Let me preface by saying that I was raised overseas, and i’m ignorant about how important face might be to Chinese Singaporeans.

At a recent CNY gathering, the host was taking his role too far IMO. Here are some things that happened.

The host’s daughter had asked a cousin if he wanted beer, to which he replied NO as he was closely watching his diet. No big deal, she just left it as that and got him some warm water. Her father then walked by and saw that he was drinking water and not beer. He then exclaimed loudly, “Why didn’t anybody offer him beer?” Daughter responded, “I already asked. He said he is watching his diet.” But the host replied, “You asked him, he said No. If I ask, he would say Yes.” He then repeatedly waved the cousin’s objection away and shoved a beer in his hand. After some ridiculous back and forth, the cousin politely accepted the beer, then placed it on the table and never opened it.

There was a family with a young boy who was leaving. As they were leaving, the boy swiped a little CNY snack from the coffee table. The boy’s mum told him to put it back as he was already starting to cough and she threatened to cane him once they got home if he didn’t. The host then grabs the CNY snack and handed a handful to the boy. “Eat more! Eat more! Don’t worry, take as much as you want.” to which the frantic mother said “No no no!! Cannot cannot!” But of course the boy was already holding on to a handful of snacks and quite confused as to what he should do. They left with the snacks, but I’m guessing the mother wasn’t too happy.

My dad had a heart-related operation a couple of months back. In the past, he was a fairly heavy drinker, but after his op he quit all drinking. The host knows this. Yet the host offered my dad China’s Baijiu, which was 40+% in alcohol. The host’s family jumped in and told him to stop this nonsense, and reminded him of the op my dad just had, but the host waved them all away and said “You all don’t know our customs!” My dad said no a few times but the host was insistent and this was starting to become quite a scene, so my dad decided to just drink 1 tiny shot glass of baijiu to appease him. The host became super smug, and at this point i was fuming.

That was when the tables turned. One of the other relatives present offered the host a beer. Incredulously, the host turned it down, saying that he was recovering from a cough. I’ve heard enough and i exploded, “MY DAD JUST HAD A MAJOR OPERATION AND YOU FORCE HIM TO DRINK BAIJIU. YOU ARE RECOVERING FROM A COUGH AND YOU CAN’T DRINK BEER?!?!”

I was so angry I could feel my face flush. I also know I had expired my welcome and it was time to get my parents and leave.

I’m (33F) upset that my husband (31M) got plastic surgery without telling me

I just found out today that my husband got some cool sculpting done a few months ago and never told me about it.

I found out because we were having a casual conversation about something I wanted to have done in the future and he accidentally let it slip that he did this a few months ago and then looked completely uncomfortable.

It was obvious he didn’t mean to say anything and had just gotten caught up in the moment.

I don’t have an issue with any forms of plastic surgery but what I do have a problem with is that he omitted telling me about it.

My husband is a FT student so I have to pay all of our bills. I’m upset that he felt it was okay to spend 4k on a cosmetic procedure but can’t contribute to our household bills every month.

Aside from that, what is really scary, is that he was able to conceal all the appointments from me and time away to get this done. I honestly had no idea.

I need an objective opinion on this, am I validated to feel upset that my husband lied by omission about this?

I’ll never forget the day I heard my husband say “instalment plans killed me”.

I was completely taken aback as I had no idea what he was talking about.

We had been married for a few years, and I hadn’t noticed any financial issues. It wasn’t until later that I realized he was referring to credit card instalment-free plans.

At first, I was curious about what he meant. He explained that he had been using credit cards to purchase items and had taken advantage of instalment plans.

He saw them as a way to spread out the cost of items and make them more affordable. What he hadn’t realized was that by taking on these plans, he was actually taking on more debt.

Cycle of debt

He said that he had been paying the minimum payments on these plans for years, but he was only making a dent in the total balance. The interest on the balance kept accumulating and he was stuck in a cycle of debt. He said that while he thought the instalment plans were a good idea at first, they had quickly piled up and he was now in over his head.

My husband had been using his credit cards for years, but I had no idea that he was taking on instalment plans. I was shocked that he hadn’t told me about it. I had assumed he was being responsible for the cards, but I had no idea he was taking on this extra debt.

I tried to talk to him about it, but he was in denial. He said he could handle it and that he would figure out a way to pay it off. He was stubborn and refused to accept help.

Unfortunately, he was wrong. Our financial situation quickly became worse. We were already struggling and his debt was putting us further in the red. We were barely able to make ends meet and I was starting to worry about our future.

Things got even worse when I went on a shopping spree (before I knew about the debt issues).

I had been wanting to buy some new clothes and I thought it would be a good way to cheer myself up. I charged several items to my husband’s credit card, not realizing that he had taken on an instalment plan for them.

When he saw the charges, he was furious. He said that I had ruined him and that I had made his debt situation worse. He said that I should have known better and that I had put us in a tough financial situation.

I was devastated. I had no idea that my shopping spree would put us in this much trouble. I felt guilty and ashamed and I knew I had to do something to fix it.

I started researching ways to get out of debt and the only thing we could do is stop spending and save more money.

But it is something that is needed in the long run both of us have to stop spending. I wished he told me sooner.

As a woman, I’ve always been aware of how men grade women on looks.

But I never realized the extent to which men judge women based on appearance until I heard an old saying that stated “men grade women on looks from A to F, while women grade men on earning power from A to F.”

This saying made me consider the dating game from a different angle. Women may be viewed as the weaker gender, but when it comes to evaluating potential partners, we’re definitely the more discerning gender.

I understand why men grade women on looks.

It’s a primal instinct, and men are attracted to physical beauty. But what I don’t understand is why men are so quick to judge a woman based solely on her looks. Sure, physical beauty is nice, but there’s so much more to a woman than her appearance.

On the flip side, I think it’s totally reasonable for women to grade men on earning power. Women are naturally drawn to men who can provide for them financially because it’s a sign of stability and security. We want to make sure that our partners can provide for us and our future family, so it makes sense for us to evaluate a man’s financial status.

For me personally, looks and earning power are both important factors when I’m evaluating potential partners. But I don’t think either should be the sole basis for judgement. A man can be physically attractive and have a great job, but if he doesn’t have any other qualities, like intelligence, values, and a sense of humor, then I’m not likely to be interested.

I believe that the key to a successful relationship is finding someone who’s attractive both inside and out. Someone who’s physically attractive and has a great job is a bonus, but I’d rather find someone who also has a kind heart, a great sense of humor, and a shared set of values.

At the end of the day, I think it’s important to remember that no one is perfect. We all have flaws, and that’s okay. Instead of judging someone based solely on looks or earning power, we should look for the qualities that make a person unique and special. That’s what really matters in the long run.

It’s like he won the lottery and strike 1st prize for 4D When I first found out I was going to be a father to twins, I was overwhelmed.

I had just started dating my now-fiancée a few months prior and I had no idea that this would be the outcome. It was like I had won the lottery and struck first prize for 4D.

I remember the day I realized my fiancée was pregnant. I had just come home from work and she was already in bed. She seemed to be in a good mood, so I asked her what was up. She smiled and told me she was pregnant.

I was in shock as we only did it once

I had no idea how this could have happened. I had been so careful this past month and it seemed like we had been using protection every time we were together.

I think the most surprising part was how quickly the news sunk in. It felt like I had known before she even told me. I just knew. I knew that I was going to be a dad and that this was going to change my life forever.

My fiancée and I decided to take a few days to process the news and figure out what we were going to do. We talked through our options and discussed the possibility of having twins. We both agreed that it would be a huge change, but we also knew that we wanted to be parents and that we would make it work.

After a few months, we decided to get an ultrasound and find out if it was indeed twins that we were expecting. We waited anxiously for the results and after what felt like an eternity, the technician finally revealed that we were expecting two babies.

It was like a dream come true. It was a shock as it is not just one! we were going to have two! We had so much to plan and so much to think about. It was a whirlwind of emotions and it felt like the world was spinning around us.

We decided to start planning right away. We had to think about everything from the nursery to the delivery. We also had to think about what kind of parents we were going to be and how we were going to manage two babies at once.

The months flew by and before we knew it, the babies were here. It was a magical moment and I felt like I was the luckiest man alive. We had two beautiful babies and they were both healthy.

Managing twins can be a challenge, but it’s also a blessing. We get to experience the joy of parenting twice over. We get to see the world through two different sets of eyes and we get to watch them grow together.

My fiancée and I have been together for over a year now and I can honestly say that we couldn’t be happier. We have two healthy babies and a beautiful life together. We are so thankful for the gift that we have been given and we are so grateful for our twins.

When I first met my girlfriend, I was really nervous. I had been single for a while, and I was so excited to find someone I wanted to be with.

But I was also worried about how she would react when she found out I had a small manhood. I had been self-conscious about my size since I was a teen, and I was terrified of what she would think.

But I decided to be brave and just tell her. I felt like if I didn’t, it would be dishonest and I was already so into her that I didn’t want to risk losing her. So I took a deep breath and just blurted it out.

At first, she was taken aback, which I expected. But then, to my surprise, she smiled and said, “Small doesn’t mean it’s not there.”

I was so relieved. I couldn’t believe she wasn’t judging me or making fun of me. She was actually reassuring me that size doesn’t matter.

From then on, my girlfriend and I have been more open about talking about the issue. We both recognize that it can be uncomfortable, so we try to approach it with humor and understanding. We both know it’s an issue, but we don’t make it a big deal. We don’t focus on it and it doesn’t define our relationship.

My girlfriend and I have been together for over a year now and I’m so glad I told her. We’ve been able to be honest with each other and it’s made our connection so much stronger.

I know it can be difficult to talk about having a small manhood. I used to be embarrassed and ashamed, and I wanted to hide it from everyone. But I’m so glad I was able to be open and honest with my girlfriend.

Now I want to encourage other men to do the same. It’s important to be honest and brave, even if it’s hard. It might seem like a big deal, but it doesn’t have to be. Small doesn’t mean it’s not there, and it doesn’t have to define you or your relationship.

I’m so grateful for my girlfriend and the understanding we have for each other. I’m glad that I was able to be honest and tell her about my small manhood, because it has made us closer and given us a deeper level of understanding and trust.

I recently had a very uncomfortable experience with a girl I had met at a party.

She had been showing me a lot of attention all night, and I had to politely reject her advances because I was not interested in a casual hook-up.

I was a little taken aback when she aggressively pushed the issue, and then she asked me if I was afraid of catching an STD or AIDS from her. This felt like a huge betrayal of trust and I was very hurt by her insinuation.

I have been very open about my views on sexual health and I firmly believe that if two people are planning to engage in any kind of sexual activity, they must both be aware of the risks that come with it.

Easy sure got problem one

I understand that it can be difficult to have these conversations, but I also believe that it is important to do so in order to protect one’s self and their partner. This girl clearly did not feel the same way and I was very disappointed by her lack of respect for her own safety and the safety of others.

I understand that casual S can be a tempting prospect, especially when alcohol is involved, but I also believe that it is important to be aware of the risks associated with it. Engaging in casual S without taking the necessary precautions can lead to the transmission of STDs, which can have serious and sometimes fatal consequences. It is also important to note that even if two people are engaging in a seemingly low-risk activity, such as oral, they can still be exposed to a variety of sexually transmitted diseases.

It is important for people to know their sexual health status, which can be determined through regular testing and screening. Knowing one’s status can help reduce the risk of transmission of STDs, and it is also important to regularly get tested to ensure that one’s partner has not been exposed to any diseases. It is also important to practice safe S, which includes using condoms and other barrier methods.

I think that it is important for people to take responsibility for their own sexual health and to think carefully before engaging in casual S. I was very disappointed by the girl’s lack of consideration for her own safety, and I hope that others will think twice before engaging in casual S without the proper precautions. It is not difficult to make sure that one is protecting themselves and their partner, and I think that it is important to do so in order to avoid the risks associated with STDs and AIDS.