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NEIGHBOUR HAMMERING & DRILLING FROM MORNING TO EVENING, MAN CAN’T WFH IN PEACE

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How to deal with neighbours construction

I work from home, and for the past two months there has been constant drilling and reno works around the neighbourhood.

Recently it has turned into very intense jackhammering that vibrates the walls and the chair if im sitting on one.

This noise and pressure permeates noise cancelling headphones and starts from 11am all the way to the evening.

I only sleep at 3am because I cant even concentrate on my work in the day. Anyone been through this, how did you cope? After so many days of this my ears are tired and strained

Netizens’ comments

  1. nothing if within their permit hours
  2. Check their demolition permit applied and approved from HDB/BCA.
    Date duration
    Time duration
    Make sure they don’t exceed.
    Once they exceed, just lodge your complaint.
    They are also supposed to notify the whole block by pasting the permit copy on the lift lobby.
  3. One of those situation in life that honestly u can’t do much about and just got to be tolerant. As much as it’s your inconvenience, your neighbour (assuming they are moving in as new owners) also have the right to do what they need to do with their new homes, assuming it’s within permitted hours. Just hope that they are nice people who are easy going after they move in.
    For now, you just have to work outside or something

COLLEAGUE GOT HIMSELF FIRED AFTER MAKING HOMOPHOBIC SLURS

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I’m not very sure how to shorten it down, because there are a lot of details.

However, as the title says I reported my colleague and he was terminated.

My report was in relation to him calling me homophobic slurs and also making inappropriate xx comments towards me. When I would tell him not to make said comments, he would laugh it off and say “I grew up with gay friends so I can say fg”.

He would also make comments about another gay colleague and me basically insinuating that we would end up sleeping with each other.

I’m a 23 yr old gay man and my colleague was a 19 yr old gay man. The colleague in question is in his early 40’s and is a straight male. These comments would make me so grossed out and uncomfortable. Another colleague witnessed him saying “It’ll be no time until you’re both shng out each others d*ks” in regards to me and the other gay colleague.

She was very shocked and even told him that he was being hostile and inappropriate. He had also made comments towards me in settings outside of the workplace, and when I requested he stop speaking to me and keep the relationship professional he threatened me physically at a Halloween event.

After that specific incident, I reported everything to our manager and they fired him immediately. This has continued to cause me issues at work because some workers have taken his side and are now going around basically saying I overreacted and was wrong to report him.

What do you guys think?

MAN’S WIFE CHEATED, SO HE ALSO CHEATS AS REVENGE – EVERYDAY PIAK PIAK INSIDE CAR

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Found out she screwed an old coworker 3 1/2 months ago (she doesn’t know I know). I found out by snooping on her phone one night, when she fell asleep before me, and the messages were all there. From what I could tell, it looks like they only slept together (maybe a few times but idk). Last week I snooped again and found out they have plans to do it again this Friday.

Originally I was completely disgusted and absolutely heartbroken. I couldn’t sleep because of the images in my head. I started drinking more and smoking a lot to take my mind off of it which has kinda helped but not enough. Life was hard initially but things have been better since Hannah and I hit it off.

Who’s Hannah? Well she’s my new girlfriend. After I found out I started working more. I wanted to build up a mountain of OT money so I could plan my next move, whatever it was.

Anyway, she recently started working in the same area as me about ~8 months ago. With me working more I was able to spend more time around her. She’s gorgeous to say the least. Objectively better looking than my wife. We started talking daily and I told her about the situation with my wife. She was really supportive and caring for me.

One night after our shift I asked her to grab a drink with me, which she said yes. After a few hours, we ended up at her place and we banged all night long. The next morning I held her in bed and talked for a few hours. I really started to like this girl and wondered where this could go. That day I ended up going home and picked up my wife at the airport. She didn’t expect a thing and carried on like usual.

Hannah and I talked the next day about what happened. I told her I really enjoyed our time which she excitedly responded that she felt the same. We agreed to keep it under the radar and also only talk when we are at work to avoid my wife finding out. So far it’s worked and she hasn’t suspected a thing.

It’s been 3 weeks since that talk and everyday after work we get naughty in my car in a parking lot.

I want to keep this going as long as I can. I hate my wife for what she did and I just want to inflict as much pain as possible. It should be easy to, as my wife is too infatuated with her new boy toy to take notice of anything. I know eventually however, I need to come clean and divorce my wife. I’m just hurt.

BF SAID AFTER MARRIAGE MUST TAKE HIS SURNAME OR BREAKUP NOW

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My boyfriend wants me to change my name when we get married. I don’t want to. He says it’s a dealbreaker. Help?

We had another conversation about this tonight, and I feel defeated and upset.

I don’t want to change my surname. I like it and it’s a part of my identity.

My boyfriend is upset at me for not wanting to change it. He says it’s a possible dealbreaker for him, and “what’s the point of getting married if you won’t take my last name?”

He says he really wants to be the “Tan family” His parents divorced when he was young and this is definitely a driving factor behind his thinking.

He also thinks that me not taking his name means I’m not entirely committed to him.

Part of me says just do it to make him happy, even though it will make me upset (something he doesn’t seem to get). I just feel like this is such a stupid thing to break up over if he is really that adamant on me taking his name.

Thoughts?

Here are what netizens think:

  • My now husband struggled with this a little bit when we first got engaged. He was mostly hung up on tradition. I asked him to take my name and he responded “Well I have had my name for 24 years.” I looked at him and said “Yeah and I am 2 years older.” He was then able to talk it through about why he wanted that and why it was important to both of us to have our names. We discussed possibly creating our own last name, but at the end of the day for us, it didn’t matter that much. The key thing here is we were able to talk about it like adults. We made the choice individually as to how we wanted to move through the world. There were no threats of not being together. It might seem like a dumb thing to break up over but is an indication of a larger problem.
  • Very similar situation here — my husband struggled with it (though nowhere near the level of OP’s bf) and we had a similar sort of conversation as you that helped open his eyes to the double standard of it all and realize why keeping my own last name mattered to me. Society has shoved it down everyone’s throats that a woman is “supposed” to change her last name and I think it can be difficult to undo that line of thinking.
  • The irony is that while he says it shows a lack of commitment from you, the fact that a naming scheme is more important to him than having you in his life shows a lack of commitment on his part.

SPOILED CHILD GETS EXPENSIVE B’DAY PRESENT, THROWS TANTRUM BECAUSE HE DIDN’T LIKE IT

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giving my nephew cash bc of previous bad behavior when opening gifts?

My nephew (11) went through a phase where he wrote his own songs and put them on TikTok. His bday was coming up and he asked for a keyboard from his mom and dad so he could play music to go with his lyrics.

I knew they were getting it for him so I bought him a mic and stand that hooked up to the key board, it had an amplifier and Bluetooth. It was not cheap.

When he opened it he threw a fit! Yelling and screaming. He even kicked the box.

Now, as a mom, I know kids will be kids but no one stepped in to correct his behavior. After about two mins of being berated by a child I walked away, telling my SIL it could be returned to Amazon.

He actually asked why I didn’t just buy him an Xbox! Since then my nephew and my SIL will send me lists of the things he wants and I just shove a hundred in a card and give it to him.

My husband, who doesn’t shop for the gifts, says I’m being petty and he’s just a kid. He is, at the very least, half right.

My whole thing though is no one stopped the behavior and I had to sit and listen to his complaining. I have a daughter his same age and she would Never behave like that if she did I would end it immediately and make her apologize.

WOMAN FEELS THAT SHE IS A FAILURE AS SHE CAN’T COOK OR SEW, SCARE HER KIDS HAVE A “FAIL MOM”

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I’ve been struggling a lot recently with feeling like I’m bad at typical feminine hobbies. I’m not good at cooking, sewing, baking, or organizational stuff.

My family and my in laws family are all amazing at this stuff. My mom is a great baker and had sewn clothes for my kids. My MIL is a good cook and makes quilts. My grandmother cooks and makes quilts. My grandmother-in-law cooks, bakes, and alters clothes.

I suck at all of this.

I can follow a basic recipe, but I always mess up something small. I try to make cake from a box mix and somehow fuck something up.

My mom tried to teach me how to sew but I struggled and she got frustrated. I have to try really hard to keep things organized.

I just want to have a useful hobby. When my kids grow up I want them to be able ask me “Hey can you fix this tear or fit of my kids outfit?” But I can’t. I can’t do anything helpful that I can teach my kids. I can’t create anything that could be passed from generation to generation. I feel like it may be some internalized misogyny, but I just feel like a failure as a woman and a stay at home mom.

WOMAN’S BF OF 5 YEARS REFUSES TO MOVE IN TOGETHER, SCARED NO MORE PRIVACY

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My (30f) boyfriend (27m) and I have been together for almost 5 years. We’re very happy, get along amazingly and we’re very much in love.

But he still doesn’t want to move in together and when I ask him when he’ll be ready, he just says he doesn’t know.

He’s got a completely packed schedule during the week. There’s barely 1 minute each day where he’s free. He says he gets pissed about how limited his time is and fears he’ll get annoyed sharing a space which may limit his time more (we might often get caught up talking/hanging out if we’re living together).

He says he wants to move in together someday. He’s assured me he also wants to get married and have kids — we’ve even talked about what we want to name our kids.

Being an almost 31 year old woman, I’m worried about the future. I worry he might be one of those people who never fully commits to big things like this and if I keep waiting for him to get ready to take this next step, it might be too late and the egg shop will have closed its doors for good.

Has anyone experienced something similar and have advice like “if he’s still not ready after all this time, he’ll never be” or “his excuse is valid, just give him time to feel ready?”

This guy is my best friend and the thought of leaving him makes me sick to my stomach especially when everything is otherwise perfect but if this is going to have a negative long term impact on my life, I probably should leave. Just need and outsiders perspective.

GIRL WORRIED SHE GETS CALL A “CREEP” CAUSE SHE IS 4 YEARS OLDER THAN HER BF

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I’m worried the age gap between me and my bf is weird. I’m the older one.

Although we are both young, people can tell that I am the older one and sometimes people give me the weird look.

I met my bf when he was 18, I was 21(turned 22 4 months later). There’s under 4yr age gap between us.

He’s 19 now, I turned 23 this month. We are at the same stages of life, I’m first year of University (he started Uni earlier than most and dropped out to do it elsewhere. He is going to army soon.

I did an extra year then changed courses hence starting again now).

I think that makes some difference at least? Because we are at same stages of life but of course we still have different experiences.

I didn’t think much about it before as when we first spoke I assumed he was 19. My mind makes me worried I’m a creep or something as I have always dated people same age as me before.

and feel like a hypocrite in a way maybe because whenever the roles were reversed I’d be concerned because the guy always ended up being weird/creepy and having odd intentions (in my experience from what I have seen)

S’PORE COMPANY EXPLOITS JOB PROSPECT, GIVES HIM “WORK” TO DO & CLAIMS IT IS “SKILLS TEST”

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I got an interview yesterday for a Marketing Executive role. It went okay and at the end of it they said they will be sending me a short assignment to just showcase my creativity.

I said okay sure! I was fine with it as i thought maybe they wanted me to do up a sample instagram post or a short intro video of myself showcasing some tools i’m able to use etc.

The email came and they gave me 4 tasks that i have to complete and send it back to them in two days. The tasks are:

  1. To create an email newsletter for the company based on any available information online
  2. Provide 5 suggestions with samples of how they can improve their company website
  3. Create 1 Linkedin and 1 Instagram post for their social media channels
  4. Provide a strategy and execution plan to engage prospective customers

I was honestly surprised because this just feel extensive and how can ALL of this even be done in 2 days? We only had 1 interview and they didn’t even show that they were that interested and it honestly feel that they’re just trying to get these ideas from applicants for free.

I know that some companies practice this to ensure that they get the most suitable candidate but do they not realise that we still have our own job too? Is this even ethical to be asking candidates to do this much in just 2 days or am I overreacting?

WIFE HAS TRAUMA WITH DRIVING BUT STILL WANTS TO BUY A NEW CAR

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My wife recently was driving to work, and her car shut off on the highway.

It almost caused an accident and in the moment she “thought for sure it was going to be over”.

I picked her up from work that night and she completely had a breakdown about how she thought she was going to never see me again. I feel awful for her.

To add on to this:

  1. This has happened to her before with her previous car (That we sold to get her current car, it was of a similar age)
  2. She has a conversation with me 3 weeks ago about how she wanted a new car because she doesn’t think her car was safe (although, we have had this conversation before). There was nothing wrong with the car that triggered this, but it’s getting close to a cold season here. I told her we need to hold out, and should get new tires for the moment.

We have older cars (2009 & 2010, both under 150km), but we keep up on maintenance & inspections and they work well with expected repairs at that age.

Now, my wife doesn’t want to drive her car anymore, or my car (because it’s just as old) because she no longer feels safe driving them. Also with this being the second time this has happened, she wants to get something new, or at least fairly new, in the next two weeks.

I told her I want her to get a new car, but we need to hold out a few more months to save up some cash. Our money is tight, we’re planning on buying a house next year so we need to keep saving for a down payment (we only have a total of 10k saved up, although we have no debt, this is really just an emergency fund) and the market is really, really bad for cars right now.

She broke down again about how about saving a little money isn’t worth dying over, and while I really, really do understand her, making our largest purchase *ever* in two weeks because of a scary experience sounds like we might be making an impulsive decision.

To meet her in the middle we rented a car from a rental shop for now so should could take some time to driving something “newer” because I feel like I couldn’t push her to drive my old car after her dealing with all of this, but after a week she will either need to start driving her car again (understandable that she doesn’t want to drive this), or my car (which I think she should, as my car has had no issues and low miles).

Am I being an insensitive here? I really don’t want my wife to feel unsafe driving, and she really does deserve a new car, but we just don’t have the money and I can help but feel this is something we will regret rushing into when I don’t feel confident out our current financial situation.

Added context:
The car is at the shop, we do not know yet what happened. I am 100% sure this was not my wife fault, she is a great driver. When her last car broke down, I drove for 6 months. It broke down on me multiple times. It was just a used, cheap car that was not reliable. With the last car, the belt snapped on the highway. It did get it’s normal inspections and maintenance. I don’t know how this was missed.

I do not think, or have suggested her to, that she should continue driving her car.

However, we do have two cars, one that I don’t drive because I work from home. My suggestion is that she drive that for just a couple months. It’s passed all inspections and has never had a problem, but it’s a similar age as her previous one. For that reason she does not want to drive it.