have had my license ‘kan tong’ before.

I was nervous and made a few mistakes, but I thought that my uniform would still be enough to help me pass.

That was not the case.

When the test was over, the examiner told me that I had failed. I was shocked. I had worked so hard to smoke my way through and I thought that my uniform would be enough to help me pass.

I was wrong but I had to take it as it is and try again another time.

Now I finally know that all these little ‘tactics’ do not work.

I can’t believe it’s happening to me. Just two weeks ago, I was a carefree 23 year old guy, living life with no worries or responsibilities.

But now, my life has been turned upside down. My 18 year old girlfriend is pregnant, and I’m at a complete loss of what to do.

It all started one night when we decided to have unprotected s-. I knew it was a stupid move, but I was feeling a bit reckless – and it felt so good. Now, here I am, facing the consequences of my actions.

My girlfriend is still in poly, and I’m scared of what her parents will think. We don’t know how to break the news to them. I can’t imagine how disappointed they’ll be.

I’m also worried about how I’m going to support the baby. I am only going to complete my NS soon, and I don’t have a job yet.

I’ve been trying to find one, but I’m not having much luck as most of the employers want me to start immediately but I can’t due to my NS obligations.

I’m also scared of the future. I know that raising a child is difficult and expensive. I’m not sure if I’m ready for the responsibility, and I’m worried that I’ll mess it up.

We’re still young and new to the adult world, and both of us are still a little bit playful.

Will my girlfriend and I be able to make it work? Will we be able to give our child the love and attention it needs?

I feel like my life is out of my control. I don’t know what’s going to happen next. All I know is that I have to figure out a way to make it work.

I’m going to have to find a job that allows me to start after my NS, and I’m going to have to take responsibility for my actions.

My fiancée and I were saving hard from our salary to hold a wedding ceremony so that we could invite all our families, friends, loved ones and colleagues to come and have a get together.

As we were nearing the date of our wedding, we realised that we were still short of quite a huge sum if we wanted to hold a wedding of such a scale.

However, as we have already signed and made downpayment to the hotel, we did not want to forgo the deposit and therefore we decided to approach my parents for a loan.

After some discussion with them, they agreed to give us a loan to settle all the outstanding amount that we have to pay on the condition and use the ‘ang bao’ (red packets) that we collected to pay the loan from them back.

My fiancée and I thought that it was still doable, so we agreed to the terms of the loan from my parents.

The wedding day arrived, and everything went on smoothly.

We received a lot of ‘ang baos’ with generous sums and when we counted them, we had received much more than the amount that we loaned from my parents.

Thats when the demands for repayment changed

After deducting the loan amount, we counted that we had an extra $6,000.

We were thankful, and thought that we could save the rest up for any future needs, but that was when my parents came in to demand more repayment for the loan.

They told us that the condition for the loan was for ‘all of the ang baos’ instead of just the sum that they loaned us.

Which means that if the sum of the total ‘ang bao’ received is more they will take everything and even if it is lesser, they would also just take everything.

I told them that that was not the agreement that we had discussed prior to the loan but they continued insisting that we had not heard their conditions of the loan properly.

They also said that even we loan from other places there would also be interest and therefore their demands are reasonable.

Honestly think they are worst than ‘ah longs’ but decided that we should not spoil the relationship and ultimately we just gave in to their request.

(27F) (32M) My wealthy fiancée wants me to be a stay-at-home wife?

My fiancée and I have been engaged for 11 months, and have been together for 2 years. He’s very wealthy, we live together in a beautiful home, and I have been fortunate enough to be supported by him while I focus on finishing my education online.

I have expressed my desire to have many children with him, and he told me that he would only have children with me if I didn’t work, and became a stay-at-home wife, who looked after the children.

I’m very hesitant to agree to this because my education would go to waste, and I’m just generally not sure.

I’m having trouble deciding, thanks for the advice.

Netizens’ comments

• You have to decide if this is ok for you.
  Given that he’s wealthy, I’d suggest you both spend some time with a marriage/family counselor you both trust and like.
  Negotiate these things with the help of a third party who literally makes this kind of conflict resolution their profession!
• You need to have a proper discussion about what this marriage would look like. Outline a clear set of expectations on both sides.
  Make is a business plan. Not kidding. If he’s making you this job offer, what’s your salary? Vacation? Working hours? Medical leave? When will he clock-in to be dad and husband? When do you get to retire and what does your second career look like? When can you start it? When do you work the SAHM part-time? Full-time? What does you annual bonus look like? How does your salary increase given an increase in responsibility and volume?
• Never give up on your career. Nowadays you never know if the marriage will last or if you might have a reason to have to leave someday. If you have a bad situation, you won’t be able to leave if you’re entirely financially dependent on your husband. And yes, your education would also be wasted.

Disruptive Neighbours

None of us slept a wink last night. Neighbour started kicking the gates at 1.30AM and asking everyone to get up to listen to him.

Each time the police was called due to the noise. Police came to his house but he will not respond. Once police is gone, he will come out and start his bullshit again.

He’s currently in another civil court case with another neighbour. What else can we do? We are not sleeping at the rate…

Netizens’ comments

• You need to gather evidence. Take videos with his face plus also time and date it happen
• Well, he has got to sleep some time. All those affected by his antics just go kick his gates every half and hour or so.
• Kick his gate at 10am while he is sleeping
• It is beyond me how you guys have tolerated for so long. I’d have confronted the guy face to face and recorded the entire interaction.
• Everyone have a phone yeah? Take it out and put it to good use. Police needs evidence, they don’t deal with hearsay

My pregnancy changed how I feel about my husband

If I had to describe how my relationship was with my husband, I’d probably just say comfortable. We never really had a honeymoon phase and going from friends to dating to marriage just all seemed to happen naturally. But a few months into my pregnancy some switch seemed to just flip and I am just so obsessed with him now.

I can’t seem to get enough of him and I find myself following him from room to room like a lost puppy, and he’s taking it like a champ. He works from home and I’m currently not working so I’ll just hang out with him in his office all day, and he always makes sure to take regular breaks so I can sit on his lap for a few minutes here and there.

Just little things about him are my favorites now. I love feeling his slow, steady heartbeat when I lay my head on his chest when he sleeps, and I love feeling that same heartbeat speed up against my back when I sit on his lap and he’s fighting a big battle in his video games.

I love his muscular build, because it feels like getting wrapped up in the warmest, coziest blankets.

I love that he treats my cravings and complaints with an urgency I can’t even match.

And most of all I love that if I really think about it, none of this behavior is new. I’m so excited to build a family with this man and I hope that these feelings I get with him don’t go away after our child is born.

[22m] [22f] My bf likes me better with makeup. I feel awful

I’m an okay looking girl but I’ve been told I look like a “bombshell” with my hair and makeup done. Without it, im just okay. Not pretty.

We went out last night and I dressed up for the first time in a while. He was fawning over me the whole time, staring at me, kissing me.

When we got home he was telling me that he’s so lucky he’s with me, I’m out of his league and he can’t believe we’re together and he’s with the prettiest girl in the room.

It made me feel so good. We got intimate and he was so into it and had fun.

I don’t know. He doesn’t act like that normally. It made me feel like a princess but it also made me sad that he’s not always complimenting ne like that. Am I being crazy

It’d be nice if he was sweet with me even if I didn’t spend hours getting ready. It’s not like he calls me ugly but he just doesn’t really say anything