My brother texted me last night to tell me had sex with a girl that looks just like me

He’s my half brother, we have the same mom. A couple of weeks ago he messaged me online and told me I looked good and that I’ve “always been hot.”

I was weirded out but chalked it up to being a harmless compliment.

Last night he texted me a picture of some girl he met and said she looks just like me. I had a bad feeling about where it was going but realized I was jumping to conclusions about it and maybe he was just friends with this girl.

Then he tells me about how he “smasssshed”. When I didn’t respond to the text he sends the same text again an hour and 16 minutes later.

I’m disgusted. I could never hook up with someone who looks like my brother and uh why tf are you making it a point to tell me about it? I’m so creeped out about this.

Netizens’ comments

1. Yeah this one is creepy. Tell him this isn’t Game of Thrones and go no contact.
2. I’m creeped out about, too. What is he thinking? It might be time to quit talking about it and take some action. Look him straight in the eye and in firm voice tell him to knock it off! Whatever else you think is appropriate drive your point home.
3. Yep, that’s really a problem. You need to fully disclose this to your parents, and then block him for at least the time and space you need to process this. No telling how long that would be but, distance for at least 6 months … IF he gets therapy and apologizes.
4. ew this is just disgusting. please tell your parents and maybe confront him about it.

I wish I’d married someone rich

Not because we don’t have money. I run a successful business, but I’m never allowed to use the money to buy the things that make me happy.

If I’d married someone who was rich, they probably wouldn’t care. I have to go to a bday tomorrow of a couple who live in a single income household but own a $3m house.

And it burns me because I could have things I like too. It’s not that I’m trying to compete. I’m just mad that I can’t have things that make me happy. I just want someone to understand how I feel.

Netizens’ comments

1. What do you mean you’re not allowed? What happens if you spend your own money? How is he stopping you?
2. If it’s your money, you should be able to spend it. For me, as long as it won’t put you in financial trouble, go use your money however you please.
3. At least you know some things that make you happy, some people can’t be happy even with a billion dollars
4. My millionaire aunt is the most tight fisted person I know with money.
   To the point of hanging teabags on a washing line and 2 people using same bath water in her house.
   Grass isn’t always greener is my point.
5. Saying you wish you married someone rich rather than saying you wish your husband was rich tells a lot actually.
6. I’m sorry just reading ur post stresses me out if I was in ur position I would flat out tell him its my money I will use it as I see fit if he doesn’t like it there’s the door go somewhere else and tell a woman how to spend her money I was in a dv relationship for 6 years and this brought back memories although I worked and had to give all my money to ex and his mom
7. The title should have said “I wish I never married my husband” or “I wish I could divorce him”. Marrying someone rich or poor doesn’t really matter if you make your own money.

Company gave WFH purchase allowance – but I literally have nothing I require for now

Gonna sound like a major 1st world problem, but company basically gave 2k allowance for WFH purchase awhile ago.

I have yet to spend a single cent of it as there’s nothing I need and it’s due to expire sometime in 2023.

Should i just buy a bunch of random monitors or expensive ergonomic chairs and stash it in a corner until I have use of them?

Any ideas? I did previously purchase a bunch of accessories (ie KVM switches, power adapter etc, monitor cables), forgot to claim the expense but these barely cost over 20-30 bucks in total

Netizens’ comments

1. That sounds like a really good generous company that cares about the employee’s welfare.
2. Devil’s advocate: company could have given extra $2k in salary bump instead of benefits. Company might be banking on people like OP who won’t use up the $2k.
   Happens a lot with wellness/gym benefits in companies, not many people want to sign up for gym and would forgo their benefit. Also looks cool on paper compared to higher by a bit compensation.
   Not saying there’s no stingy companies out there that won’t give both, but I’d rather take all cash than to do couponing with my employer. It’s like those supermarkets that force you to clip coupons or earn “points” to get good bargains.
3. Noise cancelling head phones. Major game changer.
4. Hello, previously my company gave me WFH allowance too, but I didn’t buy anything. Now I regret it because I kenna carpal tunnel and I have posture problems 1 year into work.
   I suggest you research ergonomic equipment, like a vertical mouse or something. Maybe get 2 sets of equipment in case something spoils so you have a spare one

I always buy my a husband a couple things for Christmas. I got him shoes and cologne this year. I knew he doesn’t love gifts but he hasn’t said something like this before. He spends more on me. And our children get a lot of presents.

But last night he said to me, “you shouldn’t have bought me anything. I would have preferred getting frisky in bed”.

I didn’t know what to say at first. So I said “but that’s not special”

He told me “you are special to me. I can buy myself what I want. Next year just take your clothes off”

I just nodded. I felt self conscious.

He has the right to tell me how he feels but it was like a dagger in my heart. I don’t know why it hurt but it did.

Netizens’ comments

• Either we’re missing something, or your husband really badly fumbled an attempt to be charming
• He could have worded it better. He could have said “you are all the gift I need” or something like that
• Is homie just not getting laid all year? Wtf
• It hurt because he’s rude and thoughtless about your gift giving. I would never talk to me wife that way.
• Sounds like gift giving is a love language of yours and you feel hurt by what he said. I take it as him being a man feels that the gifts are unnecessary and he would rather just have his wife. He’s trying to be simple for you, that’s what it sounds like to me at least. I don’t think he meant to hurt your feelings.

Should I still learn driving in my 30s

For some reason I didn’t pick up driving and get my license when younger in my 20s. I have no plans to purchase a car either in the very near future due to the cost.

However, I feel that driving seems like quite a gd skill to have. Sometimes I feel quite ignorant when people ard me talk abt road stuff that I’m clueless about.

If I get my license, getting an off peak car for weekend drives out with my family may be a possible option.

I’m doing freelance work now, and it may still be possible to squeeze in driving lessons sometime during the next yr, though I’m not sure if it will actually work out. Needs quite a bit of planning.

Also, the costs of getting a license now has increased alot compared to years ago, which is also why I’m having second thoughts.

What do you all think? Is anyone out there also like myself, and considering whether to take up driving next yr? 🙂

Netizens’ comments

1. Age doesnt and shouldnt deter u from learning a new skill. I also hardly drive, but if i want to, i could since i got the license. So it is better to have it than none. Driving can be quite fun haha and useful if u want to drive overseas as well 🙂
2. My mom finally got her license at 55 after i bought a family car. Growing up, we never had a car. Oh and shes the panicky sort of person. If she can, you can, scratch that, anyone can.
   Fees are definitely more expensive now for obvious reasons but let none of these issues hinder you from going for it.
   Pragmatically speaking, only get a car if you really need it.
3. Yes you should. I think it’s a good skill to have. I only learned driving when I was in my mid 20s as I didn’t have money or time before that to start driving lessons.
   I hardly drive nowadays cos I actually really like taking public transport and my husband usually drives. However if you put a gun to my head I will be able to drive. It is a good skill to have. Just get started with your basic theory first and take it from there.
   All the best!

When I was studying in Uni, I had big dreams of making it in the corporate world.

I had all the right attitude and willingness to learn and I was eager to start my career. Little did I know, my internship would be nothing like I had imagined.

My boss hired me as an intern, but instead of giving me the chance to learn the ropes of corporate life, he made me do jobs that had nothing to do with my field of study.

He had me doing mundane tasks like filing, data entry and making coffee runs. I was frustrated and angry, but I knew that I had to take it in stride if I wanted to make a good impression and get a foot in the door.

It was then that I realized what my boss was doing. He was taking advantage of my eagerness to get started in the business world and using me as a source of cheap labour.

He knew that as an intern, I was desperate to make a good impression and would be willing to do whatever it took to get ahead.

I soon realized that I was not alone in this situation. There were others in my department who were in the same boat as me.

They were all poly/uni students with studying in various fields, but instead of being given the opportunity to apply their knowledge and skills, they were being asked to do menial tasks with little to no pay.

I was appalled and outraged. Here we were, a group of educated and ambitious individuals, being used as cheap labour.

We had the potential to be great assets to the company, yet we were being treated like second-class citizens.

 I’m 23 years old. For the last two years, I’ve been in a loving relationship with my boyfriend, We were planning to get married soon and even discussed having a baby.

But that dream was shattered when my bf went missing.

It all started a couple of weeks ago when I took a pregnancy test and it came out positive. I was so excited to tell him the news, but he was not happy. He said he wasn’t ready to be a father yet and wanted to wait a few more years. I was disappointed, but I understood. We had a long discussion about it, and I decided to keep the baby.

But the next day, he disappeared. I called his friends and family, but nobody had any idea where he was. He was just gone. I was worried sick, but there was nothing I could do.

I searched for Joe for weeks, but there was no sign of him. I almost filed a missing persons report with the police, I had no idea what to do or where he could be.

I was starting to lose hope when I got a call from a friend of his. He said my bf had been staying with him for the last few weeks. He had been scared and confused, and he thought I was mad at him for getting me pregnant. He had been avoiding me because he didn’t want to face the situation.

When I heard this, I was relieved, but I was also angry. I had been so worried and scared all this time, and he was just hiding from me. I knew I had to talk to him and try to make things right, so I went over to his friend’s house.

When I got there, My bf was so relieved to see me. We talked for hours, and he apologized for running away. He said he was scared and confused, and he was sorry for making me worry. We agreed to work through this together, and he said he was ready to accept responsibility and be a father.

Weeks later, his family moved and he went missing again.

I don’t know what to do…

Should I give my crush an ultimatum, and when?

I have been dating my friend for a few weeks, for context, she had recently dumped her bf about 2 months ago, on one of our meetups l, she confessed that she had some level of interest in me being her future partner, long story short, on the most recent meetup, she brought me to a secluded area and we kissed,

However, the next day she confessed that she did not felt ‘butterflies in her stomach’ and that she felt kinda guilty that we progressed too fast, and told me that she is certain that she would not want a relationship with me, even in the future, and that she only wants to remain friends

Obviously, what she said broke my heart, it hurts as it felt like she was toying with my feelings

so now I’m contemplating if I should and when should I give her an ultimatum; telling her that I would not remain friends with her as it would only hurt me in the long game, but maintaining that she can take her time before giving me an answer

Here are what netizens think:

• If this is what happened, I think you don’t understand the situation.You failed to realise you do not have any control or power over her rejecting you. Rejection sucks and your reaction had shown her she made the right choice. Trying to corner her when she already rejected you is just going to end the already frail friendship.She’s a lesson. The next time don’t emotionally invest until you’re very sure it’s going somewhere.On a positive note, at least she confessed the next day didn’t let you continue to invest and spend time/money/resources on her for weeks.Just move on and date other girls.

• She was being honest. She thought she might have a future. She took a step to see if that is possible. She realized there isn’t a future. She was honest about it from the get go and didn’t lead you on. Now, you feel like it went over your head so fast you didn’t process it enough. No point harping on it and no such BS as giving her an ultimatum. She was your crush. It didn’t work. You need to nurse your broken heart and move on. And respect her for being honest.

• What ultimatum? U don’t have anything to give her, she doesn’t even care u want to be her friend or not. She was just playing you but you still can play games with her just for fun!

• Give ultimatum for what? It just makes you a loser in her eyes and cemented her decision to reject you. Everyone has a right to choose. Don’t have feelings for you then don’t have lah, take it so hard for what. Reverse the roles and see how you feel when a girl you are not attracted to gives you an ultimatum. Take it as a rejection and move on. Plenty of people out there. Remember to hold the abundance mentality, don’t fall into the scarcity trap.