Anyone else has experience of getting scammed?

so im a sec 4 student who recently tried selling my textbooks on carousell and this buyer claimed to hv paid for one of my books and he soon became super impatient about stuffs and i was panicking as i was new to carousell so i just pressed on a link that was sent to my email to “verify” his purchases and it needed a credit card.

As i did not hv a credit card i used my sister’s one and within seconds,my sister has been scammed $800 and now i feel super guilty cos she worked really hard for the money, and ik im stupid too for believing in smt that asked for credit card number and infos,

i hv learned my lesson and in debt to my sister🥲 but it was my fault for being so stupid and gullible so i cant blame anyone.

-edit: my sister’s card is debit card not credit

Does anyone else hv any experience of getting scammed? or is it just me being so stupid

Normal for single Singaporeans to wait until 35 to buy HDB? All while living with parents until 35.

I previously posted a similar question of co-owning with my mom so that I can buy HDB before I’m 35.

But that idea soon became “impossible” because my mom was worried that if I have her as a co-owner, and if I meet my Ms right in future, I would have to hand the flat to her as I cannot co-own 2 flats (1 with mother and 1 with wife), and if pass the flat to my mom, she’s going to burn into the retirement funds.

So back to this post.

Ok straight up I’m a “Un- handsome” dude so I’m probably not getting a GF let alone a wife in the coming years. But you’d never know right.. so how often do Singaporeans actually keep staying with parents all the way until they’re 35 if they’re single?

I did consider private but it doesn’t seem worth it, 1 is the price, 2 is I’d need to sell the private apartment and wait for awhile before I can head into resale HDB. And besides i still have more than 10 years before I turn 35, hence I can save more money which means I can get a bigger resale HDB.

What things did your employer didn’t believe you at the interview?

I had a few interviews now where both the recruitment agent and the HR for the company don’t believe that I like retail. Now I get that loads of people hate retail, but for me it keeps me active.

I tried an office job after graduating and the monotony combined with WFH only made my depression worse. I really do like customer service work.

Also, I like shift work cuz that means I have some days where I don’t need to fight with the crowds when shopping but when I mention I like shift work they look at me like I’m crazy?

Shouldn’t you be welcoming me instead cuz not everyone likes it? I don’t get it.

What other stuff did you say that your then prospective employer didn’t believe?

Netizens’ comments

• That I could have three concurrent jobs during the last year of poly because my internship didn’t pay enough.
  I think some interviewers are too coddled from the realities of living in Singapore.
• pre-offer one company asked me how much my competing offers were for and I told her
  she basically said I was lying straight up shrugs
• Recruiter didn’t believe I was changing job voluntarily in 2020 she was like now covid how can you want to change job everyone losing their job you should hold on to your job. Don’t tell me seeking better opportunities that’s not a valid reason

Left my country for a better job opportunity less than a month ago, today I (24F) found out that my boyfriend (24M) is active in a dating app.

Hello everyone, I published here because I’m so shocked and need an outsider’s perspective on things.

I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend, D, for 4 years. It has been amazing, we had an excellent relationship, an excellent life and everything great overall.

We moved out together, this year since august I got a job offer overseas, that pays almost 5 times what I make now and see the world. Discussed it with my partner who was sad to let me go but supportive.

I left on October 25th, and just now someone told me that he was in a dating app. I asked him upfront about it and he said that he was feeling lonely and bored but didn’t mean to hook up with anyone, just talk.

Before I left I offered him the opportunity to open the relationship in the meantime so he can fulfil his needs as long as he keeps it honest, but denied that saying that he would be too busy to cheat.

What is killing me is the lack of honesty on his part and the fact that I offered an arrangement, and that it has not been even a month since I left and this is already happening.

Also, a dating app? stupid. I am afraid that by leaving he will be left in a vulnerable situation, I send money home, and also our group of friends will resent him if they knew, and also the furniture that we have is on my name, everything is on my name even the cat, so I would mess him up by leaving him. Any advise?

He ghosted me for his ex TWICE and now begs for another chance.

I (29F) started dating A (26M) early February. I thought we were doing really well and sparks flew between us. It seemed so perfect until he suddenly ghosted me in April. Turned out he got back with his ex and that they were still talking behind my back the entire time.

I was confused and heart broken. It was so perfect and I never really thought this could happen. I started moving on with my life when he suddenly came back into my life and persistently begged me to take him back. He said she was his first relationship and they were together for 8 years (she cheated on him) and something came over him and he thought he had to give it another go.

After several weeks of him apologizing, I decided to give it another chance. We picked up track and it seemed to have been going great. I met his family, we spent every single day together. We were so happy, planning trips, joking, laughing etc.

One day he told me I wasn’t the same person anymore and that I turned very insecure. He said he needed a break. I was lost and confused because we were doing so great. He asked for space and I gave it. I then got a call from this guy who told me that A had followed his ex girlfriend’s car to her hookup buddy’s house and created a whole scene. I grabbed my car keys and drove to the location that the guy texted me.

I reached there only to find A there with her. I went up to him and asked him what was going on. He said he couldn’t do this with me. That he loves her and cant live without her. That he was sorry but it was her he wanted.

I felt like an idiot but I wished them the best and left. During this time I found out he always denied having a relationship with me, told her we’re just friends and that they still met and kissed behind my back.

This was in September. In October, he started contacting me again. Told me he loves me and that she manipulated him to get back with her. I said no and blocked him. He ended up outside my office and threatened suicide. I got worried and started talking to him. I DONT EVEN KNOW WHY I STARTED PROVIDING EMOTIONAL SUPPORT TO HIM.

I made it clear that I dont want to get back with him because I am so traumatized and cant trust him but he is so persistent and swears up and down that he loves me more than I could imagine and that he will harm himself if I didnt get back with him.

He promises to let me but starts contacting me again from fake profiles etc. and guilts me into talking to him. I feel so trapped. Am I being too harsh? His parents told me they have never seen him so shattered and that he is being genuine. My parents and friends dont want to see his face.

How do I stop feeling this guilt? Everytime he cries, I find it my responsibility to make him feel better. I dont know what’s wrong with me. I already know I dont want him back.

This will be long but I will try to shorten it as much as possible. I met my husband in 2019; things progressed very quickly as we were both looking for something serious.

After a few weeks of dating I met my MIL…the first time I met her she looked at me and said ‘do you want more kids? Because if you don’t there is no reason for you to be here’ (I have a 9 y/o from my first marriage) In August of 2020 we were married and went on to start trying for a baby.

After a year of trying we had made no progress and sought out help from a fertility clinic. After a few appointments it was apparent that we were dealing with Male Factor Infertility.

We never shared much with our family because my husband said it was embarrassing to him and I respected that. After about 6 months of dr appointments and meds we were out with my in laws; my MIL who had been drinking aggressively asked me ‘what the f is wrong with you’ insinuating it was MY fault we hadn’t conceived.

Shortly after this there was a falling out between my husband and his mom. We didn’t see or speak to her for months. I lost my mom when I was 12; so I always encourage people to have good relationships with their moms because I wish I had the opportunity.

Amends were made and about 3 months later we found out we were expecting. The day we told her she said ‘see, I just needed to be around’ Like we hadn’t spent $5,000 to get to this point.

In July this year we planned a gender reveal and sent her an invite; she declined because she didn’t want to be around my father…..so my husband who was extremely hurt cut ties with her.

I have asked him all throughout the pregnancy if she was to reach out how would he handle it? He basically said he wouldn’t entertain the relationship because it just wasn’t worth it. 2 weeks ago my husbands step mom (who essentially raised him) threw us a baby shower.

I posted online thanking her and posted a few pics. The next day my husband got a text from his sister saying that their mom was so sad and hates that things are the way they are.

The next day his mom sent a tiktok video to all of her kids in a group text. My husband responded back and I got really upset honestly. After NO CONTACT for 6 months, that’s the way she reaches out??

I just feel that she is bummed she won’t be involved with the birth of his first biological child and basically will have nothing to post on her social media when the baby is born and that is what makes her sad.

Do I encourage my husband and me just suck it up for them to have a relationship? Are my feelings valid for wishing she was out of the picture forever? What should I do😭

I’m sick of guys wanting to sleep with me but not date me

I’m honestly saddened by this generations way of dating and intimacy. I’m a wonderful girl. I’m bright and educated and have a great job.

I have a wonderful family and I was raised by two amazing people. I have so many friends and I’m surrounded by platonic love.

I’ve been single for six years and lately, the way men treat me has made me sick to my stomach. I am constantly being pursued for my body but never for anything else.

No conversation, nothing personal. If it is, it’s only for them to get what they want. I’m in my early 20s, I deserve to have fun but I miss being seen for who I am romantically.

I’m sad about it. I deserve more.

I miss being understood. I miss someone wanting to understand me.

To be used for your body and dumbed down to an object is making me feel insecure, even if that means I’m attractive physically.

It makes me feel like I have nothing else to offer. Like, no one could actually like me for anything else.