My ten year old son can’t stand affection between his father and I

If I hug my husband, my son will come over after and hug me for longer. When he sees my husband kiss me, my son will glare at his father.

He will quietly make comments like “get away from my mother”. I have boundaries around our children, this is innocent pecks and hugs.

He groans when he hears his dad come home. He has told me he wishes that our family was just me, him and his little sister. I tried to get him to explain why he feels this way but he refused.

I have always been attentive and affectionate with my son. I reassure him all of the time that he will always be my baby and he means the world to me.

I spend more time with my kids then my husband (because of his work schedule) so it’s not him being neglected. My husband is the stricter parent but he’s never mistreated our son.

I’m scared that no matter what I do this won’t change. I feel lost and I’m stressed.

I’ve just found out my parents are alive and that they have other children.

I (18F) was born when my parents were still in school (16/17ish). I have lived with my aunt and uncle on my Dad’s side since my parents “died” in an accident when I was almost 2.

My aunt and uncle didn’t really like my parents as they thought they were irresponsible for having me so young and so I didn’t know much about them growing up.

It was my 18th birthday a couple of days ago and my aunt told me that I had some visitors, the visitors turned out to be my parents and their three other children.

I didn’t really know how to feel, but my aunt let them in and they explained some things. It turns out that they actually weren’t dead, they just didn’t have the means or really want to raise me.

My aunt and uncle told me they were “dead” because apparently they weren’t ever really planning on coming back for me, but my siblings wanted to meet me so they did.

All five of them seem like they want to get to know me, and my parents seem kind of remorseful but I don’t think I believe them.

They literally abandoned me for almost my whole life because they weren’t able to raise me, but the oldest of their kids is 15.

So they decided to have another kid a year after giving me away because they weren’t able to raise a kid?? I don’t really know how to feel about any of this, and I kind of hate my parents, especially because when I was growing up I always wished that I remembered them and that they were still alive.

Need a place to rant and chose here, ignore/hide if you have a problem with this.

Struggling student so I use Shopee a lot.

It is really scamming people frequently these days and I’m very annoyed. In their games, you can win product vouchers. I got one, and immediately after that the seller removed the product from their shop, now I’m left with a voucher of no use.

I spoke to the seller and they said it’s sold out, they don’t know when it’s coming back and since the voucher is from Shopee they said to ask Shopee.

As of today it has been several weeks. Within these weeks I have approached Shopee multiple times with alternatives like how about another similar product? I don’t mind another equivalent, doesn’t have to be that one. They said no, the voucher is only for this product that NO LONGER EXISTS.

What a joke. Also this is the third time that this has happened. Any of you experienced the same? Am I the a**hole for being angry?

How many of you won’t be mad at this?

Gamers out there imagine this – you invest time/money on your games right? Imagine you press upgrade or you won a boss, but at the end of it you see no change to your level, inventory or xp. Then when you ask customer service they tell you that they can’t do anything even though it’s their game. You can only wait till they feel like it.

Also auntys and uncles you buy Toto 4D right? Imagine you win, then the counter says oh we ran out of prize money so you wait, when we have money we let you know again.

And the timeline for when you’ll get your prize is unknown. How many of you would be chill about that?

Seriously?

simei recruiter at bus stop with sick mother?

TLDR: Anyone experienced an old man with elderly mother asking for directions to nearby hospital who then went on to try to get you to join his potential start up company?

I encountered a man who sought help to find the pick up location for the shuttle bus service to the hospital. He was pushing an elderly woman in a wheelchair who he said was his mother. I helped him to google to find out where the bus stopped and showed him the way, and while I was walking towards the direction of the bus stop, he made some small talk and asked if I was a student. Unassumingly, I replied that I was a postgrad student.

Suddenly, he brought up the fact that he was intending to set up a start up to solve data issues – and went on to talk abt alot of stuff and said that he wanted to share information with me and asked for my contact.

Skeptical, I said that I was uncomfortable and asked why he would ask a random person on the street to join his company.

He then reasoned that my school had piqued his interest and that he feels like he could learn alot from me. I kept refusing to share my contact and telling him that I wouldnt be able to commit to that. I asked if he had a linkedin account, and then he checked with me multiple times on how to spell ‘linkedin’ – like he didn’t know what it was. He then proceeded to walk back to where his ‘mother’ in a wheelchair was and took his laptop bag which had alot of files in them.

He opened the files and showed me sheets of tables that contained random amounts of expenses on them, and a couple of “financial” reports to assure me that it wasn’t a sham. He also took out multiple envelopes filled with STACKS OF $100 (they were super thick) and he said something along the lines of “see, i’m really doing business” and he proceeded to try to get my contact again.

I told him that I was not going to give him my contact and I told him to pass me his contact and I’ll decide if I want to contact him. He told me his name was Nitin and gave me his HP number. I then said that I had to leave, and he tried to set up a f2f meeting and even said he would bring his mother along so that I would feel safe. I said no thanks and left.

Have any other girls experienced this? Quite worried if there are creeps out there who seem legit.

Additional info:

• He showed me pictures of a bungalow he claimed he was building for his team mates (these pictures were dated back to sep 2021 – can see from iphone camera)
• He was using a broken iphone SE with internet connection – why couldnt he have googled information on the shuttle bus location, right?
• He really didn’t know what linkedin was – at one point he tried to google it and wasn’t even sure which hyperlink to click on to go the website
• His said mother was sitting on the wheelchair and staring into space (she looked dazed, zoned out) in the middle of a busy bus stop
• He says he lives in Windy Heights

Netizens’ comments

• Look. Rule of thumb. If it feels like a trap, it very likely is. The woman could very well be his mother. In which case she could eother be pretending or really sick. Either way, guy’s a POS.
  Just ignore it and move on. These agents are very creative with their methods of getting attention.
• so i’m curious, the mother legit sick and just sat in the wheelchair all this while? good teamwork sia

Random question. Overheard two aunties talking at a hawker centre about this 377A and the convo went something like this.

A: woah 377A repeal now all can love leh

B: that one is the gay one is it?

A: yes the man to man now legal already. Good good I support this shows we are open and supportive

B: oh you support ah?

A: ya eh good what why?

B: I not leh. if ah your son come home and say “mummy I have a boyfriend” how?

A: siao ah he only can date girl else how to give birth and have children

Confusion struck me for a minute. Can you support something but be against it when it comes to your own children? Is it really supportive then?

Or is it the whole I’m open to inter racial relationships but when it comes to my daughter I’m against it kinda thing?

Netizens’ comments

• People can talk freely until it hits too close to home. There is even a survey that shows how many people claim to support compared to the number that actually support their loved ones.
• Spot on. Theres the legal aspect and the societal aspect. The former is relatively easier to change, the latter is much much harder.
• People want to appear inclusive and supportive, but not at the expense of their own comfort zone. It’s hypocritical, but better than being completely against it..I guess? A small step forward is a step nonetheless

I wanna quit, how do i say this?

just ended my shift, first day being a gift wrapper. Tired and demotivated as the way i wrapped for customers wasn’t up to standards. customers even said “Give me the some wrapping paper, I go home wrap.”

I was stressing the entire time, i realised I wasn’t cut for this job at all. I want to quit.

But how do I say it to my manager as it’s quite embarrassing that i have only worked for one day and I still have like two shifts left this week.

I don’t have the motivation do this kind of things right. I will probably go back to my original jobs (f&b) as I feel like I could do better than gift wrapping.

any advices on how to tell my manager about it? thank u

Netizens’ comments

1. During my part time job during uni break I worked in popular – stationery dept.
   Unfortunately I had to wrap gifts when my supervisor wasn’t around.
   Everytime I wrapped gifts I took too long and it’s really very ugly. Some customers even stopped me and wrap it in front of me. I don’t blame them, I suck. I kept doing my job anyway and tried to improve.
   My opinion, keep at it. If anything else its teaching u about the importance of grit.
2. Hi OP- I know this is really demotivating, but stick with it.
   Tell people it’s your first day and you’re still learning how to do it nice.
   The stakes are INCREDIBLY low, you will not ruin anyones Christmas and nobody will die.
   Worth sticking it out and making that money. Unless, of Course it’s easy for you to pick up something else.

Need some advice here. I’ve recently received 2 potential internship opportunities and need some help in deciding and also to maintain the relationship between myself and the organisations.

Just in case it’s relevant to note, it’s for the real estate & development industry.

I’ve approached Company A first to ask for an internship opportunity but shortly received another offer few hours later from Company B.

Here are some profiling:

Company A

– A subsidiary of a publicly listed company in the industry

– Potential opportunity for growth (to jump into or be recognised by the mother company)

– Response for internship opportunity was not firm. I was told to just email them and they’ll ‘see what they can do’

Company B

– A government agency

– (commonly seen as a superior party by the older generations I suppose)

– Firm and keen response from the employer; sounds almost guaranteed that I’ll get the internship

Both of the job scope seem to be something I’d enjoy in, so assuming the pay and location of the workplace are the same,

1) Which company should I go for?

2) How do I politely reject the other, while still maintaining the relationship for future opportunities?

Especially since I’m the one who approached Company A myself, what should I do if I decide to go with Company B?

Thanks and have a great December!

I think I am going to be single forever because I cannot find a man that will respect my boundaries and that I am not scared of.

I have imaginary dates with my late husband every week

I just wanted to let this out. Ive never told anyone about this.

Im a 36 year old woman. I lost my husband 11 years ago. When he was still alive, every Saturday night we would go out on date. We started when we were 16, every single week until we were 25 and he was taken from me.

It was really really hard for me. I had more than a few grippy sock vacations. I broke everything in my home out of sadness, fortunately it was after i moved a lot of his things to our bedroom so nothing of his was harmed. I was in grief counseling for 4 years until they finally gave me off to another therapist who i see twice a week. All i ever talk about is how much i miss my husband.

The only thing that brings me happiness is my loyalty to him. Its something im very very proud of. Even though hes gone i still wear my rings and ive stayed 100% faithful to him, and im going to continue to do that for the rest of my life. It makes me happy when i think about it. One day when i see him in heaven ill be able to tell him i stayed faithful to him and im still his wife forever. I have his senior portrait on my bedside, along with his ashes. Its the first and last thing i see everyday.

One thing that helps me cope with it is kind of weird. I have imaginary date nights with him. I put on his favorite dress, ill put on my makeup and do my hair. I cook one of his favorite meals, I make both of us a plate and i just sit there and eat and i pretend he’s across from me and were eating together. Then i pour both of us a glass of champagne. Ive always hated the taste, and before he passed I was 100% sober my entire life, but it makes me feel like im conntected to him when i drink it. He loved champagne. Ill pretend hes drinking it too and we’ll get a little tipsy together

Then the next morning i wake up and i clean everything up. I clean up his food that obviously was never touched and his full glass of champagne and i go about my day.

I know it seems crazy, but its something that brings me joy. It makes me happy.

And please dont try to convince me to not stay loyal to my husband. Staying loyal to him brings me true happiness and if you have a problem with that please just keep that to yourself.