My friend is incorrigible. She has missed flights, ferries and woke up late for exams, weddings and of course outings. Her phone is always on silent mode which is why when our friend group takes turns calling her mobile, she can’t hear the alarm.

It has gotten to a point when we’re all frustrated with meeting her because we have to waste time trying to contact her, wait 2-3 hours for her to arrive and her tardiness never improves.

Since Christmas is coming soon, we are planning to get a practical gift that will help her overcome this. Is there a smart alarm clock that can be set remotely by an app? She can give control to whoever she’s meeting the next day, so that her friends/family can set the wake up time for her and ensure she’s on time. Please help, thank you.

TLDR: Friend is always late. We want to get her a practical gift – an alarm clock that can be set by an app, controlled by people remotely..

Here are what netizens think:

• My phone is always on silent but my alarm is not. Call volume, media volume, ring volume and alarm volume all can be control separately.

• The only way for her to learn is when she realised that she has lost friends because of her lack of respect for other people’s time. Next time when she’s late, just leave without her. Can still jio her for stuff of course, but don’t wait.

• Yes. It’s difficult to be late during the era of technology. It’s just attitude problem. And you guys have been too lenient

• Invite her as usual, proceed with activity once it’s the meeting time. No excuses for anyone to be late. There’s no need to set an alarm for her bruh, she’s not a 3 year old kid.

I’ve been in banking for 1 year now and I’ve been put in a weird position.

I am a teller and a few months ago I applied for the branch supervisor position. Our branch officer left and I was the only person working at my branch I’ve learned how to do alot of things myself.

We had a branch that was closed for renovation so the staff there would come to help me. I now have a branch manager after 3 months and he wants to interview me. I think I’ve already been doing most of what the branch supervisor already does but I’ve never had any formal training.

What do branch supervisors do at your branches?

I want to get a better idea and my branch officer didn’t have a branch supervisor at his last bank so he’s not quite sure what role they play at my bank. He seems really nice! I once asked my regional manager and he sent me a 5 page packet on what they do and it sounded like things I have already been doing like I’ve done all the audits every month and submitted the packets, I order the cash, and I make sure to order things like slips and supplies for the branch.

I’ve been maintaining the teller line myself and I’m really confident in my knowledge on policies and procedures since I had a pretty hectic few months.

What else does a branch supervisor do? What does yours do?

Here are what netizens think:

• Operations: Supervisors know the operational process for most transactions, and know the policies pretty thoroughly. What can we do? What can we not do? Etc.

Audit stuff: they know what branch auditors are looking for. They know what to ensure is completed properly and how to fix what is not.

Multi-role: they can open accounts, run teller drawers, do overrides and approvals, open and close.

Authoritative: they are a figure of authority in the frontline. When there is an upset client they can step in and handle the situation if necessary.

Edit: Best of luck to you on this. In the interview be friendly, fun, polite, and factual. Have specific examples of situations where you acted as a supervisor and discuss the outcomes of your actions.

• Our branch managers basically go out and try to bring in business, deal with complaints, and fill in gaps when retail is short. Obviously this will probably be different at each financial institution.

• I think the Branch Supervisor is a fancy title for Teller Supervisor/Lead based on the duties OP mentioned. That and they mentioned they would be under the current Branch Manager.

• If you are doing the duties already then start getting the pay for it OP. Take the role if you wish to continue doing it all.

• I feel this so much. It drives me crazy how every person is underutilized. Branch managers can’t get ahead on anything so they’re stuck toiling in maintenance and teller work. Bankers can’t get off the teller line and are stuck resolving BS, printing statements, and teller work. Tellers can’t find the time to improve to lighten the load on others/get promoted because theres only one teller now and they’ll never catch up.

• I just can’t imagine this is financially better for banks than having an extra person everywhere and allowing the branch manager to meet local businesses and get ahead of the competition or let the bankers get calls in to bring in more money or let the tellers get comfortable so you can promote from within.

Interning now at a corporate company.

A non-executive staff saw me on the first day and started to talk to other colleagues about my appearance as a student.

After she went about that, she also started to talk to me rudely, criticising me and yelling at me many times.

I would often give in and do what she asks of me when she yells at me. She would then proudly tell everyone else that yelling made me obedient.

One other colleague sided me and advised her not to do it, but I still continued to be picked on by her. I tried to tell my boss what happened but I would be ghosted and avoided immediately.

What should I do?

Netizens’ comments

• Of course your boss will ghost you la… not worth getting into trouble with NON-EXECUTIVE staff over a puny intern. Escalate up the reporting chain, best if you get evidence of her screaming at you. Video + audio is always better than audio only.
  But of course if you are the kind who doesn’t want to “burn bridges” then suck it up and act like a masochist.
• Learn to suck it up. You may not believe it but yelling also happens at management levels. An internship is only temporary. In working life, you just plan your exit strategy accordingly.
• Life as an intern it’s like that. Suck it up.
• Want to play? Play big!! Capture her act , post online. Intern are human too!!
• Yell at her back

I’m someone who experienced a glow up (from a 2 to 9 according to my friend). The difference between dating as a 2 and a 9 is HUGE.

As a 2 I had guys who I matched with straight up tell that they don’t find me attractive and proceed to block me.

haizz I also had guys who like cut the date short after seeing me :(, they were nice about it though. However as a newly glowed up 9 I had guys on dating apps begging me to give them a chance and offering to take me out to HDL for free. I also have 100+ intros on a dating app AFTER 1 NIGHT.

Such a big difference :(. This is all in spite of my personality staying the same. Here is my question in relation to the aforementioned circumstances: ladies of sg what were your experiences like dating in sg as an unattractive woman ?

I feel it’s depressing honestly having been on both ends of the spectrum; whoever says dating is not about looks is capping. Guys legit treat me like I’m nothing when I was unattractive.

Here are what netizens think:

• Life is always easier when you’re attractive.

• It works the other way around too. These guys you’ve been dating, are they of the himbo variety too? Have you considered dating a 2/10 guy, for instance?

• OP’s rating system seems to be quite extreme. A true 2/10 shouldn’t become an 8/10 just by losing 10kg or wearing contacts. This suggests that the scoring system is a more shallow one, i.e. more focused on the upper echelons of looks;

• To be clear, there is nothing wrong with short term dating. Everyone has different needs, and which may also vary at different points of their lives. (I’m just using terms like bimbo / himbo because it’s really hard to explain in words otherwise.)

• I wanna see your glow up lol. As a guy, Can’t ans your question because I too ugly no one wan date me even after I lost 20 kg lolz

I’m a rebound for my boyfriend ):

Okay so me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 years now… he does treat me well and I guess I am quite a lucky girl but he’s quite controlling and toxic. To me it’s normal because it’s mainly just him wanting me all to himself. (Technically, I cannot have guy friends or talk to guys or whatever related to guys la so technically I lost some friends too but I also requested he do the same thing since it’s fair and no double standards mah).

Okok so what happened was I had a flashback to the past recently .. When we first started dating. I was 15 and he was 20.. He lied to me saying he was 17 cause he just couldn’t trust anyone yet. And at this point I didn’t even know he was still talking to his ex. (I cannot really explain the whole scenario to you guys but I’ll try my best.. )

The first week we hadn’t started dating so he was texting his ex while meeting me and his ex just basically wants him back and idk what did he say but I guess he misses her ?? I just felt like a two timer at that point of time and it went on for about 3 months and i guess I was very insecure.. that was how I felt la but I didn’t tell him about it cause at that point of time I was just 15… what was I supposed to say!!!

And today I saw his ig archive story and it was all about those douyin post and It was just about “ break ups “ and stuffs like as if he misses her a lot and wants her back in his life when I was already there. I already talked to him about this and he says “ ur not a rebound “ blahblahblah. Whatever a guy can say to make u feel better although I know it’s probably true that I was a rebound ..

When I saw it I just felt hurt .. deeply hurt by it and I have no one to rant to as I’ve distanced from all my friends. I loved him so much at that point of time, but turns out he was missing his ex and I feel so betrayed now. Btw we dated 2 weeks after I met him so that means ah I was aware he was talking to his ex!!! BUTTTTT He told me he was just trying to tell her to fk off from his life despite the fact that he could just block her but whatever I was blinded by love.

He was with me everyday from the day we started dating and usually he would go home and voice chat his ex and then ignore her but honestly when I think back. I don’t think he should have done that and made me feel like it was ok to be in a rs with a guy who cannot let go of his ex. Honestly I was insecure for so many months and I still hold on and till today I’m still holding on to the love I have for him and ya I guess i just cannot seem to forget the past..

idk man i m actually quite numb to this and when I saw those douyin post ah. I tell you. My love for him dropped and honestly u can tell it really dropped cause I felt quite betrayed. Why? Because it feels like I was a rebound for him to move on and to me I didn’t want that KIND OF RS TO START! Whatever thanks for hearing my rant and I hope you have a good day. A better day than mine

Help! My girlfriend has a wet armpit problem. Large patches of sweat often appear on her armpit area and her back is always wet.

It does not help that she often likes to wear tight-fitting grey clothing or a light-colored shirt and therefore the wet patches are very obvious.

And mind you – it is not that she is working out; we could be in an LT attending a lecture together and I could see wet patches forming with a musty sour odour

Sometimes it is soaked to the extent that the fabric sticks to her skin. Worse when she wears white and her skin and undergarments become see-thru.

She has tried deodorant and even putting pads on her armpits but the sweat seeps thru.

Do you think she has hyperhidrosis? How should I approach this? Frankly, I don’t find that too much of an issue but I’m afraid my reputation will take a hit when I go out with her.

Anybody here can give health advice? I’m in a dilemma!

Netizens’ comments

1. Please leave her. A better guy will be more supportive of her instead of being embarrassed by her condition.
2. What reputation you have? You’re JJ Lin or our national treasure ah? Find solutions with her luh.

I have been with my boyfriend for like 2 and half years and recently he has been going to play poker like almost every weekend. Sometimes even on the weekdays. We have argued until a point where I’m getting tired. If i dont allow him to go, he would get mad. So usually to avoid argument, i just let him go. Idk its normal that your partner can just go gamble and leave you alone on the weekend.

One time he was feeling upset and actually told me he wanted to go play poker. But I’m like if you’re upset, you can talk to me and we can spend time together. If you’re upset, but you’re thinking of gambling rather than coming to me, am I even important?

Idk what to do as I’m too comfortable with him. I stay at his place most of the time. He would sometimes ask me to go together, but i really dislike people who gamble. So I don’t usually follow. The worst part is, he kinda got to know those other poker players through me. Kinda regret intro-ing them in the first place.

I feel like he’s getting addicted but whenever I mention this, he would deny it and gaslight me. He doesn’t like the word ‘addicted’. Last time he would gamble only during cny, but now, saying “Oh festive season. Once in a while.” Now – idk what to say.

I feel so tired arguing over this. I mentioned to him I wanted to break this off but he would question me about breaking off over such a “small matter”. He actually treats me quite nice and always pays attention to me. He surprises me sometimes with gifts and dotes on me a lot. I just dislike this particular part of him. Idk what to do. Is this a small matter? Or every couple experiences the same thing?

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While many of the younger children have a curfew time where one would have to go home by a certain timing.

This applies to even some adults, some will always be the mother’s child no matter how old they are.

A man shared on social media stating:

I’m 38 with two kids my mum still call me ni ji dian hui lai (What time are you coming home?).

This statement attracted the comments of many people and they had similar sentiments stating that it is a blessing to have someone who greatly care about you.

A netizen shared:

My curfew is not curfew. My curfew is a phone call which my mom will yell “where are you? Coming back soon or not?”

It differs la from family to family but to me if u trust ur child, then why not. As long as they pickup your call when they are outside and inform you where they are going without you even asking, why bother with a curfew if they are proactive in making sure you are informed about their whereabouts?

I have friends that still have curfew at 19 which to some might be normal and it kinds of make them a burden to hangout with and sometimes alienates them lorh. For example if we want to go Macs at 2am or watch a late night movie. The ones that can hangout late won’t consider them as first picks.

One of the commentators is right, if a child wants to do bad things they won’t wait until after midnight. My friend that has a 10pm curfew, picked up smoking at 16. I’ve asked him about this and he said, he feels the need to go against his parents authority as they set unreasonable limits. When presented the opportunity to go out, he would make the most out of it by trying out “new” things hence the smoking.

It all boils down to whether or not you trust your child that they can be responsible for themselves when they are outside.

Conclusion:

Does a curfew actually work?

Leave a comment and let us know

“First of all, I want to apologise for the language. I swear I am not usually like this. I also apologize for rambling, and no offence to any student here. I am just writing down my thoughts without structure or editing.

I hate university. I can’t think of a bigger waste of my time, energy, effort, and my money. It’s emotionally, physically, mentally, and financially draining.

I am in my 5th year cause I am not motivated to do well no matter how hard. (I was supposed to graduate last year). I hate my program. I realize I chose it but deep down I never even wanted to come here.

My entire life I was taught that university was the ultimate goal and that a magic piece of expensive paper was going to magically fix my life and make my future great. Well, as I got older I just realized that it’s not the case, at least not for me. I’m not in science, engineering, business, or anything that might be useful/financially rewarding.

I just don’t care anymore. I have friends who worked straight out of polytechnic or JC and are already starting their lives. They’re paying rent, they’re getting food, they’re living, they are even travelling to Europe and doing what that they want to do. So why did I waste 5 years of my life that I will never have back?

I know the counter argument is that that’s all they’ll be making/doing for the rest of their lives, but with a bloody useless degree, what else am I going to do? Am I actually socially/financially better off than they are? I highly doubt it.

You know what the messed up part is? I don’t care about my finances. I just don’t give a damn, as long as I am able to pay my living expenses. I don’t mind working in McDonald or Grab Food and then returning home. I could work on my music (what I actually care about), or play video games, or do nothing. It’s my time. I want to live in the now and today. I want to do what I want. I dont want to get married because I just want to do what I want to do. I’m tired of what I want to do having to come second to something I really don’t give a damn about. I realize you have to do that with work too, but again, I want to live in the now.

Say my music or my endeavours aren’t successful. Maybe I’m not talented enough, or smart enough, or maybe I just don’t have the luck for it. At least I can be happy knowing I tried, and my life won’t be such a bore and I won’t be someone who lives his life full of regret.

This is my last semester and it’s fortunately coming to an end. I hope my GPA is high enough to let me graduate because I just don’t have it in me anymore to go back again.

My strategy is to do what I can. If I graduate, great, if I don’t, oh well. I’d rather drop out and have my family disappointed in me. I just physically, mentally, emotionally can’t care anymore.”

Should I break up with my boyfriend?

I have been together with him for 2y and he is going to study a PHD programme after completing his masters. Tbh I want to start a family and his earning capacity will be very low when he is studying his PHD programme. I am in the finance sector and there is this senior who is interested in me.

Should I breakup with my boyfriend and get together with my senior instead?

Here are what netizens think:

• Go straight for the senior’s father. Don’t limit yourself. Dig smart, not hard.

• The way you described everything. You don’t love your bf or the next guy. Just break up and keep upgrading till you find your gold mine.

• After getting together with this senior, there will be some director interested in you. After getting together with the director, there will be some businessman interested in you. If you keep up the pace, in about 15 years, there a possibility that you will be sipping tea in a GCB, so keep digging

• Yes please do. Finance bros deserve to be with terrible people.

• material compatibility vs personality compatibility. Your choice. If you are miserable now, break off then but don’t regret your choice. Keep digging if it makes you happy. By asking such question due to differences in financial status, it goes to show a lot about yourself. There is no right or wrong answer.

• The way you select your child’s father is like buying fruits. TBH, you are not suitable to be a mother yet.

• Marry ATM better anytime can withdraw money can even afford 11 kids no problem Sunday can form one team and play soccer…

• yes dear, leave him. just go for the money. if all else fails with ur future marriage, at least the senior will eventually cash out his cpf earlier right.. moreeeee monehhh for u.