I shit myself on my bus home from work

I finished late. 2am. Before clocking out I felt a vague need to use the bathroom, but I thought I wanted to get home faster and catch my bus. And it was only half an hour anyway.

I got on the bus which was luckily empty, I sat right at the back and started feeling nauseous. I’ve been through worse so I thought I would be fine.

I was not fine. Halfway in I felt like I was about to burst. I started thinking of ways out but this early in the morning there’s nothing. I let it all out 5 mins out from my stop. Bus driver didn’t notice I think.

The walk home was so shameful. I feel so disgusted with myself, like such an animal. The poop was smushing all over as it dripped down my legs…

I’m home now and washed it all off. So freaking gross. I obviously will never tell ANYONE about this. Hence the post

I’m just grateful everyone I live with was sound asleep when I got home. But my shower probably woke them up. It’s not normal for me to have a shower after working late but I doubt they suspect this

I admit that I’m still grieving and may not be thinking clearly.

So my Dad was a great Dad to me but not to my sister. He cheated on her Mum with mine and got pregnant with me maybe a year later.

We moved away and he didn’t have much contact with her after that. Our Dad hadn’t seen her in about a decade when he passed.

So when he did pass away, his house (which my Mum co-owned) and it’s contents went to me and the money (savings and insurance) was split 50/50 between the two of us. The first payment was received earlier this month.

I have absolutely zero issue with this arrangement but she didn’t even attend the funeral. She didn’t offer to help with the admin stuff. I did all of it on my own. On the day of the funeral she tagged herself and a bunch of friends at a restaurant.

I get that my Dad let her down. He routinely bailed on plans, forgot birthdays etc but it just doesn’t sit right with me that she took his money but didn’t even show up to the funeral.

I met her for lunch on Boxing Day and told her my feelings. That I thought it was disrespectful for her to take the cash but not offer to help me with any of the arrangements or even show up to the funeral.

I wasn’t angry and I didn’t raise my voice. She did cry and left rather abruptly. That night she sent me a bunch of messages calling me unbelievably rude and that I’m an a-hole for making her feel bad for being mad at her for taking what she is owed. I really didn’t think I was being rude but perhaps I’m too close to the situation.

I’m a Grab driver in Singapore. I’ve been married for 8 years, and for most of those years, my wife has been making a lot of “on-bed” demands.

She’s always asking me to do things to her every night, I am reaching my 40s. I am no longer a young man that has the power to do it everyday.

It’s gotten to the point where I feel like she’s taking advantage of me and I just don’t want to do any of it anymore. That’s why I started driving part-time for Grab. I figured it would be a way to make some extra money and give me some time away from my wife’s demands.

At first, I was only driving at night, when my wife was sleeping. That way, I didn’t have to worry about her knowing I was out working. But then I realized that I actually enjoyed the job and I wanted to do it more often. I started driving during the day as well, while my wife was at work. That way, I was able to make more money and I was also able to avoid her demands.

I soon realized that driving for Grab was more than just a way to make money. It was also a way to give me some much-needed time away from my wife. I was able to focus on something other than her demands, and it was a great way to de-stress. I also got to meet some really interesting people on my trips, and I even made some friends.

Driving for Grab also gave me some financial independence. I was able to save up some extra money and use it for things like vacations or small investments. I was able to make my own decisions and felt like I had control over my own life.

But she has been complaining that I have been coming home late and started to accuse me of cheating. I even showed her the trip records on my Grab app to prove that I am really working.

But deep down she doesn’t know I am just trying to avoid her demands at night.

I’ve been working for ~8 years and doing well enough in life, hence I donate $500~ every month to various charities such as food bank, giving.asia, WWF,etc. But never NUS giving.

Here are my reasons:

1) I want my donations to go towards something impactful to society or for a worthy cause. Honestly giving a lower income student who scores good grades are the very last of my concerns – there are other government channels for that, and the student can jolly well work part time and take up a student loan. I did that previously btw, it builds up grit that a lot of younger students are lacking – got me to where I am today.

2) I want to know specifically where my money is going to, such as feeding the less fortunate or helping a particular person with a disease they have never wanted. People who actually do not have the means to get out of their predicament without external support.

3) No clear visibility on how the money is used and who gets it. I’m a true blue Singaporean, I don’t want my money to go to a foreigner, especially PRCs – from my time in NUS, yes I’ve heard and they bragged how our government and universities basically sponsor their studies just cause of their grades, where they intend to leave after whatever bond or scholarship ends.

Until then, I’ll just continue to donate to other charities and use the mailers from NUS giving to pick up my dog poop.

Here are what netizens think:

• Always remember to be contented and appreciative, even for your school that you study in. And if you feel that its not working out for you, find another worthy cause that links up with your donation interest. Bad-mouthing (whoever you are) doesnt look good on you. If you feel there is a case, build a worthy case to bring it up. If not, move on and be happy about what you do.

• I agree with point one but I believe that the best money given is to build up education and healthcare, especially in the areas of infrastructure like hospital and learning institutes. Things like those will benefit generations and improve standards of living from the next generation onwards. Giving money to pet societies and kidney dialysis centers will of course help with pain and suffering among Singaporeans but that doesn’t help the next generation, pain and suffering will continue and that hole will continuously require money to be plugged in.

• You’re letting a few bad eggs deprive the rest that are deserving. But it’s your money and your choice on how you want to make yourself feel good.

S scams often start with an attractive stranger contacting a person online. The scammer may use pictures of someone else or even a fake profile.

They may tell their victim that they are looking for a relationship or a S experience. They may also promise money or gifts in return for S favors. Victims may be persuaded to send explicit photos or videos, or to meet up in person.

A Malaysian refuse to report to the Police because he is worried that he will face legal consequences himself.

Here is the story:

I have a colleague who is Malaysian. He is PR in sg and works in sg. He is single and never has a girlfriend before. Recently he told me this.

He: i got cheated by a S scam. I saw a profile of a chio bu in WeChat offering S services. When i reach the place, i was told to transfer $100 to her than she will meet me. After i transfer, the person block me

Me: why you don’t make a police report

He: I don’t want to make a police report. I scare police will charge me for looking for illegal prostitutes. Later the sg government terminate my PR then I cannot work in sg anymore.

I hear liao arm chio. I finally understand why he cannot get a girlfriend.

Here are what netizens think:

Can say got love scam rather than s scam what…

can post that “chio bu” profile here or not? like that more people can see see look look

Conclusion:

It is also important to be aware of the signs of a scam. Be suspicious of anyone who contacts you online and asks for money or favors. Don’t be fooled by false identities or promises of money or gifts. Be wary of anyone who tries to pressure you into meeting in person or sending explicit photos or videos. Finally, if you think you may be a victim of a S scam, contact the police and report the incident.

 I had been searching for a job for months. I was desperate for a job that I could do from home, and when I saw a job opening for a personal assistant, I knew I had to apply.

I had never done this kind of work before, but I was confident that I could do it. I put together my resume and wrote a cover letter that outlined my experience and qualifications. I sent it off and waited anxiously for a response.

A week later, I received an email from the company. They were interested in my application and wanted to set up an interview. I was ecstatic!

The day of the interview, I made sure to dress my best and prepared myself mentally. I was determined to make a good impression and impress the interviewer.

When I arrived at the office, I was greeted by a friendly receptionist who directed me to the interviewer’s office. I knocked on the door and was invited in.

The man behind the desk was not what I expected. He was dressed casually and had a friendly demeanour. He smiled when I entered and introduced himself as the owner of the company.

He asked me a few questions about my experience and then proceeded to explain that the job he was offering was not exactly a personal assistant job. He told me that he was looking for someone to do housekeeping and errands for him.

I was taken aback. I had been expecting a job as a personal assistant, not a maid. I was so embarrassed and confused. I wanted to leave right away, but I knew that I had to stay and see this through.

The interviewer was understanding and kind. He explained that he wanted someone with a good work ethic, who could follow directions and work independently. He also mentioned that he would provide me with all the necessary supplies and pay well.

After a few moments of deliberation, I decided to accept the job. I was still a little embarrassed about the misunderstanding, but I was relieved to have a job.

My first few weeks as a maid were a learning experience. I quickly learned how to clean the house properly and efficiently. I also became familiar with the errands that I had to run.

The job was hard work, but it was also rewarding. I felt a sense of accomplishment when I saw how much cleaner the house was after I had finished cleaning it. I also enjoyed the sense of independence that came with the job.

But it is still a job I cannot work for too long. I quit after 2 months and told the HR my degree is not utilised. It’s like paying a degree grad to do housekeeping.

Beware of so-called “PA jobs”!

I was sitting at my desk, scrolling through my emails when I saw one from my manager, ‘Bob’. It was a company-wide email that he had sent out earlier that morning.

I clicked on it and read it, expecting it to be a mundane email about some upcoming changes or updates to the company policy.

Instead, I read an email about Bob’s recent success at work. He had just been promoted to a new position and he wanted to share his excitement with the whole company.

I was happy for Bob and proud of his hard work and dedication. However, I noticed that there were no words of congratulations from our boss, who had recently promoted him.

I had a feeling that our boss wasn’t too happy about Bob’s email. Sure enough, a few minutes later, I received another company-wide email from our boss. This time, it was a stern message, reprimanding Bob for sending out the email.

He said that while he was proud of Bob’s success, it was not appropriate to send out a company-wide message about his promotion. He said that Bob should have shared the news with his colleagues in a more private manner.

I was taken aback by the email. Bob had worked hard to get to where he was and he deserved to be congratulated. I felt like our boss was being too harsh.

I decided to speak up and sent an email to everyone in the company, defending Bob and his decision to send out the email. I said that while I understand that it wasn’t the best way to announce his success, I believe that Bob should be congratulated and encouraged for his hard work and dedication.

My email had a positive response from many of my colleagues, who agreed that Bob deserved to be congratulated. However, our boss did not respond to my email.

Later that day, Bob and I had a private conversation about the incident. He thanked me for standing up for him, but said he was disappointed in our boss’ reaction. He said that he was just trying to share his success with the whole team, and that he felt like his hard work had gone unrecognized.

I felt terrible for Bob. He had worked so hard to get to where he was, and our boss had shut him down. I wished that there was something I could do to make him feel better.

I eventually decided to have a chat with our boss and let him know how I felt. I told him that while it was inappropriate to send out a company-wide email, I believe that Bob deserved to be congratulated and that he should have been given a chance to share his success with the team.

To my surprise, our boss apologized and said he was wrong to reprimand Bob. He said that he hadn’t taken the time to think about how Bob was feeling and that he had been too quick to judge. He said that he would make an effort to recognize Bob’s achievements in the future.

It was a relief to hear our boss finally acknowledge Bob’s hard work and dedication. I was glad that I had taken the time to speak up and talk to our boss. It made me feel good to know that I had been able to make a difference in Bob’s life.

Bob and I still talk about the incident to this day. We both agree that it was a good lesson to learn, and that it’s important to recognize each other’s successes and achievements at work.