Husband (36m) mad at me (35f) and seeking FWB online.

My husband and I have been married for 10 years. We have three children together. We both work full time. Of note, I am the breadwinner and more fiscally responsible, though I shoulder most of our expenses.

We’ve always been tumultuous. However, things have been at a steady decline as of late.

See, my husband, who believes that his responsibilities in life begin and end with going to work, is so god awful upset that I don’t make my genitals available to him at every waking moment.

Besides sitting on the couch, watching youtube videos and ignoring the needs of everyone and everything in the household, the only thing he seems to care about is intercourse.

He has a immature level sense of humor, at best. Just loves to sit and watch stupid ass films like American Pie, etc, because they’re all hormone driven pieces of garbage.

I am currently recovering from a very significant surgery that has left me mobility impaired for the time being. This is the latest in a long line of several procedures that also left me mobility challenged. I have a life-long injury with chronic pain due to being in an unfortunate car accident. As a result, I have had increased anxiety over the past couple of years. My career has been damaged because of it, etc.

As such, I have spent a great deal of time alone, in my (our) room. Recovering. Being sad. Planning out or next moves. Budgeting. Paying all the bills. Still working full time, of course!

But my god. Not enough of my private parts have been accessible to his pervasive need.

On my birthday (last week), he joined me for a little bit – mostly to discuss how “monogamy isn’t realistic” and how we should probably divorce because my “lack of affection” is providing a poor example about relationships for our children. He then proceeded to insult my body, and then assumed that I would want to sleep with him.

Early in the morning today I snatched his phone and went through it. He is so desperately seeking someone to screw that he’s been talking with some married woman. He tells her that he’s “100% done” with our marriage but is staying for financial security.

I’m more amused than upset. However, I did end up sending a message to the ogre woman and I plan on confronting my toddler husband later.

My question is this –

Given the cost of everything, what’s the next step? Obviously, we need to separate. He needs a teenage-minded spouse that only cares about getting nasty, too. And I need somebody I can feel secure with.

The cost of housing in my area is revolting. All three of my children have some variety of special need, including autism.

I’ve been in a relationship for 10 years and I just found out that I’m positive for chlamydia and gonorrhea. Did he cheat on me?

We had a rough time and we broke up several times this year, but he’s always assured me that he never cheated on me (edit: or have any intimate contact with anyone else before and after I told him the test results) and it was great between us lately.

So it was a shock for me to find out the results. I’m asymptomatic I guess but I’m afraid I’ve had it for several months or years and that I am infertile because of him.

The only other person I’ve slept with in my life was over 10 years ago, so I doubt I had it first.

And I guess it’s unlikely to catch it without having intercourse.

I told him and he seems panicked to have it too but didn’t confess anything.

I don’t know what to think.

Netizens’ comments

• Reread what you typed out and tell me
• “We broke up several times” yeah that told me everything I need to know.
• It’s not cheating if you broke up
• Get treated. He needs to be tested and treated. Chlamydia can be dormant for years. That’s not the case with gonorrhea. So yes, he is the likely source.
• How did he phrased things about broken up time? Did he say he did not sleep with anyone or did he say he didn’t cheat? Technically, if he slept with others while you weren’t together, he didn’t cheat.
• It’s not cheating if you were broken up. Since you describe it as cheating, I’m guessing it’s common in your relationship to be on and off. If that’s so, ask yourself why you are together if you can’t stay together.

Why do some men feel such an inherent need to comment on women’s attractiveness?

Let me preface by saying I’m not saying all men are this way, this is my experience and doesn’t reflect on how I perceive all men.

I’m just very tired of dating men who end up making comments about the women around us, Like I get my partners will find others attractive- that isn’t there issue here.

The issue is the fact they always feel the need to comment on it, and in front of me too.

I doubt they would feel all too happy if I commented on the men I found attractive, but I simply don’t do that. I don’t mention any other men, nor woman, being attractive to my partner.

Netizens’ comments

• The only time my husband mentions something like this is when he says, “omg she’s she pretty.” “Awe she a little chunkers, so cute.” And “Ugh I just wanna give that one a kiss!” …. these are all directed at dogs tho.
• Found it quite weird myself. Big turn off. I was seeing a guy for a few dates, went to the movies with him and before the show he couldn’t stop commenting on the women’s physical appearance in the previews. I definitely found him less attractive and stopped seeing him after that.
• Some men have been taught that everything they think and say is important to people that they believe have less value than them if they were taught and raised the right way they would know that their negative opinion of a woman’s body doesn’t matter there’s is someone that thinks you are the most beautiful woman to ever walk this earth we are all perfect in our own way
• This is something I’ve noticed in most men I have ever associated with too. I have no idea why it happens, but I’ve expressed distaste of comments like that, and if someone doesn’t respect my boundaries, then I just stop being around that person and find someone who does. It’s easy enough to fix with people who respect women, it’s the ones who don’t who seem to tend to find it impossible to stop doing at least while you’re around.
• Some men are insecure and have to resort to commenting on other women’s appearance in front of you to make you jealous.

I’m an escort & my job is sad.

I’ve been working as a freelance escort for a few years (27f). My clients range from early 20s to late 60s. I enjoy my job mostly because I met a lot of people & connections.

But whenever I get a new client I always offer to chat first. That’s where I sad part is. I ask them what they want me to do for them. Sometimes it’s intercourse or oral. But a lot of the time it’s just for me to give them company.

We sit around & talk.

So many men are lonely & it breaks my heart. They naturally crave human-to-human contact but aren’t getting it. I understand that’s why my job exists but it so sad sometimes. No one should be alone.

I think about it alot.

Edit: since this is doing numbers. I’d like to apologize for only discussing men here. They are my only clientele. But Women often get just as lonely. & should be added to the conversation.

Netizens’ comments

• yup, im a straight woman and once considered hiring someone to go to the movies with me
• Honestly, I believe it. The pursuit for love and companionship can lead to self worth and doubt issues, anxiety, and sometimes worse. At the end of the day most people just want to be held, comforted, loved. Hell, genuine connection and emotion with another person is more precious than diamonds.
• I’m so lonely that I may have or not, considered hiring an escort in the past few months, just for the company.
• I’d believe it. Sometimes I literally just don’t know what to do with myself if my friends won’t play online with me and none of my friends are responding to messages. When I was younger I relished being alone but as an adult I feel very lonely sometimes when I don’t have anyone to talk to

F21 My boyfriend M27 keeps walking in on me when I’m using the bathroom to poop

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 8 months and had noticed after we were living together that he’d frequently walk into the bathroom dude i was on the toilet.

I started locking the door, but he would unlock it saying he needed to brush his teeth or he forgot something, etc (some other excuse).

I asked him to respect my privacy and not to walk in on me. We talked about it and he agreed.

Now, he hasn’t come into the bathroom since we spoke, but ive noticed how he’ll often rush into the bathroom after I pooped to try and smell.

He has been subtle about this, but it’s made me feel violated and totally self-conscious. Im not sure if he’s into that type of thing and he’s keeping it a secret, but I need advice here on how to proceed.

Netizens’ comments

Pretty clear that he’s at least poo curious. I would call him out and demand an answer for his behavior. It’s a hard conversation so it’s ok to feel intimidated by the idea of confronting him. I don’t think you’d be asking for advice if you were willing to participate in his k!nk. Which leads me to think that you want to break up with him over this and just need people to reinforce your decision.

I’m concerned for you based on the amount of red flags in such a short post: Your age gap is a red flag, mostly because you are so young. Moving in together that quickly is a major red flag. Him not respecting your boundaries is a red flag. His perverted behavior is bothering you and that doesn’t seem to bother him is a red flag.

how to survive boomer dictator/micromanager boss???

bless me I’m in my second job and I came from a culture where it was flexible and open (e.g I could casually go downstairs for a quick stroll to grab a coffee or snack) but now I feel like I’m in North Korea

My boss (A) demands to know where I am going, what I am doing and if I just stepped out for the office briefly (e.g 4pm to grab a quick snack) she will be like “are you out for lunch?” or if I’m late for 5 minutes she will paggro me with texts like “are you working today?” – these texts may seem “normal” but if you met this tiger-mom like character you would know otherwise. tbh I don’t even dare step out for lunch these days unless she is in a good mood or something cause it’s scary when she’s in a bad mood like damn……

Sometimes, I have to go to another office for meetings (I have 2 offices to shuttle to, a bit of a complicated role cause I’m shared between 2 departments) and she will question why is there a need for me to go to the office for the meeting, what time will I be back in the office and if I give a later timing, why my meeting will take so long. She has also called to chide the other director (B) that I am shared with because of such an instance, quite an ugly scene.

The irony is she (A) needs less help than the other director and director B is literally drowning in work and needs my support more. Can understand why she’s more “possessive” over me cause the higher percentage of my payroll comes from her (A) budget but is this even reasonable behavior???

how can such a character still exist? and is this job worth staying in then………

I was in for the shock of my life. My girlfriend and I had been dating for about a year and had a lot of fun together. We had talked about getting intimate, but had never taken any action. That is, until recently.

We had gone out for dinner and drinks, and things were going great. We had a few drinks, and the conversation was flowing easily. We were both feeling a little frisky, so we decided to go back to my place.

Once we got inside, things heated up quickly. We were making out and getting more and more passionate. We were both starting to get undressed, and I was feeling a little nervous. She was more confident and when she pulled off her panties, I almost fainted.

The smell that came out of her panties was like nothing I had ever smelled before. It was like a dog or rat had died inside of them. It was so strong, I had to take a few steps back.

My girlfriend was embarrassed, but I could tell that she was also a little bit amused. She said she hadn’t washed them in a while, and that was probably why they smelled so bad. She apologized and said she would wash them next time.

I was still in shock at the smell, but I also thought it was a little funny. I told her it was okay, and we continued on with our night.

So after she came back washing it still stink so bad. Now it smelled like Jurong Fishery Port.

We ended up ordering Macdonalds and watch a movie. It was a funny experience that I will never forget. It was also a lesson in hygiene that I am sure I will remember for a long time. To this day, I can’t help but laugh when I think about that night and the smell that almost made me faint.

I remember it like it was yesterday. I was so excited to tell all my friends about my plan to modify my car.

It was my pride and joy and I had been wanting to make it even better for some time. I had finally saved enough money to make the changes I wanted.

Or so I thought.

When I went to the shop to get the parts I needed, I was surprised to find that it was going to cost more than I had planned. I had underestimated the cost of the parts and now I was stuck. I didn’t have enough money to make the changes and I was starting to get desperate.

That’s when my girlfriend stepped in. She offered me a loan so I could buy the parts and make the modifications. I was so grateful that I could hardly contain my excitement. I was finally going to get the car of my dreams.

But not everyone was as excited as I was. When I told my friends about the loan from my girlfriend, they had a lot to say. Most of them laughed and said I was a loser for taking a loan from my girlfriend. They said I was pathetic and that I had no business messing with my car.

I was taken aback by their reaction. I had thought they would be supportive and excited for me. Instead, they were jeering and making fun of me. It was a hard pill to swallow and I felt embarrassed and ashamed.

But I was determined to prove them wrong. I took the loan from my girlfriend and went ahead with the modifications. I worked hard and put in a lot of time and effort to get it done. When it was finally finished, I couldn’t believe how good it looked.

My friends were stunned.

I find nothing wrong with it until I found out my girlfriend only loan me the money so she can used it to control me in the future.

She will always bring this topic up to argue with me.