Should I break up with my boyfriend?

I have been together with him for 2y and he is going to study a PHD programme after completing his masters. Tbh I want to start a family and his earning capacity will be very low when he is studying his PHD programme. I am in the finance sector and there is this senior who is interested in me.

Should I breakup with my boyfriend and get together with my senior instead?

Here are what netizens think:

• Go straight for the senior’s father. Don’t limit yourself. Dig smart, not hard.

• The way you described everything. You don’t love your bf or the next guy. Just break up and keep upgrading till you find your gold mine.

• After getting together with this senior, there will be some director interested in you. After getting together with the director, there will be some businessman interested in you. If you keep up the pace, in about 15 years, there a possibility that you will be sipping tea in a GCB, so keep digging

• Yes please do. Finance bros deserve to be with terrible people.

• material compatibility vs personality compatibility. Your choice. If you are miserable now, break off then but don’t regret your choice. Keep digging if it makes you happy. By asking such question due to differences in financial status, it goes to show a lot about yourself. There is no right or wrong answer.

• The way you select your child’s father is like buying fruits. TBH, you are not suitable to be a mother yet.

• Marry ATM better anytime can withdraw money can even afford 11 kids no problem Sunday can form one team and play soccer…

• yes dear, leave him. just go for the money. if all else fails with ur future marriage, at least the senior will eventually cash out his cpf earlier right.. moreeeee monehhh for u.

I’m a 2nd gen Singaporean but both my parents are Filipino.

There’s this pinoy from my lecture. Looks 7.5/10 a bit on the short side but average height for pinoy, character idk but he’s quite strange for Singapore standards..?

Back home it’s normal but we have cultural differences. The first time we met was during lecture. He sat beside me and greeted me hi in Tagalog and I was quite shocked because I don’t look pinoy but we became friends immediately

He always wears singlet, shorts and slippers to school which to me is ok because it’s comfortable especially in hot weather. We studied together for a few weeks and also go out shopping then I realised that he wears singlet and slippers everywhere. Like really everywhere. Even when we go to nicer place he will wear slippers. Also I noticed that he shaves his legs and armpit and when I ask him he said it’s cooling. One time he ask me go out and eat and he book a nice restaurant and I told him that there’s dress code. Smart casual I think. So means jeans and covered shoes. He showed up in singlet, jacket, shorts and slippers. The waitress at first don’t let us inside but he told her that it’s our anniversary so she let us in after talking to her manager.

I joked to him about it because it was a bit awkward but he laughed it off and said “maybe we should kiss when the waitress comes so she’ll think we’re together”. I am a bit uncomfortable with it but he’s always joking all the time so I don’t know if he’s serious.

Afterwards we went to MBS and walked along the river. At first I thought he see me as friend but he started talking about love and how he wants security so I interrupted him and told him that I’m in a relationship and my gf will not be happy if she finds out. He ask me where my gf and I said in the Philippines and he said “ok what, not like she’ll know” and I said to him “bro I’m not gay” and he said “we can try new things together” I was a bit scared because he’s quite big so I just told him again that I’m not a gay and he said ok. Afterwards I went home and he sent me a super long message about how he thinks I’m cute and he felt that I lie to him by leading him on and being nice to him. He also said that if I wanted to try new things with him just let him know and he’s always waiting for me. I don’t know how to respond because I’m definitely not cute I have a beard and I’m 2 heads taller than him so I just ghost him.

I haven’t replied to him in 1-2 weeks and sometimes I still see him in school but I pretend I didn’t see him and walk away idk how to react any advise? It’s my fault because I didn’t know he was gay at first and thought he was lonely and water friends but I never flirt with him or anything and I always talk to him about the girls I EC.

I first met him when we were 13yo in sec sch and we both had what everyone calls it puppy love for each other but we never exactly got together.

We remained friends throughout our sec sch phase and we went on a short grad trip with a whole bunch of our classmates.

It was during the grad trip that the feelings for him resurfaced again and I could feel that there was some kind of sexual tension seeing how we both wanted to be close to each other but we didn’t cos we were both afraid of our friends “disturbing” us. Nothing happened during the trip other than that invisible pull between us. We texted here and there after the trip but never addressed what we felt towards each other.

We moved on to different tertiary schools, drifted off from each other and he subsequently found a girlfriend. They seemed really cute together and I was genuinely happy for him. I guess because we never really started anything, I didn’t felt heartbroken or anything of that sort about it.

Then one day we bumped into each other and started texting again. It was friendly texts catching up with our lives and no flirting was involved. We met up one night and somehow ended up at his place because I needed the restroom. We were watching some stuff on my phone when he started to snatch my phone away and like how dramas usually go, we ended up tickling and hugging each other (cringey af, I know). It started to get really late and I was sleepy. I never had the intention of sleeping over when we met up for the night but ended up sleeping over anyway. Nothing happened that night other than hugging each other to sleep.

I went home the next morning and we met up again that night. He was the one that requested to meet up again but of course the stupid me didn’t reject his request. We ate out and again went over to his place. I spent the night again and this time we had S with each other. I went home the next morning and we didn’t meet for the next few days because he had some orientation camp stuff to attend to for a few days.

He said he missed me and all those nonsense shit. But he posted an Instagram post thanking his girlfriend for being the sweetest human being by his side. And that’s when I realized how stupid I had been to allow my feelings to take control instead of my brain.

Yes, I knew he hadn’t broken up with his girlfriend when I stayed over the first night. He told me they were in a Cold War and the situation wasn’t great. The naive me believed him. I should have known better.

I stopped replying him when his IG post went out and he texted me saying he can’t bear to break his girlfriend heart and seeing her cry is the worst thing ever. honestly, I wasn’t expecting him to break up with the girlfriend and be with me. I just didn’t expect that he was such a douchebag and never once apologized for leading me on. I eventually sent him a text about my feelings, how I didn’t meant to be the third party, how messed up we had been, how I realized that I have always been in love with him since 13 and he had always been my kryptonite.

He didn’t acknowledge my feelings and I didn’t reply anything to him after that.

Few months later, I posted a Snapchat on feeling stressed about school work and he replied my snap to ask me to go over his place. I was completely dumbfounded and speechless by this guy. How could he be so… fked up? I ignored his snap and we never talked since then.

It has been at least 5 years since this incident and it took me a long time to fully get over the guilt of sleeping with an attached guy and I also became paranoid with my partners on whether they will be secretly be sleeping with another girl without me knowing. I guess you can call that karma but I will fully accept that fate if it happened to me because I know I deserved it for what I’ve done.

For that guy, he has married that girlfriend that he cheated on with me. I don’t know if he has ever told her the truth or if he had slept with other girls in between. I know I am an awful person but I hope that his wife will someday cheat on him and leave him at his lowest. Or that he may never have kids, ever. Guys like him shouldn’t reproduce. And maybe girls like me shouldn’t too. Oh well.

Sorry for lousy grammar and the long rant. Just needed to get this out and finally close this chapter in my life.

I work at a certain very popular Italian restaurant as a line cook. There are women in the kitchen and there is even a girl my age, I’ve worked here for a little more than half a year. +