He(38m) has been my(29f) friend for quite some time now, and I met him a few months back, when I broke my leg and he was the doctor who did my surgery. We started speaking a few days after the surgery and I knew he was married, and I always kept my distance.

He told me one fine day that he wished I hugged him, and my immediate response was “one thing may lead to another…” Although I was hesitant, he told me one day how things weren’t going great with his wife(35f) how he’s been married to her for 2.5 yrs and they haven’t had ‘did it’ since their wedding night and how frustrating it feels to be avoided by wife.

He joked about how he’s been a virgin for 2.5 years and I laughed at him at first. The thing is I really am one. Fast forward the entire thing, we started meeting up outside, then he slowly started wanting me come to his place to give him company and sometimes a hug. Then he kissed me and I was really bothered. Didn’t express anything at the time.

However, a few weeks later, I started longing to see him again and this time kiss him. Goodness I tell you, the both of us managed not to ‘do it’ for at least 3 months and today it happened.

I met him, cuz he was upset I haven’t been visiting him and we kept having a fight over the phone , so I decided to just give him a hug and be back home immediately. Things didn’t go according to plan and now we both feel terrible besides the fact that I gave my first time to him, there was nothing interesting about the ‘deed’.

And it hurts because he was not very experienced as well.

I came back home and went to read an article on “what should a woman do if she slept with a married man” and it says “leave. For the sake of your sanity and self respect. He’s not going to leave his wife.”

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A few days ago i was in a very crowded hawker center during lunch time and saw a round table (5-6 seats) choped by one plastic bag with some books inside.

I was already carrying my food and my bag waiting to find seats so I ended up sitting there, thinking that its a large table, they wont mind to share.

Then as i’m eating, this person came by and asked me to leave, saying that they have 3 person and need to use the entire table. I ask her if she is fine with sharing table since there are more than 3 seats, then she replied me saying that they wanna sit separately?

which I’m slightly confused by her words so i ignored that sentence. then she raises her voice and question me if iIm Singaporean, and if I know that singaporeans are entitled to chope seats in hawker center with their stuff.

which brings me back to the question. are we entitled to chope a large table with random stuff like tissue pack or plastic bag?

if its a large group of people going to the hawker centre, why wont they let one person to just sit there and chope seats while others go buy food?

when im going out to eat with friends, if there are more than 2 of us, we always ask one person to find seats while we buy food for them, and i always assume this is the common etiquette that we follow here.

Netizen comments

• Absolute nonsense. The entitlement, ffs.
• The ‘chope’ culture is stupid. Sorry but if you put one tissue packet I will just throw away and use the seat.
• I hate it too. Just share the seat already. Ignore the person sitting if you have to, its hard enough to get a seat as is. I really hate that our culture created this behaviour, and even more that it was needed in the first place.

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GF (24f) will be cohabiting with me (29m) soon and had just told her family about me. I’ll be having brunch with her parents soon but her brothers invited me over for beers at a bar tonight to get to know me.

Started off very formal with intros and us just getting to know each other.

They weren’t very friendly and just and pretty much just grilled me for over 2 hours about how we met with her interning at my office, why we’re moving in together, blah blah blah.

Finally got to a place where we’re just talking about current events and our lives.

Several beers later and they’re finally starting to loosen up and we’re having a nice friendly banter going. One of her brothers starts talking about his ex and some of her harder appetites.

In my drunken stupor I said “yeah man that’s nothing some girls really love for you to push them to their limits” so he laughed and asked what I meant and I said “ehh it’ll be weird if you guys know about that”.

We were all quiet and just looking at our drinks for like 45 seconds as they digested what I said and I’m realizing how stupid I am.

Whatever friendliness we were working up to is gone but now there’s this tense awkwardness. I offered to get the entire bill, they didn’t even thank me, and then we went our separate ways.

GF is staying over tonight and she asked me how it went because her family is super protective of her.

I told her what I said and she went white as a ghost.

She’s still in disbelief over how stupid I am and said we’ll talk about it tomorrow.

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I have a classmate back in my schooling days who always comes to school and goes back straight right after school ends.

He does not attend any CCA as well at all.

Even when we have to do group work, we would always have to go to his house to do it.

Whenever we asked him out to go to town or even to study, he would always say that he cannot make it.

At that time, he shared that this was the instructions of his father.

He was like a caged bird, only allowed to stay at home.

We caught up recently, and he shared the real reason

I caught up with him recently and jokingly asked him how come he could come out all of a sudden and he shared with me the real reason why he was not allowed outside in the past.

He said that back in the day, his father used to worked a job which would easily offend a lot of people and he was quite well known in the circle.

He shared that in some heated arguments with the people that he was dealing with in his job, they would often tell him to ‘watch out’ for his back and his family’s back.

Out of concerned for his safety, his dad had only allowed him to go to school for fear that these people would really take revenge on him.

He also said that whenever he asked why, his dad would always tell him not to probe so much and be quiet.

It was only until his dad left the job that he found out that his dad was actually trying to protect him and now that he is grown up and the ‘situation’ then already died down, he was allowed to go out like a normal human being.

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A friend of mine recently told me that her mother took away her degree and insisted that she would only give her the degree back when she has paid her mother back for the loan she took from the mother to pay for her degree.

She said that ever since she completed her final exams of her degree, her mother has been going after her asking her for her loan repayment plan.

After returning home from her graduation ceremony, her mother took her degree away from her and locked it up in the safe in her room, telling her to pay up for the loan before she can get her degree back.

She has tried explaining to her mother that without the degree cert, she is unable to show her job interviewers the prove of her degree but her mother won’t buy it.

She told her mother that without a job, she could not repay the study loan she took for her degree back to her but her mother simply just told her that if she has no job, she can always go and drive Grab to earn the money to pay her back.

My friend has not yet found a job also but it is not as if she is not trying as there are many others also with a degree vying for jobs and they have their certs to show at the interviews which adds to their advantage if the employer is looking at the degree before considering to hire.

I also asked her to show her transcript instead but because her results are sub par, she said that she would rather just show her degree cert.

How can I help my friend convince her mother to give her back her degree cert so that she can go for interviews with it?

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I have always loved green and have almost everything green.

Be it wallet, bag, colour of my room, shoes and clothing, it will always be green.

Serving NS was one of the happier times in my life as well as most of the items were green and I get to wear green most of the time.

Most of the time when I go out, I would also wear green.

I have these two closer friends, a Chinese guy and a Malay guy and we go way back from our Secondary school days.

They have always made fun of me and my love of green.

Whenever they see something Green they would call out my name and say that it belongs to me or that it is me for example the common green dustbin you see under your HDB block.

There was once where they saw me wear a green top which I owned for about two years back when I was 10 kg lighter, they started calling me ‘Ba Zhang’ and ‘Ketupat’ because it looked small and tight on me.

From that day onwards, these two food, ‘Ba Zhang’ and ‘Ketupat’ has been my nick name.

I’m sharing this not because I feel offended by it but I just feel that we should all embrace and love ourselves no matter what and who we are.

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An air steward recently shared that while on a flight pattern to Seoul, South Korea, back in 2020 just before the start of the pandemic, a fellow air stewardess and himself were initially refused service by a Korean BBQ restaurant over there just because they looked ‘PRC’.

Here is what he said

I did a flight to Seoul back in 2020 January, just before the pandemic got really serious.

At that time, the situation was a little more tense in Korea.

Masks were going at the street for a box of 30 for almost 100SGD and a bottle of hand sanitiser of an unknown Korean brand was going as high as 30SGD.

My batch girl who happened to be on the same flight as me had asked me to go for Korean BBQ for lunch while we were on the flight and when we landed and showered, we headed out immediately.

We took a train to Hongdae and walked around looking for a Korean BBQ restaurant which looked appealing and finally found one.

As we were approaching the entrance of the restaurant, a Korean Ajumma quickly ran over to the door to close the door shut and kept saying that they are ‘not opened’ even though there were patrons inside occupying a few tables.

We then tried asking how come there are people eating inside if it was not opened and she just kept on going ‘No No No’.

After a while, a younger chap who was also working there came over and spoke English to us and asked us if we were from China.

We replied that we are from Singapore and he asked to see our Passports.

When we showed him our passports, he smile and shouted to other staff in the restaurant something in Korean which we deciphered it to be ‘Oh they are from Singapore’.

Suddenly, they opened the door and ushered us in and all the staff there became very warm and welcoming towards us.

The younger chap then apologised and explained to us that the older staff there assumed that we were from China and associated us with the pandemic and was afraid that we were carrying the virus and would eventually pass the virus to them.

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